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In this powerful teaching from the Same-Sex Connection Conference, Drew Boa breaks down the difference between SSA, SSSA, and sexualized attachment. You'll learn the 4 P's of attraction (preference, pleasure, pull, and power), the 5 types of intimacy, and why unmet attachment needs often get sexualized. This episode provides practical vocabulary and clarifies the truth that same-sex attraction is meant to lead you into healthy same-sex connection.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Healing & Recovery: Perspective For Young Men with Sexualized Attachments by Dr. Floyd Godfrey

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Unprocessed loss is one of the most common drivers of unwanted sexual behavior. When we don't allow ourselves to grieve, pain stays trapped in the body until it comes out sideways, often through unwanted sexual behavior. Mike Murray shares his story of losing his father at age eight, his personal healing process, and why we need to stop invalidating our pain and start giving our younger selves the love they need. You'll hear the 6 needs of the grieving, practical ideas on how to grieve well, and what happens when we invite Jesus into our grief.

Mike Murray is a licensed independent social worker with 10 years of experience specializing in EMDR Therapy and grief work. Trained by grief experts Megan Devine and David Kessler, Mike is passionate about destigmatizing mental health in the church.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• It's Okay That You're Not Okay by Megan Devine (book)
• Gentle and Lowly by Dane Ortlund (book)
• The Mystery of Life, Death, and Suffering (podcast episode where Drew tells his story of infant loss)

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Why is anger after sexual betrayal so intense, unpredictable, and heartbreaking? Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck unpacks the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma anger for both the betrayed and the betrayer. You'll learn the S.C.I.P. protocol to manage anger and anxiety, the 7 phases of betrayal trauma anger recovery, and why sexual betrayal is like bullfighting. In the end, you'll leave with hope that grieving sexual betrayal can transform deep pain into even deeper healing.

Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Christian who believes every person is valuable. She is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, a Florida State Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy, and a Certified Life Coach. Dr. H's approach to counseling and coaching is non-judgmental, caring, and solution focused. Dedicating her life to helping others as a therapist and coach is a result of post traumatic growth from her own personal life experiences. Learn more at https://crystalhollenbeck.com/

Buy Crystal's book:

Betrayal Trauma Anger: You're not Crazy...You're Angry...And You Should Be! How to Process Complex Anger While Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal

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When sexual sin and shame are exposed, how does Jesus respond? See how compassion overcomes condemnation in the story of the woman caught in adultery. This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, September 27, 2026 at the Husband Material Fall Retreat in Colorado.

Previous sermons from HM Retreats:

• Promised Land Sexuality (Deuteronomy 11:10-12)
• You Are Not Too Much (Mark 6:30-56)
• Excluded & Emasculated (Acts 8:26-40)
• David's Sexual Story (2 Samuel 11-12)
• The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)
• How Jesus Reverses The Curse (John 21)

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What is narcissistic personality disorder, and how does it interact with porn and sex addiction? For someone with NPD or narcissistic traits, what does healing and growth look like?

Dr. Alexandra Repke (CSAT, EMDR, C-PD) is a Christian psychologist who typically work with successful professionals facing challenges in their relationships or careers, often stemming from issues related to addiction, personality, or trauma. She is a lifelong learner, committed to understanding the complexities of mental health and advocating for practical, impactful solutions.

Learn more at https://www.repkepsychologicalservices.com/

Books mentioned (these are paid links):

• Thanks for the Feedback, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
• A Game Free Life, by Stephen Karpman

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Have you ever thought about the fact that Jesus has a penis? What are the implications? Considering Christ's full humanity confronts us with a fresh, shame-free perspective on male sexuality. Licensed therapists Brannon and Tyler Patrick explore this important topic by highlighting the goodness of sex, how sexual self-rejection comes out sideways in addiction and secrecy, why radical self-acceptance leads to freedom, and what it looks like to harness sexual energy with purpose.

