A Girls Perspective Podcast

This week, we’re talking about livable wages, taxes, Indianapolis drivers, and AI, the real-life money stress nobody prepares you for: somebody said it’s your employer’s job to make sure you have a livable wage, Jocelyn and Jade both disagree, and then both admit they’ve been the woman who couldn’t afford it. Jocelyn found another way to get more money, and Jade says it was her, and she got out of it. It’s episode 100, they said they’d do something big, life been lifin’, so they got on the soapbox instead: roundabouts, potholes, the Flock camera officers, a state tax audit, and why AI is not your friend. Whether you’re navigating a paycheck that doesn’t stretch, a tax letter you didn’t deserve, or a roundabout nobody knows how to use, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show Notes

• Episode 100: Jocelyn says they planned something big, life been lifin’, and they’re taking celebration ideas
• Jocelyn on the peanut butter and chili comments: we never said you were disgusting, people are hearing with emotions and not words
• Jocelyn likes peanut butter chocolate milk and that’s her business. Jade: I’ll applaud you from afar
• Five Indianapolis officers charged with misusing Flock cameras. Jocelyn: why are we protecting their identities?
• Jade: if the public doesn’t have access, who did y’all think was going to abuse it?
• Jocelyn: they your ex for a reason. Leave them in the past
• Jocelyn is a left lane driver. Jade: this is Indiana, we drive whatever the spirit leads us to
• Jocelyn: put your phone down at the light. Jade: you the line leader
• Jocelyn: if Indianapolis keeps building roundabouts, everybody should take the driver test again
• Jade: 96th and Allisonville is Crash City, and new roundabouts keep going up while the potholes stay
• Jocelyn on the driver who stopped inside a roundabout while her windows were down
• Jade: this is not the time to be a good Samaritan. Either do it or don’t
• Jade’s first hires with real money: a cleaner, a cook, and a chauffeur. Jocelyn would still cook, and she meal preps every Sunday
• Somebody said a livable wage is your employer’s job. Jocelyn: they set the rate off what the business can afford, and you’re not part of that equation
• Jade: the job’s job is to pay you what they agreed to. Jocelyn: you can’t get mad about something you accepted
• Jocelyn: I’ve been the person who couldn’t afford it, and I found another way to get more money. Jade: it was me, I was her, I got out of it
• Jade: it’s easy to say what you’d do when you’re the receiver. How about the giver?
• Jade wants to stop paying taxes. Jocelyn would pay if they were reasonable and she could see where the money went
• Jocelyn got audited by the state and they adjusted it anyway. Jade’s fix: an estimate every February with a dispute line
• Jocelyn wants the happy side of TikTok back. Jade has used YouTube since 2005, and Jocelyn didn’t start until the podcast
• Jocelyn: AI is not your friend, period. Jade: how lonely do you gotta be?
• Jade: nobody watched iRobot. AI wants you dependent so it can learn how you think
• Jocelyn on when she’ll use ChatGPT at work: SQL she taught herself, and only what she truly doesn’t know how to do
• Jocelyn to the newcomers: you probably found us from the Long’s donut video, the peanut butter and chili, or the sister who asked for three hours of babysitting

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This week, we’re talking about promotions, honest feedback at work, and the questions you shouldn’t ask if you can’t take the answer: a coworker asked Jocelyn whether she’d be considered for manager, and Jocelyn, who manages a team, told her no and gave her two reasons. We also get into whether the employee who says that’s not my job still deserves a raise, why promotions should never go by seniority, and Jade’s ruling on asking a follow-up when your feelings are already hurt. Then the peanut butter and chili fallout: the clip pulled 31,000 views and almost 2,000 comments, Indiana said not my Indiana, and Jade says Indiana is a real yet fictitious place. Whether you’re navigating a promotion you didn’t get, a question you wish you hadn’t asked, or a food debate you didn’t start, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• That’s not my job: Jocelyn says if they’re meeting expectations, they still get the raise
• Jocelyn: read your job description. And other duties as assigned means anything is your job now. Jade: job hazard
• Jade: I don’t wanna be a culture fit, I wanna fit the job. Jocelyn: the culture at work is a facade anyway
• Jade: my mom always said how people feel about you ain’t none of your business
• Jocelyn: promotions should never go by seniority. Promote the girl who’s been here two years working circles around everybody
• Ask Jocelyn a question at your own risk. Do you want the truth, or do you want confirming information?
• Jocelyn: I think through how I’ll feel about the answer before I ask. If my feelings would be hurt, I’m not asking
• A coworker asked Jocelyn if she’d be considered for manager. Jocelyn told her no: you don’t advocate for yourself, and you only do your job
• Jade: if your feelings already hurt, why you ask a follow-up?
• Jocelyn: take a three-hour process down to one, and now you’re a promotion candidate
• Jade: you care enough to improve things. You wanna lead
• Jocelyn: what did you do outside your job description that told them you were ready? Your boss is not a mind reader
• Jade: been here 20 years doing subpar work? So what. Jocelyn: what value are you adding?
• Jocelyn read the comments: just about every Black person said no, and a lot of white people said it’s amazing
• School lunch: Jade’s Indiana cafeteria had smothered pork chops. Jocelyn’s Chicago one had Super Donuts
• Jocelyn’s poll flipped from 60 percent crazy work to 58 percent yes
• Jade wants to try the cinnamon roll in the chili. The comments said don’t lie on us
• Jocelyn: Indiana is not the Midwest. We’re closer to Virginia than Wyoming. Jade: people just refuse to stop calling it that
• Jocelyn: you don’t have to try everything to know it’s not for you. Never had chitlins. Jade: I smelt them once and that was enough
• Jocelyn: don’t yuck my yum? I hate that phrase. Eat it if you like it
• Thirty combinations from the comments: cinnamon rolls with American cheese, peanut butter and honey, peanut butter and Miracle Whip
• Chili mac: Jocelyn’s mom made it in Chicago. Jade: that’s hamburger helper
• Chicken nuggets in a Frosty? Jade would try a spicy one. Jocelyn puts sugar in her grits. Jade: cilantro tastes like soap
• Jade puts butter on the back of a Pop-Tart. Jocelyn, an extremely picky eater, doesn’t like Pop-Tarts at all
• Where do you stand on the chili debate?
• Merch is live on the website: hats, hoodies, shirts, and cups

