Divorced & Dating Podcast

In this episode:

• Why rejection can actually be protection, in dating and divorce
• Michelle's personal ghosting story—and her unexpected exit interview
• When ghosting is acceptable (and when it's just cruel)
• Recognizing red flags before you get too attached
• Why you shouldn't shrink yourself to keep someone interested
• The Love Is Blind engagement that went spectacularly wrong

Because sometimes the best thing someone can do for you is show themselves the door.

Divorced & Dating is hosted by Katherine Brown and Michelle Yoswa. New episodes every Tuesday on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube.

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Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

In This Episode:

• The Post-Divorce Rebrand: Becoming the Woman You Actually Want to Be
• Dating Yourself First: Flowers, Fancy Dinners & Raising Your Standards
• Dating as a Single Mom: Why Spontaneity Sometimes Requires a Calendar Invitation
• Age Is Just a Number? Cougars, Younger Men & the Midlife Dating Pool
• Menopause, Andropause & the Double Standards of Aging
• When Should You Commit? Why Dating Multiple People Might Be the Smartest Move
• Sex Before Exclusivity? The Great "Test Drive Before You Buy" Debate
• A Listener Writes In: Dating a Mortician & What We Reveal on First Dates
• The Dating Mask: Are You Really Yourself When You Start Falling for Someone?
• When Rejection Is Actually a Gift: Finding Out You're Not Compatible Sooner

Please drop us a rating and tell your friends about us - it’s the best way to help people find the show.

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Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

In this episode:

• Red Flag Relay: When Troll Men Demand a “10” (Among Other Red Flags)
• When Divorce Entered Our Atmosphere
• Olivia Howell = Amazing Advocate for Women Going Through Divorce
• Lonlier In Your Marriage Than When You Are Single? Probably Time To Go
• Love Is Blind UK Season 3 - Positive Relationship Stories
• Emotional Safety & Not Having to Wonder Where You Stand
• Kat & Michelle Tell the Stories of Their 1st Post-Divorce Relationships
• Are We Avoidant Now, Or Have We Just Raised Our Standards?
• Good Morning Texts - Yay or Nay?
• Adding in Some Green Flags to that Red Relay Race

Links to things we mention in this episode:

Olivia Howell’s free divorce support community, Divorce Happens: https://divorcehappens.substack.com/

The book Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller: https://amzn.to/4dVSsKH

Please drop us a rating and tell your friends about us - it’s the best way to help people find the show.

Our website - where you can submit your dating story - go to “Be Part of the Show”: https://www.divorcedanddatingpodcast.com/

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Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

In this episode:

• Post Divorce Glow Up: Sometimes It’s More of a Re-Up (to Get Back to You)
• Glowing Up from the Inside Out - Reasons Why & How
• Divorce is When You Have to Ask, “Who Am I Outside of this Relationship?”
• Hormonal Changes and When Perimenopause & Divorce Show Up Together
• When We are Glowing, It’s Not for Men - It’s for Us
• Dating Apps: Kind of Like Creating a Catalog Page Where You Are the Product
• Michelle likes to Undersell and Overdeliver in Dating
• It’s OK to Rebrand the Rebrand
• No One is Coming to Save You, Which Also Means No One is Coming to Stop You
• Living Our Core Values After the Inflection Point that Is Divorce
• Is the Divorce Plot Twist Your Sign to Start Taking More Career Risks?
• You Don’t Have to Leave Your Marriage For a Mid-Life Rebrand
• Maybe the Glow-Up, the Re-Up and the Rebrand Are Just About Being True to Yourself

This week’s episode is sponsored by The Slim Haus: https://theslimhaus.com/

Use promo code D&D.

Please drop us a rating and tell your friends about us - it’s the best way to help people find the show.

