Phenomenally ADHD: Manage Money The ADHD Way

NO ONE living with ADHD is broken or dysfunctional but that's what I thought about myself before finding out I had this four letter friend in my life. In this episode, I share my journey living with ADHD, what changed the day I learned that there were an explanation to the unique challenges I faced and why I believe it was only the tip of the iceberg.

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Hope you enjoy this episode.

Everyone can procrastinate from time to time but when it comes to ADHD, well, the way we experience it is very different.

In this episode, you will learn what is actually going on when you procrastinate and yes, it’s a fact that some ADHD traits make it worse but if you think that time management is one of them, well, it’s not. And the reason procrastination shows up isn’t because you’re lazy or incompetent.

You'll learn that procrastination is a universal challenge, how ADHD traits interfere and the different ways it can show up in our day to day activities. I also share a few coaching questions to help you when you find yourself procrastinating and a few other tactics to help you beat it.

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If you think of the last time you felt stuck, how would you describe it? Being stuck is definitely a shadow side of ADHD and one that can last a very loooong time if we hop on a train of negative thinking. AND as cliché as it sounds, negative thoughts turn out to be true when you feed them. In this episode, I share a few tactics you can practice and an exercise to help you get unstuck. One that will help you reconnect with your genius so you can move forward. Questions? Send them at zb@indigo.coach and I will gladly answer them

What highlights, shifts and lessons the last year brought you?

Ya, 2022 is a thing of the past and it went by in a flash. So much happens in 12 months and living with ADHD also means we tend to forget great things that happened or can’t quite position them in the timeline.

In this episode I share my most valuable and significant highlights, shifts and lessons hoping it inspires you to do a year-end reflection so you have something tangible to refer to when things get a little rough. Moments to revisit when you need a reminder of how incredible you are, the amazing strengths and talents you have and everything else that helps you connect to your genius. I also a couple of simple exercices you can do to help spark your end of the year reflexion.

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Managing money isn't something our brain thrives mainly because of executive functions. When you don't know you have ADHD it's impossible to know how it impacts your ability to manage money and if you find out in your forties, fifties or even sixties, the damage caused on your financial situation can be horrifying.

If managing money is difficult for you, I'm here to tell you that I totally get it because is was a challenge for me too and at times, it's still is. In this episode, you will discover how ADHD interferes, what to watch for and the tool I use for myself and my clients to make playing with numbers a fun game: Money Archetypes. Here's the link if you are curious to know how they help change your relationship with money http://www.zarinaboily.com/unlock-your-financial-dna-presentation

There's no doubt in my mind that you can develop the skills needed to manage your money wisely and have more in doing so. By knowing what gets in the way, you're able to rewrite the scenario of your ADHD and money history. but only you holds the responsibility to do so.

On the journey of learning and developing the abilities it takes to care for my finances, it became clear that what I needed to pay attention to was the deficit of interest I had for it.

That's how the idea for my book A-Bun-Dance 4 Your Finance - Growing Interest About Money Even if you Have ADHD was born and you can get the ADHD questionnaire to give you an idea of what your financial reality looks like by downloading Chapter 1 for free here : http://www.zarinaboily.com/a-bun-dance-4-your-finance

Living a simple, fulfilling life with ADHD is possible, especially when your decisions, priorities and actions are driven and determined by your core values.

They are powerful, essential and can help decrease the intensity level of challenges such as:

• Overwhelm
• Negative self-talk
• Inability to see strengths
• Attention on what’s not working
• Unable to remember successes
• Rumination

Values help clarify your vision and give direction. They are also great to building understanding and awareness. Your perception about yourself really shift when your values are the centrepiece of your life, you have more compassion for yourself, and are more able to focus on our strengths, passions and successes because that works really well for us.

In this episode I talk about a test I did online a few years ago and here's the link if you want to know more: https://www.valuescentre.com/

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If you feel exhausted and wonder how you will make it through your day’s work, that you go to bed at night and wake up but are not rested at all, it’s something you might want to look into.

The feeling of facing more challenges than your colleagues because of ADHD is not something you’re imagining.

With challenges like planning, prioritizing, time management, time blindness, organization and boredom, ADHD affects our productivity and when you know it does, you’re often under the impression that you’re less efficient than your colleagues.

On top of that, maybe you take work at home or work on the week-end just so you are not too far behind.

You know you’re not delivering to your potential and you may end up thinking you are not meeting expectations and fear being fired.

Did you know that 24 to 56% of employees on long-term disability insurance for burnout have ADHD and that they are three to six times more at risk to suffer from one or multiple burnouts?

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If you wonder what's there to love about ADHD, let me tell you that there's a lot to be crazy in love with our brain. Showing love and appreciation can definitely help change how you see it and when you accept and love ADHD, you accept a part of yourself as well.

Even if it's not always easy to be different, I've come to realize that it is one of the biggest strength I have because that's what I know best. So if you are looking to move away from the negative attention given to ADHD and are curious to see how it's possible to feel happy, and privileged to have an amazing brain like yours, even if you can't quite see how it can be possible, this episode gives you a few insights.

Because the greatest gift you can give yourself is to stop believing what people say about you or ADHD is true and start bringing the positive aspects in the spotlight.

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Are you completely disorganized when your plan changes last minute or when your routine doesn't go as it usually does?

Flexibility is often one executive function with ADHD that can either perform well or bring the inability to react calmly when something changes unexpectedly.

In this episode I want to expand how you see flexibility, and ADHD for that matter, by sharing what happens when my plans go out the window and something very simple you can do if flexibility is something you have difficulty with.