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This week, we’re talking about the iced coffee job interview debate, adult friendship, and what people hear versus what you actually said: Jocelyn hires people, and between two equal candidates she is picking the one who did not bring the iced coffee, Jade wants to know how serious you take yourself if you did, and neither of them thinks it was ever about the coffee. We also get into whether your friends are supposed to be your fans, the team building where Jocelyn’s coworkers almost outed the podcast, the resumes that list SQL and Python until you ask one question, Jocelyn’s case for ending the handshake, the servers clip that turned into a fight about something neither of them said, and the stereotypes about Black women that neither of them fits. Whether you’re navigating a job interview, friends who don’t show up for you, or a comment section that heard what it wanted to hear, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show Notes

• Your friends are not your fans: Jocelyn read the line, and neither of them agrees with it
• Team building, two truths and a lie, and Jocelyn hates that game
• The iced coffee interview: whether it’s acceptable is a different question from whether you’d do it
• Jocelyn: what do people think the purpose of an interview is?
• Jocelyn’s pet peeve: clammy hands. Jade’s wish: that COVID had ended the handshake for good
• Jade: we got bigger fish to fry than the iced coffee
• The HR rep who started it, and what frowned upon actually means
• Jocelyn: I’m in the business of letting full-grown adults learn their own lessons
• Jocelyn: no sleeve, sweating on the desk, shaking it every sip. That’s a self-awareness issue
• Neither of them works for a Fortune 500
• What we said versus what people heard: the servers clip, and what they actually said about finding another job
• We said we tip. You still have to earn it
• Tipping is rooted in racism, and that is a different conversation than the one they were having
• Jade: it’s called A Girl’s Perspective, not A Girl’s Facts
• Jade: who are you that we gotta lie about tipping? Believe what you wanna believe, boo
• Jade: I’m not giving you $30 because you said hello. My food is cold
• Jocelyn is active in the comments, and the loudest people never have a rebuttal
• Jocelyn: you’re not going off what you heard, you’re going off what you felt
• The clip that hit 400,000 views, and the comments that assigned a race to a story that never mentioned one
• Jocelyn’s pet peeve: taking a stereotype and spreading it. It does not make you look educated
• Jade: trifling is trifling. Every group does it
• Jade: the comments people leave on our content hurt my heart
• Jocelyn babysat for her brother for an hour or two. Not a trip to Miami
• Men use kids as weapons too, and nobody brings that up
• Jocelyn: blanket something on me because of the color of my skin and I’m triggered, because I try hard not to fit the stereotypes
• Baby mama drama, cheating, welfare: every community has it, and only one gets the label
• Jade: when we read it, I never thought about race. I thought, she trifling
• Jocelyn has not dealt with much outright racism, with one exception she tells
• Jade has. They followed her around with it at a job, lied on her, and reported her to HR
• Jocelyn: don’t like me because of my skin? Fine. Leave me alone. Jade: they don’t. They’re obsessed with you
• Positive stereotypes for Black people, and Jade’s problem with “if you’re lost, find a Black woman”
• Jade hates the one about all Black women being able to cook. Jade lists all Black people can dance, and Jocelyn cannot
• Jade cannot play Spades. Neither of them fits the last stereotype on the list either
• Free therapy, and does your mama know you’re in the comments doing this?
• Over 100 followers on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Merch is live: cups, shirts, hats, and hoodies

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This week, we’re talking about being childfree, adult friendship, and work boundaries: why Jocelyn does not have kids and why one cat is already a lot, the strangers on TikTok asking for your phone number so y’all can be friends, and Jocelyn’s rule that a happy hour after work is on her time, not the company’s. We also get into the friend who waters a succulent with a shot glass, why Jade will not hand cash to a cashier under 30, the people who get promoted, team building every single month, and the Tae Bo and P90X series they want to film. Whether you’re navigating the no-kids question, trying to make friends as a grown woman, or a job that keeps scheduling things after you clock out, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• Getting jiggy with it, and Jade singing En Vogue for no reason
• Jade is on a two week hiatus from nursing school and says she is too old for it
• Paul Wall never cussed and nobody noticed
• Jade hissed at her son once, and now he hisses at everybody
• Jade’s son asked for a picture-day photo to give a girl at school, and learned about prom from a Hilary Duff movie
• Why Jocelyn does not have kids: the patience, and what it takes to keep things alive
• Jocelyn is overwhelmed with the cat
• Jocelyn took over her friend’s succulent after she caught him watering it with a shot glass
• Water it rarely, but water it well. Bottom feeding, new soil, and a monthly reminder
• Planty, the office plant Jocelyn turned into six plants
• Strangers on TikTok posting that they are looking for friends, with their exact location, telling people to DM their phone number
• BFF Indy, and why meeting in public is the safer version
• We used to give strangers our number in high school. It was a house phone and your mama was screening
• The Nokia brick, the snake game, and five business days on one charge
• Jocelyn: DM my number? What are you talking about, weirdo? Jade: let’s meet somewhere
• How much is tied to your phone number now, and why scammers can read the thread too
• Jade: people are lonely out here, and the friends you meet organically are messing up too, so why not try a stranger? Same odds
• Burned by everything but a lighter, and the pants that almost caught fire
• Why are cashiers hoarding the dividers?
• Jade will not hand cash to a cashier under 30, and Jocelyn used to freeze when somebody handed her a check
• Uncredit cards, and how credit cards worked before the internet
• Jocelyn was the cashier, Jade worked at the hotel, and Jade says there ain’t nothing but whores in a hotel
• Jocelyn’s whole job history on one hand, and Jade’s rule that very few places get a notice
• You can’t use me as a reference, and why neither of them wants a job because of somebody else
• Do you change for work? Friendly without being informative
• Happy hours: during work hours Jocelyn is there like swimwear, after work she is on her own time
• Jade: the people who get promoted are the ones who go
• Why one of them was glad to leave corporate, and why the bar is always wrong
• Happy hour was 2 to 4 until they moved it to 4 to 6
• My staff only came for the free food. Is it free if it costs your time?
• Jocelyn lives to eat, and could have been happier at Chick-fil-A
• Team building every single month, five managers, and the one game that actually works
• The future challenge: Tae Bo, P90X, Jillian Michaels, and Shaun T on camera
• Closing out every bar, then Steak ’n Shake, Denny’s, Kilroy’s, or IHOP
• Moons Over My Hammy, ham, steak, salmon, and who could go pescatarian
• Bacon, greens, fried cabbage, and why kimchi should not crunch
• Tuna packets at work, and the coworker who crop dusted the whole aisle
• You do not fart in other people’s bedrooms, and you do not blow your nose at the table
• Do all the things: like, comment, share, rate, and review

Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation.

