Front Row Dads with Jon Vroman

Most men only know two things to do with anger: stuff it down or blow up.

Connor Beaton has a third way. This is 15 minutes of pure gold from the conversation Jon had with Connor back in 2023. Connor is the founder of ManTalks and author of Men's Work, and here he walks through the four steps he uses the moment he feels it rising, starting with what 3 a.m. and a son who wouldn't sleep did to him.

The four steps:

1. Know the signs in your body

2. Name it out loud

3. Say what you're actually feeling underneath it

4. Get out of your head and into your body, with your breath

Hear the full conversation with Connor: https://frontrowdads.com/378

FRD Live 2026 is December 2 to 4 in Austin, Texas. Stay to the end to hear a member describe his first one, then grab your spot: https://frontrowdads.com/live

The book list that's changed how our guys show up at home: https://frontrowdads.com/podcast-books

There is no greater leadership than the example of a life lived, says Kevin Walton. He is a father, a spiritual guide, and one of our guest leaders at FRD Live 2026.

Ali Jafarian talks with Kevin about what embodiment means, the book his mom gave him that made him say "I'm not crazy," and the dream that gave him the name Creatorhood. Then they get to how Kevin fits being a man, a father, and a teacher into one life. He looks for harmony instead of balance, and when he is away teaching for days he says he is dedicating himself to the work, not sacrificing time with his son.

Coming to FRD Live 2026

Kevin will be with us in person at FRD Live 2026, December 2 to 4 in Austin, Texas. Three days for family men with businesses, built around the man, the family, and the business. Find out more at https://frontrowdads.com/live

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Jon has spent ten years telling men to put family first. For the last two months he's worked dawn to dinner, some weeks seven days straight, and he thinks that's okay.

This is Walk With Jon. No studio, no script, no editing. Just Jon on an early morning walk by a pond in his neighborhood, talking to you the way he would if you were buddies and you asked him, "What's real in your world?" You'll hear wind and a few geese. That's part of it.

His answer this morning: there are seasons when a man should go all in. When the bison come through, you go hunt. Tell your family it's coming, give it an end date, and keep brothers around who will bring you home when it's over. He also thinks your kids should see it: "I think it's great for the kids to see dad go do something, to go climb that mountain."

Front Row Dads is a brotherhood of family men with businesses, not businessmen with families. Learn more at https://frontrowdads.com

Our biggest event of the year is now open to the public. Find out more and experience the best of FRD. Https://frontrowdads.com/live Ryan Levesque runs meeting rhythms for a living. So he installed one at home, and he knew that if he walked in announcing it, it would go badly.

He rolled it out the way he rolls out anything at the company. One piece a week for six or seven weeks, with his kids at four and seven and his wife the skeptic. What they ended up with is seven parts, every Sunday morning after breakfast, thirty to forty-five minutes. The date. Wins. Gratitude that has to be specific. A weekly challenge, which is how a seven-day vegan week happened at his son's suggestion. Family values the kids wrote, nineteen of them, cut down to five. Family goals that cannot come top down. And the week ahead.

Stay for the last three minutes. He and Jon trade the dinner-table games their families use, question of the day and happy-crappy-healthy, and he finishes on the question that decides whether a ritual stays: but is it serving?

IN THIS EPISODE

• Rolling it out with micro-commitments so nobody revolts
• All seven parts, named and walked through one at a time
• The weekly challenge, and the seven-day vegan week his son proposed
• Letting the kids write the family values, and cutting nineteen down to five
• Family goals distilled from an annual vision down to pages read this week
• Why none of it works if it comes top down
• Structure as the banks of a river
• Question of the day, and "happy crappy healthy"
• Knowing when to add something, and when to stop it

FULL EPISODE

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Looking for something to do as a family tonight? We crowdsourced a list of the best board games, card games, and everything in between from our own community — games that get the screens down and the family playing, laughing, and talking trash together after dinner or on a rainy Saturday. Some you can knock out in ten minutes. Some are a two-hour epic. Get the list at https://frontrowdads.com/games

Mark Groves is 46 years old, and the conversation he keeps coming back to happened in a car when he was in his twenties with his father.

He had gone to his father complaining about a girlfriend, and he had said something to her he is not proud of. His dad told him that a relationship is a separate entity. There is you, there is her, and there is the thing between you, and that third thing has to be cared for. Mark still remembers exactly where he was sitting.

