Twenty Good Summers

Do you want your partner to read your mind? To know what you’re thinking and feeling at all times? Do you, really? That’s the question we tackle in this episode, after addressing a pair of emails from our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners. Pull up a chair and join the chat!

At the outset we agree cheapness is not sexy. But that prompts the question, what is yes-sexy? And we’re not just talking about long shapely legs, great cheekbones and a killer rack, all of which Jeff has. What do you find sexy about a person, a lover, a partner? Join us for our take, and give us yours right back!

We’re constantly talking about all the fun we’re having in this beautiful third act of life, but are we… allowed to have this much fun? Guiltlessly? When the world is on fire? When friends are in trouble? What amount of guilt is the right amount, zero or zillions? Tune in for the definitive answer, live from Japan, while we’re wearing yukatas!

From sessions with a child psychologist at nine to couples counseling at forty, we’ve had plenty of experience with “the talking cure,” and in this episode, we talk all about it. Join our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners for fifty minutes at no charge!

It’s been three months since our wedding, but we don’t feel truly married — probably because we’ve yet to build a home together. In this episode, recorded during an LA heatwave, we share feelings about home and safety and control. Tune in for shiny foreheads and flying insects and revelations aplenty!

Okay, gang, you asked for it: a lengthy recap of our wedding. It’s a bonus episode, so don’t expect any of our usual penetrating insights. Just a rundown of our Italian nuptials, from the dress to the wrecking of our hotel room. Hope you enjoy our joy!

We return to the mics and return to our mailbag, answering your questions about dating after widowhood, dating using dating apps, dating to figure out who you are and what you want, and embracing grey hair and baldness. It’s a wide-ranging, hair-raising conversation, so join the fun!

We got married, y’all! Which is weird, because it means we have some new nouns in our lives — both unfamiliar ones, like “stepdad,” and repurposed ones such as “husband” and “wife.” What does that feel like? Tune in as we sort it all out!

Following on “Why Get Married,” we take on the topic of “how.” Specifically, what the ceremony means to each of us, and what ours in two weeks is going to be like. Along the way we discuss P’s wedding dress, our hack through the thicket of Italian marriage bureaucracy, and Jeff’s skin-care regimen. Join us in holy matrimony!

“Cher, do you believe in the institution of marriage?”

“Yeah, but who wants to live in an institution?”

In three weeks we’re getting married, even though when we met we’d sworn off marriage entirely, Find out why in our very special twentieth episode.

Prompted by an email from a peevish listener, we talk about the complexities of sharing one’s personal history in a public setting — and hope we’re discussing an issue extensible to those with neither Instagrams nor podcasts. Tune in for all the meae culpae!

Friends, we’re getting kicked out of our apartment four days before our wedding — thanks, Unsympathetic Landlord! — which, along with some relevant emails from our faithful fanbase, spurred us to do an episode about moving: when to move in together, how to harmonize lives and tastes, and all the emotions such transitions unleash. Pack a box and join the fun!

Another dive into our bulging mailbag, featuring provocative (= sex) questions (about sex) from a slew of far-flung correspondents (who want to talk sex). And we are only too happy to oblige. Join us and our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners for all the badinage (not a sex word)!

Our fearless inquiry into sex and travel uncovers unexpected links between the two! If you’re Good Giving & Game in bed, you’re probably equally so when you’ve missed your flight and have to reroute through Dubuque. Join us — we shot this by a lake in Europe, so even the pictures are pretty!

We’ve often referenced Chris Rock's Two Rules for Being in a Relationship: “You should be having sex and traveling. Comin’ and goin’.” Well, in this long-requested episode we talk about the former, about sex after fifty. And where better to discuss Pari-menopause than Paris? Tune in!

…But we do it anyway, in an episode about the rise and fall of male and female power with age, and differences in means, and prenups, and who picks up the check, and how you have to talk honestly with your partner about this stuff even if it’s icky. Join us and let us know how we did!

We went to see Lily Allen perform West End Girl in its entirety at Radio City Music Hall, and boy, did it prompt some thoughts about anger and forgiveness! Is bitterness, as the old saying goes, “like drinking poison and expecting the other guy to die”? Tune in for some ruminating, ruminating!

One of the challenges of forging a relationship later in life? Kids! In this episode, we talk about parenting and step-parenting and also P’s birthday festival this past weekend. Tune in for all the merriment… and complexity!

Are you loved for who you are, or do folks selectively pick and choose the parts of you they enjoy the most, regarding the rest as at best a quirk, at middling an inconvenience, and at worst a dealbreaker? Perhaps you should adopt the patented 20GS approach and stop G'ing an F! Join us to discuss.

Road trip! This episode was recorded in our car on I-80 East between Kearney and Lincoln, Nebraska, after an impulsive trip to see the sandhill cranes and prairie chickens along the Platte River. WHAT?? Yes — this one’s about being game, doing things you never thought you’d do, because you don’t have unlimited time and you wanna get it all in. Also discussed: football, mushrooms and Chris Rock. Take the ride!