Podcast

Financial Feminist

Business, Education, How To

Fight the patriarchy. Get Rich.™

Join money expert Tori Dunlap every Tuesday as she guides you on how to make more, spend less, and feel financially confident in a world run by rich white men. Through solo episodes and special guest interviews, you’ll walk away with resources to get, save, and grow money to gain financial freedom and kick some patriarchal ass at the same time.

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Typical length
58 min
On air since
2021
Latest episode
19 hours ago

Episodes

351 episodes, newest first

  1. How to Build Sustainable Revenue That Doesn't Cost You Your Life with Natalie Ellis

    Episode 306

    Show notes

    Save your seat in this 2-part workshop series that turns your “I wish I could quit my job” into a specific, actionable plan to get you out of your job in 90 days or less. Get access here: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠⁠.

    Today I'm sitting down with Natalie Ellis, mom, CEO, and founder of Boss Babe, and author of the New York Times bestseller The Freedom-Based Business Method. Natalie built a multimillion-dollar company and then realized she'd been running it on an aggressive growth playbook for a business she never planned to sell. We get into why burnout isn't a badge of honor, why the median follower count in Natalie's survey of six-figure-plus business owners will shock you, and the three boring things that actually make a business work. If you run a business, want to start one, or just keep buying courses hoping the next one fixes it, this is your episode.

    Natalie’s Links:

    Websites: https://www.bossbabe.com/ ; https://www.natalie-ellis.com/ Book: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781401997373

    Mentioned during the show:

    How to Reinvent Yourself (Without Losing Yourself) with Sophia Amoruso: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/reinventing-yourself-sophia-amoruso/

    The Rise and Fall of the Girlboss: https://www.diabolicalliespod.com/p/the-rise-and-fall-of-the-girlboss

    00:00 Intro

    04:30 Is burnout the price of hustle? Energy-giving vs. energy-draining work

    08:00 Why "more organization" isn't the fix: the three questions your business runs on

    10:30 Big decisions vs. small ones, in business and personal finance

    12:00 Natalie's Trojan horse course strategy

    15:00 Tori's viral video and the 100,000 email subscribers

    18:00 Building on land you own: why email beats followers

    20:00 Shiny objects: new products, new platforms

    26:00 One platform, one offer, and why you can't over-market a product

    29:00 What to cut first: start with your data

    31:00 Offer, funnel, traffic (build, borrow, or buy an audience)

    34:00 Getting off the treadmill: executive retreats and "what do you want?"

    37:00 Leaving easy money on the table

    40:00 Seasons of sprint and giving yourself grace

    44:00 Building for freedom when you're just getting started

    47:00 The responsibility nobody posts about

    52:00 The Boss Babe name, ten-plus years later

    54:00 Hustle culture, soft life, and tradwife content

    62:00 What successful women entrepreneurs know

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    1 hr 7 min
  2. Financial Foundations #1: Your Money Blueprint

    Show notes

    You told us Financial Foundations was your favorite series, so we brought it back. Presented by State Farm, these are short, actionable episodes, each one covering a single personal finance pillar and giving you one thing to go do. We're following along with my book, Financial Feminist, so if you have a copy, pull it out. In episode one, I'm walking you through your first money memory, the exact order to tackle your financial goals, and how to actually stay consistent with a monthly money date. If you've ever asked "Okay, but what do I do first with my money?", start here.

    To find all of the resources mentioned in this episode including my free money quiz and my partner recommendation for your emergency fund), visit: ⁠⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    01:03 Welcome to Financial Foundations

    02:17 Your financial narrative and your first money memory

    03:54 How your money memory shows up today

    06:05 The financial order of operations

    06:56 Why your emergency fund comes first

    08:26 Priority two: high-interest debt

    09:18 Priority three: investing for retirement and paying down low-interest debt

    10:04 Priority four: saving for the big stuff

    11:04 Staying consistent and the ostrich effect

    12:37 Financial self-care and the money date

    13:33 How to run your money date, step by step

    15:15 Your homework: the money diary

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    17 min
  3. Lazy Girl Guide to Building Wealth

    Episode 305

    Show notes

    Today’s episode is so valuable, we decided to run it back. It's all about unlocking what I truly believe is the easiest money you will ever make — and yes, it’s as simple and lazy-girl-friendly as it sounds. I’m breaking down the one passive income strategy that requires zero extra hours, zero new skills, and absolutely zero stress: a high-yield savings account. If you’ve ever wished you could make money while taking a nap, running errands, or sipping a drink on the beach, this episode shows you exactly how to make your existing money work harder for you, without sacrificing your already-packed schedule.

