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Chief Rabbi Warren Goldstein

Judaism, Religion & Spirituality

Insights, ideas and inspiration mined from the weekly Torah portion and the classic commentaries, and distilled by South African Chief Rabbi Dr. Warren Goldstein. Known as a "spiritual entrepreneur", Rabbi Goldstein has launched and led a number of initiatives that have changed the face not only of his own community, but of world Jewry. In the Language of Tomorrow, he explores the Torah's vision for creating a better society, and an inspired, meaningful life.

Episodes
102
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Weekly
Typical length
22 min
On air since
2024
Latest episode
6 days ago

Episodes

102 episodes, newest first

  1. The Truth About Kindness | Parsha with the Chief: Vayera

    Show notes

    When we talk about kindness, people often think of something nice, sweet and soft. Yet kindness is one of the most powerful forces in the world. It can change a society, a family and the person who practises it.

    The parsha of Vayera opens with Abraham in great pain after his circumcision at ninety-nine. God makes the day hot so no wayfarers will come and trouble him, and Abraham is upset, because he wants someone to look after. The same parsha describes Sodom and Gomorrah, cities that legislated against charity and against caring for strangers. Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Rambam, the Sforno, Rabbeinu Yonah and Rav Dessler, Chief Rabbi Goldstein looks at why kindness is one of the pillars the world stands on, and why the Mishnah calls the attitude "what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours" the trait of Sodom.

    At the centre of Abraham's life there is a puzzle. He is remembered above all for his kindness, yet the Rambam says he was chosen to found the Jewish people because of his commitment to truth. How do the two belong together?

    The answer lies in how Abraham saw the world itself, and it changes what it means to open your door to another person.

    Key Questions

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    If kindness is so powerful, why do we so often treat it as the soft option?

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    Why would the Mishnah call "what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours," which sounds like simple fairness, the trait of Sodom?

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    If God will find a way to help those in need with or without us, who is our kindness really for?

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    What separates helping someone because they asked from needing to give?

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    Abraham is remembered for his kindness but chosen for his truth. How do the two belong together?

    22 min
  2. A Leap of Faith | Parsha with the Chief: Lech Lecha

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    Taking risks is often associated with being reckless. But nothing of real worth in life can be attained without them.

    Every leap demands courage, and an acceptance that we are not in control. And if we can learn to embrace that, living with risk can ultimately be liberating.

    The Parsha of Lech Lecha opens with the act that launches all of Jewish history. God tells Abraham to leave his homeland and his family and go "to the land that I will show you." He isn't even told where. Rashi notes what a move like this puts at risk: family, livelihood and reputation. The same leap runs through to Sinai, where the Jewish people said "naaseh v'nishma," "we will do and we will understand," and on into marriage, raising children and going out to earn a living.

    Drawing on Pirkei Avot, Rashi, the Abarbanel and more, the Chief asks why a worthwhile life demands this kind of leap, and what it means to let go of control without giving up. Underneath it is a question every one of us lives with: how much of our lives do we really control?

    Abraham did not drift into his destiny. He leapt, and nearly four thousand years later the world still speaks his name.

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    If nothing of worth comes without risk, how do we tell a leap of faith from recklessness?

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    Why did God tell Abraham to go without telling him where?

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    How can a tradition that venerates the human intellect also tell us not to rely on it?

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    If the outcomes of our lives are out of our hands, what exactly are we responsible for?

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    Why would the Mishnah call the person who accepts the yoke of Torah truly free?

    23 min
  3. Developing Psychological Health | Parsha with the Chief: Noach

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    The psychological and emotional forces that shape a human being - what we call character traits - are incredibly powerful.

    Left unrefined, they can undermine our relationships, our happiness and our ability to make good decisions.

    But when directed properly, with awareness and intention, they can become a powerful source of growth and psychological health.

    The parsha of Noach describes two societies that destroyed themselves: the generation of the Flood and the builders of the Tower of Babel. Read back to the beginning of the Torah and the pattern runs further, through the sin in the Garden of Eden and Cain's murder of Abel. Then, after the Flood, God says something that seems to contradict the "very good" of creation: the inclination of the heart of man is bad from his youth.

