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Perimenopause can start in your mid-30s, yet most of us lack the info we need when symptoms appear. Gabriella Espinosa, a menopause and sexual wellness educator, joins us to explore what’s happening in our bodies during perimenopause and menopause, and how it shows up in our sex lives. We cover early signs, mood shifts, hormone therapy myths, vaginal estrogen, spontaneous vs. responsive desire, stress and nervous system regulation, shame, and why pleasure has no expiration date.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

06:18 – Why menopause is finally getting the spotlight

07:44 – Early signs of perimenopause beyond hot flashes

08:52 – Hormones and mood: why “not feeling like myself” matters

13:41 – Hormone therapy myths and finding an informed provider

18:32 – Vaginal estrogen and genitourinary symptoms

20:49 – Desire: spontaneous vs. responsive

26:16 – Stress, presence, and nervous system regulation

36:30 – Shame, trauma, and why we need language for our bodies

49:11 – “Pleasure has no expiration date” (bring the toys)

Pleasure Highlights:

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Perimenopause is more than hot flashes.

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Hormone therapy is worth discussing with a menopause-informed provider.

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Vaginal dryness, painful sex, recurrent UTIs, and leakage are common and treatable.

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Desire evolves + stress is a major pleasure killer.

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Shame thrives where there’s no language.

Connect with Gabriella:

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Instagram @GabriellaEspinosa

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YouTube @PleasureinthePause

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Podcast: Pleasure in the Pause

Resources:

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Let'sTalkMenopause.org

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http://menopausesociety.org

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https://www.isswsh.org

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your bedroom isn’t as private as you think. In this episode, sex educator & human sexuality PhD student Jill Lissner joins us to explore why sex is political, from abortion access and crisis pregnancy centers to sex ed funding & who gets to experience pleasure. We cover reproductive health deserts, fertility awareness vs. hormonal birth control, & resources like Plan C & Abortion Finder, plus easy ways to take action locally. Curious, informed, & a little fired up? Press play.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:17 – Why sex is political (porn and sex toy laws)

13:12 – Abortion laws since Roe: why local info matters

16:45 – Resources and travel when you live in a ban state

17:50 – The unintended consequences of bans

24:08 – Crisis pregnancy centers: how to spot them

25:36 – The real cost of abortion care

27:32 – How sex ed is funded

32:43 – Fertility awareness vs. hormonal birth control

43:38 – “If your vote didn’t matter, they wouldn’t try to restrict it”

Pleasure Highlights:

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The personal is political. Laws on porn, sex toys, abortion, and sex ed shape bedrooms and exam rooms.

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Start local. Know what care exists near you before tracking every headline.

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Bans ripple outward. Clinics close, providers leave, and those with the fewest resources feel it most.

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Check before you go. Crisis pregnancy centers can look like clinics but aren’t. Abortion Finder can help you verify.

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Informed choice wins. Everyone deserves accurate info to choose what works for them.

Connect with Jill:

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Instagram @sexedprincesss

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TikTok @sexedprincesss

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X @sexedprincesss

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your body has been trying to tell you something. In this episode, Susanna Brisk, sexual intuition coach and author, joins us to explore how to tune into your yes, no, and hell yes. We talk about intuition vs. anxiety, ditching performative sex for present sex, and why orgasms should not be the only goal. Plus manifesting your person, fantasies as self-discovery, sex at every age, and why STI testing and the HPV vaccine matter. It's flirty, funny, and just a little bit wrong in the best way.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:03 – What a "sexual intuitive" actually is

09:36 – How patriarchy and capitalism keep women small

11:06 – How to restart shut-down intuition

13:46 – Live energy read + conjuring the man downstairs

16:41 – Relationship ambivalence and the "deservingness" question

26:16 – Fantasies, erotica, and why we lack the language

31:35 – Ageism, sex in your 90s, and the STI/HPV education gap

37:35 – Intuition vs. anxiety: "Can you be turned on and scared?"

45:04 – Performative sex, porn, and the "correct pussy" myth

49:29 – Great sex without orgasm, defining pleasure, and sex as jazz

Pleasure Highlights:

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Your intuition is a skill you can rebuild.

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You're the expert on you.

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Your body is the tiebreaker between intuition and anxiety.

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Fantasy is information, not a confession.