Brannon Patrick, LCSW, and Tyler Patrick, LMFT, are brothers and licensed clinicians who help individuals and couples heal after infidelity, addiction, and the trust rupture that follows. With 20+ years each in addiction and trauma work, they bring both depth and straight talk, translating complex psychology into practical next steps people can use immediately. Together, they host The Therapy Brothers, a weekly call-in show where real people work through betrayal, shame, trauma, and addiction in real time. Their approach centers on heart work: healing the underlying trauma and shame so couples can rebuild trust with honesty, accountability, empathy, and healthy strength. Learn more at https://therapybrothers.org/

If you're a man who has broken trust through infidelity or you're struggling with addiction to porn or sex, check out Tyler and Brannon's Rising Son Journey: online groups and in-person weekends at ⁠⁠https://risingson.org/

NOTE: The views expressed by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of Husband Material Ministries. Featuring a guest is not an endorsement of their beliefs, methods, products, services, or any other content they may have created or promoted.

We believe in the practice of discernment —so as with any resource, we encourage you to listen thoughtfully, test all things against sound wisdom and your own convictions, take what's helpful, and leave the rest behind.

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What if at our very best, we are 97% honest with ourselves and others, and the 3% we withhold keeps us bound to shame, loneliness, and unwanted behavior? That's what Blake Roberts and Jamie Haigh discovered. In this episode, you'll hear their personal journeys through porn addiction recovery, the power of daily phone calls and radical honesty, and how to decide who has earned the right to hear your 3%.

Blake Roberts and Jamie Haigh are best friends, licensed therapists, and co-creators of Three Percent. Three Percent is a men's mental health podcast and community turning emotional walls into deeper relationships with yourself, others, and God. Learn more at https://threepercentco.com/

Listen to the Three Percent podcast at https://threepercentco.com/podcast

Read Blake and Jamie's work on Substack at http://substack.com/@threepercent

Join The Basement, a private paid ($10/mo) community designed for those who are ready to move beyond surface-level connection and engage their emotional lives with more clarity and courage: https://threepercentco.com/membership

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How do you distinguish between sexual secrecy and sexual privacy? Learn 3 key differences between secrecy and privacy: motivation (fear vs. love), intention (control vs. care), and protecting addiction vs. protecting people. This episode includes 6 real-life case studies and 1 simple strategy any couple can use to strengthen their relationship.

You don't have to share everything with everyone, but unlearning secrecy is the first step toward lasting freedom.

What questions or comments do you have about secrecy vs. privacy? Let us know in the Husband Material Community at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/community

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For decades, Jeff Johnson hid his sexual attraction to other men. This secret kept him trapped in shame and isolation until everything changed in an open conversation with his now-wife, Jourdan. Jeff's story is proof that same-sex attraction does not disqualify anyone from marriage, ministry, or male connection. In this episode, you'll hear Jeff share honestly about faith, friendship, and a freedom that does not require the absence of temptation. It's truly inspiring!

Jeff and Jourdan Johnson are worship leaders and pastors at Passion City Church in Atlanta, GA, with 25+ years of ministry experience. They've spent decades leading worship across the country, creating spaces where people can encounter God in a real and transformative way. Their journey has been deeply shaped by God's faithfulness—particularly through Jeff's decades-long experience navigating same-sex attraction while holding onto his faith. This led them to start Open Spaces, a podcast where they share their story and engage in honest conversations about faith, marriage, identity, and the power of living with vulnerability.

Learn more at https://www.theopenspacescollective.com/

Listen to Jeff and Jourdan's podcast at https://www.theopenspacescollective.com/podcast

To connect with Jeff or Jourdan, email questions@openspacespodcast.com

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Get ready for a wild conversation on the adventure of masculine initiation, spiritual formation, and life as a beloved son with Morgan Snyder. You'll hear what it truly means to be fathered by God, how unhealed emasculation ("castration") can leave parts of a man’s soul dormant, and why true strength is cultivated through total dependence on God rather than self-reliance.

Morgan Snyder is a grateful husband of twenty-five years to his wife, Cherie, and a proud father of two remarkable children. He serves as a spiritual director, strategist, teacher, writer, and speaker devoted to the formation of wholehearted leaders.

Morgan is the President and Founder of Become Good Soil, established in 2010 as a global fellowship and training ground for leaders who have consented to organize their entire lives around apprenticeship to God and His Kingdom. His passion is to apprentice men, women, and marriages into wholeheartedness, freedom, and maturity for the sake of faithfully carrying responsibility in the Kingdom of God.