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This week, we’re talking about adult ADHD and what nobody tells you after the diagnosis: the medication that had Jocelyn flipping out on people at her old job, the apology she went back and gave, and still meant, and the ADHD coaching her psychiatrist just told her exists. We also get into the birthday sail on Lake Michigan that Jocelyn paid for and he could not keep down, Gen Z telling millennials to retire, Jade’s No Child Left Behind soapbox, the follow-up to the Miami sister story, and why the word of the week is accountability. Whether you’re navigating ADHD as a grown woman, a job you already apologized to, or family that mistakes you for free childcare, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• Jocelyn’s psychiatrist follow-up, and the ADHD coaching she did not know existed
• What are adults who find out they have ADHD supposed to do, just cope on their own?
• Why sleep makes ADHD worse and ADHD makes sleep worse
• The medication that had Jocelyn flipping out on people at her old job, the apology she went back and gave, and why she still meant it
• Jocelyn’s birthday trip to Michigan, and the resort full of retirees
• Jocelyn hates water and the beach, and paid for a sunset sail on Lake Michigan for his birthday anyway
• Seasick in the middle of the lake, the mints, the bag, and the eye patch pictures Jocelyn sent Jade
• Jade’s verdict: you terrible, and I would have done the same thing
• Two trainees and a fire drill on a boat somebody paid for
• Why Jocelyn is convinced a cruise would be the end of her, and why Jade is going on one anyway
• Lakes, oceans, and the California flight with grandma that started it
• The 14 hour flight to South Korea Jocelyn is going to take anyway
• Gen Z is rage baiting millennials, and Jocelyn commented twice
• Jocelyn thought she was Gen X because of a Spice Girls song
• Jade is 35 and just got the management job, so what you mean retire?
• Outperform us and take it, and why every millennial would retire tomorrow if she could
• Jade’s soapbox: No Child Left Behind, no consequences, no winners
• Accountability, and what the Miami sister story looks like two weeks later
• Jocelyn on family that manipulates you: that is just somebody you share DNA with
• Why Jocelyn was the family babysitter, and what she would do if her brother pulled this
• The key word of the episode is accountability
• Teach You a Lesson on Netflix, recommended for the second time, subtitles only
• Is childfree an offensive term? Childfree vs childless
• Homeless vs unhoused, and who decided
• It’s A Girl’s Perspective, not A Girl’s Facts
• Y’all corrected us on Aladdin, and one of us still says the Genie did too much
• TikTok hit 6,000, the Miami clip passed 400,000, and thank you for showing up

Timestamps:

00:00 Medication Switch Talk

02:31 Behavioral Coaching Referral

04:59 Doctors Who Explain

05:49 Concerta Dose Fallout

07:28 Birthday Trip Michigan

10:04 Sailing Trip Disaster

13:55 Pirate Pics Debate

16:34 Boat Safety Complaints

18:33 Irrational Water Fears

23:48 Gen Z Rage Bait Theory

26:17 Retirement Rage Bait

27:08 Outperform Us Then

28:36 No Child Left Behind

29:22 Babysitting Gone Wrong

30:35 Accountability Over Family

35:12 Teach You a Lesson

40:11 Childfree Term Debate

42:06 Unhoused vs Homeless

45:04 Aladdin Genie Argument

49:41 Growth and Farewell

Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation.

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This week, we're talking about student loans and what it really cost to do what everybody told millennials to do: the $99,900 Jocelyn owed on one accounting degree, the for-profit college behind most of it, the class action lawsuit, the borrower defense claim, and the day her balance dropped to $34,000. We also get into the hairstylist who told clients to stop texting when they arrive, why tips are optional, whether doctors should make more than teachers, and the Long's versus Hart's donut update Indianapolis has been asking for. Whether you're navigating student loan debt you signed for before you understood it, customer service that expects you to serve it, or a city that will pray for you over a donut opinion, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show Notes

• A coworker who thought bugaboo was a term of endearment

• The hairstylist who told clients to stop texting when they arrive, and why Jade says the text is how you find out she is not ready

• $100 an hour, no seating area, and what stylists think customers owe them

• Jocelyn, a prescription, and a pharmacist with an attitude

• Tips are optional: Jocelyn tips well and says it anyway

• Teachers deserve more money, and teaching has always been honest about the pay

• Should doctors make more than teachers? Jade says they go to school longer, Jocelyn says the teachers are the ones teaching them

• The no zero grading policy and what a B used to be

• How college got pushed on millennials starting in elementary school, and why community college got treated like a punishment

• Ten years to graduate, every college we went to, and the Ivy Tech rule

• Jocelyn's student loan story: $99,900 on an accounting degree, two years at DeVry, the refund checks, the class action lawsuit she found on TikTok, the borrower defense claim on the federal student aid site, and the discharge that took her down to $34,000

• Only in the USA: a viral video we are not sure is real

• The Indiana fertility doctor documentary and the part that scares Jocelyn most

• The Hart's update: Jade still has not been

• Indiana staples: King Ribs, Long's, peanut butter sandwiches with chili, fries in a Frosty, bacon donuts, and the tenderloin bigger than your head

• Uranus, Indiana is real and known for fudge

• The donut comments: Tim's, Sweet Shop, Pana, the man who wants his $2.50 back, and the Last Supper comment

• What happened when Jocelyn went back to Hart's

• Sippers vs gulpers

• Elmo vs Barney, the Big Comfy Couch, cable but not new shoes, and the radio that never turned off

Timestamps:

00:00 Bugaboo At Work

03:06 Hair Appointment Rants

09:37 Pharmacy Customer Service

12:39 Tipping And Job Choices

13:46 Teachers Pay Debate

19:15 College Scam Talk

24:24 Student Loan Horror Story

27:05 Borrower Defense Win

31:08 Unpredictable Friend Energy

33:40 Only In The USA Story

38:55 Hart's Update And Indiana Staples

41:40 King Ribs Debate

42:24 Midwest Food Combos

44:32 Tenderloin Madness

46:51 Indiana Is Foolish

49:57 Donut Shop Recs

51:17 Longs Comment Wars

59:30 Hartz Love Story

01:03:14 Weight And Hormones

01:06:43 Wrap Up And Plugs

01:07:45 Elmo Vs Barney

01:10:46 Grandma TV Memories

01:13:31 Final Goodbye

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This week, we're talking about Black hair and everything we went through to have it: the relaxer that burned and the beautician who said tell me when you feel it, the salon Saturdays that took the whole day, the big chop, sisterlocks, and the little boy who thinks moms are supposed to have hair. Also on the table: screenshot everything your boss tells you, the report nobody mentioned until it was due, the genie being a bad influence on Aladdin, and a photographer who says she loves our people but can't show you one of us. Whether you're still giving the salon your Saturdays, wondering if your loctician should have this much say, or just tired of explaining your hair to people who don't have to deal with it, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• Two weeks without staff, a report nobody mentioned until it was due, and the whole commercial book of business