That is the point of this one. A father's influence does not switch off when his kids leave the house.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The car conversation: a relationship is a separate entity
• Why a father's influence does not stop at eighteen
• "Nothing will ever divide this family," and what it did to hear it
• Learning to drive, the standard lines, and the egg under the gas pedal
• The construction site rule, and what happened when mom found out
• His father's first marriage, and "that's what I learned from it"
• Getting caught, and the grace his dad offered on the drive home

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is all about? The Brotherhood Experience is a free, one-hour online session where you meet other like-minded men who are committed to being family men with businesses, not businessmen with families. You will hear the core ethos and values behind the community, and why this brotherhood is a strategy for connecting with your kids, building a thriving marriage, and winning in business. It runs every month.

Pick a time that works for you: https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Jon asked a pediatrician of thirty-five years for the formula for influencing your kids. She gave him three words.

Dr. Meg Meeker, author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, says her job is to speak to dads on behalf of their children. So Jon asked the question every man here eventually asks, which is some version of just tell me what to do. She gave him a list. Attention, affection, acceptance. Whether your child is two or twenty-two or fifty, they want the same three things from you, and the third one is where most of us quietly fail.

The part that will sting is the grocery store. You are listing what your daughter has done to someone you ran into, straight A's, varsity as a sophomore, and she is standing right behind you. "She doesn't feel accepted. She feels like a performer."

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why a pediatrician speaks to fathers on behalf of their kids
• The formula for influence, and why men want it as a checklist
• Attention: whether your child is 2 or 22 or 50, they want to be seen
• Affection, and how it changes shape without going away as a daughter grows
• Acceptance, and the grocery store conversation that turns a kid into a performer
• The elite swimmer whose whole relationship with her dad was built on the sport
• What acceptance means when your kid genuinely disappoints you
• "If our acceptance of them is predicated on them turning out the way we envision, we're cooked"

FULL EPISODE: https://frontrowdads.com/459

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Every couple has a dance, and most men have never seen the steps written down.

One of you closes the distance and gets louder. The other creates distance and shuts down. What makes it a loop rather than an argument is that each one's way of coping is precisely the thing the other cannot tolerate. Mark Groves names it, then takes it apart: Gottman's four horsemen, why men stonewall more than women do, and the single sentence that breaks a defensive pattern even though saying it feels awful.

Then the harder half. Groves admits he spent years in a relationship with someone who needed exactly the skills he teaches, and asks the question underneath it: what if you need the problem to be there? What if the fixing is the point?

IN THIS EPISODE

• The dance: the distancer, the escalator, and why the loop holds
• Gottman's four horsemen, and why men stonewall
• "I can see some truth in what you're saying," and why it tastes terrible
• Behind every criticism is a desired behavior
• "Our defense strategies live beside our greatest wounds"
• The kitchen, the deal breaker that kept moving, and what he said instead
• What happens to the fixer when the addict gets sober
• Why nobody should be 100 percent in with someone who is 99
• Unconscious commitments, and needing a battle to fight
• Jon on creating problems at home to have something to bring to the room

FULL EPISODE

How to Co-Regulate: The Science Behind Relationship Harmony: https://frontrowdads.com/474

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is all about? The Brotherhood Experience is a free, one-hour online session where you meet other like-minded men who are committed to being family men with businesses, not businessmen with families. You will hear the core ethos and values behind the community, and why this brotherhood is a strategy for connecting with your kids, building a thriving marriage, and winning in business. It runs every month. Pick a time that works for you at https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Jon walked into a band meeting with seven things to do and walked out with one.

Episode 4 of Walk With Jon. No studio, no script, no guest, no editing. Jon Vroman walking the lake in downtown Austin on a Wednesday afternoon, thinking out loud. The audio is rough on purpose: traffic, wind, and footsteps are part of the deal.

He recorded this straight out of his monthly band meeting, where he put business on the table. Two things he admits he hasn't always done well: saying his truth out loud instead of withholding it to spare feelings, and being humble enough to ask for counsel. He did both. Then his buddy Tim kept saying the same thing until it stuck: "there's only one thing you need to do after this meeting," and until it's done with excellence, don't do two.

