Hanging Out 4ever

We're not engaged yet, but we have finally decided we are ready to take our relationship to the next level and get married!

Some people say 10 years is too long but it was the right timing for us. In this episode we discuss why 10 years was the perfect amount of time and why after years of tough conversations, not seeing eye to eye, and overcoming resentment, we finally feel like we're ready.

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-Grant & Aja

Saying women’s pleasure is a MYTH when your wife tells you she’s unsatisfied is actually insane. Sir, she is giving you NOTES. 😭

This week’s Bestie-Mail centers marriage dilemmas and we're here for it!
You know Grant and Aja love love and love helping folks make better decisions in their relationships, set boundaries and be vocal about their needs and this episode calls for alladat.

These Besties need help navigating their situations!

Here are this week’s mail:

• My Husband Is Terrible at Sex, and I’m Thinking About Leaving
• Should I Propose Before I Can Afford Her Dream Ring?
• My Boyfriend Wants a Baby and Keeps Flirting With Other Women

As you dive in ask yourself:

Would you be wrong for fantasizing about your exes and considering leaving your husband after 12 years of terrible sex, even if you love the life you’ve built together? Or does how a person treats you during sex uncover thier TRUE intentions 👀

Should a man wait until he can afford a dream engagement ring, or propose now so everyone you love can be there?

And if you're dating someone who is talking about marriage and babies TWO MONTHS in while still entertaining other people, would you consider even planning a future with them? 👀

Lock in, Besties because Grant and I have a lot to say, and we need to hear what y’all think. 👀

Let’s talk in the comments.

Thank you to the Besties who trusted us with their stories. ❤️

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-Grant & Aja

Apparently, you can just PAY to go to a stranger's wedding now, and yall, I'm about to RSVP!

In this episode, Aja sits down with Jeff and Karina, the married couple behind Not a Wedding Crasher, who turned running out of date night ideas into a business that lets complete strangers attend your wedding.

And after 22 years together, these two know a thing or two about marriage. We get into everything from keeping romance alive to surviving an eight-month separation, building a business together, and learning how to love the different versions of your partner.

So besties, find something cute to wear and grab your plus-one because we're crashing a wedding! Who's coming with us?!

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-Grant & Aja

Dr. Nigel Marcellus is back on Hanging Out 4ever, and this time we're getting into some of YOUR relationship drama!

We're reading Bestie-Mail sent in from Dr. Nigels community and talking about Black love, interracial dating, whether you can be pro-Black with a white partner, navigating sexual fetishes, going through your partner's phone, and sharing locations in relationships.

And we're getting into some conversations that might ruffle a few feathers.

Besties, we'd LOVE to know your thoughts on interracial dating dynamics and if that changes your opinion of a person.

Let us know

Grant & Aja

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Baby, where the hell is my husband?!

In this episode, Aja sits down with comedian and content creator Kali Scott to discuss her journey of trying to find a husband and one of the hardest cities in the nation to find love, LA.

If you're from LA you get it. If you're not, you're about to find out.

We get into everything from dating serial liars to teen pregnancy to self-worth.

So call your job and tell him you're gonna be late or listen to this episode on the clock because it's a good one!

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-Grant & Aja

First off YES LEAVE YOUR FIANCÉE! It's a no brainer and when y'all hear the story, YOU WILL AGREE.

The theme of this weeks Bestie-Mail is GIVE THEM THE BOOT.
Because not everyone deserves to stay in your life and at some point, you have to be smart enough, strong enough and ready to make that decision.

So lock in, it's that time again to give the good people of the Hanging Out 4ever community some guidance.

Grant and I agree, everyone needs THE BOOT! but do yall agree? let us know 👀

Here are the letters Aja & Grant read:

• I Want To Break Up With My Christian Boyfriend
• My Cousin Wants My Boyfriend
• My Fiancée's Sons Threaten My Daughter

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Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.

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-Grant & Aja

This week we’re Hanging Out with Dr. Nigel Marcellus, who has a PhD in communication and studied Black love, relationships and how we experience love.

Nigel has shares how and why he has never been in an official relationship and that he's been abstinent for 9 years. So obvs, we talk about sex, abstinence and modern dating from a man’s perspective. We get into the pressure men feel around sex, masculinity, emotional safety, vulnerability and intimacy.