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Orgasm can be a goal, but it shouldn't be the only one.

Connect with Susanna:

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Instagram @sexualintuitive

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Facebook @sexualintuitive

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YouTube @sexualintuitive

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Website: https://sexualintuitive.com

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Stressed out and wondering where your sex drive went? You're not broken. You're just stuck in survival mode. In this episode, licensed sex therapist Dr. Holly Wood, PhD, joins us to unpack why stress is the ultimate libido killer and what to actually do about it. We dig into the real difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why desire discrepancy is the #1 issue she sees in her practice, and how to stop internalizing your partner's low libido as a personal rejection.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:00 – Why stress traps you in "survival mode" and kills access to pleasure

12:15 – Pre-workout, blood flow, and the lowest-stress window for sex

14:37 – The real libido killers: resentment, fatigue, uneven mental load

16:22 – Get out of your head and into your body

17:22 – Why talking during sex is underrated

25:00 – Spontaneous vs. responsive desire

27:50 – Desire discrepancy is normal

31:20 – "It's not about you" - reframing rejection and low desire

Pleasure Highlights:

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Stress doesn't just kill the mood; it hijacks your nervous system.

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Desire isn't one-size-fits-all.

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Desire discrepancy is normal, not a dealbreaker.

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Your partner's low desire usually isn't about you.

Connect with Dr. Holly Wood, PhD:

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Instagram @DrHollyWoodPhD https://www.instagram.com/drhollywoodphd/

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YouTube @DrHollyWoodPhD https://www.youtube.com/@DrHollyWoodPhD

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Website: https://www.thehollywoodsexologist.com/

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Women's health is having a moment! The Cuntsultant, joins us for a rapid-fire tour through the biggest women’s health updates: PCOS gets a name change, birth control myths, why endometriosis takes 10 years to diagnose, and the push for pain management during in-office procedures, ex. UDIs. Plus vaginal estrogen's life-saving role and why women outlive their ovaries. Women weren't studied or treated seriously and that's changing. Bring this one straight to your next appointment.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

06:30 – PCOS gets a better name

07:35 – What's happening in your ovaries with PMOS

14:26 – The metformin story that got reported to the medical board

16:48 – The evolutionary theory that PMOS might be a genetic advantage

19:03 – What birth control does to your hormones

23:39 – Why endometriosis takes 10 years to diagnose

30:15 – New endometriosis diagnostic breakthroughs in Europe

34:29 – Why pain management for in-office procedures is being taken seriously

39:35 – Vaginal estrogen's as recommendation for recurrent UTIs

42:47 – The grandmother hypothesis - why we outlive our ovaries

Pleasure Highlights:

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PCOS has a new name: PMOS

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Birth control doesn't "regulate" your hormones

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Pain management for in-office gyno procedures is not offered upfront

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Vaginal estrogen now recommended for recurrent UTIs

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Endometriosis takes an average of 10 years to diagnose

Connect with The Cuntsultant:

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Instagram @cvntsultant

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Website: http://thecuntsultant.com

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Handjobs get a bad rap, but today we're bringing them back! In this episode, certified sexologist Ashley Manta joins us to explore why hand jobs deserve more respect. We break down her go-to techniques: the Pepper Grinder, the Bottle Rocket, why a baby bottle warmer might be the most underrated tool in your nightstand, and how foreskin changes the game. We also get into what to do when your partner goes soft, why mindset matters, as well as cannabis and sex and what it's like inside Desire Cruises and Hedonism.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:35 – Ashley — sexologist, author, Betty Dodson mentee

07:02 – Why hand jobs get such bad PR

09:00 – The 3 non-negotiables: two hands, lube, time

10:35 – Setting the scene - the "giver's mindset"

12:20 – Best positions

18:45 – The baby bottle warmer lube hack

22:23 – Signature moves: the Pepper Grinder & Bottle Rocket

27:06 – Foreskin 101

30:55 – Inside Desire Cruises & Hedonism

49:31 – Cannabis, CBD myths, and the indica/sativa debate

Pleasure Highlights:

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Two hands, lube, and time are the foundation.

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Confidence matters more than technique.

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Soft doesn't mean over.

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Most CBD-only products are underdosed marketing.

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Consent and intentionality around substances are non-negotiable.