IN THIS WALK:

• What a band is, if you're new here: four to six men, monthly, real conversations
• Withholding isn't lying, but it isn't the truth either
• Lead domino, five whys, communal drive: the FRD core values, and the one he wasn't living
• Ideation is his top strength, and why that means he needs editors around him
• The method in one breath: reveal, get curious, lean on your trusted advisors, pick one thing, execute, follow through

Front Row Dads is a brotherhood of family men with businesses, not businessmen with families. To learn more, go to frontrowdads.com.

She calls it puberty in reverse. It can last a decade. And most husbands have no idea it's happening.

LIVE WITH DR. HIRSCH, THURSDAY, OCTOBER 8TH.

She is joining the Front Row Dads community for a live session with Q&A on how men can support the women in their lives through menopause. Free for members, and a limited number of guest passes for everyone else. Details at https://frontrowdads.com/menopause

Dr. Heather Hirsch is board-certified in internal medicine, founded the Menopause and Midlife Clinic at Brigham and Women's Hospital, taught at Harvard Medical School, and has treated thousands of women through perimenopause and menopause. She flew to Austin for this one because, in her words, most of the conversation about menopause happens with women, and it's the men who share a bed, a marriage, and a family with them who never get the briefing. This is that briefing.

She defines the terms every husband should know, explains what actually happens as the hormones flicker out like a failing light bulb, and walks through what it does to sleep, mood, memory, weight, skin, and sex. Then the practical half: how to bring it up without saying "this explains everything," why tracking symptoms beats blood work, the bedroom at 65 degrees, why so many women see five to seven doctors before the right diagnosis, and what real treatment looks like.

Her story is the first 20 minutes. The practical breakdown starts at 19:56.

• Find a trained clinician: https://menopause.org or https://heatherhirschdirectory.com
• Her books: Unlock Your Menopause Type and The Perimenopause Survival Guide
• Follow her: @heatherhirschmd

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? We run a live Brotherhood Experience most months. Jon and a few other dads, 60 minutes on Zoom, and a real conversation about how fatherhood is actually going. It's not a webinar, and you won't leave drained. On any given week, most dads give support and never get any. That's what this hour is for. It's free, and the next date and your seat are both at https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Most of us don't have a plan for our marriage. We have a repair schedule.

Something breaks, we patch it, things are fine for a while, and then we sit there quietly waiting for it to break again. Lance Salazar lived in that loop.

He describes a defeatist stretch where even when things were okay, he was just wondering when it was going to go bad.

So he and his wife stopped fixing and started designing, borrowing the thing they already knew how to do in business: decide what you want, build a plan, commit to it, track it.

What came out of that is a framework they call the four legendary relationship elements. You. The partnership. The friendship. The lovers. And Lance is insistent about the order, because a great partnership needs a great partner first, and it is very hard to feel like friends with someone you are arguing with about the garbage.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The cycle of patch, coast, break, repeat, and why it ends in mediocrity
• Designing a marriage instead of repairing it
• Applying goals, milestones, and actions to a marriage the way you would to a company
• Why you can't run a marathon you never trained for
• The four legendary relationship elements, and why the order is the point
• The partnership loop: finances, kids, the trash, and why couples get trapped there after kids
• Tracking it: ten minutes of talking a day, a planner, an actual checkbox
• "If you haven't been kissing your wife every day, then you need a reminder"
• Why it sounds unromantic and why he does it anyway
• How friendship becomes the foundation for intimacy

FULL EPISODE

Legendary Couples with Kids: https://frontrowdads.com/39

Jon's eleven-year-old had been more anxious than usual, and his wife told him why.

You have been more stressed at work. He is a reflector. He picks up on your energy.

Bryan Post takes that and does something more useful than reassurance. Your son has his own part, formed long before this week. You have yours. And the moment you take his behavior personally, you lose the ability to be present for him, because you have made his stuff your stuff. He gives the actual words to use, and the reason they work: all behavior arises from stress; a stressed child regresses to a younger age, and between the stress and the behavior there is only ever love or fear.

Then the part most parents get backward. When your kid's fear frightens you, what you do next is control, suppress, and correct, and you tell yourself that is good parenting. It isn't.

He finishes with the child who goes quiet instead of acting out, what happens when you try to pry that child open, and the one thing that works instead.