We also get into self-worth, losing yourself trying to be what someone else wants, what men are looking for in relationships and why knowing what a healthy relationship looks like doesn’t necessarily make dating any easier.

Aja and Grant talk to Nigel about his work, his experiences with dating and what it’s like to study love while still figuring out relationships for yourself.

Besties, let us know how you feel about this episode. Could you go 9 years without sex? And what do you think men and women misunderstand most about each other when it comes to dating?

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-Grant & Aja

This week the Besties had us talking about loyalty, breakups and HIGH standards. Because apparently keeping your boyfriend's friends' ex-girlfriends as friends is enough to get the entire friend group to hate you 😭

But the real question is... if your friends hate your partner, whose side are you supposed to be on?

Here are the letters Aja & Grant read:

• My Boyfriend's Friends Hate Me
• We Broke Up... But I Want Him Back
• Are My Standards Too High?

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Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.

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This is a BIG ONE YALL.

Most people have heard about Abigail Porter, aka The Girl With The List, the internets most iconic and influential child free person with over almost 350 reasons to never have children. If you've seen her, you know its her mission to inform women on the risks and dangers of pregnancy told from the perspectives of moms around the world who have dealt with life altering complications of complete loss of self identity.

In this episode Aja asks Abigail all about her mormon upbringing, leaving the church at 16, how her career has impacted her relationship with her family and of course, Abigails choice to never have children.

Should I be a mom? or Should I have a kid? Will I regret having kids? These are some of the most difficult questions that women struggle with so of course we talk about the realities of pregnancy, postpartum and the expectation that women are supposed to enjoy being moms, even if they don't.

Besties, let us know how you feel about this episode and if you have kids and regret it OR if you're thinking about having kids and arent sure if its the right choice.

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-Grant & Aja

This is another Bestie-mail episode for the books..

There's a lot of kinks and fetishes in the world and most of them I don't judge and hell even the one we discussed in this episode I don't judge but the way he went about it was INSANE. And now pregnancy will never be the same for her.

I guess the theme in this episode would be family. Here are the letters Aja & Grant read

1. My Mom Hates Me
2. My Husband is Obsessed with my Body
3. I'm Pregnant at 17

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Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
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P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀

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Besties, our most asked question is "what is it like dating interracially?" but our second???!!

"How have y'all been together for NINE years?"

So we're finally answering it.

This week we're talking about what actually keeps a long-term relationship healthy, from communication and trust to keeping the spark alive, learning your partner, and why some couples grow together while others slowly drift apart.

If you're dating, in a long-term relationship, or single wanting insight to help your dating journey, this episode will give y'all a few things to take into your own relationship/lives

Let us know what you think and how you've stayed in love with your partner over the years!

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-Grant & Aja

WE'RE BACK WITH ANOTHER EPISODE OF BESTIE-MAIL

Yes, this is later than our normal release time. Aja had jury duty. It sucked. but anywhooo,

We're back with more dilemmas, more drama, and more people who need advice from us and you.

Lets lock in because these are... interesting
This week we've got
1. A couple who are exploring polyamory 👀
2. A Black girl who'se white boyfriend is racist 😭
3. A badass Queen, who doesnt wanna change her last name once she's married.

Whip out your glasses and notebook, we're all therapists on this episode.
and Besties, we def need to hear your thoughts on this one.
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Besties, in this week’s episode, Aja invites you into the Ladies Lounge for a serious conversation about dating a guy other men would classify as a “simp.”

Unfortunately, there’s a dominant narrative that men who “simp” for their women are weak or emasculated, and Aja is here to argue the opposite.

Let’s break down what the term simp really means and how a popularized, often misused phrase has been weaponized against men who actually give a sh*t about their girlfriends, partners, and wives.

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Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

and theres a BIG DILEMMA about pregnancy and childbirth that we NEED to talk about

Theres a lot to unpack, grab a glass of wine, put on a robe and put on a facemask. We gotta help these people out.

Here what we jump into today:

• My Girlfriend Cheated on Me
• My Husband Doesnt Care if I Die
• WIBTA if I Cut My Sister Out of My Life

Here are some highlights and thoughts out of context:
If more women knew about the perils of pregnancy less woman would do it without first educating themselves.
Cheating is never a mistake!
People who abuse children DO NOT CHANGE

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.
Apply to be on our dating show, click here.