    That verse is the source of the term yetzer hara, the evil inclination. But does a person really want to do evil? Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Rambam, the Maharal and a remarkable insight from the Radak, the Chief Rabbi looks at what this inclination really is, and why the mind we trust to keep us on track is far weaker than we like to believe.

    And as the Torah moves from Noach to Avraham, we meet a man whose clarity came from a place most of us would never think to look.

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    If God saw everything He made and called it "very good," how can the Torah say the inclination of the human heart is bad from youth?

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    Does any human being actually want to do evil?

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    When we see a situation clearly and still act against our own interests, what is really making the decision?

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    Why would the Vilna Gaon say that refining one's character is too important to be counted among the 613 commandments?

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    Why does Pirkei Avot remember Avraham, the man who discovered one God, for his character rather than his intellect?

    22 min
  4. The Battle Has Changed. October 7, Three Years On

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    Three years after October 7, and at great sacrifice, Israel has, thank G-d, defeated its enemies on the battlefield. But they have not given up. Now they are using the blood libel of genocide in a relentless attempt to finish what Hamas started: the destruction of Israel.

    This is a call to action for the Jewish world. Here is my speech delivered at the SAZF October 7 memorial service.

    Our guest that evening was Chaya Hexter, who travelled from far to be with us, carrying the story of her son Yakir, of blessed memory, and his chavruta David, who fell for Am Yisrael.

    Over these three years the Israeli people have shown a bravery that words cannot do justice to. A civilian army, serving on miluim for months on end. Tens of thousands of wounded whose lives will never be the same. Bereaved families who carry that ache and still continue. The Mishnah asks us to be gibor ka'ari, brave as a lion, and Israel has truly risen like a lion to defend itself. Its victories on seven fronts are a partnership between G-d and people.

    This anniversary leaves no room for complacency. What our enemies could not achieve with missiles and knives, they are now trying to achieve politically, through the genocide libel. That changes who is being called on for courage.

    Israel's soldiers rose like lions. The question now is whether Jewish communities around the world will do the same.

    Pull Quotes

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    "As members of the South African Jewish community, we can only bow in silent humility at the awesome courage of the Israeli people."

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    "A true partnership between God and people."

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    "What our enemies could not achieve on the battlefields with guns and missiles and bullets and knives and savagery, they are now trying to do politically."

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    "Jewish communities around the world have to summon the courage to match the courage of our brothers and sisters in Israel, who fought like lions."

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    "We have to rise up like lions and not be afraid, and not cower. We are fighting because we are one people, like one people with one heart."

    11 min
  5. The Art of Creating Yourself | Parsha with the Chief: Bereishit

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    Do you think of yourself as a creative person? We generally associate creativity with artists, with painting and music and writing. Yet in a fundamental sense, every one of us is a creator.

    This week we begin the Torah again, with the parsha of Bereishit and its most radical statement about the human being: that we are created b'tzelem Elokim, in the image of God. The Rishonim understand this as our intellect and our moral freedom. Yet the very first thing the Torah reveals about God is that He creates. "In the beginning, God created heaven and earth." To be made in His image is to be a creator like Him.

    Some of that creativity faces outward: medicine, architecture, technology, everything that makes the world a place where human beings can live. Looking at the parsha through the lens of Pirkei Avot, Chief Rabbi Goldstein helps us begin to understand another kind of creativity. One that is more personal and more foundational.

    Key Questions

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    If creativity belongs to artists, what is the rest of us doing every day?

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    Why is the very first thing the Torah tells us about God that He creates?

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    What could it mean for a person to give birth to themselves?

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    If our nature, our parents and our circumstances are given to us, how much of who we become is still ours to make?

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    Why would an act of kindness require creativity?

    23 min
  6. Real Life is not a Fairytale | Parsha with the Chief

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    Surrendering to what lies beyond our control can be liberating.

    Accepting our powerlessness before God can paradoxically be empowering.

    The final verses of the Torah, which we read on Simchat Torah, describing the last days of Moshe's life, show us how.