IN THIS EPISODE

• What Jon's wife told him about his own energy
• Your part and their part, and why the difference matters
• "Every communication is energy"
• Why personalizing your kid's behavior costs you the ability to be present
• The script: "Dad's been really stressed lately, and I've noticed you have been too"
• All behavior arises from stress, and why a stressed eleven-year-old acts like a five-year-old
• Love or fear: what actually sits between the stress and the behavior
• "You're doing that because you're scared"
• Turtle children, and why you cannot dig them out with a stick
• The linchpin, the neuroscience behind it, and the Bruce Lee line that sums it up

FULL EPISODE

This is a short cut from one of the best conversations on this feed. The whole thing is worth your time: Love-Based Parenting Is Firm, Honest, and Harder Than Yelling Ever Was — https://frontrowdads.com/531

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is all about? The Brotherhood Experience is a free, one-hour online session where you meet other like-minded men who are committed to being family men with businesses, not businessmen with families. You will hear the core ethos and values behind the community, and why this brotherhood is a strategy for connecting with your kids, building a thriving marriage, and winning in business. It runs every month. Pick a time that works for you at https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Nobody got married hoping to work on it.

That is where Ted Lowe starts. After a long day of working hard, the last thing anybody wants is to work some more, so telling a man his marriage needs more work tends to land like a chore. His alternative is a habit he calls serious fun, built on simple accounting: you cannot make withdrawals from a relational account you never deposited into. And the hard times come, and they require withdrawals.

Then he asks the question that gives this episode its name.

Jon takes the second half and gets honest about a six-month stretch where his own marriage went into a storm, and the realization that came out of it: he had become boring. Too routine, too practical. So he ran a thought experiment about what he would do if they split up, realized he would immediately become fun and kind and generous for someone else, and asked himself why he wasn't doing that for the person he loves most.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why "work on your marriage" is the wrong pitch to a tired man
• The relational bank account: deposits before withdrawals
• "Would you want to be married to you? Are you funny? Are you fun?"
• "We don't date each other. We date each other's PR department"
• Your best self, and why chasing the perfect couple is a trap
• Scheduling it, and why the anticipation is half of it
• Jon on becoming the boring one, and what he did about it
• Planning to win: your calendar fills with whatever has a who, what, when, where, and how, including root canals
• Looking at the days around the day, and marriage in seasons
• "Do you want me to fix it or feel it," and the minivan on the side of the road
• The scuba diving skins

FULL EPISODE

How to Not Make Marriage Complicated with Ted Lowe: https://frontrowdads.com/17

Geoff Woods set a goal of thirty-six date nights with his wife, tracked it all year, and then had to admit it wasn't working.

What he found instead was the idea he spent years teaching at The ONE Thing: find the one domino that makes everything else easier or unnecessary, and knock that one over first. In his marriage it wasn't the date nights. It was a cup of coffee at 5:30 in the morning, before the kids were awake, on the couch, looking each other in the eye and asking How are you doing.

This is from a training Geoff ran for the Front Row Dads brotherhood. He walks through how he goal-sets backward from twenty years out, why being the accountability guy with his wife on money backfired, and what he says to a spouse who has no interest in planning anything.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why the purpose of a goal is not the result
• Writing down what an extraordinary marriage looks like twenty years out, then reverse engineering to this week
• The 411: year, month, week on one page
• "Me being the accountability man with my wife on money, surprisingly, did not make her love me more"
• The aha: getting a babysitter and going to a restaurant does not equal connection
• Why the coffee date turned out to be the lead domino
• What to say to a partner who resists planning, and why Geoff decided it was his own fault
• The Sunday rhythm: kids in the kids club, both 411s open, dating your goals
• Daphne, the private school, and why vacuuming the carpet does not matter

WANT MORE FROM GEOFF WOODS

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Nobody claws their way out of rock bottom alone.

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Dates and sign-up at frontrowdads.com/experience

Matt Aitchison was expelled from high school, arrested in college, and facing real jail time. He is quick to say that might not be your story, but that every man has his own version of the bottom: the moment you realize the way you are living is not who you are, and you are not going to let it become who you are.

What rebuilt it was not dramatic. One small decision at a time, over and over, for a long stretch, which only looks like a fork in the road looking backward.

