Sniffies' Cruising Confessions

Whether we give it credit or not, p*rn shapes our world. It changes how we think about intimacy, connection, and arousal — for better or worse.

We've had plenty of p*rn stars on the show. But we've never had a former p*rn star.

This episode explores the industry's shift to a creator-first model, how p*rn has always been a teacher for the community, and what it means for HIV stigma, new partners, and the art of the thing itself. How do creators define what they do? What is your favorite performer insecure about? And yes — we're absolutely going to ask about his Saturday Night Live sketch.

Our guest is Ty Mitchell: former performer, fantastic writer, and thinker. We also get to hear about his recent deep dive into the goon–iverse.

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Finding a doctor is easier said than done. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a gay doctor, so where does an ethical slut get actual good medical advice these days? This episode explores how to find a primary care provider or specialist when it comes to sexual health.

How do you overcome the fear of being judged, especially when healthcare options are already limited by insurance and access? We ask all the dumb questions so you don’t have to.

Giving fabulous insight once again is primary care provider Jake Collins PA-C.

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We've all got 'em. We've all sent 'em. Some of us, maybe to the wrong person. This episode is about n*des — the currency of the apps — and the surprisingly rich etiquette surrounding intimate photos.

We're walking through the psychology of sending (and withholding), the highly subjective Do's and Don'ts of composing them, and the eternal question: What makes a good one? What makes a catastrophic one? And what are the funniest nudes that have ever been sent to us? And are nudes art? An ethereal journey?

Comedian Honey Pluton joins us with strong opinions and also, weirdly, spiritual advice.

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What does sexual responsibility look like to you? In the age of PrEP, PEP, testing, and contact tracing, there are more tools than ever to help us protect ourselves and our partners — but as we learned in our Puerto Rico episode, stigma and political barriers can still get in the way.

How has sexual responsibility evolved beyond condoms and abstinence? How can community care keep us safer? And how do we navigate the shame and judgment that can come with basic sexual health?

Answering questions is primary care provider Jake Collins PA-C.

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Beaches, Bad Bunny, a quick gaycation escape — these are things we think of when we think of Puerto Rico, but it's so much more than that. PR is one of the richest queer communities in the world, so Sniffies is on the ground in San Juan with this extra special travel episode.

We dive deep into the world's oldest colony: health disparities, political movements, activism, nightlife, and perreando. How do Puerto Ricans cruise, party, and thrive on their own terms?

Our guests are Vico Ortiz and Ane Hernandez, hosts of the bilingual podcast “Mucho Mucho Amor,” who join us with all the context and joy this conversation deserves.

Plus, we conduct some field reporting talking to queer Puerto Ricans on the street!

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Inspired by our Cruising 401 episode, we dig deeper into the history of HIV prevention and how it’s progressed into the age of PrEP and the Undetectable=Untransmittable movement. Whether you’re weighing your prevention options or navigating the world as a person living with HIV, there’s never been a better time to be an ethical slut.

Do people living with HIV have an obligation to disclose their status to sexual partners? How is the history of U=U entwined with prevention activism?

Back in the studio is infectious disease physician Dr. Demetre Daskalakis.

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Cruising has changed. We all know this. But how much do we actually know about what it looked like before Sniffies, before the internet — before all of it?

This episode takes a historical deep dive into the art of cruising: the highlights, the fun facts, and the turning points — including how HIV/AIDS reshaped everything in the 1980s. What's been gained and what's been lost? Do our ancestors turn over in their graves knowing we're out here swiping instead of prowling? And has PrEP really opened the door to go full analogue again?

We discuss Peter Staley, Frank Cameny, ACT UP, Mattachine Society, and other big moments cruising informed the gay liberation movement. Our guide through all of this is historian Eric Cervini, and yes, he has receipts.

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STIs don't discriminate, yet why do we think gay guys are the only ones who get them? This episode digs into why info on HIV prevention isn't always distributed equally.

Why are trans men and women often overlooked in HIV prevention? How do race, class, and educational access shape who gets information about PrEP? And what can we do to make sexual-health education more inclusive and less stigmatized?

Answering these questions with us is nationally recognized infectious disease physician Dr. Demetre Daskalakis.

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Trans women and gay men have been sharing space since the very beginning — and whether you're on Sniffies, at the club, or on Fire Island, the overlap has never been more real.

This episode dives deep into an increasingly de-homogenized community: the history of gay and trans spaces, how that's changed today, and what cruising, nightlife, and safe sex look like when our worlds collide. How do our similarities and differences shape our desires, our health, and our ability to thrive?

Joining us is the writer and nightlife producer Kay Gabriel, who helps us think through all of it with the depth and nuance it deserves.

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Why does an STI take a certain amount of time to show up on a test? And why do I have to conduct what feels like investigative reporting to make sense of the timeline? This episode gets into the nitty gritty of seroconversion, contact tracing, PrEP, and PEP.

Look no further for your guide to understanding how far back one must go when dealing with a testing scare or risk of exposure. It’s a lot easier than you think!

Dr. Demetre Daskalakis returns to talk about little known facts about “seroconversion,” the 101 of contact tracing and more.

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Gay men are perhaps the most aesthetic community out there: gym routines, filler, hair plugs, veneers, BBLs, skincare, holetox, steroids, and even surgery. This episode dives into the “looksmaxing” of it all, and other trends that inform (or infect) our community.

Is everyone who gets cosmetic surgery insecure? Are you toxic for having a really strict gym regimen? How do we draw the line between affirming aesthetic body modification and unhealthy impulses informed by cultural pressure?

