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Untangle Your Thoughts | Trust in God, Hear from God, Mental Health Tips, Negative Thoughts, Relationship with God, Christian

Christianity, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Self-Improvement

Hey friend!

Do you want to overcome negative thoughts?
Do you want to be able to discern whether it’s your feelings telling you what to do or God?
Are you praying for a mental breakthrough?

I’m here to say that numbing out doesn’t have to be your only option.

Hard and bad things that have happened in this world that need a safe space to be processed. And the church should be one of those places. And this podcast is one of those places.

I’m Jessica Hottle, a Board-Certified Master Mental Health Coach, author, and speaker. I help women overcome negative thought patterns to regain control of their lives. Most importantly, I’m the big sister who is going to tell you the truth because I care.

In this podcast, we are going to be talking about:

-> Feelings: The good, the bad, and the ugly
-> Practical ways to take care of your emotional and mental health while never losing sight of God
-> How to study your Bible so that you can grow a deeper relationship with God and the church

So pull up a chair and join me at the table. Let’s get to the bottom of what’s holding you back.

Next steps:

Get My Free 3-Day Bible Study:
https://www.jessicahottle.com/3-day-study

Have Me As a Coach in Your Corner: https://www.patreon.com/JessicaHottle

Untangle Your Thoughts: https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal

Visit My Website: https://www.jessicahottle.com

Email Me: jessica@jessicahottle.com (Jessica Hottle, Christian Mental Health Coach)

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#143
Episodes
403
Releases
Weekly
Typical length
15 min
On air since
2019
Latest episode
6 days ago

Episodes

403 episodes, newest first

  1. 3 Steps to Process a Hard Emotion Without Spiraling

    Show notes

    Do you struggle to process difficult emotions without overthinking, shutting down, or feeling guilty for having them? As Christian women, we can sometimes feel pressure to handle our emotions perfectly, leaving us afraid to acknowledge what we're really feeling. In today's episode, I'm sharing three practical, biblical steps to help you acknowledge your emotions without judgment, understand what's underneath them, and respond in a healthy, God-honoring way without getting stuck in a spiral.

    Your friend,
    Jessica

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    22 min
  2. The Bible Says “Do Not Be Anxious”… But You Still Are | Replay

    Show notes

    Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things - following God, working on your thoughts, staying disciplined, and pushing forward - but still feel anxious, exhausted, or overwhelmed? Sometimes what looks like growth on the outside is actually a sign that we’ve gotten really good at ignoring what’s happening on the inside.

    In this episode, I'm talking about the pressure to keep going, why slowing down can feel so uncomfortable, and how to recognize when you’re pushing forward out of fear rather than freedom.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!
    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com/
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  3. Why Intrusive Thoughts Keep Coming Back (And What to Do Differently)

    Show notes

    Have you ever had a thought pop into your head that was so disturbing or out of character that you immediately wondered, “Why would I even think that?” Intrusive thoughts can feel incredibly real, and the more you try to analyze them, prove them wrong, or make them disappear, the harder they can be to shake. They can even leave you questioning what those thoughts say about you or your faith.

    In this episode, I'm talking about why intrusive thoughts keep coming back, why having an unwanted thought doesn’t mean it reflects who you are or what you believe, and how you can begin responding differently without feeling like you have to figure out or fight every thought that enters your mind.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!
    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com/
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    17 min
  4. Why You Keep Expecting the Worst-Case Scenario (Even When You’re Trying to Trust God)

    Show notes

    Do you ever tell yourself, “If I expect the worst, at least I won’t be disappointed”? When you’ve been through repeated disappointment or seasons where nothing seems to go right, preparing for the worst can start to feel like protection. But expecting pain doesn’t prevent it, and sometimes it means you’re carrying the weight of a future that hasn’t even happened yet.

    In this episode, I'm talking about why your mind may keep jumping to worst-case scenarios, the difference between preparing and trying to protect yourself through control, and how to come back to what’s true today while trusting God with the tomorrow you can’t predict.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!
    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com/
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  5. Do Your Emotions Make You Feel Like a “Bad Christian”?