P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Hey Besties!

In a previous episode we shared how breaking up saved our relationship and we got a TON of questions on the real reason we broke up, a lot of y'all were wondering about the "Why?" so in this episode we talk about what happened that made Aja break up with Grant.

We get into, why we broke up, how jarring that was, Grants lack of confidence/self belief and how his self image became a snowball effect of how our breakup unfolded and the big decision that made us both realize we wanted to keep trying.

Grants life was falling apart and that blindsided Aja. But the falling apart made everything fall into place and we wouldn't be here without it. Lets talk about how f***ed everything was and what was the turning point to make Aja choose Grant again, and for them both to choose each other again, 4ever.

Let us know if yall have ever gone through a break up that was really just a reset and share your why!

To submit your own listener letters, click here.
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If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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-Grant & Aja

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

And in this episode DL.

Y'all this one has us shaking in our boots, because WHAT DO YOU MEAN your ex boyfriend was DL and now his man wants to fight you??

Theres so many things to unpack, we need to find a therapist and sit on their couch because this one was a doozy 😭

Here what we jump into today:

• I Found Out My BF is DL!
• My BestFriend Is Choosing Her BF Over Me
• My Ex's Boyfriend Want's To Fight Me

Here are some of our thoughts out of context:
Boob guys are weird, you cant have healthy friendships with women who are men obsessed, and ALWAYS check your partner phone if you're suspicious! 👀

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.
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P.S LET US KNOW HOW YOU KNOW SOMEONE IS HIDING SOMETHING SUSS!👀

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

Why are we always fighting? Why is everything always a problem with you? Why can’t you just be happy?

In this episode we get into conflict, resolution and how to get to the other side of an argument with your partner.

Somebody has to be the one bringing up the hard topics and that’s not always easy, especially when you want things to work.

Sometimes in relationships, we fight to be understood, heard, valued and seen and we get into all of that in this episode.

Friendly reminder: just because you bring up that things could be better in your relationship, does not mean that nothing is ever good enough, it’s okay to want things to be better and as close to perfect as possible.

If you’ve ever felt like this, chime in!

If you have a story you want to submit to us, click here.

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-Grant & Aja

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 !

And in this episode the men tell all.

We need to remember men are people with feelings and today they’ve stopped by to share. Bodyshaming, divorce and dead beat baby daddies- OH MY

Put your counselor caps on because we’re gonna dive in, break these stories down and give some advice.

Here what we jump into today:

• AITA for wanting to divorce my wife?
• My baby daddy makes me feel TRAPPED
• My wife HATES my body and I don’t know what to do.

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.

P.S LET AJA KNOW IF SHE SHOULD BREAK UP WITH GRANT TO INCREASE THE YEARN 👀

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-Grant & Aja

Addiction but make it comedy!

This week we talked to the one and only Juicy Mawma, comedian, content creator and 3 years sober girly- about her journey through sobriety, what partying in LA looked like for her, doing coke, drinking, and the realization that the lifestyle she was living was affecting every area of her life, including the men she was choosing to date.

If you are on a journey through addiction towards sobriety, this episode is definitely for you.

Remember, life is hard besties and we all have our vices, but that does not mean that we need to be controlled by them.

Stay cute, stay cool, stay safe, get sober, be juicy!

@JuicyMawma

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-Grant & Aja

Listener Letters

Besties, we've officially increased the Listener Letter episodes to twice a month, due to popular demand!
We've got some dilemmas here that we need to address and they are certainly things that a lot of people go through.. Well, except for the last one, that one is pretty unique.

As always, we get into it!
But FR for real we actually need to talk about how society raises women to date based on potential and not actualized partnership.

Here are the stories we jump into today:

• It's been 6 years and my BF isn't pulling his weight
• My ex was murdered and my boyfriend doesnt understand my gried
• My daughter has an OnlyFans, am I a bad dad??

Thank you to the Besties who wrote in and were vulnerable enough to share their stories.
To submit your own listener letters, click here.

If you wanna watch our live reactions to this episode (which you should 👀), catch us on YouTube!

Comment Your Thoughts!

Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja

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Besties, let us know what y'all think on this one!

-Grant & Aja