Connect with Ashley Manta:

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Instagram @cannasexual

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Website: ashleymanta.com

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Courses: elevatedintimacy.com

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Book: Merry Jane's The CBD Solution: Sex: How Cannabis, CBD, and Other Plant Allies Can Improve Your Everyday Life

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your desire isn't broken; your nervous system is just doing its job too well. In this episode, pelvic floor PT and sex counselor Dr. Rose joins us to break down why trauma, stress, and hypervigilance can quietly tank your libido and what to actually do about it. We cover the "smoke detector" model of nervous system regulation, why desire discrepancy is normal (80% of couples deal with it), the four desire styles, and quick neuroscience-backed exercises that can shift you from a 2/10 to a 6/10 "open to intimacy" in minutes. If you've ever felt guilty for not being in the mood, you can stop “fixing” yourself and start understanding your body.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

07:10 – From Dr. Goldstein's clinic to holistic sex coaching

16:45 – The "smoke detector" nervous system analogy

20:26 – Why sensitivity to threat isn't your fault

22:32 – The 3-step reset

34:30 – Presence as a biological need37:00 – Desire isn't a light switch — it's a car that needs gas

39:00 – The four desire styles

41:13 – Live demo: shift nervous system state in real time

45:36 – Stress vs. threat — not all stress kills desire

Pleasure Highlights:

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Desire isn't a light switch, it's more like a car

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80% of couples deal with desire discrepancy

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A hypersensitive nervous system isn't a personal failing

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You don't have to be symptom-free to feel safe

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Small, physical resets work fast

Connect with Dr. Rose:

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Instagram @bewellwithrose

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Website

•

Desire Quiz

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Provider trainings

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

EVFM-PHX-000068

Almost everything you're already doing in bed is a kink. In this episode, Alex Gay, porn star, kink educator, and host of Kink Curious, joins us to break down what kink actually means (spoiler: it's way broader than you think), why almost everyone is "kinky" without realizing it, and how shame keeps so many of us stuck. We get into the difference between a kink and a fetish, consent and communication in kink spaces, why aftercare matters just as much as the main event, and how to start exploring safely if you're kink-curious but don't know where to begin.

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06:52 – What is a kink, really?

07:14 – Kink vs. fetish

14:27 – Why most people are "kinky" without knowing it

28:00 – Biggest misconception about kink community

31:55 – How to start exploring a kink

34:11 – Building confidence outside the bedroom

37:17 – Consent in kink scenes

41:00 – What kink taught Alex about communication and vulnerability

44:27– Aftercare 101

Pleasure Highlights:

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Kink is broader than most people think

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Confidence in kink starts outside the bedroom.

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Consent looks different and more intentional in kink.

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Aftercare isn't extra, it's part of the experience.

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Shame is the real barrier, not the kink itself.

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Instagram @HeyAlexGay

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Podcast: Kink Curious

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Your vagina has its own ecosystem, and no, that yeast on your test doesn't automatically mean infection. In this episode, The Cuntsultant breaks down the vaginal microbiome: why lactobacilli are your best friend, how your gut and hormones secretly run the show, and why "rebalance your pH" is basically meaningless advice. We get into recurrent BV, partner treatment, boric acid (plus the Poison Control call about oral sex timing), and why yogurt does NOT belong in your vagina. Honest, funny, shame-free.

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05:57 – Who is The Cuntsultant?

07:55 – What is the vaginal microbiome and why it matters

08:30 – The gut-hormone connection

10:06 – Their Daye test results - shockingly low lactobacilli

10:50 – Yeast/mycoplasma showing up on a test doesn't always mean infection

16:41 – New guidance: BV treatment includes the partner

20:27 – Tight clothes, diet, and other everyday microbiome disruptors

29:25 – Why your vaginal pH shifts throughout your cycle

32:52 – Boric acid 101 and the Poison Control call about oral sex timing

37:36 – "Energetically bad semen" - the ex-partner BV theory

Pleasure Highlights:

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Yeast or "weird" bacteria on a test ≠ infection.

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Oral probiotics can support vaginal health, but check strains.

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Your vaginal pH is supposed to shift throughout your cycle.

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Boric acid needs a 24-hour buffer before oral sex.