For more than twenty-five years, Morgan served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge at Wild at Heart, including as Vice President. Throughout those decades, he helped initiate men and participate in the spiritual formation of leaders around the globe, guiding sold-out events and leadership initiatives across the United States, the United Kingdom, South Africa, Australia, and beyond.

Morgan now shares a mission with Cherie, a clinical counselor and co-host of the Become Good Soil Podcast, as they intentionally transition into becoming second-half-of-life leaders. Together, they are devoted to serving the next two generations of leaders while helping their peers become sages for the generations that follow.

After turning fifty, Morgan and Cherie made the intentional decision to serve as full-time volunteers within their vocational space, offering their lives, experience, and leadership in wholehearted response to the invitation of God. Their work now centers on masculine and feminine initiation, resilient marriages, and Kingdom-hearted leadership for fully flourishing lives and communities. Whenever possible, Morgan still goes off the grid—whether bowhunting in the Colorado wilderness or pursuing the adventurous life with the people he treasures most.

Buy Morgan's book:

Becoming a King: The Path to Restoring the Heart of a Man

Listen to Morgan's podcast:

Become Good Soil

Learn more at https://becomegoodsoil.com/

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Have you ever felt like a sexual fantasy was so irresistible that missing out on it felt like missing out on life itself? While fantasies promise satisfaction, they are ultimately symbolic attempts to rewrite reality—seemingly beautiful like a sunset, but cold and empty when you try to hold them.

In this episode, you'll learn why sexual fantasies will never satisfy you, how to decode what your fantasies are actually trying to tell you, and how to find true soul-level satisfaction. Whether your fantasies focus on specific sexual experiences, particular people, or potential relationships, this episode will give you wisdom and direction to discover what you truly desire.

Download the free PDF of Drew's list of 40 desires (and other helpful documents) at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/documents

Watch Husband Material's YouTube Playlist on Understanding Sexual Arousal, Fantasy, and Desire: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMrBq-rwRxSA

Related episodes:

• Sexual Arousal vs. Sexual Desire
• How To Interpret Sexual Fantasies
• How To Analyze A Sexual Fantasy
• Introduction To Sexual Symbolism
• How My Sexual Fetish Shifted Over Time

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What if my wife isn't doing "her work"? What if my inner child doesn't feel safe with her? What if I feel like she is controlling me? How can I be assertive without being selfish? In this episode, you'll get answers to some of the toughest, most common questions men ask while trying to rebuild trust after sexual betrayal.

Our guests today are James and Sam, co-hosts of the Ask The Unfaithful Podcast. Listen now at https://www.asktheunfaithful.com/

James Annear is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), Certified Professional Coach, Certified Clinical Partner Specialist - Supervisor (APSATS), Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) - Supervisor, and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. He and his wife, Sharon Rinearson, LCSW, own CORE Relationship Recovery and are known for their down to earth, practical and creative interventions and antidotes when it comes to helping couples heal from relational and sexual betrayals in relationships, as well as tackling developmentally damaging experiences in custom created intensives. Creating safe spaces for couples, unfaithful partners and betrayed partners to do work that can help free them from their old unhappy and unhealthy lives, James and Sharon use unique techniques based in neurobiology, addiction science, PTSD trauma techniques and their own methods of interpersonal therapies to create dramatic differences with their clients. Learn more at https://www.hopeforus.com/

For over 15 years, Sam has been one of the leading content creators for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, clinician Rick Reynolds of http://affairrecovery.com/, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through Sam's Healing Podcast and Ask the Unfaithful, Samuel continues to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Learn more at https://www.samshealingpodcast.com/

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What is the "sex recession" and why is it happening? Dr. Debra Soh explains today's widespread decline of sexual activity, long-term commitment, marriage, and childbearing—particularly among Gen Z and Millennials. We'll explore the underlying factors causing young men to pull away from real-world dating, including early exposure to pornography, digital substitutes like OnlyFans and AI chatbots, and extreme social media pressures around appearance. You'll also hear practical steps to restore real-world connection, overcome social anxiety through exposure, and build lasting confidence.