    Vezot Habracha, the final parsha of the Torah, ends with a startling lesson. Moshe Rabbeinu, the greatest leader of the Jewish People, stands at the edge of the Promised Land after forty years of leading his people towards it. He sees the land, but never enters it. And his death brings the Chumash to a close with one of his greatest missions still unfinished.

    Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Rambam, Rashi and Rav Eliyahu Dessler, Chief Rabbi Warren Goldstein shows why surrender before God is not a defeat. The Rambam notices something the Mishnah leaves off its list, and that omission reveals exactly where human power lies. Knowing what belongs to us and what belongs to God can become a source of real freedom.

    Then the question goes further. What does success mean if you never finish the work? The last verse of the Torah names Moshe's greatest achievement, and Rashi's reading of it is the last thing anyone would expect. It changes the very meaning of success and failure.

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    The Mishnah lists what happens to us against our will. What does it leave out, and why does so much depend on that omission?

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    What would change if you stopped carrying the outcomes of your life as though they were yours to guarantee?

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    How can the greatest leader who ever lived leave the central mission of his life unfinished?

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    If it is not upon us to complete the work, what exactly is being asked of us?

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    Why would the final verse of the Torah celebrate a moment that looks, on the surface, like Moshe's greatest failure?

    21 min
  7. Making God's business Succeed | Parsha with the Chief: Ha'azinu

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    Self-help is one of the most popular genres of books in the world. Walk into any bookstore and the shelves are weighed down with them. Self-development, personal growth, becoming your best self.

    This series has been about self-development too. Pirkei Avot is the Torah of who a person can become, what we have been calling Torah bein adam l'atzmo. But the philosophy of self-development from a Torah perspective is very different from contemporary culture. The clue to understanding is in this week's parsha.

    Ha'azinu holds 43 verses of poetry that carry the entire sweep of human history: creation, free will, the failures of the early generations, the emergence of Abraham and then of the Jewish people, our own drifting, and the long road to the end of history. It is called the Shirah, the song. The verse instructing us to write it down becomes the source for writing the whole Torah, which tells you that something at the heart of this parsha holds the essence of what Torah is.

    It is also read every year in the days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. Rav Yisrael Salanter read the famous Gemara about the three books opened on Rosh Hashanah in an astounding way, and it answers a question the commentators have been asking for many centuries. How can the Gemara say the righteous are written immediately for life, when every one of us can name righteous people who died this year?

    His answer reframes what the judgment of these days is asking of us. And it reveals a radically different way of understanding what self-development is actually for.

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    Self-development is one of the biggest industries in the world. What does the Torah think it is actually for?

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    How can working on yourself become the very thing that blocks your growth?

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    In all the generations back to Sinai, not one let the chain break. What did that cost the people who carried it?

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    The Gemara says the righteous are written immediately for life. What do we do with the righteous people who died this year?

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    What changes if you are not the point of your own self-improvement?

    24 min
  8. Alone with God | Rosh Hashanah with the Chief

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    What are we actually meant to be doing on Rosh Hashanah?

    What are the goals of the day? What does an ideal Rosh Hashanah look like? What should be going through your mind when you are sitting in shul?

    The answer to these questions can completely change your experience of Rosh Hashanah this year, and, even, transform your entire life.

    Every Jewish festival has a clear objective. On Yom Kippur we repent and confess. On Pesach we remember the Exodus. On Sukkot we remember how God protected us in the desert. Each one takes a theme that matters all year round and gives it a specific time of complete focus.

    Rosh Hashanah looks like the exception. We never mention sin. There is no explicit reference to repentance. We call it the Day of Judgment, but what does that ask of you when you are sitting in shul with the machzor open in front of you?

    The key lies in one line of the Mishnah, which departs from its usual legal language and turns poetic. On Rosh Hashanah, all who pass through this world come before God one by one, in single file. Not as a congregation. Not as a family. Alone.

    Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Rambam, Rabbeinu Yonah and the Rema, Chief Rabbi Goldstein explores the mitzvah that lies at the heart of Rosh Hashanah and gives meaning to its judgment, its prayers, the shofar and the kingship of God.