• Dropping the ball on purpose versus owning the part that was actually yours

• Screenshot everything: dated, filed by person, meeting minutes in a separate folder

• When Jade leaves a job, the spirit already told her

• Everybody Hates Chris, the Chris Rock debate, and whether anybody remembers he was the zebra in Madagascar

• Happy Feet, the Prince soundtrack, and Robin Williams

• Nothing tops Aladdin, and the genie was a bad influence

• Vincenzo and villains who are geniuses until it's time to be geniuses

• Outdoor shoots available weekdays only, closed Monday through Thursday

• The Black photographer with five photos on her page and not one Black face

• Show me you know how to light us, and why Instagram is not a portfolio

• Dyeing it brown for fall, and the loctician who will not bleach Jocelyn's hair

• Your hair belongs to me now: why Jocelyn handed her head over to her loctician

• Jade's son said moms are supposed to have hair. Jade said it's in the trash

• The perm burn Jocelyn liked, the Malcolm X scene, and the perm Jade's father did that left a bald patch

• Why Jade cut it all off: the salon Saturday that never ended

• The Just For Me commercial was a silk press, and Jam, Sofree, and Blue Magic

• No bedroom set at 39, the oil spot on the wall, and hiring somebody to clean

• The diced pepperoni incident and "different strokes for different folks"

• I drink what the sign say, and PICU is not a thing

Timestamps:

00:00 A week on the water

01:00 Two weeks without my staff

02:00 PTO means prepare the others

03:00 The report nobody mentioned until it was due

05:15 The whole commercial book of business

06:30 Extending the vacation

08:00 Dropping the ball on purpose

10:00 The mistake that wasn't all mine

13:30 Screenshot everything

16:30 When I leave, I have a reason

17:00 Everybody Hates Chris, and so does one of us

18:30 Who was the zebra in Madagascar

20:45 Happy Feet and the Prince soundtrack

22:30 Nothing tops Aladdin

23:30 The genie was a bad influence

24:30 Vincenzo and villains who forget to be smart

31:30 Did Happy Feet have a villain

32:30 Outdoor shoots, weekdays only, closed Monday through Thursday

36:00 A photographer with no website

36:45 Five photos, all white women

39:00 Show me you know how to light us

39:30 Instagram is not a portfolio

41:30 Dyeing it brown for fall

42:15 Your hair belongs to me now

43:30 Why Jocelyn won't cut hers

44:30 Moms are supposed to have hair

45:30 I liked the burn

46:45 The Malcolm X scene

47:30 The perm my father did

49:30 Sick of my whole Saturday being gone

50:15 The Just For Me commercial was a silk press

51:15 Jam, Sofree, and Blue Magic

52:30 No bedroom set at 39

53:45 The oil spot on the wall

55:00 The only thing I wanna do is sit down

56:30 Merch and the Carolina blue hoodie

59:00 The diced pepperoni incident

1:04:00 I drink what the sign say

1:04:45 PICU is not a thing

1:06:15 Wrap up

Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation.

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This week, we’re talking about what 35 does to a woman’s body and mind and why nobody warns you: ADHD symptoms that showed up out of nowhere, menopause creeping into the 40s, and doctors who say nah you good while your friend is finding out on TikTok what her old OBGYN never told her. Whether you’re wondering if it’s ADHD or menopause, fighting a doctor for a decision about your own body, or just trying to figure out why everything got harder after 35, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• Jocelyn asked her psychiatrist if ADHD can just show up, and what she said about women and menopause

• Jade’s theory: at 35 everything goes downhill, wisdom teeth included

• Why menopause is the biggest life event women never talk about

• Hysterectomy does not automatically mean menopause, and why “total” does not mean what you think

• Menopause is showing up in the 40s and doctors are still saying nah you good

• The TikTok about ten years on a birth control shot and the OBGYN who never said a word

• Why Jocelyn wants a woman handling her reproductive health

• The doctor who told Jade she was infertile and never put it in her chart

• Why paying off your car early can drop your credit score 30 points

• A lioness and her cub loose in Indiana, and where is the daddy

• The sister who asked for three hours of babysitting and flew to Miami

• Low maintenance vs high maintenance vs low investment friendships, defined

• The high school friend who showed up at a boyfriend’s house over two missed calls

• The one question to ask at the start of every relationship

• Art After Dark, release forms, and who actually shows up for you

• Hot yoga, guided meditation, and why counting to ten is not clearing your mind

• The journals Jocelyn found and the referral she still has not called

• Ten years of asking for a hysterectomy and why autonomy is supposed to be the rule

• Nobody to take care of but me, and Jade’s future orange cat

Timestamps:

00:00 Back on the meds

01:30 Three credit cards paid off

02:00 The lender said don’t pay off the car

02:50 The Trax and the 30 points

04:00 Can ADHD just show up? The psychiatrist answers

05:30 At 35 everything goes downhill

06:30 Why nobody talks about menopause

07:30 Hysterectomy does not mean menopause

09:00 The anesthesiologist and the word “total”

10:30 Menopause is creeping into the 40s

11:00 Doctors saying nah you good

12:00 Male OBGYNs and life experience

12:45 The doctor said infertile and never wrote it down

13:30 A lioness is loose in Indiana

16:30 Can a lion break down a door

17:45 The saline recall

21:15 Story time: watch my sister’s kids for a couple hours

22:30 Miami owes me nothing

24:30 Who was wrong

26:30 Babysitting the whole family

29:30 Anybody can get cut

31:15 Low maintenance, high maintenance, low investment

32:30 The TikTok that started it

35:00 The friend who showed up at the boyfriend’s house

36:30 What do you want from this relationship

40:30 Art After Dark

42:45 Do you still need a release form

47:00 Who actually showed up

50:30 The $1,000 owl painting

51:30 Dot painting and yet another hobby

52:15 Hot yoga

53:30 Guided meditation has too many steps

56:30 The journals

58:45 The referral nobody called

60:30 Just let me reschedule by text

61:45 Redoing the whole wardrobe

63:30 Why can’t women just choose a hysterectomy

67:00 Ten years of asking

68:15 Nobody to take care of but me

69:30 Jade wants an orange cat

70:30 Wrap up

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This week, we’re talking about money boundaries, adulting, and only paying people who actually show up, starting with the lawn crew that missed three appointments, quoted almost $1,000 to pull some weeds, and watched Jocelyn get her gloves and do it herself. Whether you’re tired of businesses that waste your time, deciding where supporting a business ends and overpaying begins, or just trying to make your money stretch in a year that keeps testing it, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• The viral stylist story: 10 minutes late, an overheard phone call, and a TikTok post about the client