Our website - where you can submit your dating story - go to “Be Part of the Show”: https://www.divorcedanddatingpodcast.com/

Follow Divorced & Dating on socials -

You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

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Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

In this episode:

• Overfunctioning No More: We were both in charge of handling everything in our marriages to giant babies and are no longer willing to be the “cruise director” in the relationship.
• We can get Spicy (and no shade to Sluttiness). 🌶️ 🥵
• Reciprocity of effort, with the first date setting the tone.
• Michelle definitely has stronger dating boundaries than Kat does.
• We both love men - and that’s the problem.
• Men aren’t competing with other men, they are actually competing with the peaceful single lives we have built for ourselves.
• Love doesn’t need butterflies - we are now in a No Drama Zone.
• Things we are no longer here for: competing with our kids for attention, breadcrumbing, mixed signals, flakiness.
• No chasing - if he ghosts, we don’t need to overthink it. We block & keep it moving.
• Dating As A Mom: New Rules - No Second Chances for First Dates.

This week’s episode is sponsored by The Slim Haus: https://theslimhaus.com/

Use promo code D&D.

Please drop us a rating and tell your friends about us - it’s the best way to help people find the show.

Our website - where you can submit your dating story - go to “Be Part of the Show”: https://www.divorcedanddatingpodcast.com/

Follow Divorced & Dating on socials -

You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorced_and_dating_pod

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcedAndDatingPod/

Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

Another thing we mentioned in this episode:

The Burned Haystack Method book is called Burn the Haystack by Dr. Jennie Young.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063447576?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback

In this episode:

• Dating app deep dive - Facebook, Hinge and Michelle’s beef with Bumble.
• Roses on Hinge - Do men actually want a rose from us women?
• Safety in dating and slightly scary dating stories.
• Burned Haystack Method and why we think it’s brilliant.
• Real phone number versus giving out a Google number to dates.
• Facetiming for Verification and not Misrepresenting Ourselves on the apps.
• Tip: Using Venmo, Cash App or Zelle to vet people.
• Back to the 1st date debate - Is coffee or a walk (rather than dinner) actually preferable?
• The sexiness, of men making an effort and taking charge of making plans.
• Long distance - Are we willing to meet them halfway?
• Dad Bods Are Sexy
• Instead of the 6/6/6 sterotype of what women are looking for, we make our own (S/S/S).
• Red Flag Relay: We learn the terms “hatfish” and “bone collector.”

Please drop us a rating and tell your friends about us - it’s the best way to help people find the show.

Our website - where you can submit your dating story - go to “Be Part of the Show”: https://www.divorcedanddatingpodcast.com/

Follow Divorced & Dating on socials -

You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorced_and_dating_pod

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcedAndDatingPod/

Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

Another thing we mentioned in this episode:

The Burned Haystack Method book is actually called Burn the Haystack by Dr. Jennie Young (we misidentified her in the audio).

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0063447576?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback

• Divorce origin stories
• Having more fun in our 40s and 50s
• The Disneyfication of romantic relationships
• Taking back the word “love bombing”
• Dating app pet peeves
• Coffee or tea for first date?
• Audacity Award: Adam from Married at First Sight
• Age of Attraction - the insider perspective
• Are dating show relationships really just trauma bonds?
• Geriatric Love Island - we’re ready.

Our website - where you can submit your story - go to “Be Part of the Show”: https://www.divorcedanddatingpodcast.com/

Follow Divorced & Dating on socials -

You Tube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@divorced_and_dating_pod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcedAndDatingPod/

Logo Photography by Danie Henry Photography: https://daniehenryphotography.com/

Recorded at Orange Door Spaces: https://www.orangedoorspaces.com/

Other things we mention in this episode -

Michelle’s company, The Slim Haus: https://theslimhaus.com/

Kat’s favorite artist she visited in Boston, Sam Reuter: https://www.srueterart.com/

Divorced & Dating is a weekly podcast about the hilarity that is jumping back in the dating pool after divorce in your 40s & 50s (while trying not to drown). Hosted by Michelle Yoswa and Katherine Brown.

We survived marriage. Now we have to survive dating again too? Join us - or just enjoy watching our weekly trainwreck.