    Show notes

    Have you ever had a bad day or a big emotional reaction and immediately wondered what it says about your faith? Maybe you’re angry and think you shouldn’t be, anxious and tell yourself you need to trust God more, or disappointed and feel guilty because you know you’re supposed to be grateful. But having a difficult emotion doesn’t make you a bad Christian.

    In this episode, I'm talking about why we attach spiritual meaning to our emotions, how perfectionism and shame can make an already difficult feeling even heavier, and what it looks like to bring what you’re actually feeling to God instead of trying to clean it up first - because pain and surrender can exist at the same time.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!
    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com/
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  6. You Know You’re Forgiven… So Why Do You Still Feel Guilty?

    Show notes

    Be honest. Is there something you've done that you're still quietly requiring yourself to make up for, even after you've brought it to God? Even after you know, theologically, that you're forgiven? In this episode, I'm sitting with that tension and asking a question that might reframe everything: what if the goal isn't learning how to forgive yourself, but learning how to extend the same compassion toward yourself that God already has?

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    18 min
  7. How Do You Keep Trusting God When Nothing Is Getting Better?

    Show notes

    Sometimes life just keeps being hard. You're praying, you're trying, you're holding on to your faith, and it still feels like nothing is getting better. I've been sitting with friends in that place recently, and honestly, I've felt it myself too.

    In this episode, I'm having the real conversation about how to keep trusting God when you can't feel or see evidence that anything is shifting. I'm going to talk about self-reflection, what we actually believe about God underneath all of our theology, and why we are always one choice away from something changing, even when our circumstances aren't.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  8. The Bible Says “Fear Not”… But What Do You Do When You're Still Afraid?

    Show notes

    You can know what the Bible says about fear and still feel afraid. You can believe God is with you, trust His character, and genuinely want to have faith, and yet notice your body reacting as if something is threatening you. So what do we do with that?

    In this episode, I'm looking at what Scripture actually means when it says “fear not,” why fear doesn’t automatically mean you’re failing to trust God, and how your mind, body, and past experiences can all play a role in the way fear shows up. Instead of asking, “How do I stop being afraid?” let's get curious about what your fear may be responding to and learn how faith can meet you there.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  9. Why You Keep Fighting What You're Feeling

    Show notes

    What do you do when an emotion shows up that you really don’t want to feel? Maybe anxiety hits, and your first thought is, “Not this again.” Maybe you’re angry, sad, disappointed, or overwhelmed and immediately start trying to get yourself out of it. But what if the emotion itself isn’t the biggest problem and the fight you’re having with it is?

    In this episode, I'm talking about why we can become afraid of our own emotions, the extra layer of shame or fear we sometimes attach to them, and what it can look like to acknowledge what you’re feeling without assuming it means something is wrong with you or with your faith.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  10. How to Sit in Uncertainty Without Spiraling Into “What If”

    Show notes

    Uncertainty is hard, especially when your mind believes that thinking through every possible “what if” will keep you safe. You might replay conversations, prepare for things that haven’t happened, or convince yourself that if you can just figure out every possible outcome, you’ll finally feel at peace. But what if the constant problem-solving is actually keeping the anxiety going?

    In this episode, I'm talking about what happens when you stop trying to eliminate uncertainty and instead learn how to sit with “I don’t know” without immediately spiraling, and how that space can become an opportunity to practice trust, dependence on God, and a different way of responding to your thoughts.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    14 min
  11. The Question Every Hurting Christian Eventually Asks

    Show notes

    At some point, many Christians find themselves asking a question they never expected to ask: “God, I’ve tried to follow You. I’ve prayed. I’ve made changes. So why does this still hurt so much?” When suffering doesn’t match the life we thought obedience would produce, it can expose beliefs about God we didn’t even realize we were carrying.