Dr. Debra Soh is a neuroscientist who specializes in human sexuality. Her new book, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy, investigates the global “dating recession” and how technology and mainstream science denial are polarizing the sexes. As a science journalist, Debra's writing has appeared in Harper’s Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, The Globe and Mail, The Free Press, and many other publications. Learn more at https://drdebrasoh.com/

Click here to buy Debra's new book:

https://www.amazon.com/Sextinction-Decline-Sex-Future-Intimacy/dp/1668057395

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Have you ever wondered what the Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) is actually saying? Drawing on insights from ancient Mesopotamian erotic poetry, Russell Zahniser breaks down the two models of male sexuality featured in the Song of Songs. Listen to discover how this mysterious book of the Bible speaks out against coercive, fast-paced sex, advocating instead for mutual consent and genuine bonding. You'll also hear Russell tell his personal story of sexual development, what he has learned about arousal, and why sex is so much more than intercourse.

Russell Zahniser is a writer and researcher who wanted to use the Song of Songs as a starting point to give to his sons a picture of healthy, mutual sexuality. What he found instead was a desperate plea to reimagine male sexuality and how we define sex itself. Learn more at https://russellzahniser.substack.com/p/made-for-connection

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Russell Zahniser is also a husband, father of three boys, and a member of Forest Hills Covenant Church in Boston, MA. He loves making things out of wood, reading, and taking his sons on daily "adventures" to explore nature.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Land of Wholeness, by Russell Zahniser (blog)
• Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski (book)
• Sheila Wray Gregoire (author and researcher)

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Have you ever been amazed by the power of music? In this episode, you'll learn five ways music can support you in overcoming sexual temptation—including one resource that turns anyone into a songwriter.

Songs mentioned on this episode:

• The Lord Will Fight For You - https://youtu.be/TE_OlAxU_uc?si=iaKCsPNe0m3g3q-o
• Confession of Sin (low-quality recording) - https://suno.com/s/EJ0hCbjWjLn0Zr9R
• Confession of Sin (SUNO version) - https://suno.com/s/shdp2PL5TNKoNBCi
• His Beloved Son - https://suno.com/s/hHAtdx9N961mvh9a

The Lord Will Fight For You Song Credits:

words and music by Drew Boa

produced and arranged by Steven Dougherty

mixing and mastering by Danny Stimac

Steven Dougherty - lead vocals, BGV’s, piano, synthesizer, & drum programming

Danny Stimac - electric guitar, additional percussion

Mike Shelton - bass guitar

Burton Gestner - acoustic guitar

Shawn Manley - lead vocals

T.J. Tolosa - lead vocals

Husband Material Men’s Chorus:

Drew Boa

Chris Furr

Mike Chapman

John Depew

Keith Martin

Jay Sevilla

James Kaiser

Patrick Allen

Arlen Wilcock

Steven Dougherty

Shawn Manley

T.J. Tolosa

Dustin Lang

Lyndon Dueck

Dan Carlson

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How can we help teens start outgrowing porn and unwanted sexual behavior? Licensed counselor Blake Brinkman believes teens are NOT too young, too immature, or too unwilling to start healing. In this episode, you'll hear Blake's overview of the teen brain, why recovery must start "bottom-up" with safety rather than "top-down" with rules, how (not) to respond to teens struggling with porn, and why apologizing after mistakes creates deeper trust than attempting to parent perfectly.

Blake Brinkman is a mental health counselor, recovery coach, and co-host of the new podcast Start Younger: Outgrow Porn At Any Age.

Blake is the founder of Redefine Student Recovery, where he works with teens and families through one-on-one coaching, recovery groups, and parent guidance. He specializes in helping adolescents understand the emotional and relational roots of addictive behavior and develop healthier beliefs, relationships, and patterns for lasting change, integrating recovery principles, family systems insight, and faith-based care in a developmentally appropriate, shame-free way. Blake is also the author of Alliance Groups: Empowering Student Recovery. He lives in New York City and enjoys exploring the city and world with his wife, Katherine.

Listen to the Start Younger Podcast at http://www.startyoungerpodcast.com/, co-hosted by Blake Brinkman, Drew Boa, and Dr. Doug Carpenter. New episodes come out on Thursdays every two weeks.

