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Meet Nick, who went to Berlin for a bachelor party, and had his very first Folsom experience.

What happens at Folsom Berlin? What happens at Lab.Oratory?
Have a listen, and you’ll get an inkling.

“It’s a little overwhelming” says Dan Savage.

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A bisexual woman has started dating a lady for the first time. She doesn't feel much sexual spark. Is it because of the baggy, unflattering clothes her girlfriend wears?

Is it ever appropriate to ask your doctor out? Your nurse? A woman wrings her hands over the ethics of leaving a thank-you note with her phone number on it for Max, the hot radiologist.

On the Magnum, it's everybody's favorite gay former Mormon humor writer, Eli McCann! His new novel "Stitched" is on the NYT bestsellers list. And because there's Mormonism in the air, we got two calls from listeners about the Latter Day Saints. One is from a woman in her late 20s, newly divorced and free from the church. She wants to know how to embrace her sexuality. And another is from a mother whose daughter has Mormon friends, and they are trying to woo her into the hive. The mother is horrified. Should she be?

A non-binary AFAB person has no desire to try to pass as a man. But they like pretending they have a small dick, and then have their boyfriend degrade and insult them.They both like it when he uses transphobic slurs as part of their dirty talk and role play. Cool?

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Deep in rural Sweden, the tantric kinksters are getting FREAKY.

At the “Sexsibility Festival” a 5-day erotic gathering where you can explore tantra, contact improv, and eye gazing along with impact play workshops, there’s a lot to do and see. But everybody’s still gotta eat, right?

Enter Pearse, who cooked breakfast for over 500 participants.

He says it looks similar to Midsommar but without the murder. Hear what he did there, and most importantly, what he learned about… himself.

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A 25 year-old queer, plus-size woman has never been in a relationship or had sex. Both her size and virginity make it hard to connect with people through the apps. How can she break through these barriers and get some lovin' already?

A married woman for 18 years with kids is sick to death of her life. She wants to chuck the family, move to another town and have a ton of new sex. But she loves her family! How can she scratch this dangerous itch?

On the Magnum, meet the Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute! Dan and Dr. Justin Garcia have a wide-ranging conversation about what the Kinsey Institute is, evolutionary biology, the cause of the sex recession and more. When asked what's the most expensive service one can buy at a legal brothel in Las Vegas, Dr. Garcia's answer may ...shock you.

A cuckquean wants to figure out a way to get evidence of the hook-ups her boyfriend is enjoying while traveling. Can she ask for video without intruding too much?

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What’s it like to be a bearded, 6’4″, 250 pounc fella getting his nails done in preparation for the first crossdressing session with his wife?

Dust off your gender studies 101 textbook and find out.

Tell us about your…transgressions.
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A divorced father of adult children understood himself to be bisexual later in life. He digs men in an aromantic, casual sex kind of way. Is he obligated to tell his family? Does his connections with men fall under private sex life or public identity?

A woman went to a sex party and met a hot female bouncer who throws out misbehaving guests. The caller wants to ask her to be her dom. Should she? How?

On the Magnum, Dan and sex researcher Niki Davis-Fainbloom do a deep dive on fetishes. What's the difference between kinks and fetishes? What causes people to get into them- is it cultural or biological? Is the destigmatization of kink making it less hot? Listen in.

And, a straight man matched with the woman who works at his local dry cleaners. He thinks she might be trouble- texting him from the bar at 1:30, maybe driving drunk. Should he avoid her or get a little hanky-panky from a hot, messy lady?

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Imogen was a seasoned Burning Man pro. But she’d never done a threeway with whippets there before…

Hear all about her dusty experience.

What have YOU done lately? Hmmmm?
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A gay man in his 60s is perplexed about foot fetishes, and what is so damn sexy about his feet.

A man is frustrated by the concept of "false positives" when he tests for herpes. What on earth is going on here? Dan brings on the delightful and calming Dr. Ina Park to explain the whole testing situation.

On the Magnum, it's a bisexuality brawl with sex therapist Claire Perelman! Dan and Claire talk about the bisexual's plight in dating, and how to overcome the stigma.

And a gay man and his boyfriend are moving in together. The boyfriend owns his apartment and asks the caller to pitch in toward a vacation fund in lieu of paying rent. Is this equitable?

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What's in the duffel bag?

On her vacation to Bali, she hooked up with a hot, rich dude with a glass house in the jungle.

But, what tricks did he have up his sleeve?

After a bad experience at home, Julia had a re-discovery of her best sexual self.

Have a listen.

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We begin the show...drunkenly. A lit lady enjoys the sensation of touching ears. Room temperature, or slightly chilled. Not too cold. But "ear porn?" Is that a thing?

A lucky fella won a three-month free entry to his local bathhouse. Whatever should he do when he's in there?