    Looking for a HYSA? We've done the research for you. See our partner recommendation (terms apply): https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod

    00:00 Intro

    01:14 The Problem with Checking Accounts

    02:44 Why High-Yield Savings Accounts Matter

    04:21 How to Set Up and Use a HYSA

    08:44 The Power of Earning Interest

    09:23 Using HYSA for Emergency Funds & Goals

    10:22 Overcoming Myths & Fears

    12:24 Making Money Passively

    14:03 Is My Money Safe?

    15:10 Final Thoughts & How to Get Started

    Visit ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠⁠ to stay up to date and find any resources mentioned on our show!

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    17 min
  4. The Easiest Business to Start in 2026 with Justin Moore

    Episode 304

    Show notes

    If you're carrying credit card balances and haven't looked into whether a lower-rate option is available, see if our debt-tool can help you: ⁠⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠⁠.

    What if the easiest business to start this year is one you could begin with a single DM? Justin Moore, sponsorship coach, founder of Creator Wizard, and author of Sponsor Magnet, has earned over $5 million in brand partnerships with his wife April, and spent seven years running an ad agency where he heard what brands say about creators behind closed doors.

    We cover why building an audience may be the most AI-proof business you can start, why a tiny niche audience can out-earn a huge one, how to answer “what’s your rate?” without losing money, and the contract words that should make you run. If an extra couple thousand dollars a month would change your life, this episode shows you one way to get it.

    Justin’s Links:

    Website: https://www.sponsormagnet.com/

    Also mentioned in this episode:

    This Mistake Cost Me $500,000: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/my-500k-mistake/

    Jasmine Star: How to Build a Business from Nothing: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-build-a-business-from-nothing/

    00:00 Intro

    01:18 Why building an audience is the most AI-proof business

    03:03 You don’t have to be an “influencer” to do this

    08:29 Side hustling the 5-to-9

    11:05 What you actually need to start (one person)

    14:37 Why Justin started calling out the gatekeepers

    17:03 What running an ad agency taught him about how brands pay

    19:37 Who undercharges most

    24:55 How to answer “what’s your rate?”

    29:10 Justin’s 8-step partnership system

    38:53 Contract red flags: perpetuity, exclusivity, out clauses

    43:46 Why Justin says don’t hire a manager

    48:47 My half-million-dollar agency mistake

    53:32 The $1 million math on a 20% cut

    54:24 Rapid fire: free product, worst pitches, follower myths

    58:37 One thing every creator should do today

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    58 min
  5. Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging with Sabrina Zohar

    Episode 303

    Show notes

    Why do we keep repeating patterns that don’t serve us? Today I'm sitting down with Sabrina Zohar, relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of the new book Why Am I Like This, to figure out why. We’re talking about the unconscious programming behind how we handle love, conflict, rejection, and even our own success. If you've ever over-given, stayed too long, or known exactly what you were doing while doing it anyway, you're in the right place. Sabrina walks through two questions that can interrupt an old belief before it makes a present-day decision, what self-abandonment looks like on a random Tuesday, and how all of it shapes what you think you're allowed to ask for and earn. You will feel seen. You will also feel a little called out. Share it with every woman in your life.

    Sabrina’s Links:

    Website: https://sabrinazohar.com/

    Book: https://sabrinazohar.com/book

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    01:35 The pattern women swear isn't a pattern

    02:40 Window of tolerance and why discomfort feels unbearable

    08:10 The texting spiral, and the two questions that interrupt it

    13:20 173 texts: what Sabrina understands about her younger self now

    17:00 Gut vs. anxiety (does the pinch match the ouch?)

