Aging Angst and Alleluias Podcast

There's plenty to celebrate at Veranda Ministries! Join hosts Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly and Sue Duffield as they share details about upcoming events and practical wisdom for dementia care partners.

First up is Veranda Church for Dementia and Loved Ones, October 15 at 1 PM, 650 Nashville Pike, Gallatin, TN.

Get ready for "A Night of Faith, Music & Gratitude," a benefit concert on October 20 at Three Oaks Church, 502 Douglas Bend Road, Gallatin, TN! Enjoy an unforgettable evening featuring Billy Blackwood, The New Speer Family, Lauren Talley, Riley Harrison Clark, The Duffields, Dale Forbes, Dave Clark, and Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly. A $15 donation at the door and a special love offering will support Veranda Ministries' life-changing work.

But this episode has more than music! Mary Anne and Sue explore PAS—Positive Action Starters—simple, meaningful ways for care partners to spark conversations, foster connection, and engage loved ones living with dementia. Because sometimes the smallest conversation can open the door to the greatest connection. And that's something worth singing about!

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In this episode of *Aging Angst & Alleluias*, Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly explains why caring for caregivers matters, the dangers of UTIs in older adults, and why the dementia clients at The Veranda still know how to laugh, celebrate, and have a whole lot of fun, despite their difficulties.

Mary Anne also reflects on the recent Celebration of Life for beloved Veranda client Lowell, complete with military honors. His story reveals two remarkable lives: the man he was before dementia and the man Mary Anne came to know after it. She knew only the latter—and he was still a great man, worthy of honor, dignity, and celebration. Because dementia may change the story—but it never erases a person's value.

Speaking of celebration, join us **Tuesday, October 20, at 6:30 p.m., at Three Oaks Church** for a special benefit concert for The Veranda featuring **Billy Blackwood, Lauren Talley, The NEW Speer Family, Riley Harrison Clark, Tribute Quartet, Dale Forbes, Dave Clark, Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly, and Jeff & Sue Duffield.**

Tickets are **$15**, with an additional love offering that evening to benefit The Veranda. For information, call **615-675-4345**.

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THE funniest episode yet! Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly thought she was preparing for an audio-recorded webinar featuring dementia expert Teepa Snow. There was just one problem—it was LIVE! There she was, putting on makeup, rollers in her hair, and definitely not camera-ready, when she realized everyone could see her! Funny? Absolutely. But the moment also gave Mary Anne unexpected insight into how someone with dementia may feel when suddenly confused, unprepared, and no longer in control. In this episode of Aging Angst and Alleluias, Mary Anne turns a hilarious mishap into a meaningful lesson about the amygdala, dementia, and responding with compassion. Sometimes the best lessons come when you're caught LIVE in your rollers! www.verandaministries.org

What happens when you turn 70 in America? Does society still recognize your value, or does it quietly begin to overlook you?

In this candid and thoughtful conversation, Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly and Sue Duffield examine aging from two perspectives: those living with dementia and the many older adults who are mentally sharp yet often stereotyped because of age. They discuss how dementia affects lives, why compassionate caregiving is more important than ever, and the often-overlooked fact that caregivers are aging, too. As strength declines, responsibilities grow, and cultural expectations evolve, what does healthy aging truly look like?

This episode offers hope, practical advice, and a heartfelt reminder that our worth is never defined by age, productivity, or physical ability. Whether you're caring for a loved one, approaching your own later years, or curious about life after 70, you'll find humor, inspiration, and meaningful discussion here. Growing older shouldn't mean becoming invisible—every season of life has purpose.

The Church has a special window of opportunity to be a place where older adults are not just cared for but truly seen, valued, and encouraged to use their God-given wisdom and gifts to nurture the next generation.

Join us on August 8, 2026, at 1 pm at the Troubadour Theater in Nashville for a special concert benefiting The Veranda Ministries—open to the public.