    If you’ve ever wondered whether you did something wrong, prayed enough, or somehow missed God because life still hurts, this episode will help you slow down and look at what may be underneath that question and what it means to trust God when doing everything “right” doesn’t guarantee the outcome you hoped for.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information; you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  12. The Bible Says “Cast Your Cares”… But You Keep Carrying Them

    Show notes

    Can I be honest about something? I spent a long time thinking that giving something to God meant I wasn't supposed to feel anything about it anymore. Like caring and surrendering were opposites. They're not.

    In this episode, I'm digging into what 1 Peter 5:7 is actually inviting us into... because casting your cares isn't the same as becoming indifferent to them. It's the difference between this matters to me, and this depends on me. I'm also talking about the either/or thinking that keeps so many of us stuck, and what it looks like to finally live in the both/and - where you can have feelings and have faith at the same time.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information; you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    12 min
  13. Why Being So Hard on Yourself Fuels Anxiety (And What to Do About It) (Part 2)

    Show notes

    Last week I talked about shame - that deep, quiet belief that something is fundamentally wrong with you - and how it gives birth to the survival patterns so many of us have been living inside of.

    This week, I'm taking it one step further. Because when shame goes unnamed and those survival patterns stay in place, they don't just stay quiet. They fuel anxiety. In this episode, I'm looking at how your inner critic is keeping your nervous system in a constant state of threat, why perfectionism and overthinking are fruit and not the root, and what it looks like to finally stop pulling at the fruit and start tending to what's underneath it.

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    16 min
  14. Why Being So Hard on Yourself Is Keeping You Stuck (Part 1)

    Show notes

    Can I tell you something that took me a long time to see in my own life? That voice telling you to push harder, do better, keep going - the one that sounds like it's helping you? It might not be encouragement at all.

    In this episode, I'm starting a two-part conversation about shame, self-criticism, and why being so hard on yourself is actually keeping you stuck rather than moving you forward. I'm going to talk about the difference between guilt and shame, how shame quietly fuels the patterns you can't seem to break, and what Galatians 5 showed me about the internal war so many of us feel while we're healing.

    Also, don't forget!👇🏻

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    17 min
  15. If God Could Take Away Your Pain… Why Doesn't He?

    Show notes

    If God is good and God is powerful, why doesn't He take our pain away? It's one of the oldest questions we carry, and one of the most honest.

    In this episode, I'm not going to give you a tidy answer, because there isn't one. Instead, I'm looking at this question from four angles - clinical, logical, emotional, and spiritual - to explore what pain is actually doing in us, why God's love isn't measured by whether He removes every hard thing, and what shifts when we stop asking why He hasn't taken this away and start asking how He is meeting us in the middle of it.

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
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    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    13 min
  16. What Is Survival Mode? (And The First Step to Getting Out Of It)

    Show notes

    You don't wake up one day and realize you've been surviving... you just keep going, keep functioning, keep pushing through. And that's exactly what makes survival mode so hard to spot.

    In this episode, I'm talking about what it actually looks like to live in a state of chronic stress and high alert, why so many high-functioning people have no idea they're there, and what your patterns might be trying to tell you. Because the goal was never just to exist - Jesus said He came so that we could have life abundantly. And there's a real difference between the two.

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    13 min
  17. The Bible Says “Forgive”… But You Still Feel the Pain

    Show notes

    Here's something I wish someone had told me sooner: forgiving someone and your body no longer reacting to them are two completely different things. You can sincerely release someone from what they owe you and still tense up when you hear their name. That's not bitterness. That's memory.

    In this episode, I'm getting honest about how scripture on forgiveness is often used in ways that create more shame than freedom, what forgiveness actually is and isn't, and why your nervous system responding to old pain doesn't mean your heart is in the wrong place.

    Want help taking the next step?

    If this episode helped you recognize some of the thoughts, emotions, or patterns keeping you stuck, you don't have to stop with simply understanding what's happening.

    Here are two ways I can help you take the next step:

    1. Untangle Your Thoughts is my self-paced course designed to help Christian women understand what’s happening beneath their thoughts and emotions, identify the patterns keeping them stuck, and learn practical tools to begin responding differently all while keeping God at the center of the process.

    Inside, I walk you step-by-step through the process so you don't have to keep wondering, “Okay, but how do I actually change this?”