    We call these days the Yamim Noraim. Many people hear that as the days of dread. But the phrase is better understood as the Awesome Days. Understanding why can transform not only our experience of Rosh Hashanah, but the way we live throughout the year.

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    Every other festival tells us exactly what to do. What is Rosh Hashanah actually asking of us?

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    What does it mean to be judged on a day when we never once mention sin?

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    We spend Rosh Hashanah surrounded by family and community. Why does the Mishnah describe us coming before God one by one?

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    What does it really mean to call Rosh Hashanah one of the Yamim Noraim, the Days of Awe?

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    Can two days of the year really change how a person lives the other 363 days?

    21 min
  9. How to Build Inner Strength | Parsha with the Chief: Nitzavim-Vayeilech

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    Inner strength is needed to succeed in everything in life.

    But how do we build the strength we need?

    Avot gives us high-impact tactics for this. And more than that, it offers a profound understanding of the nature of life itself that can give us the strength we need to overcome all the obstacles in our path.

    Courage is usually defined against fear. In the parsha of Vayelech it is defined against weakness, which makes courage a matter of strength. And that turns an abstract virtue into a practical problem. Where does a person actually get strength?

    The parsha sits at a moment of handover. The forty years in the desert are ending, and Moshe is giving way to Yehoshua. A people who have had everything provided for them are about to enter a land they will have to fight for and then run themselves. Two words carry the whole transition, stated three times here and repeated another four more at the opening of the book of Joshua. Chazak ve'ematz.

    In our lives, the stakes are more ordinary rather than epic. We set out to build families, earn a living, become the people we want to be, and we meet resistance we did not expect. Resistance from other people, from circumstances, and from our own character.

    Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Malbim, Rashi and the Maharal, Chief Rabbi Warren Goldstein works through the practical answers to dealing with fear and anxiety, and then deeper to what the Mishnah says about the nature of this world.

    Key Questions

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    If courage is the opposite of weakness rather than the opposite of fear, what have we been calling courage all this time?

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    We are told to be strong. What use is that instruction to someone who does not feel strong?

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    Which is harder to stand against, the people in your way or the parts of yourself that are?

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    The soul, before it enters this world, meets no obstacles and no friction at all. Why is that not the better arrangement?

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    What would change if the resistance in your life turned out to be the point of it?

    24 min
  10. Dealing with Guilt | Elul with the Chief

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    Understanding that feelings of guilt come from the depth of the soul, can empower us to transform the discomfort they bring into a catalyst for personal change and new beginnings.

    This understanding comes from understanding the deeper meaning of teshuva, which is often mistranslated as repentance. Repentance comes from the Latin for penitence, meaning remorse and regret. The same root gives us penitentiary. A prison. Time served for what you have done.

    That is not what teshuva means. Teshuva means return. During Elul, the month of teshuva, we are then faced with a difficult question: if teshuva is return, what is it we are returning to?

    The distinction is not just semantic. It changes what a person is actually being asked to do at this time of year, and what they are being asked to believe about themselves.

    The parsha of Nitzavim is read every year in the days before Rosh Hashanah. Drawing on this parsha, Pirkei Avot, the Ramban, the Rambam and others, Chief Rabbi Warren Goldstein follows that question from guilt through to redemption, and asks what the discomfort has been trying to tell us all along.

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    Guilt tells us something is wrong. Why can't it tell us what is right?

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    Is the wrong a person has done evidence of who they are, or evidence of the distance they have travelled from it?

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    If our deepest nature is already good, why would we need commandments at all?

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    If the mitzvot express who we already are, why do they so often feel like rules imposed from outside?

    22 min
  11. Part 7: A Guide to Spiritual Health | Avot with the Chief

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    What does it mean to be spiritually healthy?

    The Rambam was a physician as well as one of our greatest sages. In his introduction to Pirkei Avot, he draws a remarkable parallel between the health of the body and the health of the soul, describing the sages themselves as "doctors of the soul."

    But spiritual illness presents a unique problem. When something distorts our character or the way we see the world, it can also distort our ability to recognise that anything is wrong.