Join Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly for a heartfelt episode of Aging, Angst & Alleluias as she shares why compassion genuinely transforms dementia care. From Tennessee's Joint Proclamation recognizing dementia awareness to practical ways we can treat our loved ones with dignity and respect, Mary Anne gently reminds us that staying calm always helps reduce fear, and that caregivers need compassion just as much. Learn how the newly formed dementia-friendly church at the Veranda, gentle validation, and leading with soft persuasion can foster moments of peace, connection, and happiness—because every person living with dementia holds incredible value.

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In this important episode of Aging, Angst & Alleluias, host Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly tackles a growing concern for caregivers and older adults: patient rights during hospital admissions and transfers. What happens when an elderly loved one is transferred to a geriatric psychiatric facility without the knowledge or consent of a caregiver, family member, or Power of Attorney? What if a dementia diagnosis has never been formally established?

With her signature blend of compassion, advocacy, and determination, Mary Anne exposes the frustration, fear, and anger families often feel in these situations. She offers practical guidance on why documentation matters, what questions to ask before admission, and the importance of having legal and medical directives clearly established in writing. This is a must-listen conversation for caregivers, family members, and anyone navigating the complex world of elder care.

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During a lively event filled with decorated walkers, Derby Day chaos, laughter, respite care, and lunch provided by Chick-fil-a, Veranda Ministries showed that joy and purpose can coexist despite the tough behind-the-scenes work, like running the Kentucky Derby uphill in orthopedic shoes. In this heartfelt and funny episode, we recount the Veranda Ministries Derby Day 2026 fundraiser — the fun, mishaps, horse-themed walker races, and a reminder that caregiving communities need fun, support, dignity, and connection. Sue and Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly reveal the emotional and physical effort behind creating a dementia-friendly respite program that offers caregivers and loved ones hope, laughter, and a sense of belonging.

We also celebrate Mary Anne as the recipient of this year's Welch College's "Strong and Courageous" Award for her leadership in dementia care ministry, which highlights resilience, compassion, and community.

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On this episode of Aging Angst & Alleluias with Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly, we're celebrating a landmark moment for Veranda Ministries—the official signing of new legislation by Bill Lee that expands their reach! This victory means more clients served and an additional day of respite care each week—real help, real hope, and real impact for families navigating dementia care. It's a joyful, hard-earned win you won't want to miss.

And the celebration keeps going! Join us Thursday, April 30, 2026, for a one-of-a-kind Derby Day fundraiser—complete with six spirited horse-walker "racers," laughter, and community fun—all to support the life-changing work of The Veranda. It's more than an event… It's a "Standing Promotion" kind of day!

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In this powerful and joy-filled episode, we celebrate a significant milestone for respite care in Tennessee—new legislation that allows The Veranda to expand its reach, welcoming five additional clients into the day program and increasing care availability to 12 hours per week. This long-awaited breakthrough represents more than policy change—it's answered prayer, faithful perseverance, and a tangible step forward for caregivers and families who so deeply need support.

We also share the moving story of Julia, a devoted benefactor whose belief in Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly and her unwavering commitment to "honoring the project" helped carry the vision through seasons of uncertainty. Her generosity and faith remind us that behind every victory are people who quietly say "yes" to God's prompting—and mean it.

Plus, a heartfelt glimpse into a recent Dementia-Friendly Good Friday service, where sacred moments met real-life ministry. Mary Anne recounts the honor of singing "The Goodness of God" alongside her dear friend Louise, who lives with Frontal Temporal Dementia—a moment filled with tenderness, memory, and the unmistakable presence of God.

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This episode of the Aging Angst and Alleluias Podcast features Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly and highlights the importance of respite care advocacy in Tennessee. She discusses the legislative landscape with compassion, shining a light on families and caregivers in need of support and dignity. The episode covers legislation such as SB1581 and HB1495 and recognizes leaders such as Sen. Ferrell Haile and Rep. William Slater, who champion limited respite care. It emphasizes that this is not a final victory but a hopeful 'meantime'—a moment for prayer and persistence—to keep progressing. It encourages listeners to join this journey, supporting ongoing engagement, prayer, and awareness of how compassionate, Christ-centered respite care can make a difference in Tennessee. Thanks to voices like Mary Anne's and dedicated leaders, our momentum remains strong and hopeful.