    19:05 Being attached to the story of a relationship

    22:55 Finding the belief underneath the behavior

    27:45 When your "logical" brain makes the worst decisions

    31:20 Getting out of your head and into your body

    32:30 Hiring out of fear, and learning to trust yourself

    41:35 What self-abandonment looks like on an ordinary day

    44:30 Saying no, boundaries, and grieving who you lose

    49:10 You're allowed to outgrow people

    51:00 How worthiness shapes what you ask for and earn

    56:15 Moving through shame instead of ruminating

    66:05 Healing doesn't mean never getting triggered

    70:05 What to do the moment you notice yourself shrinking

    73:40 The self-trust marble jar

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    1 hr 4 min
  6. How to Ask for a Raise in 2026 with Kathryn Valentine

    Episode 302

    Show notes

    The 2026 job market has been brutal. If you’ve been looking for a job, you know how tough it is. If you already have a job, I’m sure you’ve been told that you should just be grateful. Keep your head down, don’t make waves, ask for a raise when things "settle." My guest today thinks that instinct is completely backwards, and after this conversation, so do I. Kathryn Valentine –– executive coach, one of the country's leading experts on women's negotiation, and repeat guest –– coaches women inside communities like J.P. Morgan, Bain, and KPMG. And her work starts with an uncomfortable finding: women now negotiate as often as men, but succeed about half as often. Today we're talking about what to do when your company says there's no budget, why the timing of your ask matters so much, what AI gets wrong about your salary, and how to survive the messy middle of a negotiation without folding. If you've been telling yourself you'll just wait a year to ask, listen to this first.

    Kathryn’s Links:

    76 Things You Can Negotiate at Work: http://76things.com/

    Learn more about Kathryn Valentine: http://worthmorestrategies.com/

    Negotiate Like a Woman with Kathryn Valentine: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/negotiate-like-a-woman/

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    02:13 Why negotiation matters: career, stress, and $1M

    05:24 Women ask now, but with the wrong tools

    06:30 Negotiating during layoffs

    08:28 The relational ask (and the WSJ advice that backfires)

    11:36 Common negotiation mistakes women are told to make

    13:12 What to ask for when raises are frozen

    15:33 The 76 things you can negotiate

    19:42 The gender gap goes way past base salary

    26:42 In the room: what to say when it goes off-script

    31:08 The three biggest mistakes that sink negotiations

    34:15 How to find your market rate

    37:32 "Ask a white guy"

    40:34 Should you use AI to prep?

    44:29 The average negotiation lasts 25 days

    45:57 Live calculator: what one raise is worth

    50:25 Who to talk to (and who to avoid) during a negotiation

    56:54 Changing jobs when the economy is bad

    59:25 When to leave corporate and build your own thing

    66:27 Why mid-sized companies are best for flexibility

    71:07 What to do this week

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    1 hr 3 min
  7. How to Eat Healthy When You're Busy and Broke with Carleigh Bodrug

    Episode 301

    Show notes

    Carleigh Bodrug is back! She's the CEO and founder of PlantYou, a #1 New York Times bestselling author, a self-taught plant-based home cook, and the author of the brand-new cookbook Quickies. Her first episode was one of our most-loved ever, so I brought her back to tackle one of the biggest line items on your budget right now: food. We get into why convenience wins at 6 PM, how to actually cut your grocery bill, how to stop throwing money in the trash (literally), and why a food system works the same way a money system does. It's practical, it's shame-free, and there is a salad kit eaten out of a mixing bowl.

    Carleigh’s Links:

    PlantYou Quickies book

    Carleigh's Instagram

    How to Lower Your Grocery Bill and Stop Food Waste

    Additional Resources Mentioned:

    millionaire mindset: parenting yourself episode

    Ready to take the confusion out of investing? Learn the exact methods to start investing, avoid the mistakes that cost people millions, and how to balance investing while paying off debt inside Stock Market School. Learn more here: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod.

    00:00 Intro

    00:42 What Happens to Healthy Habits When You're Maxed Out

    04:16 The Psychology of Pre-Cut Food

    07:26 Shop Your Pantry First

    11:15 The Deeper Psychology of Convenience

    12:51 Cooking as an Investment in Yourself

    18:23 Building a System That Beats Willpower

    24:52 How "Quickies" Was Born

    28:08 What Makes a Recipe Actually Quick

    32:00 Perfection Is the Enemy of Good

    35:33 Using Every Scrap: Reducing Food Waste

    39:31 Cooking Is a Learned Skill

    43:54 Rapid Fire Speed Round

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    54 min
  8. How to Take Back Your Financial Power (Tori's Interview on the Jasmine Star Show)

    Episode 300

    Show notes

    Ready to take control of your money and finally start investing? Visit ⁠⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ to register for our FREE workshop, Stock Market Secrets: Debunking Common Myths for Successful Investing to learn how to avoid common mistakes and how to build wealth without fear or confusion.