• Why it was never about the 10 minutes: no communication, then an attitude on top

• Licensed or nah, and why you should not be in customer service if you do not like customers

• The $65 grass cuts, the no-show appointments, and the almost $1,000 weed removal quote

• Supporting Black-owned businesses only when the business holds up its end

• Jocelyn sprays the yard with her brother’s homemade weed concoction and pulls every weed herself

• The audit that shrunk a $1,500 refund to $250 with no explanation given

• The appointment that got canceled 30 minutes out

• Jocelyn’s new Facebook friend: the troll who could not handle being agreed with

• The micromanagement verdict: if I thought you could not do this job, I would not have hired you

• IMs are not text messages and TV shows are not movies

• The pamphlet situation and other words Jade refuses to say correctly

• Facebook is for old people now, chain letters included

• We hit 1,000 YouTube subscribers

• Aging without the crisis, changed birthdays, and why September is still summer

Timestamps:

00:00 Book bags and fighting for her life

00:40 Gary still has no power

03:45 The new wheel tax

05:30 The audit: $1,500 becomes $250

11:30 Canceled 30 minutes before the appointment

14:25 The barber hypothetical

15:50 The real story is on TikTok

18:00 The shampoo run excuse

20:20 Licensed or nah

22:15 $65 grass cuts and no-shows

27:00 The $1,000 weed quote

28:15 Jocelyn becomes the landscaper

30:05 Jocelyn’s new Facebook friend

39:30 Lazy management, according to a stranger

43:30 IMs are not text messages

45:55 TV shows are not movies

49:20 The pamphlet situation

51:55 Automate is not optimize

53:30 Jade said the word in class

54:30 Facebook is for old people now

57:50 We hit 1,000 subscribers

59:00 Aging without the crisis

61:00 Jocelyn changed her birthday

63:00 September is still summer

65:15 Flood watch and attic escape plans

67:00 The doorbell story

68:15 Wrap up

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This week, we’re talking about adult friendships and the art of saying no, the friend who called Jocelyn’s graduation a family thing after six years, and the trauma bonds that fall apart the minute your life starts improving. Whether you’re navigating friends who disappear when it is time to celebrate you, people pleasing that has you saying yes when your spirit says no, or that one person who leaves you drained every single time, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• The viral graduation TikTok, the oversleep excuse, and Jade’s instant verdict

• Jocelyn’s own graduation story and the friend of six years who called it a family thing

• The HR sendoff: wishing people well in their future endeavors

• Trauma bonds, better credit, and the friends who leave when you level up

• Erykah Badu vibes, Gemini energy, and the eccentric phase that got too expensive

• The Indiana nap shop and why the hate makes no sense

• Do not invite me to the wedding if I never make the cookouts, girls nights, or coffee breaks

• David Banner’s grand skipping entrance

• Vibe Tribe shout outs and the Seoul2Screen reveal

• The parasailing request and the version of Jocelyn that retired in 2018

• The art of no, energy leeches, and pouring from an empty cup

• The year of no and frozen credit cards

• The mediocre nails incident

• Jocelyn’s ADHD medication update and a mental health check in

Timestamps:

00:00 Cappuccino or Americano, vetoed immediately

01:05 The graduation TikTok question

02:05 Jade’s instant verdict

03:20 The graduate posts her receipts

06:10 Jocelyn’s graduation and the family thing excuse

09:15 The HR sendoff

11:10 Trauma bonds and friends who leave when you level up

15:15 The cussing progress report

16:40 Erykah Badu vibes and peak Gemini behavior

20:55 Being eccentric is expensive

23:10 The Indiana nap shop

28:10 Do not invite me to the wedding if I miss the cookouts

29:55 Our algorithms are showing out

33:20 David Banner’s grand entrance

37:20 Vibe Tribe shout outs

39:50 K-dramas and the Seoul2Screen reveal

46:40 The parasailing story

49:20 Born selfish and thankful for it

51:20 The art of no

52:50 Energy leeches, the true definition

54:55 No to Jamaica, yes to bingo

56:30 You cannot pour from an empty cup

59:00 The year of no and frozen credit cards

60:55 Why is every logo gray now

63:45 The mediocre nails incident

67:05 The ADHD update

70:20 Wrap up and where to find us

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This week, we’re talking about the honest side of adult friendship, the $2,000 marketing class Jocelyn registered for and quit in two days, and the viral braids video that has everybody arguing about kids and colored hair. Jade knew the class was never happening and said nothing, which raises the real question, when do you tell your friend the truth and when do you let them live? Whether you’re navigating friendships that know you a little too well, ADHD impulse decisions, or the group chat debates about how kids should dress, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Acast Show Notes

• The $2,000 marketing class Jocelyn registered for and unregistered from in two days

• Why Jade kept her opinion to herself, and whether that makes them shady

• Getting the Vibe Tribe to comment, share, and show up

• Spider-Man review with spoilers, underwhelming villains included

• MySpace is coming back, the top eight hot seat, and whether we even like ten people

• American Idol vs America’s Best Dance Crew, and the Secret Circle cancellation we are still not over

• The viral braider video, blonde braids at eight, and where the line actually is with kids, hair, outfits, and makeup

• PSA, always take your receipt, the 81 cent tip story

• Long’s vs Hart’s, the Indy donut debate

• Art After Dark, Saturday August 22, Gallery 317, downtown Indy

Merch reminder, the cup is not dishwasher safe

Timestamps:

00:00 What we been up to

02:00 The wireless mic rabbit hole, Jocelyn is about to be everywhere

04:15 The $2,000 marketing class, registered and unregistered in two days

06:20 Jade knew and said nothing. Does that make us shady

08:00 What we actually need from the Vibe Tribe

11:10 Spider-Man review, spoilers ahead, skip if you need to

21:20 MySpace is coming back and Jocelyn wants her credit

22:20 Who is in your top eight

25:20 Jocelyn missed her calling as a Jabbawockee

25:55 American Idol vs America’s Best Dance Crew

26:40 Secret Circle deserved better

28:15 The braider video, How young is too young for colored hair

31:55 Where we actually draw the line with kids

37:05 PSA, always get your receipt, the scam you might not catch

40:30 The great Indy donut debate

43:30 Art After Dark, Jocelyn’s pieces, Saturday August 22

46:45 Merch check and the cup that is not dishwasher safe

48:00 Wrap up, leave us a review please

Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation.