Connect with The Cuntsultant:

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Instagram @thecvntsultant

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Website: https://thecuntsultant.com/

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Not all lubes are created equal and your vagina deserves better than guesswork. Erica, regulatory affairs expert and cosmetic chemist, joins Jordan to break down everything you never knew about personal lubricant. Osmolarity, pH, hyaluronic acid, parabens, FDA clearance, fertility-safe formulas, silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid — all of it, no fluff. If you've ever grabbed a lube off the shelf without a second thought, this episode will change that.

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05:49 – Meet Erica: From regulatory nerd to Lube Queen

07:00 – What's actually IN your lube?

12:11 – Osmolarity explained - and why it matters more than you think

17:31 – Hyaluronic acid in lube: the glow-up your vagina didn't know it needed

23:57 – How to know if your lube has actually been FDA cleared

25:18 – Animal testing, the EU vs. FDA divide, and the cruelty-free lube dilemma

38:18 – Silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid: which one is actually for you?

41:34 – Lube for fertility: what kills sperm and what doesn't

48:58 – The truth about parabens

53:57 – How the Erica defines pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

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Check for the condom claim.

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Osmolarity matters — especially if you're TTC or STI-aware.

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Silicone lube + silicone toys = a hard no.

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Hyaluronic acid is worth the hype.

•

There's no one-size-fits-all lube.

Connect with the Erica:

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Instagram @the_shecanter - Find The Cuterus Mood Mug! and the Shecanter HERE!

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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What if your sex toy belonged on a doctor's shelf? Cynthia, founder of Luxxxe Toys, joins us for a conversation that's equal parts eye-opening and empowering. We dig into why pleasure and sexual wellness aren't just connected; they're inseparable. From the gaps in women's health research to why quality matters for what goes on and in your body, Cynthia keeps it refreshingly real. Plus: AVN, award-winning products, healing after trauma, and the conversation your doctor probably isn't having with you but should be.

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Jump to the Good Stuff:

05:03 – From real estate to sexual wellness founder

07:12 – Why pleasure and wellness are inseparable

09:51 – The gaps in women's health research

19:50 – AVN recap - what surprised Cynthia most

25:15 – The award-winning Jaxon prostate massager

30:34 – Luxury vs. budget toys - does it matter?

34:10 – Surviving sexual abuse and healing through pleasure

37:48 – First-time toy advice for the bedroom

40:33 – What Cynthia wants to normalize next

43:25 – How do you define pleasure?

Pleasure Highlights:

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Pleasure is a health necessity, not a luxury.

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Women's bodies are understudied and we deserve better.

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The right products can support sexual healing.

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Toys enhance. They don't replace.

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Your body deserves clean, medical-grade quality.

Connect with Cynthia:

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Instagram @luxx_toys https://www.instagram.com/luxx_toys/

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https://www.luxxxe.com/

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Is modern dating broken or are we just playing it too safe? Sexologist and soon-to-be sex therapist, Tori, joins us for a refreshingly honest conversation about why dating feels so exhausting right now. We cover the swipe-culture trap, why women keep settling for bare minimum, and the very real problem with using ChatGPT to write your texts. Tori breaks down what a real red flag looks like, why inconsistency is the number one relationship killer, and why dating yourself might be your best move yet. Plus, compliments, eye contact, and why your gym is the dating app you're not using.

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05:23 – Meet Tori, sexologist, sex therapist, & former exotic dancer

06:17 – What even IS modern dating? The dopamine swipe trap explained

07:32 – Why women are swearing off men

08:59 – The best places to meet people IRL; apps aren't it

17:27 – How to date yourself & be available while doing it

19:59 – The ChatGPT dating problem

24:04 – Red flags: what's real vs. what's noise

24:57 – Inconsistency as the #1 relationship dealbreaker

27:22 – Calling someone out without blowing it up

34:05 – How Tori defines pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

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Swipe culture kills depth, be intentional

•

IRL presence beats any dating app

•

ChatGPT can't fake real vulnerability

•

Inconsistency is the #1 red flag

•

Pleasure isn't always sexual, reclaim it

Connect with Tori:

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Instagram @torirthesexcoach

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Website: Tori the Sex Coach

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Phexx

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Tia Lynn, aka Sexy Biz Babe, is back, and we're going there. In this episode, Tia joins us to explore the real world of sex parties and play spaces (spoiler: it's not what you think), how confidence in life directly mirrors confidence in the bedroom, the power of knowing your "no" before you need it, and why your intuition is the most underrated safety tool you have. Plus: Skirt Club, vetted events, and finding your community.

