Don't Think with Carla Bezanson

Have you ever rewatched a show you loved growing up and realized how completely fucked up it actually was? Same. This week, I’m joined by writer and author Doménica Feraud to talk about how the TV shows and movies we grew up watching shaped our ideas about love, sex, body image, and what it means to be a woman. From Friends to Gossip Girl to The Notebook, we’re unpacking some of the things we were taught to think were normal.

Find Doménica's new book You Are What You See: How My Favorite Shows Became My Worst Influences here.

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This week we're talking about travel anxiety, because apparently I can't leave town without spiraling. The booking anxiety, the airport dread, needing three full days to actually unwind, the guilt of not enjoying every single minute, and finally relaxing about an hour before the flight home.

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In honor of World Mental Health Day, this week we’re talking about fewer thought spirals, trying new hobbies, solo travel and finally enjoying life instead of waiting to feel better. I’m sharing what’s changed for me, the role medication played and why we need to talk about mental health more openly.

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We’re angry, but are we angry enough? This week, I’m tapping into our collective feminine rage- from Taylor Swift’s latest garbage to women’s healthcare, the allegations involving the Cornell Seven and everything else currently pissing us off.

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Why are women so obsessed with true crime, and why do female killers hit differently? This week, we’re talking Netflix’s wildly fictionalized Lizzie Borden story, the new show Furious, Aileen Wuornos, and the uncomfortable line between empathizing with a woman who kills and actively rooting for her.

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This week, I’m answering your questions. We’re talking about what younger you would think of your life now, navigating relationships, making money and side hustles, and the question I’m obviously extremely qualified to answer: how the hell do you stop overthinking?

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Have you noticed everyone seems to hate men right now? Same. This one’s about why women are so exhausted, where the frustration is actually coming from, and whether the “I hate men” era has gone too far.

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I went to Costa Rica alone for a wellness retreat in an attempt to relax, heal and make better life choices. Naturally, I spent half the trip convinced I had meningitis, spiralled into panic attacks, killed a centipede and felt guilty about it, and then woke up to an actual earthquake - somehow the one thing I hadn't thought to worry about. This week, I'm talking solo travel, health anxiety, the pressure to enjoy yourself on vacation, and why a trip can go completely off the rails and still be worth taking

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Have you ever felt like managing the day-to-day mundane tasks in your life feels like a full time job on top of your existing full time job? Same. This one’s about how being an adult is basically one giant administrative task loop that never ends and how seemingly undifficult tasks can be annoying and anxiety inducing.

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Do you ever leave an interaction or hangout with a friend and feel deflated, maybe even ask yourself.. wait. Do they even like me? Same. This one’s about the signs that you might be overlooking that could indicate your “friend” might actually not be such a great friend after all.

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Have you ever wondered if what you're feeling is more than just being tired, lazy, or "going through a phase"? Same. This one's about the subtle signs of depression I completely missed, the symptoms nobody talks about, and the things I thought were just part of my personality.

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Have you ever wondered why you just can't seem to get over someone, even when you know they're not right for you? Same. This one's about the psychological reasons we stay stuck after heartbreak and what you can actually do to start moving forward.

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Have you ever wanted to improve your mental health but felt too mentally unwell to actually do any of the things that might help? Same. This one’s about the small changes that made me (and might make you) feel slightly better.

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Have you ever had a crush on someone you barely knew... and somehow convinced yourself they were the love of your life? Or spent weeks convinced you had a brain tumor, were failing at work, or that one tiny problem was about to ruin everything? Same. This week's episode is about why our brains turn little thoughts into big thoughts.

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Have you ever stopped yourself from doing something because you were worried about what other people would think? Same. This week’s episode is about why people probably aren’t thinking about you as much as you think, and why it actually doesn’t matter when they are. We talk about negative comments, gossip, “Cringe Mountain,” why confidence comes from exposure instead of self-esteem, and the mindset shift that helped me stop letting other people’s opinions control my life. If you’ve ever felt embarrassed to post the video, wear the outfit, start the business, or just be yourself, this one’s for you.

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Have you ever realized you were chasing a life you never actually stopped to ask if you wanted? Same. This week we get into timelines, pressure, relationships, career, mental health, whether wanting kids is different than wanting family, and how impossible it can feel to separate what you actually want from what society tells you you’re supposed to want.

If you’ve ever felt behind, confused, scared of regret, or like everyone else got a manual you missed… this one’s for you.

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Have you ever gotten so used to struggling that you forgot to ask whether things actually have to feel this hard? Same. This week I’m joined by Alicia McCarvell and we talk about ADHD, medication, grief for the years you spent coping, changing your relationship with alcohol, internet criticism, building a life online, and realizing there’s actually no prize for suffering.

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Have you ever blamed every relationship problem on being anxiously attached and assumed you’re stuck like that forever? Same. This week, I’m talking to Dr. Amir Levine, relationship expert and co-author of Attached and Secure., about attachment styles, anxious and avoidant dynamics, why mixed signals feel addictive, and whether we can actually become more secure.

Dr. Amir Levine's MasterClass: The Science of Connection - Rewire Relationships to Last With Attachment Theory

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Have you ever been mad at someone, had a strong reaction and then started questioning whether you were justified or clinically insane? Same. This one features listener stories about reacting strongly to situationships, exes, roommates, and relationships gone wrong, plus input from my producer Daniel and I as we attempt to answer the ancient question: am I mad or am I right?

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Have you ever had a friendship that balances perfectly (because they are normal and you are anxious AF)? Same. My first guest episode featuring my emotional support bestie where we contrast how our different brains work and talk about how differently two brains can experience the exact same experiences.

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