#AGirlsPerspective #VibeTribe #AdultingPodcast

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This week, we're talking about golden child siblings, family favoritism, and a Reddit confession from a man who has spent years secretly ruining his older brother's life. Jocelyn and Jade get into why the resentment is really about the parents, the Whitney Houston slander that had Jocelyn ready to fight, and the K-dramas Wonderful World and The East Palace. Whether you're navigating sibling resentment, family drama, or you just need your weekly hangout with your friends, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show notes:

• The golden child Reddit confession and Jocelyn's comment back

• Family favoritism and who the resentment really belongs to

• Jocelyn's brother, the actual golden child

• No Whitney Houston slander on this internet

• KevOnStage, notifications, and people projecting

• Wonderful World and The East Palace, recapped and rated

• JYP, J.Lo, Chaka Khan, and Jennifer Lewis

• Tequila shots for episode 89

• The electric blue hoodie dispute

• Tag J. Brooks Boutique, we are manifesting a sponsor

• Merch at agirlsperspective.com

Timestamps:

00:00 Welcome back and a SweetArt Fluid update

02:04 Mexican Batman and vigilante justice

04:04 Black cats and Zephyr's attitude

05:45 KevOnStage and the notification police

10:14 Letting your phone die on purpose

12:57 K-drama haircuts and The Apartment Job

16:00 JYP, the singing pastor

18:45 J.Lo movies and marketing

21:55 Chaka Khan appreciation

23:00 No Whitney Houston slander allowed

24:40 Jennifer Lewis is the blueprint

26:26 The golden child Reddit confession

31:57 Jocelyn's brother was the golden child

35:20 K-drama villains who think they are victims

36:41 The East Palace needs a trigger warning

41:47 Tequila shots and two years of AGP

43:00 Optimists, complaints, and electric bikes

44:20 The electric blue hoodie dispute

45:55 PayPal, scammers, and international shopping

47:40 Help us get J. Brooks Boutique's attention

49:29 Why millennials stopped taking pictures

52:30 Jocelyn's next money making skill

54:30 Guests we need on the show

56:57 Merch, art, and goodbyes

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This week, we're talking about one-sided friendships, adult loneliness, and the difference between a friend and an associate. Jocelyn shares the Reddit story that hit too close to home, the beer fest trip her whole friend group took without her, and the day she told them she was done doing all the reaching out. Jade brings the fire on workplace competition, gatekeeping coworkers, and why she will teach you everything she knows and still bet on herself. Plus a big announcement about the future of the show, straight from us to the Vibe Tribe first.

Whether you're navigating friendship problems, corporate burnout, or figuring out who actually shows up for you, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it.

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Show notes

• The announcement: ads are coming to AGP, and Sweetheart Creations is the first sponsor

• The merch is live: hats, cups, tees, and the hoodie both hosts claimed

• The Reddit: friends who book trips without you

• Jocelyn's beer fest story and the end of one-sided friendships

• Friends vs associates, the kiki test

• Workplace competition, gatekeeping, and raggedy managers

• Jocelyn's confidence story, from low self-esteem to "I don't want your job"

• The Osco pharmacy story and the job that almost didn't happen

• Double lives and the other woman debate

• Marriage at 69, separate bedrooms, and the nephews who get everything

• Jocelyn's brother, the real MVP of homeownership

• Retiring before 70, period

Timestamps:

00:00 Catching up, nursing school and new job chaos

02:30 A big announcement about the future of AGP

06:30 The merch is live

11:50 Jocelyn asked for a sign and got three

20:20 The Reddit: friends who plan trips without you

22:20 The beer fest story, the whole group went except Jocelyn

24:30 "I don't owe you an explanation" is fighting words

26:15 The loneliest year and why this podcast exists

29:20 Done with one-sided friendships

30:50 Friends vs associates, the kiki test

34:40 ChatGPT is not your therapist

38:00 Makeup, lashes, and no eyebrows

41:00 Competing with yourself over things you don't even want

46:30 Yes, you are in competition with your coworkers

48:45 Gatekeeping at work and raggedy managers

50:00 From low self-esteem to "I don't want your job"

54:30 The Osco story, the job Jocelyn almost skipped

1:00:30 ACT scores and test anxiety

1:04:15 Fake it till you make it

1:09:30 Double lives

1:11:15 The other woman debate

1:13:45 Jade tried the stay-at-home wife life

1:15:15 Separate bedrooms and marrying at 69

1:19:30 Everything goes to the nephews

1:22:00 Jocelyn's brother is the real MVP

1:24:00 Retiring before 70, period

1:26:45 Wrap-up, send this to a friend

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This week, we're talking about divorce, money struggles, and the growth that comes after the broke years. Jade tells the story of putting an ad in the newspaper just to divorce a man she could not find, and Jocelyn relives the car that started smoking at the bank right before the wheels quite literally fell off. We get into friends who lie to your face, listening the first time instead of learning the hard way, why this podcast exists, and the childhood cake story Jocelyn never planned to tell. Whether you're navigating a fresh start, a job you are ready to leave, or a good cry you have been holding in, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show Notes

• Back to school as adults, clinicals, and graduation plans

• Corporate ladder fatigue and what managing people really involves

• Friends who lie to your face and why we let them

• The JD Byrider car saga and the broke years, 2011 to 2014

• Jade's divorce and the newspaper ad the court required

• Whitney, Luther, and Yolanda Adams appreciation moment

• When was your last good cry and what brings it on

• Listening to that inner voice and leaving what no longer fits

• Why A Girls Perspective exists and what the Vibe Tribe really is

• Upbringing, accountability, and the icing that came off the cake

• Question of the week: what gets your good cry going

Timestamps:

00:00 Catching up, school, and graduation plans

05:00 Nobody wants to climb the ladder

06:15 Managing people means documentation

07:45 Friends who lie to your face

12:15 The JD Byrider era begins

17:00 The car starts smoking at the bank

20:00 The Sonata and the pharmacy closing

21:30 The walk of shame back to the dealership

23:30 The acceleration lane rant

26:00 The Fiesta gives out on the highway

27:45 The engine was dead

29:15 Jade's divorce and the newspaper ad

32:00 Paying to get her own name back

32:45 We curse too much

34:45 Whitney, Luther, and Yolanda Adams

36:45 When was your last good cry

39:30 Jocelyn's gratitude cry

42:00 Listening the first time

43:30 When the spirit says leave the job

44:00 Why this podcast exists

48:45 Don't blame the parents

51:00 Jocelyn snuck out in Chicago

53:30 Earning every last one

55:20 The cake story

57:55 Chocolate cake versus yellow cake

59:10 Jocelyn's sweet tooth confession

01:00:30 Question of the week

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Two lives. Two perspectives. One unfiltered conversation.