    In this next part of our journey through Pirkei Avot, The Chief explores what it means for the soul to function as it was created to function, why we may need help seeing what we cannot see for ourselves, and how Avot offers us a path back to spiritual health.

    Drawing on the Rambam and the great commentators on Avot, we discover a vision of spiritual health that reaches from our character and the way we see the world, to the very heights of what a human being can become.

    KEY QUESTIONS

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    If spiritual illness can distort our ability to recognise it, how do we know when something is wrong?

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    We accept that the body sometimes needs a doctor. Why do we assume the soul does not?

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    Anger, arrogance and envy are usually treated as faults. What changes if we understand them as symptoms?

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    Is there a connection between becoming a better person and becoming a calmer one?

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    The Mishnah says that the human being is created in God's image. The Sforno reads that not simply as a description, but as an instruction. What is it asking of us?

    20 min
  12. Part 6: The Key to Success | Avot with the Chief

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    Over the course of this journey through Pirkei Avot, we have been piecing together its vision of the human being: how we think, the character we develop, the choices we make, and the responsibility we take for the world around us.

    In Part 6, those pieces come together around one of life's most fundamental questions:

    What does it actually mean to succeed?

    We naturally measure a life by what someone accomplished. And as Jews, we might assume the answer is even clearer: learn Torah, fulfil the mitzvot, live according to halacha.

    But Pirkei Avot makes a startling claim. All of that is indispensable — and yet it is possible to do everything required of us and still miss something essential.

    Drawing on the Rambam, Ramban, Maharal, Netziv and the great commentators on Avot, I explore what the Rambam calls hatzlacha amitit — true success — and why the ultimate measure of a life may lie somewhere deeper than a checklist of what we have done.

    Because at the end of the journey stands another question entirely:

    Who did we become?

    KEY QUESTIONS

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    What does it actually mean to live a successful life?

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    Can a person fulfil all 613 mitzvot and still somehow miss the purpose?

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    Why are Torah and mitzvot necessary, but not the final measure of who we become?

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    What does Pirkei Avot mean by shleimut — the completeness of the human being?

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    At the end of a life, should success be measured by what we did or by who we became?

    21 min
  13. Part 5: The Ultimate Guide to Leadership | Avot with the Chief

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    In this episode the journey we have been on together over this series takes an unexpected twist. It turns out that Avot is not only about who we become.

    It is also about leadership. And it changes what that means for each of us in a way that makes it relevant for how we live every day.

    One of the most famous lines in Pirkei Avot is Hillel's question: if I am only for myself, what am I? Many of us think of who we are as something fixed. A fixed size, a fixed list of people who count as ours. Hillel's question doesn't accept that. It asks how far the boundary of "I" can actually move.

    Drawing on the Rambam, Rav Shimon Shkop, and the opening chapters of Pirkei Avot, we begin to uncover a new concept, and it is one that changes the meaning of personal development itself.

    Perhaps becoming the person you're meant to be was never an inward journey alone.

    KEY QUESTIONS

    · When you say "I," who are you actually talking about? Your body? Your family? Your people? Something wider still?

    · If you are only for yourself, what are you?

    · Is your sense of identity fixed, or is it something that can actually grow?

    · Can personal growth ever be complete?

    · What does it mean if the highest form of Kiddush Hashem required no words at all?

    24 min
  14. A Nation That Dwells Alone | Tisha B'Av Night at West Str Shul

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    Why has the Jewish people always stood alone?

    Recorded on the night of Tisha B'Av, this shiur begins with a simpler question: what does it actually mean to mourn? The grief turns out to be only the surface of it. Underneath sits something else, the very aloneness the day is built to make you feel. It's there in the halachot that shape Tisha B'Av, in the law that forbids a mezumen at the seudah hamafseket even though mourners, in every other context, are permitted one. And it's there from the very opening line of Eicha: eicha yashva badad, how she sits alone.

    Drawing on Rav Soloveitchik's reading of that halacha, and on the prophecy given to Bilaam that Israel would be 'a nation that dwells alone,' the Chief traces two entirely different kinds of aloneness: one born of desolation, one born of a mission nothing else can replace. He follows the thread into the present moment, into the three years since October 7th and the resurgence of antisemitism worldwide, and into where Theodor Herzl's founding assumption about Jewish history went wrong.