He also makes the case for why the men around you matter this much: the board of directors, the people who would not let him stay down. Short, practical, and worth a listen on a hard day.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Expelled, arrested, and facing jail time
• Why your rock bottom doesn't have to look like his to count
• The one-small-decision-at-a-time mechanism, and why it only makes sense later
• Broke, living at home, borrowing money, unable to make rent
• The board of directors: why you need real men around you
• Being rich in more than money

Five versions of you are already running your marriage. The work is building the sixth.

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Dates and sign-up at https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Dr. Kelly Flanagan says we each carry five versions of ourselves: the lover, the loner, the hider, the fighter, and the ruler. They formed early, they never go away, and they surface uninvited in exactly the moments that matter most.

You cannot uncreate them. What you can do is build a sixth version, the one he calls the welcomer, that greets those parts and guides them instead of being run by them.

Recorded live at one of our online summits, this one moves from framework into three real stories, and the last one is the reason to stay to the end.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The five versions: the lover, the loner, the hider, the fighter, the ruler
• Why the lover is the original self, the one you arrived with
• Why you can't uncreate the selves you've created, and what to do instead
• The sixth version, the welcomer, and how you actually build it
• Will Smith, Chris Rock, and the twelve-year-old boy who finally got his chance
• The pastor who invited his six-year-old self up to preach, and gave the best sermon of his life
• The car charger fight, and the moment he realized the shaken little girl wasn't his daughter

WANT MORE?

This was a members-only online summit, so there is no public episode to link.

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Every marriage is sitting on one of five levels right now. Here is how to find yours and how to climb.

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Dates and sign-up at frontrowdads.com/experience

Recorded live at one of our online summits, Jayson Gaddis walks through the five levels of partnership, from survival at level one to the spiritual union at level five that most couples never reach. He is upfront that the model is his own, built from almost thirty years of sitting in circle with couples.

Most long marriages, he says, stall at level three: stable, functional, and quietly unable to talk about the hard things.

Then he gets practical about the one thing that actually moves a marriage up: repair. The conflict repair cycle, the two skills of speaking first and

listening first, why a man's urge to fix his wife's pain backfires, and what to do when you feel you cannot bring your own feelings into your own marriage.

IN THIS EPISODE

• The five levels, and how to tell which one you are on
• Level one: mating and survival, and why people stay where they are hurt
• Why most long marriages stall at level three
• The conflict repair cycle, and what skipping repair hollows out
• The two repair skills almost nobody is taught
• Why fixing your wife's pain isn't love, and what to do instead
• How to work with a partner who won't own their part

WANT MORE

This was a members-only online summit, so there is no public episode to link. It is the kind of room we build for dads who want to win at home the same way they win at work. Learn more at https://frontrowdads.com/

Most date nights quietly die for the same reason, and it isn't love. Nobody scheduled it.

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Dates and sign-up at https://frontrowdads.com/experience

Jim Sheils wrote The Family Board Meeting, and he and his wife have run a date-night system every week for years. It takes about five minutes to learn. Same day and time every week, locked on the calendar. No phones. And one or two real questions you don't already know the answer to.

He is blunt about why it fails. It fails for the same reason the family board meeting fails: that which we schedule gets done. He tells the story of a nine-figure entrepreneur who could not make it stick until Sheils got his assistant on the phone and had her block every week for a year. It has run ever since.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why date night fails for the same reason the family board meeting fails
• The nine-figure entrepreneur whose assistant had to block a full year
• Same day, same time, every week, and why "we'll find a night" never works
• Why the phone doesn't come along
• The difference between "how was your day" and a question that opens someone up
• What happens after a year of one real question a week
• Why couples married thirty and forty years still learn something new

FULL EPISODE

How Family Board Meetings Can Level Up Your Family Life:

https://frontrowdads.com/389

The thing you keep telling your kid to stop doing might be exactly what they're built for.

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Giovanni Marsico has spent his career helping people find and use their gifts, and in this Quick Cut from 2024, he turns that lens on parenting. He starts somewhere uncomfortable: under stress, parents fall back on how they were raised, and the fastest word to come out is stop. Stop with the questions. Stop being so loud. Stop being so much.

He knows it from the other side. At sixteen, he was producing events, a thousand people at his first party, and what he heard at home was don't do that party thing. The trait underneath the annoyance was the career.