In this second part of the conversation from episode 85, we want to pause for a moment and share something very real happening behind the scenes with Veranda Ministries.

Right now, the Veranda is walking through the careful and sometimes complicated process of securing the proper legislation and permissions that would allow us to serve even more families whose loved ones have dementia. It's an important step, but also a season that requires patience, prayer, and a lot of wisdom.

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We sadly said goodbye to our beloved Lovie this month, a gentle soul who loved Jesus and cherished the Veranda. Today, we come together to celebrate and honor the beautiful person Lovie was to each of us.

Veranda Ministries is currently navigating the complex process of obtaining legislation and permissions to serve more families in need. It's important to note that the Veranda is not an adult day care facility, but a respite care ministry—created specifically to give care partners a much-needed break while their loved ones are cared for with dignity, compassion, and Christ-centered love.

This season requires patience, wisdom, and favor as doors are opened and guidelines are navigated. We ask for prayer—that God would grant clarity, provision, and supernatural favor with every decision-maker, and that He would continue to establish the Veranda as a place of rest, renewal, and hope for caregivers and families alike.

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There's no single formula for caring for those living with dementia—only small, meaningful pieces of a puzzle that gradually teach us how to love effectively.

This week's episode, with host Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly, explores how memory, grief, and dignity are interconnected in unexpected ways. From the lost stories buried deep inside the mind to the unwavering determination of carepartners who refuse to let those stories fade, this episode celebrates the journey of holding on—and letting go.

Mary Anne reflects on her trip to Chehalis, Washington, for a family member's memorial service -a moment of unexpected closure filled with tears, laughter, and family embracing its history. This experience helped her realize that people with dementia also need to grieve; they feel the absence of loved ones, even if fuzzy or tangled. Allowing them to mourn, recount, or sit with loss respects their humanity and story. "Pieces of the Puzzle" invites us to see dementia care as a calling to remember together.

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A New Year's Eve celebration with those living with dementia and Alzheimer's feels sacred, filled with soft moments, memories, and unexpected joy. Paper hats sit crooked, cider overflows, noisemakers honking away, and questions may be repeated, but heart and presence matter most. On this very day at the Veranda, stories unfold—some vivid, some fragments—showing that memory lives in body and spirit. Laughter erupts over funny tales, while tender moments honor loved ones lost. The countdown may vary, but the true celebration is about togetherness. Hugs, music, and shared memories remind us that feelings matter more than details, and even in forgetfulness, we remain whole and worthy here.

This is what Veranda Ministries and Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly's mission are all about. Happy New Year!

We don't have to remember everything to feel something. We don't need every detail to know love. And even in forgetting, we are still ourselves—still belonging, still worthy, still here.

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This week, we're highlighting The Veranda's extraordinary ministry where dignity, purpose, and compassion come together beautifully. The Veranda is preparing to launch a new church service specifically for those living with dementia, creating a safe and sacred space where everyone can worship freely and feel deeply loved. Also shared on this episode is how The Veranda continues to support caregivers through groups that offer encouragement, community, and understanding during difficult times.

Additionally, they recently celebrated a major success: their Christmas Wishbook Marketplace! With ornate baskets, handmade gifts, and delicious baked goods, the event raised essential funds to sustain The Veranda's mission. Join us as we explore the heart, hope, and miracles happening at The Veranda—where ministry truly meets memory, and every life still has a song to sing.

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In this deeply personal episode, Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly reveals a long-hidden family secret, an admission that, once uncovered, changed the course of events forever. Although the truth may be upsetting, Mary Anne stresses that it is also the foundation for healing. Her story explores how hidden truths affect future generations and how those with dementia may carry the weight of concealed pain and unresolved memories. This discussion highlights that honesty, even when difficult, is an act of compassion. While truth doesn't erase the past, it can help shape a transformative future.