    What would it take to move from one kind of alone to the other? And on a day built entirely around loneliness, what would it mean to choose it, rather than simply endure it?

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    What is actually happening, beneath the grief, when a person mourns?

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    Why does Jewish law forbid mourners from comforting each other on the one day mourning is most intense?

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    What is the difference between a nation that dwells alone because it has been broken, and one that dwells alone because of what it carries?

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    Where did Herzl's founding theory of antisemitism go wrong, and what does Tisha B'Av say instead?

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    What would it mean to choose the very aloneness we've spent three years trying to escape?

    30 min
  15. Sitting Shiva for a Broken World | Tisha B'Av with the Chief

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    Personal mourning fades with time. Our national mourning, the Three Weeks leading into Tisha B'Av, on the other hand, move in the opposite direction. It grows more intense until a day described as "sitting shiva for the world itself."

    Why would we deliberately awaken grief for a loss most of us have never personally experienced?

    Drawing from Rabbi Yosef Dov Soloveitchik, Rabbeinuyu Bechaye, Pirkei Avot and the wisdom of our Sages, The Chief Rabbi explores why Tisha B'Av is not only about mourning the destruction of the Temple, but about learning to see the brokenness of the world itself. And why that grief was never meant to end in sadness. It was meant to become the beginning of hope, action, and redemption.

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    Why would grief for a loss most people have never personally felt need to intensify as the day approaches, rather than ease?

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    What does the Chief mean when he calls Tisha B'Av "sitting shiva for the world"?

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    Why is fasting on Tisha B'Av treated as an act of repentance rather than an act of mourning?

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    What actually changes at midday of Tisha B'Av, and why does the day work in two such different registers?

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    If grief is only the doorway, what is it a doorway to?

    23 min
  16. What is the Point of Mourning? (From the annual Shemiras Halashon Program, Johannesburg, 2026)

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    Why do we spend three weeks manufacturing grief for a building none of us ever saw? This is the question the Chief puts directly to his audience in this year's Shemiras Halashon shiur, delivered the Shabbos before Tisha B'Av - a program he has been part of given every year for over two decades.

    The laws of communal mourning work backwards from the laws of personal mourning. Grief for a relative starts intense and eases with time. Grief for the Beit Hamikdash starts light and intensifies toward Tisha B'Av, because, as Rav Soloveitchik points out, the feeling isn't naturally there. We have to be walked into it.

    Drawing on the Ramban's philosophy of mitzvot, the Chief Rabbi argues that this manufactured grief was never meant to be the goal. Misery isn't a mitzvah. The mourning exists to sensitize us to a loss most of us have never named correctly. Not bricks or sacrifices, but the diminished honor of Hashem's name in the world. And the Gemara's answer for what restores it starts somewhere surprisingly close to home.

    It's the same place the Chofetz Chaim started when he built an entire program around the laws of lashon hora: how we speak to, and about, one another.

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    If grief for the Beit Hamikdash doesn't come naturally, why does Jewish law go out of its way to manufacture it?

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    What did we actually lose when the Temple was destroyed, and why isn't it the building itself?

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    Why is fasting on Tisha B'Av not, technically, an act of mourning at all?

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    What does the way we speak about other people have to do with the dignity of Hashem's name in the world?

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    Why does Chillul Hashem stand apart from every other sin in Jewish law?

    51 min
  17. The Art of Criticism | Parsha with the Chief - Devarim

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    Few aspects of human relationships are more uncomfortable than criticism, whether giving it or receiving it. Yet we cannot grow without it.

    If we are to become better people, we have to recognise our mistakes, learn from them, and change. The question is not whether criticism has a place in our lives, but whether we know how to give it and receive it well.

    This week's parsha, Devarim, begins with one of the Torah's most important moments of correction. As Moshe prepares to take leave of the Jewish people, he reflects on forty years in the desert and offers them words they need to hear, not necessarily words they want to hear.