Answering these questions with us are two guests: nurse practitioner “Injector Chris” and therapist Benjamin Goldman.

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What are all these swabs for? Haven’t we been swabbed enough! This sweeping episode asks some silly questions about various kinds of STI tests and what those different swabs and samples can actually tell us. In the words of Aquaria, any hole is a goal!

As a follow-up to our episode about cum, we’re on the journey of a fluid’s various paths. What are throat and rectal swabs looking for? Are different parts of the body associated with different STI risks? And how has the history of HIV stigma shaped the way we think about anal sex and transmission?

Answering these questions with us is Callen-Lorde’s own Dr. Demetre Daskalakis.

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It happened. We finally did an entire episode about c*m.

This episode dives into everything about c*m that you could possibly want to know — and perhaps more you didn’t even know you wanted. Gabe and Chris talk about viscosity, taste, nutritional value, the science of semen, the politics of finishing, and something called “c*m math.” This episode is deeply funny about the phenomenon of c*mming and also totally serious about what it means to gay culture.

Joining us in the studio are the illustrious hosts of the Sloppy Seconds podcast Big Dipper and Meatball, exchanging crazy stories and learning a thing or two while we’re at it!

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Sniffies’ Cruising Confessions returns for season 4! The show about sex, desire, cruising, and queer relationships is back weekly with hosts Gabe Gonzalez and Chris Patterson‑Rosso bringing a new class of esteemed sluts and local sexperts into the studio. This season talks about the commingling of gay men and dolls, the aesthetic pressures of “looksmaxxing,” what retiring from porn is like, and the etiquette of nudes. Gabe and Chris also travel to San Juan and cruise the Atlanta nightlife scene to meet fellow cruisers.

This season’s guests include Kay Gabriel, Eric Cervini, Honey Pluton, Benjamin Goldman, Chris Bustamante, Ty Mitchell, Meatball, Big Dipper, Vico Ortiz, Ane Hernandez, and Taylor Alxndr.

Premiering Sep 22!

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At Sniffies, there’s only one thing that gets us harder than the promise of anonymous sex: nostalgia. So for our very special 2025 Year-End Special, Gabe and Chris welcome the riotously funny Macy Rodman and Theda Hammel of the hilarious Nymphowars podcast to look back at their favorite queer cultural moments of 2025, most of which revolve around Lady Gaga. Then, in act two, the gang digs through data to learn what Sniffies’ Cruisers were up to this year, including how many pump and dumps took place, which US city was the horniest and which international destination is really, really into armpits . Ready for a recap that will make you hard? Just push play.

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For the final episode of season three, Gabe and Chris explore just what makes locker rooms such exciting spaces to cruise, with the help of the very fit and very funny comedian Jay Jurden. Like many queer people, Jay recalls being attracted to other guys while changing in his high school locker room. But it wasn’t until he became an in-demand trainer at New York’s cruisiest gym that Jay got a front-row seat for sexual shenanigans hotter than anything on Pornhub. To celebrate his debut Hulu comedy special, “Yes, Maam”, Jay cracks our hosts up with stories about what he’s witnessed in locker rooms over the years, what bodily fluid he told Anderson Cooper he should drink to get swole, and his expert advice for cruising in the locker room.

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Gay culture is constantly sending us messages that big dicks are the most desirable thing a person could have, but activist Phil Miner says there are lots of people who are turned on by small or average-sized penises, and even more people who could develop confidence about their own size with Phil’s new six-week “Package Acceptance Program”. In this episode Gabe, Chris and Phil talk about average and smaller sized dicks, rejection, and embracing the concept of body neutrality. Then, the hosts and a competitor in NYC’s first “Mx. Small Penis Contest” reflect on the positive and, yes, uplifting nature of a pageant where contestants were teased and then given prizes for having the smallest dicks in the Big Apple.

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Sammy Sins’ mom developed Parkinson’s Disease when they were still very young. But the lessons Sammy learned taking care of her were crucial to their job as a sex worker and content creator years later. In this episode, Chris and Gabe sit down with Sammy to talk about some of these unique discoveries, and the links between sex work, caregiving, and authenticity. Plus, how Sammy feels about code-switching as a non-binary creator, the emotional toll of churning out content, and how PrEP and DoxyPEP kept them safe while touring their K-Pop Dance party BIAS through Asia.

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The first time Alex Espinoza got cruised, he felt as if a “mutant power” had been awakened inside him. This new internal radar helped him find secret sex spaces where he uncovered another hidden strength: his dick gave him power over men who might have otherwise rejected a queer Latino man with a disability. Using his special gifts, Alex was able to build his self-confidence and dispel the feelings of shame he says are common for queer people from immigrant families. It also gave him plenty of material for his hit 2019 book “Cruising: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastime”. In this episode, Alex teaches Gabe, Chris, and our listeners what he’s learned from a lifetime of cruising, and offers practical tips for queer cruisers of color and queer cruisers with disabilities. School is now in session. It’s time for CRUISING 301.

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In 2019, Rhyheim Shabazz was just another horny LA slut having orgies on the regular. But when he started filming those orgies, the expressions on his bottoms’ faces were unlike anything he’d seen in porn. Rhyheim channelled that realization into a wildly successful career as an actor and director in the gay porn industry, and launched his own hit studio VOYR in 2023. In this episode, Rhyheim talks to Gabe and Chris about his stunning career trajectory, Brazilian boys, and yes, Chris’s ass. He also offers tips and tricks for aspiring content creators looking to follow in his footsteps.

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