Our guest this week is Allen Sulkin, creator of the new podcast "Gerbil." He and Dan analyze the persistence of the insane sex myth that you've probably heard about. Do people still believe it? They go into the dark motivations that allowed such a preposterous rumor to live on and on. Gerbil is out now, and you should drop everything to listen to it.

And, should a woman demand her fiancé continue the painful, expensive tattoo removal from a previous marriage?

People. Make good choices.

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Just how polite are Canadians?

Meet Owen, a Canuck whose good manners went above and beyond when he visited the red light district in Amsterdam.

Name a lake after this guy!

Tell us your story, right away!
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Grapefruiting! It's a new sex act involving fruit! Can *any* word be verbed? Apparently!

A woman wonders how anyone can successfully fake an orgasm, when the physical contractions should be noticeably felt.

On the Magnum, Dan brings on a guest to definitively answer the question you all have: How long must you wait to masturbate after you've had a heart attack? Dr. Eugene Fan is a cardiologist with nothing but good news for you horndogs. As long as your heart is beating, you can beat off. He and Dan discuss a couple of heart health issues with the charming and reassuring Dr. Fan.

And, is piss an acquired taste? Because this woman just doesn't like it.

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

No words exchanged. He lying in a hotel bed. She enters and just watches. It was their first and only date.

Rachel’s story proves that scheduled sex most certainly CAN be hot.

Hear her story, get turned on.

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Bummer! A man had just met with a male-female couple who wanted him to take part in a kinky three-way. But when he confessed that he sometimes has trouble coming, they cancelled. Can he train himself to blow a load? Need he?

Speaking of loads, a woman credits her beautiful, supple skin to the facial treatments her husband obligingly administers. Can this be true? Any dermatologists care to weigh in?

On the Magnum, Dan chats with filmmaker, actor and fetish content creator Julian Shaw. He wrote and directed the thriller Use Me, co-directs the documentary Acting Hard, and is the subject of Cam Boy, a documentary currently in production. He was the face of Australia's gay marriage fight, and had to "come out'" as straight. He and Dan cover a lot of ground in this convo about foot fetishes, the benefits and perils of sex work, the ethics of dating guys on the DL, and how to avoid stomach aches.

Finally, a gay man in Italy asks if wearing a jockstrap tells the world that he is a bottom.

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Meet Tom who went on a very special vacation with his girlfriend.

Packing checklist:

Kink outfits

Consent Form

Waste bag

How did it go? You'll find out.

Send us your stories, your wonderful stories!

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A man has been together with his boyfriend for 10 years. The caller works long hard hours and values peace and quiet when he comes home. But his boyfriend works from home all day and pounces on his husband, wanting to chat and interact. Dan was in a similar situation, but don't tell Dan's husband how he dealt with it.

A divorced woman with children has been dating a man. Both are in open relationships, and he wears a wedding ring. Her kids don't yet know about ethical non-monogamy and her family disapproves, making this year's Rosh Hashanah dinner extra spicy.

Our guest is the intrepid comedian Zach Noe Towers who sailed away on the gay ship that got turned away by homophobic country after homophobic country. He and Dan go Deep Gay on the scent of man, and whether uncircumcised dicks slip in easier. A little is on the Micro, and the uncut version is on the Magnum.

And, a 35 year-old gay man connected with a guy via dating app, who seemed pretty darn cool. But when he learned the man was in his 60s, he politely rejected him. The guy accused our caller of being ageist. Is he?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Cat started a sex toy company, so she had to come out as kinky to friends and family. What she didn’t expect was the stampede of her mother’s boomer friends asking for product…

Do you have a story of something you tried that was like, so embarrassing??!!Let us hear it: Q@Savage.Love

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Any military lawyers in the house? A gay man and his boyfriend, both serving active duty, want to open their relationship. But infidelity is forbidden by military law. How risky would this be?

Now that chastity play its all the rage, should we assume that a key necklace means something deeply kinky? And if so, should we knowingly wink when we see one?

Sex/science nerds rejoice! Our Magnum guest this week is Distinguished Research Professor Dr. Lixing Sun, who wrote On the Origin of Sex. Dan and Dr. Sun discuss the deep biological underpinnings of sex: when and why did pleasure emerge in reproduction? Why hasn't homosexuality been selected against? And why don't we just reproduce like sponges?

And, a woman no longer drinks, but her boyfriend still does. When he comes home reeking of beer and cigarettes, she feels repulsed by him. How can she explain that drinking a pitcher and getting laid that night are now mutually exclusive events?

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

Hey Everybody! Meet Jay- a pan, poly furry who, along with 15 other queer furries, met up for a "kink tasting, orgy event."

What goes on at kink cabin? We won't say here, but please know that an inflatable horse costume was involved.

Also, Dan brings a much needed Marxist interrogation to the story.

If you have a tale to share, write it up and send it in to Q@Savage.Love