    Drawing on Parshat Devarim, Pirkei Avot and the example of our greatest leaders, the Chief Rabbi explores one of life's most difficult questions: how does telling someone they're wrong become an act of love rather than an act of harm?

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    If speaking up risks the relationship, is silence really the safer choice, or just the easier one?

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    Can criticism be an act of friendship, or is that always self-justification?

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    Why does Moshe correct the people without ever naming them?

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    What does a person have to become before they're allowed to correct someone else?

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    Is the goal of a hard conversation to be right, or to make someone else greater?

    19 min
  18. Life is Not Linear | Parsha with the Chief: Matot-Masei

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    We instinctively look for the quickest most efficient path from where we are to where we want to be.

    But life rarely unfolds in straight lines. It twists, detours and doubles back, leaving us wondering whether we've lost time along the way.

    This week's parsha opens with a list: forty-two stops, forty years, for a journey Rashi says should have taken eleven days. Rashi also brings a midrash: God recounting each stop is compared not to an accounting, but to a parent narrating every stage of a sick child's slow recovery. Not a report, but something closer to a love letter.

    Drawing on Pirkei Avot, the Chief takes that same tenderness and turns it toward our own lives. "Efficiency is everything in commerce," he says. "But the human being is not a product." The years you thought were setting you back may have been the years that were shaping you most.

    Every stop got written down, because every stop was precious enough to be remembered.

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    What if the years you thought were setting you back were actually shaping you?

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    Is someone who takes forty years to learn something behind, or exactly on time?

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    Why do the things that matter most refuse to be rushed?

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    Can you trust that none of it was wasted?

    24 min
  19. Part 4 of My Personal Journey | Avot with the Chief

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    After countless hours of searching, I thought the picture was complete. We had found the heart of Avot - the Torah of who you become, the third pillar of Jewish life - and mapped it across the whole tractate. Everything felt like it made sense.

    Then I noticed something I couldn't explain.

    Woven in among all the mishnayos about character and Torah learning, are mishnayos about action. About mitzvahs. About the imperative to do. Not study is the main thing, but deeds. Run to a mitzvah. Be careful even with the lighter commandments.

    Our entire theory had been built on the idea that Avot is not about what you do. It is about who you become. So how do these fit?

    The clue comes from a single mishnah, of a tree with great branches and shallow roots. And what the Maharal says about it begins to pull the entire picture - Avot, the 613 commandments, the whole of Torah - into a relationship I hadn't seen before.

    This is Part 4 of the journey. The moment the pieces stopped being separate and began to form something whole.

    KEY QUESTIONS

    · If Avot is about who you become - not what you do - why does it keep insisting on the importance of action?

    · What does it mean to have brilliant branches but shallow roots? And what does that say about a person who understands everything but hasn't lived it?

    · Is there a version of Jewish life where the mitzvahs you keep and the person you are becoming are actually the same project?

    · What would it mean to do a mitzvah and ask not only "did I fulfil this?" but "what is this doing to me?"

    · If Avot is the beating heart of the entire system of Torah, what changes about how you understand everything else you do?

    23 min
  20. Solving the Mystery, Part 3 | Avot with the Chief

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    The theory was beautiful. The Maharal, the Vilna Gaon, the Rambam, all pointing to the same conclusion: that Pirkei Avot is the third pillar of Torah, the book of who you become. But where was that picture actually visible in the text?

    In Part 3 of his series, the Chief opens his notebook, and lays out all 126 mishnayos of Avot. He counts. He categorises. And slowly, what had been there all along starts to come into focus.

    Two themes dominate. And under both, a deeper claim about how we come to see the world.

    Drawing on the Maharal, the Vilna Gaon, the Rambam, and Avot d'Rabbi Natan's surprising claim, this is the moment in the journey when the pieces finally begin to fit together.

    Key Questions

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    What changes when the way you see the world changes?

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    What had been hiding in plain sight in Avot for 2000 years?

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    Why is Avot the only tractate of the Mishnah structured chronologically rather than thematically?

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    If Torah learning is one of the 613 commandments, why does it appear so heavily in a book that isn't about commandments?

    25 min