#AGirlsPerspective #BlackGirlPodcast #AdultingPodcast

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This week, we're talking about dating standards, broke men, confidence, and situationships with our first full guest table: Brion and Dmatt of the Indy podcast Bellies and BS, plus recurring guest Antonio. The room names the man who moves into your place and contributes nothing, debates whether asking for $20 is a crime, and gets surprisingly honest about doubting yourself while building something new. Jocelyn shares the stranger who got the AGP merch store launched in one night, and Jade tells the story of marrying her ex-husband on purpose. Whether you're navigating modern dating, a side dream next to a day job, or friendships that turned into business, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it.

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Show Notes

• Gas station food rankings and the Buc-ee's debate

• Meet Brion and Dmatt of Bellies and BS and their five year anniversary block party in Fountain Square

• Networking as an introvert and talking your way into exclusive events

• Jocelyn on confidence, decision fatigue, and building a podcast while working full time

• The stranger at the podcast summit who got the AGP merch store launched overnight

• The Disney tow truck scenario and neighbor parking wars

• The garage squatter story

• Hobosexuals defined, plus bed and a biscuit

• Friends with benefits rules and where they fall apart

• Sugar mamas, sugar daddies, and the Culver's parking lot attempt

• Marriage, prenups, and Jade remarrying her ex-husband seven years later

• Who pays at dinner and the $20 question

• How Jocelyn and Jade met and started A Girls Perspective

• Building podcast networks: Sweetheart Creations and five years of Bellies and BS

Timestamps:

00:00 Gas station food rankings and the Buc-ee's debate

03:15 Antonio's toxic mottos

04:30 Getting comfortable and the stolen cake icing confession

07:00 McDonald's land, air, and sea and the menus America never got

10:20 Podcast fails, lost episodes, and boom mics

12:10 The Atlanta podcast summit and disrespectful traffic

13:45 Meet Bellies and BS plus the five year block party

18:20 Networking as an introvert and talking your way into exclusive events

21:30 Jocelyn on confidence, decision fatigue, and the 9 to 5 gap

23:00 The stranger who got the merch store built overnight

29:00 The cover art roast, Gina and Moana

33:30 The Disney tow truck scenario

36:30 Neighbor parking wars and the garage squatter saga

43:30 The houseguest who never leaves and never contributes

47:45 Friends with benefits rules

49:15 Sugar mamas and the Culver's parking lot proposal

52:00 Marriage, prenups, and Jade remarrying her ex

55:45 If he can't cover dinner, say it before she orders

58:20 Broke era confessions and the Vegas overdraft

1:00:30 Peanut butter chocolate milk and other crimes

1:04:30 How Jocelyn and Jade met and started A Girls Perspective

1:13:00 Year five, laziness, and getting it done anyway

1:16:00 AI agents and building a podcast network

1:22:30 Where to find Bellies and BS

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This week, we're talking about work stress, micromanaging, and what a manager check-in should actually cover, the real-life career moments nobody preps you for. Jocelyn tells the story of a coworker who had a whole month, said we're good every single week, and confessed the day before the deadline, and she is not carrying that. Plus a full response to the Canada comments on our viral clip, the loc pricing debate, South Korea's fake shopping apps, and a trip back to The Box and 106 & Park. Whether you're navigating a stressful job, a manager who hovers, or a comment section with opinions, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it. New episodes every Wednesday. Follow the podcast everywhere you listen.

Show Notes

In this episode:

- Jade's plans for life after school and the case for controlled chaos

- Jocelyn's no-news bubble versus Jade's local, national, and global rotation

- Responding to the Canada comments: stereotypes, being called Yankees, and Canadians treated better abroad the moment people learn they are not American

- The loc pricing debate: new growth, by-the-inch reties, and why Jocelyn sides with the locticians

- Jocelyn heads to the Atlanta podcast summit

- Discord question: the music videos that raised us, The Box, 106 & Park, and the Busta Rhymes video

- South Korea's fake shopping apps and where the dopamine really comes from

- The four questions every manager check-in should cover, micromanaging, and the binder deadline story

- A no-spend month for the Vibe Tribe, drop a comment to join

Timestamps:

00:00 What Jade is planning when school is done

03:05 Jocelyn refuses to watch the news

06:10 The COVID bubble

09:30 Canada, we read your comments

14:30 Treated better the second they find out you're not American

17:00 Stereotypes, languages, and who is really watching who

29:20 The loc pricing debate, charging by the inch

37:30 Jocelyn is headed to the Atlanta podcast summit

39:50 Music videos, The Box, and 106 & Park

49:30 South Korea's fake shopping apps

53:25 What a real manager check-in should cover

1:06:40 The binder story

1:14:30 Wrap up and a no-spend month for the Vibe Tribe

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This week we're talking about workplace value, counteroffers, career growth, and why some companies only recognize your worth after you've decided to leave. We also dive into giving notice, toxic work culture, school cellphone bans, student loans, the Mandela Effect, and several viral internet debates that had us laughing and questioning everything.

If you've ever felt overlooked at work, struggled with career burnout, or wondered whether accepting a counteroffer is ever the right move, this episode will feel like sitting down with two friends who understand exactly what you're going through.

Show notes:

- B2K vs Pretty Ricky Verzuz reactions

- The Mandela effects breaking TikTok’s brain

- Jocelyn’s old boss stalking her LinkedIn

- The counteroffer dilemma: would you stay?

- Jocelyn’s real raise-and-quit story

- Getting let go before your notice is even up

- The new cell phone ban hitting schools July 1st

- Paying your own way through college

- CPA exam horror stories

- A nursing student’s cheating scandal

- The truth about blocking people online

- Oprah and the Whitney Houston controversy

- UK vs US heat wave debate

Timestamps

00:00 - B2K vs. Pretty Ricky Verzuz

04:53 - Were they lip-syncing?

07:33 - Mandela Effect memories

11:50 - "Move your meat, lose your seat"

12:32 - Former employer checking LinkedIn

14:11 - Would you accept a counteroffer?

22:23 - Being let go after giving notice

31:10 - Knowing your value at work

33:16 - School cellphone bans

38:27 - Student loans and college regrets

43:05 - Is a master's degree worth it?

46:17 - CPA exam struggles

56:29 - Why do people announce they're blocking you?

59:59 - Oprah and Whitney Houston

01:05:05 - UK vs. US air conditioning debate

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This week, we're talking about the moments that change the direction of your life when you're still a teenager and do not fully understand the stakes. Jocelyn lost a four-year scholarship to a private school and college her sophomore year of high school, crashed a registration day to beg a dean into letting her in somewhere better, and still ended up graduating National Honor Society. Also: a teacher who withheld scholarship information from her face, a Kroger line incident, a cabin fire she built with paper plates, a pontoon in the rain, and a no-spend challenge starting July 1st that she is inviting the entire Vibe Tribe to join.