    Today's episode is a little different from our normal format. It's my conversation with Jasmine Star on The Jasmine Star Show, and we're sharing it here because it goes deep into something I don't usually get asked about on my own show: the actual business mechanics behind Her First $100K. We talk about the $49 coaching sessions that started it all, the money story I inherited from my parents (and had to unlearn), the exact logic I used the night before I quit my job, and why "done is better than perfect" has become my whole content philosophy. If you're building something of your own, or thinking about it, this one's for you.

    Jasmine’s links:

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasminestar

    Website :https://jasminestar.com/

    00:00 Intro & the story behind the name "Her First $100K"

    02:25 Documenting the money journey publicly — and why that built accountability

    04:27 Rebranding to Her First $100K, and her dad's reaction

    06:30 The $49 coaching sessions that started it all

    08:01 From coaching, to a $97 workshop, to a course

    10:30 Tori's money story: safety, risk, and her parents' fear

    14:19 Why women are conditioned to avoid risk

    15:35 The night before she quit her job

    18:54 "Give your dollars a job": the psychology of scaling income

    24:21 Her First $100K's revenue model today

    28:33 What's stayed the same (consistency) vs. what she let go of

    31:58 Building an email list early, and current team structure

    33:53 What Tori loves doing vs. what she's delegated

    42:04 The "chin video" strategy: why imperfect content wins

    44:54 "Done is better than perfect": hiring, imperfection, 2026 content trends

    50:05 Owning success without performing false humility

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    56 min
  9. Building Your Strongest and Healthiest Body (Without Deprivation) with Dr. Stacy Sims

    Episode 299

    Show notes

    Almost everything you've ever been told about working out was tested on men. Today's guest is here to hand you the actual playbook for your body. The one that accounts for your hormones, your cycle, and your life stage instead of pretending you're just a smaller man. In today’s episode we’re talking to Dr. Stacy Sims––exercise physiologist, nutrition scientist, and one of the leading voices on training women's bodies––about why lifting heavy protects your brain (not just your muscles), why "toning" isn't even a real thing, how to actually train through menopause instead of white-knuckling it, and why your smartwatch might be lying to you about how tired you really are. If you've ever felt like the fitness industry wasn't built with you in mind, you're absolutely right, and Dr. Sims is going to tell you exactly what to do instead.

    Dr. Stacy’s Links:

    Website: https://www.drstacysims.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacysims

    Ready to take control of your money and finally start investing? Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to register for our FREE workshop, Stock Market Secrets: Debunking Common Myths for Successful Investing to learn how to avoid common mistakes and how to balance investing with paying off debt so you can build wealth without fear or confusion.

    00:00 Intro

    00:50 The Fitness Industry's Blind Spot

    02:14 When the Research Is Only About Men

    04:16 Why Women Need Heavier Weights

    05:42 Lifting Heavy Protects Your Brain

    07:26 Strength Over Thinness

    10:36 100 Healthy Years, Not Just 100

    16:27 Why Women Fear Lifting Heavy

    17:04 Pushing to Failure Is the Point

    21:35 Where to Start: At Home, 10 Minutes

    24:58 Why You Shouldn't Train Fasted

    30:03 What to Eat Before You Lift

    31:52 Training for Menopause, Not Against It

    35:41 The Hormone Therapy Pendulum Swing

    38:16 Why Girls Really Quit Sports

    40:36 Your Smartwatch Is Lying to You

    45:35 Relearning Your Body's Signals

    46:57 Fitting Fitness Into a Busy Life

    52:22 What Successful Women Know About Health

    54:36 The 80/20 Rule for Life

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    1 hr 2 min
  10. Ask Tori: Investing and Retirement

    Episode 298

    Show notes

    Today I'm answering your biggest questions about investing, retirement, and what to do with your money when the headlines start screaming recession. I get these questions constantly in my DMs, so I'm pulling the most asked — mortgage payoff vs. investing, the actual logistics of retirement withdrawals, what to do with an old 401(k) you've been ignoring, and how to finally get out of Edward Jones — and giving you real answers. My advice doesn't change based on who's in office or what the market's doing this week. It changes based on math, and I'm walking you through the math.

    Additional resources:

    How to Start Investing: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-invest/

    What You Need to Know About Mortgages with NerdWallet’s Kate Wood: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-get-a-mortgage/

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod.