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What if couples devastated by sexual betrayal could heal together instead of separately? Clinton and Charity Muñoz expose a massive gap in traditional porn recovery's focus on sexual addiction for husbands and betrayal trauma for wives that leaves couples without guidance on how to actually restore their relationship in community.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The power of hearing other spouses' stories
• Healthy boundaries to keep communication safe
• Why you need to turn on your brain's "relational circuits"
• What it looks like to process your pain with Jesus
• How post-traumatic growth is a picture of the gospel

Clinton and Charity Muñoz are the founders of Restored 2 More, a Christ-centered nonprofit ministry helping couples heal after betrayal, pornography/sexual addiction, and broken trust. After walking through their own story of betrayal, trauma, repentance, recovery, and restoration, they felt called to create a safe and hope-filled pathway for other couples who are longing for healing.

Through their podcast, courses, coaching, resources, and ambassador program, Clinton and Charity equip couples, churches, and leaders with practical tools to restore safety, rebuild trust, process pain with Jesus, and move toward deeper connection. Their heart is to see marriages not simply survive betrayal, but become restored to more. Learn more at https://restored2more.com/

Take The Bridge Back To Us 8-Week Course here:

https://restored2more.thinkific.com/products/courses/thebridgebacktous

Find additional Restored 2 More resources here:

https://restored2more.com/resources/

Listen to the Restored 2 More podcast here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/restored-2-more/id1503954507

Connect with Restored 2 More on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/

Friends, a marriage marked by betrayal doesn't have to settle for "not divorced." It can become something better than either spouse imagined!

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In this vulnerable demo, Jordan Castille guides Jason Mellard in processing a sexual fantasy through inner child work. As Jason listens to his body, he travels back to a pivotal memory of being violated and rejected by his father. With Jordan’s help, Jason offers love to "Little Jason” and leads him from a place of powerlessness to a place of grace, space, and unconditional belonging with Jesus.

***Trigger Warning*** The description of a sexual fantasy at the start of this episode may be triggering for some listeners. Even though no graphic details are shared, please use discernment. If you feel triggered, stop listening or skip to another section.

This episode is an example of Inner Child Thursday, one of the 12 weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA at http://www.joinhma.com/

Jordan Castille is the founder of Castille Coaching, where he helps men break free from pornography and live a life of purpose. He is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC Certified Partner Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jordan leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Inner Child Thursday, on Thursday mornings.

Jason Mellard is the founder of Own Your Identity, where he empowers men experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction to live the life they truly desire. Jason is a Certified High Performance Coach and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jason leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Vision Sunday, on Sunday nights.

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"Accountability" is one of the most controversial topics in porn recovery. Some men find it healing; some men find it harmful. What's the difference between healthy and unhealthy accountability?

Traditional accountability groups often get hijacked by fear, control, and shame—unintentionally incentivizing secrecy and acting like a prison rather than a path to freedom.

In this episode, Drew Boa argues that the secret to lasting transformation isn't a shift in theology or psychology, but a shift in posture. He introduces the concept of Attunement Groups—a curious, compassionate approach focused on meeting core attachment needs so you can truly outgrow porn.

Want to learn more about attunement?

Listen to this 30-minute deep dive episode: Attunement: The Key To Connection

Interested in being part of an attunement group?

Join a Husband Material Academy small group (triad) when you enroll at http://joinhma.com/.

Looking for a small group led by a professional coach?

Apply to join a private Husband Material group at https://www.husbandmaterial.com/group

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Have you ever felt like there is a war raging inside of you between conflicting feelings or desires? If so, this episode will empower you to lead your thoughts, emotions, and sexual attractions with compassion rather than condemnation through an exercise called "the table." You'll learn why the table—not just the cross—is the ultimate symbol of grace, belonging, and transformation. Grounded in both Christian theology and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, this exercise shifts your internal posture from hostility to hospitality. It can be life-changing!

Keep in mind that most of this episode is a step-by-step guided audio meditation. So find a quiet, comfortable space to sit back, slow down, and welcome all parts of yourself into the healing presence of Jesus.

IFS Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller
• Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You by Jenna Riemersma
• Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy by Jenna Riemersma

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