Then he catches himself in the same trap in real time, mid-story, with his own endlessly questioning kid. It closes with his eleven-year-old's soccer lesson becoming the family's mantra for the year, get open, which is proof that the learning in a family runs both directions.

IN THIS EPISODE

• Why stressed parents default to how they were raised
• The thousand-person party, and being told to stop doing it
• "Stop with the questions," and the moment Gio caught himself
• The reframe: the annoying trait is usually the gift, undeveloped
• How "get open" went from a soccer field to the family's phrase for the year
• Kids co-creating the family culture, and why it makes them feel powerful

FULL EPISODE

Manufacturing Serendipity, Sharing Your Superhero Powers: https://frontrowdads.com/423

Four men. Same question. Two completely different answers: is it powering through strength, or is it avoidance?

Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Sign up at frontrowdads.com/experience.

We pulled four opposing takes from across ten years of the archive and let them collide.

Brian Johnson opens with the case for hardship: it is supposed to be hard, and the only way to build real trust in yourself is doing what you said you would do, especially when you don't feel like it.

Stefanos Sifandos complicates it. The thing you are avoiding is usually the thing you most need to do, and if your drive is sourced from an old wound, it will not hold. His buffalo runs into the storm rather than away from it, together, because that is how you get through faster.

Nik Hulewsky takes the other side. After losing his son, man up stopped working, and it was his wife telling him to go see somebody that changed everything.

Then Josh Trent turns the question over: we call a 150-hour week courage, and we do not count facing what you feel as hard at all.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• "It's supposed to be hard": antifragile confidence and doing what you say you'll do
• Why the thing you're avoiding is usually the thing you most need to do
• Where your drive is sourced from, and why one built on an old wound won't hold
• The buffalo that runs into the storm rather than away from it, together, to get through faster
• "The solution isn't always power through it or be a man": when help is the strong move
• The courage nobody celebrates: facing what you actually feel

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WANT THE FULL STORY?

All four come from full episodes worth your time:

- Brian Johnson on heroism and training for the 21st century: https://frontrowdads.com/412

- Stefanos Sifandos on facing fears and letting go of the past: https://frontrowdads.com/344

- Nik Hulewsky on the four advantages for entrepreneurs: https://frontrowdads.com/453

- Josh Trent on the H.A.L.T. framework (hungry, angry, lonely, tired): https://frontrowdads.com/327

Quick test: how do you deal with your neediness? If you just cringed, you found your enemy emotion.

(Want a taste of what Front Row Dads is actually like? Come sit in on a live Brotherhood Experience. It's 60 minutes on Zoom with Jon and a few other dads, free, and it's the easiest way to find out whether a room like this is for you. You don't have to share, and you don't have to prepare. Dates and sign up at https://frontrowdads.com/experience)

Psychiatrist Dr. Laura Dabney has spent her career working with successful men who buried three feelings so deep they stopped recognizing them: neediness, anger, and sadness. In this Deep Cut from the vault (recorded in 2019), she maps what each one turns into when it goes underground: neediness becomes compulsive giving, sadness becomes relentless positivity and joking, and anger becomes the blowup you swore you'd never have. Jon goes first: the punched wall, the need for validation he'd been dressing up as contribution, the positivity that was really sadness-avoidance. Then Dabney lays out the way back: accept the feeling, catch yourself invalidating it, journal with a purpose, and start with you before you manage everyone else's reaction. It ends with the story of a patient who couldn't ask a woman on a date and now sends her postcards of his four kids.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• The cringe test for finding your enemy emotion
• What buried neediness, anger, and sadness each turn into
• "Winning, but you don't realize the price you're paying on the flip side"
• Why being sad in front of people isn't selfish, and why that word is a trap
• Journaling with a purpose: practicing the right thing instead of rehearsing the wrong one
• The turnaround story: from suicidal and stuck at home to married with four kids

WANT THE BOOKS?

The book list we mention in this episode: over 100 books Front Row Dads recommends, the ones that changed how these guys operate at home and at work. Free at frontrowdads.com/books

WANT THE FULL STORY?

The full conversation also covers stopping anger before it becomes a blow-up, why men funnel every emotion into sex, and the boundary conversation that saved a military man's marriage. Hear the whole thing: "How Men Deal With Neediness, Anger and Sadness with Dr. Laura Dabney" : https://frontrowdads.com/74