    00:00 Intro & Investing Mindset

    04:41 Paying Off Your Mortgage vs. Investing

    09:56 How to Withdraw Money in Retirement

    16:51 Rolling Over Old Retirement Accounts

    21:02 How to Leave Edward Jones

    30:31 Wrap-Up & Credits

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    36 min
  11. What 5 Millionaire Women Know about Money (That You Don't)

    Episode 297

    Show notes

    I recently sat down on a couch in beautiful Laguna Beach with four women who've made over $100 million combined. And what they have to say will change the way you think about business. This episode is different from our usual format. It's a live panel conversation recorded at a seven-figure entrepreneur mastermind, where I'm joined by Adley Kinsman (founder of Viralish, Vanessa Marin (licensed sex therapist and co-founder of Vanessa and Xander), Maria Wendt (entrepreneur and educator who's sold over $21 million in low-ticket products), and Natasha Willis (co-founder of School of Bots). Together we get into the self-sabotaging beliefs that keep people from starting a business, what money actually buys beyond the sexy parts of entrepreneurship, whether ambition and rest can coexist, and the money beliefs each of us had to unlearn to get here.

    Links:

    Adley Kinsman (Viralish) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adley

    Vanessa Marin (Vanessa and Xander) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/VanessaandXandr

    Maria Wendt Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maria.wendt

    Natasha Willis (School of Bots) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/NatashaTWillis

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    01:30 Self-sabotaging narratives and startup myths

    04:25 From therapist to entrepreneur: overcoming the "business is dirty" belief

    05:35 Making money is easier than you think

    08:30 What entrepreneurship gives you beyond money

    12:17 Identity before proof: what successful entrepreneurs know

    14:55 The volume and obsession success requires

    18:55 Ambition vs. rest: finding your version of "enough"

    23:15 The moral responsibility to scale your business

    29:43 Boundaries: what to share publicly

    34:05 Money beliefs you had to unlearn

    37:22 The ostrich effect: why you avoid your money

    39:30 Making money vs. building a business

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    47 min
  12. Can I Actually Afford a Home? with Daryl Fairweather

    Episode 296

    Show notes

    If there’s one piece of info to take away from today’s guest, it’s that there’s no "perfect" moment to buy a home. It's about timing your life, not the market. In today’s episode, I sat down with repeat guest Daryl Fairweather –– Chief Economist at Redfin and author of Hate the Game: Economic Cheat Codes for Life, Love, and Work. We got into the real, updated math on buying a home in 2026: mortgage rates, whether prices have already peaked, the climate risk nobody's pricing in correctly, and the creative paths (co-buying, ADUs, house hacking) more people are turning to because the old rules just don't work anymore. If you've felt priced out, behind, or like homeownership might not be "in the cards" for you, this episode will change how you think about the whole decision.

    Daryl’s Links:

    Website: https://www.redfin.com/

    Hate the Game book: https://www.hatethegamebook.com/

    Daryl's IG: https://www.instagram.com/fairweatherphd/?hl=en

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    01:06 Is it too late to buy a home?

    03:00 What winning looks like when the system feels unwinnable

    04:27 Smart next moves for stuck renters and would-be buyers

    06:34 Why housing may get more affordable over the next decade

    08:21 Climate change and the coming insurance crisis

    11:22 When does buying actually make sense? (the 5-year rule)

    14:53 How job stability and housing go hand in hand

    17:05 Preparing to buy: talk to a lender early

    19:58 Rethinking the 20% down payment

    21:16 Creative paths to homeownership: co-buying, ADUs, house hacking

    25:07 Starter home vs. waiting for the dream home

    27:39 How housing costs will reshape households and family life

    28:58 Will the housing market crash?

    32:29 Misconceptions keeping people stuck

    35:54 What to do if you're priced out right now

    37:24 The mindset shift: timing your life, not the market

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    44 min
  13. How to Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs About Money with Nir Eyal

    Episode 295

    Show notes

    There's a sentence I hear from women more than almost any other: "I'm bad with money." Today's guest spent six years proving that sentence isn't a fact — it's a belief, and beliefs can change. Nir Eyal, author of Beyond Belief, breaks down the science of why we get stuck telling ourselves the same money story, and exactly how to write a new one. In his new book, Beyond Belief, he digs into why the words that follow "I am" are so dangerous, and why getting comfortable with discomfort is the real skill behind almost every financial win. We get into identity, self-trust, why you can't see your own limiting beliefs (but can spot everyone else's), and the research that proves belief can override biology. This one will change how you talk to yourself about money.