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05:53 – Intro & Meet Tia

06:46 – Defining YOUR edge

08:00 – Breaking shame & building confidence

12:21 – Confidence in the bedroom

14:21 – How Tia discovered play parties

16:05 – Finding your community

18:04 – Skirt Club 101

21:57 – What actually happens at a sex party

31:07 – Vetted vs. unvetted parties

32:27 – Red flags & green flags

34:46 – Confidence & practicing your "no"

36:51 – Tia's consent story

42:05 – Defining pleasure

42:42 – Where to find Tia

Pleasure Highlights:

•

Taboo is your edge, no one else's

•

Bedroom confidence = life confidence

•

Play parties are community-first

•

No expectations = better experience

•

Vetted parties prioritize consent

•

Practice your "no" before you need it

•

Even confident people freeze, trust your body

•

Speaking up protects the everyone

•

Sex-positive friendships are real

•

Pleasure is joy in your body

Connect with Tia Lynn:

• Instagram @SexyBizBabe
• Instagram @SexyBizBabePodcast
• Podcast: Sexy Biz Babe
• TED Talk: “Break Out of Shame, Own Your Confidence”

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PHEXX

INDICATION

Phexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

Rare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.

Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.

Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.

Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.

For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat http://www.phexx.com/.

Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or http://www.fda.gov/medwatch.

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Pleasure, power, and dating without apology.

In this episode, Corithina (Papiiii Chulaaa), sex educator, youth empowerment leader, and self-proclaimed career dom, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore holistic sex education, pleasure-centered learning, and radical self-ownership.

They dive into dating dynamics, communication, kink, and why pleasure, not just prevention, belongs in sex education. Corinthia shares her journey through intentional “messy” dating, redefining relationships, and embracing autonomy in love and desire. You’ll also hear powerful insights on emotional availability, cultural narratives around relationships, and how to create connections that actually align with your values.

Jump to the Good Stuff:

02:24 – Origin story + sex ed activism

06:20 – Why pleasure belongs in sex education

07:37 – Confidence & communication through sex ed

08:00 – Teaching men + menstrual cycle awareness

10:06 – Menopause, generational gaps, and lifelong sex education

13:51 – Dating sabbatical: lovers vs relationships

16:45 – Communication styles in modern dating: voice notes over texting

19:50 – Monogamy myths + cultural conditioning

28:26 – Friendship as a core relationship model

29:15 – Choosing partners who align with your work + identity

31:27 – Kink, BDSM, and finding compatible partners

39.17 – Dating culture, apps, and why men aren’t showing up

45:20 – The “male loneliness epidemic” + relationship skill gaps

46:41 – Pleasure, dominance, and evolving sexual exploration

48:00 – Defining pleasure + where to find Papiii Chulaaa

Pleasure Highlights:

• Pleasure belongs in sex education
• Communication > dating games
• Monogamy isn’t the only model
• Friendship as core relationship
• Emotional availability gap
• Pleasure = self-ownership

Connect with Papiii Chulaaa:

• Instagram @papiiichulaaa
• Instagram @corysmileyface
• Substack @corysmileyface

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What if “good sex” has nothing to do with orgasms?

In this episode, Amber, a social behavior research scientist, joins us to explore women’s sexual pleasure and why pleasure has been left out of sexual health conversations. We dive into the science and stigma around STI prevention, the role of communication and self-exploration, and how societal expectations shape our experiences in the bedroom.

Amber shares insights from her research and her “Pleasure Class” workshops, unpacking why so many women struggle to identify what they actually want and how to start reclaiming it. From toys and turn-ons to boundaries and body awareness, this conversation challenges what you thought you knew about pleasure.

Because great sex isn’t about performance - it’s about connection.