The Veranda's "Wishbook Wonderland" Open House, Bazaar, and Marketplace takes place Friday and Saturday, December 5th & 6th, at the Veranda Ministries location, 9 am to 3 pm each day, 650 #4 Nashville Pike, Gallatin, TN. The public is invited.

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This episode delves into the emotional challenges faced by care partners and highlights the crucial role of having an advocate in medical settings. Whether dealing with a planned surgical procedure or an unexpected medical emergency, family members may often feel helpless and vulnerable. Trusting medical professionals to care for your loved one is essential, yet this trust can sometimes be tested. It is important to recognize the need for an advocate, especially for older adults.

Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly emphasizes the significance of appointing someone you trust to assist not only with medical and psychological decisions for your loved one but also to support you during this challenging time.

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Upcoming events for Veranda Ministries:

"A Night of Faith, Music and Gratitude", featuring Dave Clark, Riley Harrison Clark, Allison Durham Speer, Lauren Talley, Bill Blackwood, Josh Singletary, Mary Anne Oglesby-Suther and Jeff & Sue Duffield. TUESDAY, Oct. 28th, 6:30 pm at First Baptist Church, 613 S. Main Street, Goodlettesville TN. $10 per person; plus a generous offering will be received to benefit the Veranda.

"A Wish Book Wonderland" at the Veranda, 650 Nashville Pike B-4, Gallatin TN - an exceptional shopping experience, featuring beautiful festive baskets and gift items for purchace. December 5th & 6th, Friday & Saturday - from 9 am - 4 pm. The public is invited.

Respite care offers caregivers the opportunity to recharge and find joy, even in the midst of exhaustion. Caring for loved ones with Alzheimer's is sacred but draining, and humor often helps. This episode celebrates the gift of respite, which eases burdens and restores happiness.

Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly shares stories with producer, Sue Duffield, from Mike Glenn's book, "Coffee With Mom - Caring For A Parent With Dementia," guaranteed to make you laugh. Churches are increasingly welcoming individuals with memory loss, developing programs that support their families. This episode offers hope and laughter, reminding us that even in the midst of forgetfulness, God's love helps us remember what truly matters.

A "Faith, Music and Gratitude" concert benefiting The Veranda Ministries featuring Allison Durham Speer, Lauren Talley, Dave Clark, Billy Blackwood, Riley Harrison Clark, Josh Singletary, Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly, and Jeff & Sue Duffield, will take place at First Baptist Church of Goodlettsville, TN, on Tuesday, October 28th, 2025. Doors open at 6 pm. Admission is $10 per person, with a love offering during the event.

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Join us for an uplifting exploration of the life-changing impact of "Day Respite Care Centers" and the remarkable work of Veranda Ministries. You'll gain insight into the legal aspects of our program and get an exclusive update on the exciting changes on the horizon. We're eager to share our vision with you and invite your feedback on how just four hours can profoundly transform the lives of Tennessee's aging population and their families/care partners.

Your opinions will be instrumental in shaping our mission to support those living with dementia and the aging population. We welcome perspectives from all states, as many programs offer similar "day respite" services.

Please share your thoughts with us at mailto:mao1024@gmail.com. Your input will be invaluable in helping us drive positive change.

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Host Mary Anne Oglesby-Sutherly and her sidekick, producer Sue Duffield, will share their recent experiences with back problems, aching bodies, and the struggles of aging humorously. It's guaranteed to make you laugh out loud.

However, beneath the humor, their conversation raises an important question: how do people with dementia cope with aches and pains? How can they communicate when they are hurting? It's a sobering thought that deserves attention and discussion. Being a CarePartner is challenging, but understanding your loved one in all stressful situations is essential to helping them adapt, adjust, and feel heard.

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