    Nir’s Links:

    Free Belief Change Guide: https://www.nirandfar.com/beyond-belief-live

    30-Day Belief Transformation Journal: http://nirandfar.com/beyond-belief

    Website: https://www.nirandfar.com/

    LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/nireyal/

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    03:00 Facts vs. beliefs vs. faith

    05:00 Identity and the danger of "I am" statements

    06:00 Belief can override biology

    09:00 Self-trust and building your own track record

    12:00 The evolutionary reason your brain resists change

    16:00 The mindset shift behind getting comfortable with discomfort

    22:00 Byron Katie's four questions for examining a belief

    26:00 Building a "portfolio of perspectives"

    30:00 Naming systemic barriers without using them as an excuse

    33:00 Choosing the belief that serves you

    35:00 Locus of control — why believing you have agency changes outcomes

    42:00 Challenging your thinking without tipping into toxic positivity

    44:00 Why manifesting backfires (and what works instead)

    49:00 Mental contrasting

    52:00 Why chaos and struggle mean you're alive

    54:00 Tori's own story of choosing to feel pain instead of avoiding it

    55:00 The rat study — how belief in possible rescue changes persistence

    1:00:00 Persistence over intelligence — the real predictor of success

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    1 hr 5 min
  14. Investing for Beginners with JL Collins

    Show notes

    In this episode, I sat down with the “godfather of financial independence,” aka JL Collins, to demystify investing in the most approachable way possible. JL has been in the game for over 50 years and wrote The Simple Path to Wealth—a book that’s helped nearly a million people understand how to grow their money with confidence. And today, he’s breaking it all down for you. We get real about what investing actually is, why you don’t need a finance degree to build wealth, and how the entire financial industry has tried to gatekeep this information. JL shares why index funds are his go-to, how to avoid common investing mistakes, and why market dips aren’t disasters—they’re opportunities. Whether you’re brand new to investing or just want a no-BS refresh on the basics, this conversation is for you.

    JL’s Links:

    The Simple Path to Wealth: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Simple-Path-to-Wealth-(Revised- Expanded-Edition)/JL-Collins/9798893310474

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan: ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠.

    00:00 Intro

    03:24 Personal Finance Beginnings

    06:44 The Birth of a Financial Blog

    14:26 Understanding Index Funds

    28:31 The FIRE Movement Explained

    36:02 Calculating Financial Independence

    40:28 Market Volatility: Should You Change Your Strategy?

    44:48 Adjusting Investment Strategies Near Retirement

    53:44 Ethical Investing: Pros and Cons

    01:01:21 The Role of Financial Advisors

    01:06:53 Key Insights for Successful Investing

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    1 hr 17 min
  15. How to Graduate College Debt Free with Jocelyn Pearson

    Episode 294

    Show notes

    College is expensive, but there's money on the table that most families never touch. Today's guest walked away from college completely debt-free, not because she was a straight-A student or a star athlete, but because she treated scholarships like a system instead of a luck-based lottery. Jocelyn Pearson, founder of The Scholarship System, has since helped families across the US secure almost $17 million in scholarships. We get into the myths keeping families from even trying, why the small-dollar scholarships matter more than the $100K ones, how to build reusable application materials so you're not starting from scratch every time. If you've got a student headed to college (or you're the student), this one is required listening.

    Jocelyn’s links:

    Free webinar: https://thescholarshipsystem.com/financialfeminist

    Scholarship Superpower Quiz: thescholarshipsystem.com/financialfeministquiz

    Not sure what to do with your money? Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ and take our FREE quiz to get your personalized money plan, and find any resources mentioned on our show!