Jump to the Good Stuff:

03:29 - Why pleasure is missing from sexual health conversations

07:55 - Why orgasms don’t equal good sex

10:41 - The pressure to perform vs. actually enjoying sex

13:07 - Why most women don’t know what they want

14:03 - Self-pleasure: the foundation for better partnered sex

16:55 - Toys: why what you like solo ≠ what you like with a partner

18:31 - How to communicate desires during sex without killing the vibe

18:49 - The “pleasure menu” concept

35:26 - Why negotiating condoms can sabotage pleasure

30:58 - Sexual pleasure as political (especially for Black women)

41:08 - Final reflections

Pleasure Highlights:

• Pleasure has historically been excluded from sexual health, especially for women

• Good sex is about the entire experience, not just the orgasm
• Many women know what they don’t want, but struggle to name what they do want
• Self-exploration is essential for confident communication with partners
• Preferences vary widely and can change over time
• Trying something once isn’t enough; exploration takes repetition
• Solo vs. partnered pleasure can feel completely different
• Communication during sex is a skill and a game changer
• “Negotiating” needs (like condom use) can disconnect you from pleasure
• Being in your head = being out of your body - and your pleasure
• Sexual pleasure is deeply tied to identity, culture, and politics
• Pleasure extends beyond sex - mental, emotional, and physical well-being all play a role
• You don’t need permission to want pleasure but many people still feel like they do

Connect with Dr. Amber Sophus:

• ⁠Instagram⁠ @Dr.AmberSophus

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Write your hottest fantasies into existence! In this episode, Carly, creator of Aurore, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore the power of smart, sexy erotica for women. Carly shares why women often crave erotica over visual porn, how it fuels imagination, celebrates real bodies, and helps expand your personal “sex bucket list.”

Together they dive into the power of writing your own erotica, from reliving hot memories and healing past encounters to straight-up manifesting the sex you want. Along the way, they explore how this practice not only boosts creativity and sexual confidence, but also makes communicating your desires feel easier, more natural, and a lot more fun.

Jump to the Good Stuff:

03:47 – Why Women Love Erotica More Than Porn

06:05 – Healing Through Erotica

08:20 – Writing & Manifesting Sex Stories

12:15 – Plane Hookups, Gym Pick-Ups & DM Sliding Done Right

22:41 – Toxic Situationships vs. Clear Communication

25:38 – Erotica in the Bedroom

33:15 – Solo Pleasure & Slowing Down

37:30 – Defining Pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

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Erotica is powerful because it’s customizable. You control the fantasy, insert real bodies, and stay fully in your imagination without visual porn’s limitations or insecurities.

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Writing your own sex stories is both arousing and healing. Relive the good, rewrite the disappointing, and even manifest future encounters.

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Manifestation through writing works. Jordan’s spicy stories have literally come true; putting desires on paper (or sharing them) gives clear permission and builds consent.

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Good sex fuels creativity. When you’re having satisfying sex or feeling desired, your creative energy skyrockets.

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Communication is everything. Whether negotiating desires, setting expectations in dating, or introducing new moves inspired by erotica, be upfront about what you want (and what you don’t).

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Everyday pleasure matters. Slowing down and eroticizing routine moments (coffee, skincare, walking) deepens overall sexual pleasure and life satisfaction.

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Real, relatable stories hit hardest. Unrequited desire, yearning, and messy human connections often feel hotter than perfect fairy-tale romance.

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Supportive partners exist. Men who celebrate your sexual openness and even draw inspiration from your work are out there.

Connect with Carly Pifer:

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Instagram @readaurore

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Substack @readaurore

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Discovering Your Pleasure with Hannah, The Libido Fairy

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Struggling with “What do I want in bed?” or feeling like sex has become routine? In this episode of Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, host Jordan D’Nelle and Hannah, The Libido Fairy, drop raw, hilarious truth bombs on reigniting desire and boosting libido in long-term relationships.

They reframe sex as adult playtime: ditch porn pressure, embrace sex exploration, and treat new kinks like the floppy first pancake - try anything twice for real calibration.

Listen for practical, shame-free tools for better communication, boundaries, and erotic connection.