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How do you go from a complicated to a simpler life with ADHD when challenges hit you right, left and centre? Whether the challenges are ADHD related or just life happening,

it's easy to get frustrated, irritated and snappy with impulsivity showing up when you're faced with obstacles that force you into a new or different direction than the one you chose. You may feel like you've lost control and if your reaction comes from resistance, it actually makes the situation worse that it actually is.

Shifting from resistance to acceptance is not necessarily easy but it's doable. In this episode, you'll get insights on how to see life happening for you, not to you, change the way you read a situation and discover the power of pause.

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If you are sick and tired of carrying the reputation of being consistent at being inconsistent and you wish to break the «habit» great because the good news is that it's possible.

We are often perceived as individual that are incapable of being consistent and that it's always going to be this way.

Well, it doesn't and so you can let go of that belief, like right now and start creating a new reality where you have more consistency.

How do that when your ADHD brain plays tricks on you and that you've never experienced anything else?

In this episode you will have tips to help you break free from inconsistency, you'll learn how interest makes a huge difference and why it has been identified as a positive emotion.

Enjoy and don't hesitate to reach out should you have any questions

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What if what you were criticized for, judged for and labeled with were your superpowers? Things you can tap into because they were converted into something you can tap into and that you turned to your advantage.

Unfortunately, ADHD comes with a lot of labels and stigma. Finding your superpowers is a way to become label-proof and create a new reality and life with ADHD.

In this episode, I share 5 keys that will help you see yourself differently by revisiting the mean, nasty and hurtful things you were told as a kid to rewrite your story. Because events from our childhood leave marks and they can scar us for life depending on what we decide to do with them. And one of thing you can do is unlocking your superpowers.

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What if certain ADHD traits such as focus, attention and self-regulation were improved with the practice of mindfulness?

In this episode I share research that demonstrates all that you gain in practicing it, even if it’s a few minutes every day and even if it’s through using an app. A study actually demonstrated how participants with ADHD who used a mindfulness app for four months were better able to pause.

We’ll look at the ADHD nervous system so you can deepen your understanding and answer these questions: What is mindfulness Why practice it if you live with ADHD How to add mindfulness throughout your day

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Are you time insensitive or time nearsighted?

If you are wondering why you are always late, forget appointments and don’t seem to have enough time, chances are you are insensitive to time.

On the other hand, fearing to be late and doing everything possible to make sure you arrive on time, you are time nearsighted.

But it goes farther than that. You may arrive at the end of your day with the feeling you haven’t accomplished anything.

You may also be under the impression that you won’t have enough time to do or accomplish everything you want in this lifetime or on the contrary, that you have plenty of time.

Adults with ADHD perceive time differently and it’s one of the many reasons why functioning in a world that is so regulated by it is such a challenge.

Fortunately, there are ways to overcome this obstacle as you will find out in this episode.

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Working memory is an important part of ADHD and if it’s on overtime, challenges increase in intensity.

Transitioning, decision making, concentration and focus all have in common working memory.

If you have difficulty holding a goal over time, forget what needs to be done and follow through, these are a few signs that working memory is underperforming.

This episode gives you an overview of what working memory is, how it can be improved and what to watch for to make sure you are not overloading your working memory.

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The intensity with which we, adults with ADHD, experience life can reach levels that often feels unbearable. So much so that we get easily drained and exhausted emotionally.

And with the complexity of both ADHD and emotions, the easiest thing to do is avoiding the pain instead of working through it.

Even if emotional-regulation is something that we struggle with, I don’t think it has anything to do with being incapable of navigating our emotions.

We just need to figure out ways to do it that matches our uniquely wired brain.

In this episode of the Phenomenally ADHD podcast you will discover the process I use to make sure strong and intense emotions don’t take me on a spin.

I also share insights to help you see your emotions differently, acknowledge your feelings and create a safe space to go to when or before emotional chaos comes knocking.

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If getting your income taxes done or ready for your accountant to do them for you has you completely overwhelmed and pressured by the deadline this episode is for you as we look at boredom and what triggers it for ADHDers.

You will discover the 4 internal factors and the 5 external ones that lead to boredom, what to do to move past it and how your focus is either getting in the way or helping you move forward.

We’ll also explore how money archetypes are an incredible tool to address money issues, blocks and beliefs to help adults with ADHD rewrite their money story and overcome challenges.

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Feeling awkward in a conversation because we said something that is way off topic. Interrupting people in the middle of a sentence because we think we already know what they’re going to say. Being unable to gather thoughts or find the words to say what we want to say.

These are all challenges that are part of the wide range of difficulty when it comes to ADHD.

It impacts our relationship with our loved ones, our colleagues at work and our friends, even if they often understand.

Fortunately, you can develop the skills that will allow you to become better at communicating.

In this episode, we look at why communication is such a challenge for us and what you can put into practice to reduce frustration and misunderstandings.

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When something gets to us and the response comes from impulse, because it collides with our values or we feel it’s wrong, we communicate in a different way than when we take the time to step back.

That can be the case when responding to an email or commenting on a social media platform. In this episode, we look at how the four communication styles can help us improve and elevate our communication.

Socrates’ triple filter test is also part of the conversation as it can be a great tool to choose whether or not we respond to something triggering and how we want to do it if we do.

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Highly sensitive persons (HSP’s) get overwhelmed faster by stimulation and they need to take frequent breaks throughout the day to ensure they don’t exceed the capacity of what they can take in.

Reading the generic at the movie theater or needing some alone time after a music concert to bring down the arousal level is sometimes required for HSP’s to let out what they’ve taken in. In this episode we demystify what being highly sensitive or hypersensitive is, what it is not and how in fact, it is a gift, despite the challenges.

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