    00:00 Intro

    01:18 Jocelyn's $126K Scholarship Story

    03:41 Why Strategy Beats Luck

    04:13 The 4 Biggest Scholarship Myths

    07:18 The Real Reason Families Don't Apply

    10:51 The "All or Nothing" Mindset

    13:43 Building a Reusable Essay System

    16:32 Other Reusable Application Assets

    17:13 What Committees Are Really Looking For

    21:05 How to Talk About Your Major

    21:59 Who Wins When Two Finalists Are Equal

    23:31 How (and How Not) to Use AI

    27:35 The Overlooked Small-Dollar Scholarships

    33:28 Department Scholarships & Asking for More

    33:30 When Your Financial Situation Changes

    35:21 Navigating the Middle-Income Gap

    47:47 The Student Loan Forgiveness Reality Check

    49:52 The True Cost of Co-Signing

    52:54 The #1 Trait of Successful Scholarship Families

    54:53 Jocelyn's Free Resources & Quiz

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    1 hr 2 min
  16. How to Live Your Rich Life with Ramit Sethi

    Show notes

    What does it mean to live a truly “rich life?” This is a re-release of one of our favorite conversations: Tori sits down with Ramit Sethi, New York Times bestselling author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and host of the Netflix show How to Get Rich. They get into what it actually means to build a rich life, why renting can beat buying even when you can afford to buy, how to negotiate literally everything (including your rent), and what couples are really fighting about when they fight about money — hint: it's never actually about Target.

    Ramit’s Links:

    Website: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ramit/?hl=en

    Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/money-for-couples-with-ramit-sethi/id1577864998

    Learn the exact strategies to save money, pay off debt, improve your money mindset, and increase your net worth. Get your personalized plan here: https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod.

    00:00 Intro: What Is a Rich Life?

    01:13 Ramit's First Money Memory

    05:01 It's Expensive to Be Poor

    05:20 Playing the Game While Changing the System

    07:25 Why High School Finance Classes Don't Work

    11:13 The Case for Renting Over Buying

    17:21 How to Negotiate Your Rent

    22:38 Building a Course Business

    24:44 What Couples Actually Fight About

    27:58 Defining Your Rich Life

    35:50 What Women Are Taught About Money

    37:17 The Money Dial Exercise

    38:37 The Michelin Star Story

    40:38 Money & Marriage: Ramit's Personal Experience

    42:30 The Monthly Money Date

    44:03 Gendered Fears in Relationships

    51:44 Women Out-Earning Their Partners

    52:05 The $400K Debt Couple

    53:02 Your Feelings About Money ≠ Your Balance

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    1 hr 1 min
  17. BONUS: The Ultimate Guide to Credit Card Debt Payoff Bonus

    Show notes

    If you’ve been struggling to break free from credit card debt––you’re in the right place. In this episode, we’re replaying one of our most commonly requested topics: credit card debt. We’ll uncover how sneaky interest rates can chip away at your hard-earned money every single day and explore powerful strategies to help you tackle that high-interest debt so you can finally breathe easy.

    As someone who’s dedicated to helping women save money, invest, and feel financially confident, I firmly believe that understanding your debt is the first crucial step in breaking free from it. When we take back control of our finances, we collectively fight the patriarchy—by making ourselves richer, savvier, and fully in control of our money.

    Check to see if you qualify for my partner personal loan recommendation* (doesn’t hurt your credit score!) *Terms apply: https://soficreator.pxf.io/c/1408818/2083784/25681?subId1=podcast&subId2=bonusep&adcampaigngroup=lending&adnetwork=brand

    Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod

    00:00 Intro

    00:48 Understanding credit card debt

    02:26 How debt and interest work

    07:20 Strategies for paying off debt

    08:32 Using credit cards responsibly

    14:53 Emergency funds vs. debt payoff

    19:16 Debt payoff methods: snowball vs. avalanche

    22:36 The role of personal loans

    32:30 Setting financial goals and staying motivated

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    41 min
  18. How Transparent Should I Be About My Money? (Tori’s Interview on The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink)

    Episode 293

    Show notes

    This week, we’re bringing you a special replay crossover episode with Lucie Fink — podcast host, video producer, digital educator, and host of “The Real Stuff with Lucie Fink.” In this insightful conversation, Tori details her journey to becoming a multimillionaire, demystifying the concept of "coast FIRE" and the significance of reaching that initial $100,000 savings goal. Tori generously shares her knowledge on effective investment strategies and highlights the power of financial literacy. This discussion goes beyond building wealth — it's a call to normalize conversations about money, sex, societal norms, and navigating the balance between privacy and openness in our personal lives.