Jump to the Good Stuff:

00:00 – Intro & Meet The Libido Fairy

04:24 – Sex as Adult Playtime

06:24 – The Floppy Pancake Rule: Try Anything Twice

09:55 – Tuning Into Your Body’s Yes/No

13:05 – The Likes + Limits Checklist Magic

14:37 – Navigating Mismatched Desires

18:59 – King & Queen Nights

23:29 – Daily Rituals for Lasting Connection

43:45 – What Hannah’s Exploring Now

45:46 – Defining Pleasure

Pleasure Highlights:

• ​Treat sex like pancakes: Try things, notice your body’s yes/no signals (tingling, squirmy), and try anything twice—first try is just calibration.
• ​Embrace playful exploration: Separate maintenance sex from no-pressure sex exploration sessions—fail, experiment, build desire in long-term relationships.
• ​Use Hannah’s free Likes + Limits Checklist (500+ items) to map desires, find overlaps, and avoid resentment.
• ​Unlock King/Queen Nights for focused pleasure, plus daily 6-second kisses and eye contact for sustained heat.
• ​Pleasure = anything that brings you more alive: sustainable joy through communication, boundaries, and prioritizing your relationship.

Connect with Hannah :

• ​Instagram @thelibidofairy
• ​TikTok @thelibidofairy
• ​Facebook @thelibidofairy
• ​YouTube @thelibidofairy
• ​Podcast: The Libido Fairy

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• ​Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠Hannah’s Likes and Limits Checklist (Menu)⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠The Libido Fairy Webite⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.thelibidofairy.com/⁠⁠
• ​⁠⁠The Relationship Ritual Guide⁠⁠ - includes the King and Queen Night resource

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The Pleasure Evolution with Kim Airs

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We're back baby!! And we’re kicking things off with an absolute legend: Kim Airs, the trailblazing sex toy pioneer who ditched her Harvard job in 1993 to open one of the first women-friendly sex shops and has been myth-busting, innovating, and celebrating pleasure ever since.

In this juicy return episode, Kim spills the wild history of sex toys – from bathtub-caulk dildos to today's mind-blowing robot strokers and app-controlled vibes – while sharing hands-free orgasm secrets, breathwork magic, lazy toy-cleaning hacks, and why really letting go unlocks next-level fun.

Jump to the Good Stuff:

02:40 – Welcome back after 19 months! Introducing legend Kim Airs

03:30 – From boring marriage to smut hound: Kim’s wild origin story

04:30 – Writing for On Our Backs & the spark to open Grand Opening!

05:48 – Quitting Harvard to sell “rubber dicks to girls”

11:28 – The surprising bathtub-caulk origin of silicone dildos

15:15 – Busting the silicone lube on silicone dildo myth - test it overnight!

16:48 – Lazy cleaning hacks: Baby wipes & why most “toy cleaners” are overkill

20:18 – Evolution of toys: From jelly rubber to app-controlled & discreet designs

23:05 – Penis pleasure explosion: Robot strokers, spinning, thrusting & beyond Fleshlight

27:00 – Sex dolls & AI companions - fascinating or concerning?

39:03 – Hands-free orgasms: Kim’s fMRI-proven breath & energy magic

41:32 – Letting go = animal-level pleasure - scream, grab sheets!

44:34 – Beginner tips: Pick what visually turns you on + check measurements

48:42 – Final thoughts + where to find Kim

Pleasure Highlights:

• Silicone's surprising origin: Bathtub caulk saved a marriage!
• Busting myths: Silicone lube + silicone toys? Test it—it's usually fine now.
• Hands-free Os are real (and learnable via breath/energy work).
• Modern penis toys are exploding—way beyond Fleshlight.
• Let go of control for animal-level pleasure (scream, grab sheets—it's hot!).

Connect with Kim Airs:

• Instagram: @KimAirs
• TikTok: @TheKimAirs
• Facebook: @Kim.Airs
• Podcast: SexChat with Kim Airs
• Cameo: @Naughty Grandma

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Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Humans have a deep need for connection, and emotional intimacy fulfills this by allowing us to truly be seen by others. In this episode, Jodie Milton joins us to explore emotional intimacy and its impact on partnered relationships. We discuss practical ways to cultivate intimacy, address common barriers, and discuss the importance of nurturing these connections in friendships. Jodie also shares valuable advice for men on building emotional intelligence, helping listeners strengthen their ability to connect deeply and authentically with others.

You can find Jodie Milton on Instagram and Facebook @practicalintimacy.

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Jennifer Summers joins us to discuss sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure. We cover topics such as the role of sex toys in relationships, strategies for improving desire and balancing partners' needs, navigating polyamory and non-monogamy, and the significance of open communication, consent, and honesty.

You can find Jennifer Summers on Instagram and TikTok @theselfmadediva.

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