Whether you have made a decision that cost you something real, fought your way back from it, or still do not know where your money goes at the end of the month, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it.

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Acast Show Notes

Topics covered this week:

- Keyshia Cole debate and the film studies class short film

- Deadbeat dad documentary filmed in high school

- Jocelyn's private school scholarship: four years high school, four years college, lost sophomore year

- Calling the scholarship administrator illiterate, the administrator heard her

- Getting pulled from the school mid-semester, transferred to Manly

- Crashing a friend's registration day at North Lawndale College Prep

- Cornering the dean and making her case without parents present

- Getting accepted that Monday, graduating National Honor Society

- Mr. Kavanaugh: the teacher who told a student in front of Jocelyn not to share scholarship information with her

- Spring cleaning debate: deep clean vs. declutter

- The Kroger oxtail situation and the invisible line

- Grocery store line rules: carts do not hold spots

- No-spend challenge for July: budgeting vs. bill tracking, $400 saved in one month

- Cabin trip to Brown County, Nashville Indiana with Nate

- Cookie butter bomb incident at the pizza place

- Building the fire with paper plates after Nate gave up

- Getting soaked on the pontoon on Lake Monroe in the J. Brooks outfit

- Jocelyn and Nate's dynamic: not a relationship, very much acts like one

Timestamps:

00:00 - Keyshia Cole and the film studies class

03:00 - Deadbeat dad documentary and Jocelyn looking into the camera

06:30 - The private school scholarship Jocelyn lost sophomore year

09:00 - Called the administrator illiterate, she heard her

10:30 - Getting pulled from the school mid-semester

12:30 - Crashing her friend's registration day to beg her way into North Lawndale

15:30 - Cornering the dean and making the case

18:00 - Getting the call that Monday

23:00 - Mr. Kavanaugh and the scholarship information withheld in front of her face

27:30 - Spring cleaning and what it actually means

31:00 - The Kroger oxtail situation

35:00 - Grocery store line rules and the cart rant

42:30 - The no-spend challenge for July

47:00 - Cabin trip with Nate: the cookie butter bomb incident

54:00 - Building the fire with paper plates

57:30 - The pontoon, the rain, and the J. Brooks outfit

01:03:00 - Sharing birthdays and the Nate dynamic

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This week, we're talking about what happens when one person in a relationship sets every standard, gives everything, and then gets blamed for wanting equal effort back. The real-life frustration of realizing someone got comfortable on your generosity, and why the people in your corner telling you to give less might be saying more about them than about you.

Whether you have been the one giving 70, the one who got comfortable, or the friend watching it happen from the outside, this episode will feel like sitting with two people who are not afraid to say what nobody else will.

We also play a full round of Asking for a Friend covering mental health days, sex ed, overpayment ethics, ghosting, 90s R&B opinions, and the true cost of partying like you're 21 when your body is very much not.

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Show Notes:

• Reddit story: man upset his girlfriend stopped doing 70 percent of the relationship effort and now wants 50/50

• Who actually sets the standard in relationships and what happens when you change it

• Jealous friends vs. genuinely bad advice: how to tell the difference

• Asking for a Friend cards: sex ed (parents vs. schools), mental health days, overpayment ethics, choosing your baby's sex, stalking your partner's ex, partying in your 30s, baby name theft, ghosting, Backstreet Boys vs NSync, marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection between friends, culture and sex talk, couples therapy

• The viral graduation split, the withheld diploma, and the scholarship she may have lost

• Jocelyn's personal mid-30s highway story and why they do mimosas now

• Why couples therapy works only when both people actually want to be there

Timestamps:

• [00:00] Donell Jones, f***boys, and 90s R&B we still know every word to

• [12:00] Reddit: She gave 70, he gave nothing, now he's upset it's 50/50

• [19:00] When your friends tell you you're doing too much

• [23:00] Asking for a Friend: sex ed, parents vs. schools

• [25:00] The graduation split that may have cost her a scholarship

• [31:00] Zero red flags: suspicious or just lucky

• [32:00] Mental health days and why powering through is a lie

• [36:00] If you get overpaid, do you return it

• [39:00] Choosing your baby's sex

• [40:00] Stalking your partner's ex and Jocelyn's personal cautionary tale

• [44:00] Partying like you're 21 when you're in your 30s

• [49:00] Baby name theft

• [51:00] Is ghosting ever okay

• [55:00] Backstreet Boys vs NSync

• [55:30] Marriage order among friends, bachelorette spending, physical affection

• [1:05:00] Does your culture talk about sex enough

• [1:07:00] Couples therapy

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This week, we're talking about toxic traits, the real ones we will actually admit to out loud, from anger problems and decision fatigue to talking over the people we love. It is an honest, funny, unfiltered conversation about self-awareness, work stress, and the adulting moments nobody warns you about. We also get into a wild job offer story from Reddit, whether you would warn a coworker who keeps coming back from break late, and the one-warning management policy that keeps everything fair.

Whether you're navigating career burnout, learning to set boundaries, or just trying to figure out your own patterns, this episode will feel like sitting with two friends who truly get it.

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Show Notes

• The Reddit question: if you were honest, what is your most toxic trait?

• Jocelyn's confession: anger, injustice, and the laptop that almost did not survive

• Jade's confession: getting over things too easily and fearing nothing

• Decision fatigue, overthinking, and procrastination in a suit

• The job offer that came in 18,000 below the agreed floor

• Would you warn a coworker who is about to get herself fired?

• Jocelyn's management policy: one warning, unlimited PTO, full accountability

• Corporate burnout vs physically demanding jobs

• The craziest thing a customer ever said at work

• Would you date yourself?

• Life is not meant to be figured out, just lived

Timestamps:

00:00 Can we just chat

00:50 The neighbor's kid is at it again

06:05 A boss who actually had her back

09:50 Sisterlocks and Jade's bald head campaign

12:25 Would you date yourself

16:25 What we've figured out about life

20:25 Reddit asks: your most toxic trait, honestly

23:20 The laptop story

33:30 The job offer that came in 18k short

40:20 Corporate vs pharmacy, pick your struggle

45:05 The craziest thing a customer ever said

46:10 Work shirts we had no business wearing

50:25 Warn the new coworker or mind your business

57:55 One warning and unlimited PTO, Jocelyn's policy

1:02:50 Rotary phones and going unreachable

1:06:20 Kids, Florida, and Disney guilt

1:14:25 Wrap-up and Pride Month love

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