    Lucie’s links:

    The Real Stuff Podcast: https://lnk.to/TheRealStuffWithLucieFink

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luciebfink

    Talking about money with your partner can be hard, but it’s necessary. Visit https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod to download our Money Conversation Cards –– 30 question cards to help spark fun, intimate, and beneficial conversations about money with your partner.
    00:00 The power of financial stability

    07:16 From her first $100K to multi-millionaire

    29:41 Navigating the challenges of financial transparency and safety

    39:12 Authenticity, success, and mental health online

    40:17 Addressing internet trolls and financial transparency

    41:42 Navigating body image

    47:50 Exploring confidence, pain, and self-care

    50:07 Discussing future plans and personal growth

    51:57 The realities of publishing and achieving milestones

    54:39 Personal relationships and privacy boundaries

    01:03:17 The importance of financial conversations in relationships

    01:11:00 Understanding prenups and financial independence

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    1 hr 2 min
  19. How American Patriarchy Keeps Women From Their Money, Power, and History with Anna Malaika Tubbs

    Episode 292

    Show notes

    To work to change a system, you have to understand it first. But as today’s guest will show you, it turns out our understanding of American patriarchy is completely different than what we thought it was. Today I sat down with Anna Malaika Tubbs –– two-time New York Times bestselling author, sociologist, and storyteller with a PhD in sociology and a master's in gender studies from the University of Cambridge, plus a BA from Stanford (whew!) — and we're talking about American patriarchy. We get into why the Founding Fathers and the Constitution are inherently patriarchal, what history actually teaches us about how change happens, and why Anna wasn't surprised by Trump's reelection. I threw out almost every prepared question because this conversation was that good. This episode will make you furious and hopeful in the same breath.

    Anna’s links:

    Website: https://annamalaikatubbs.com/

    Erased by Anna Malaike Tubbs: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781250876690

    The Three Mothers by Anna Malaika Tubbs: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781250756138

    Also mentioned in this episode:

    Steve Phillips, How We Win the Civil War: https://bookshop.org/a/90037/9781620978481

    Sarah McBride on Why the Left Lost on Trans Rights | The Ezra Klein Show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KlbNFsAGFRc

    Bookshop.org website: http://bookshop.org

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    00:00 Intro

    01:40 What "American patriarchy" actually means

    06:37 The Founding Fathers' blueprint

    15:21 The tug-of-war at the center of all American history

    19:19 Why Trump's re-election wasn't a surprise

    25:10 How slow progressive change actually works

    31:55 Do all roads lead back to patriarchy?

    36:04 "We haven't arrived anywhere new"

    45:28 Moving rights to the states: a repeating tactic

    52:48 Can you get rich in a system that wasn't built for you?

    58:51 The power you already have

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    1 hr 1 min
  20. Why Every SAHM Needs a Financial Safety Net

    Episode 291

    Show notes

    A video I posted about the tradwife movement blew up, and the comments made one thing clear: most people are using "tradwife" and "stay-at-home mom" interchangeably. They are not the same thing, and the difference matters. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a tradwife actually is versus what Tiffany Dufu calls a "non-compensated working mom," why romanticizing financial dependence is dangerous no matter how happy your marriage is right now, and the seven concrete moves every woman; married, partnered, or neither; needs to make to protect herself financially. This isn't anti-marriage or anti-stay-at-home mom. It's pro protecting you from financial ruin.

    Not sure what to do with your money? Visit ⁠https://herfirst100k.com/ffpod⁠ and take our FREE Money Plan Quiz to get your personalized money plan, and find any resources mentioned on our show.

    00:00 Intro: The 15-word post that broke the internet

    00:37 Meet Tori + episode overview

    01:46 What is a tradwife, actually?

    02:32 Why the tradwife aesthetic is so appealing

    04:21 The Ballerina Farm irony

    05:01 Tradwife vs. stay-at-home mom: not the same thing

    06:39 Tori's parents: how to stay home without losing financial power

    07:52 Why women hand over financial control

    11:09 "Your boss can starve you too" — debunked

    12:10 "Just marry the right man" — what the data says

    15:28 Tradwife trend = burnout in a sundress

    15:44 The real villain: the system, not the woman

    18:28 The 7-step financial protection plan

    18:48 1. Put your name on everything

    19:13 2. Have your own money

    19:51 3. Keep your credit alive

    20:08 4. Know every number

    21:08 5. Keep your skills and network warm

    21:38 6. Know your legal protections

    23:00 7. Have the "what if" conversation

    23:37 Closing: bet on yourself

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    29 min