    → Start Untangle Your Thoughts: Click here!

    2. Start 1:1 Christian Mental Health Coaching with Jessica. Sometimes you don't need more information; you need someone to sit with you, help you slow everything down, and work through what is actually happening underneath your thoughts, emotions, and patterns.

    We'll look at what you're experiencing, uncover what's keeping you stuck, and work toward practical next steps that help you move forward with God.

    → Book a free 20-minute consultation: Click here!

    Website: http://www.jessicahottle.com
    Email: jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    13 min
  18. How to Process Emotions with God Instead of Pretending You’re Fine

    Show notes

    "I'm a Christian... why am I still struggling with this?" It's one of the most common questions, and one of the loneliest to carry. Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up the idea that faith means not feeling deeply. But when you actually read Scripture, you don't find people hiding their emotions from God; you find them bringing their emotions to God.

    In this episode, I'm looking at what it means to process what you feel instead of suppressing it or spiraling in it, why ignored emotions don't just disappear, and what it looks like to be completely honest with God without being afraid that your honesty will push Him away.

    Also, don't forget!👇🏻

    Summer Sale – 50% OFF Untangle Your Thoughts
    If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck in your thoughts and start moving forward with clarity, you can join the course at 50% off for a limited time. CLICK HERE!

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    I’d love to hear from you where you’re at, what you’re walking through, and what would actually help you most right now.

    If you have a minute, click this link and fill out a short survey. Your answers will help me create episodes, tools, and resources that truly meet you in this season. Your voice matters to me.

    If you want support that’s specific to you and your story, learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching

    Or book your free 20-minute consultation here!

    Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    11 min
  19. When You Run to God… But He Feels Nowhere to Be Found

    Show notes

    There are moments when you do everything you know to do - pray, trust, wait- and God still feels quiet. This episode is for the times when the silence feels heavier than the pain itself, and you’re left wondering where God is in the middle of it. I'll talk honestly about what it means when God feels far away, why that experience is more common than we admit, and how faith can still exist even when answers don’t come right away.

    Also, don't forget!👇🏻

    Summer Sale – 50% OFF Untangle Your Thoughts
    If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck in your thoughts and start moving forward with clarity, you can join the course at 50% off for a limited time. CLICK HERE!

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    I’d love to hear from you where you’re at, what you’re walking through, and what would actually help you most right now.

    If you have a minute, click this link and fill out a short survey. Your answers will help me create episodes, tools, and resources that truly meet you in this season. Your voice matters to me.

    If you want support that’s specific to you and your story, learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching

    Or book your free 20-minute consultation here!

    Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    15 min
  20. The Bible Says “Give It to God”… But You Keep Picking It Back Up

    Show notes

    Many of us know the language of surrender well. We pray, we release it to God, and for a moment, we feel peace. And then somehow, we’re right back in the worry, the replaying, the fixing. If you’ve ever wondered why it’s so hard to leave things in God’s hands without picking them back up again, this episode gently unpacks what’s really happening beneath the surface.

    Together, we’ll explore the difference between surrender and responsibility, why your mind keeps returning to what feels unresolved, and how learning to trust God often involves more than a single prayer.

    Also, don't forget!👇🏻

    Summer Sale – 50% OFF Untangle Your Thoughts
    If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck in your thoughts and start moving forward with clarity, you can join the course at 50% off for a limited time. CLICK HERE!

    Rooting for you,
    Jessica

    I’d love to hear from you where you’re at, what you’re walking through, and what would actually help you most right now.

    If you have a minute, click this link and fill out a short survey. Your answers will help me create episodes, tools, and resources that truly meet you in this season. Your voice matters to me.

    If you want support that’s specific to you and your story, learn more about working with me 1:1 as your mental health coach: https://www.jessicahottle.com/mental-health-coaching

    Or book your free 20-minute consultation here!

    Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com

    The information shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or clinical advice. While we discuss mental health topics, this is not a substitute for professional care. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider for advice specific to your situation.

    12 min