The Fire You Carry

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!

Oct 26, 2026 56 min

293: The #1 Rule Firemen Break Every Single Day

Show notes

In this episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole and Kevin dive into the disciplines and realities of everyday preparedness—from what really belongs in your turnout pockets to why showing up right on time is actually late. They recap their experience broadcasting ringside at the Rose Bowl for Next Rung’s Battle for Mental Health, hanging out with former heavyweight champion Joe Hanks, and the mindset of first responders in the arena. Plus, fall seasonal debates, essential firehouse EDC, and kitchen standards.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!

Oct 19, 2026 40 min

292: It’s Not Going to Get Any Easier

Show notes

In this solo episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole reflects on the personal mantra that gets him through tough training sessions: "It’s not going to get any easier." While pushing through physical pain comes naturally on the fire station driveway, Nole gets vulnerable about how procrastination creeps into the areas of life that actually matter most, like delivering unexpected work schedule changes to his wife, Heather. Tune in as Nole breaks down the gap between physical grit and emotional discipline, the danger of keeping hard conversations waiting, and why every man needs a "cornerman" to help process life's toughest moments.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!

Oct 12, 2026 14 min

291: When Life Gets Heavy: Real Talk on Pride, Prayer, and Priorities

Show notes

Kevin and Nole reunite on The Fire You Carry. They kick things off with paramedic shifts under a full moon and memories from the station, before diving deep into the raw realities of leadership, pride, and marriage.

Kevin reflects on the power and community of the 6th Annual 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb at the LA County Firefighter Museum, while Nole shares a transparent look into a recent marital argument where pride nearly won out over prayer. Together, they break down the concept of "surrendering to win," realigning inverted priorities (Faith, Family, Fitness, Career, Service), and learning when to delegate and slow down at work and home.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Get tickets to The Battle For Mental Health Boxing Event!

https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/ticketing/2026-battle-for-mental-health

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!

Oct 5, 2026 49 min

290: From Writing for Thrasher to Running a Fire Station | Nate Denver

Show notes

In this episode of The Fire You Carry Podcast, Nole sits down with LA County Fire Captain Nate Denver. From bizarre childhood encounters with runaway chimpanzees wearing silver chains to touring in hardcore/death metal bands, writing for iconic publications like Thrasher and Slap, and navigating life as an LA County firefighter, Captain Denver shares a uniquely creative, disciplined, and eclectic life story.

They dive into the transition from hands-on engineer work to command-level leadership, the emotional and cathartic power of aggressive music, maintaining lifelong fitness routines (including cartwheels and seven-minute abs), and how an unexpected phone call from Limp Bizkit’s Wes Borland brought Nate to Southern California.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Get tickets to The Battle For Mental Health Boxing Event!

https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/ticketing/2026-battle-for-mental-health

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Back Shed Bible Study

Sep 28, 2026 1 hr 12 min

289: Moving from Success to Significance: Raising Sons Intentionally with Cliff Carey

Show notes

On this episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole sits down with his former youth pastor and longtime friend, Cliff Carey (Executive Pastor at Sunrise Community Church and host of The Backshed Bible Study).

Cliff and Nole take a trip down memory lane, reminiscing about growing up rugged at Hume Lake, hitting dirt berms in a Suburban, and the lessons learned along the way. But the heart of this conversation dives deep into the intentional calling of fatherhood: how to guide boys through their teenage years and launch them into Godly, capable men.

They break down the dangers of "snowplow parenting," the importance of letting kids face hard tasks and failure, practical frameworks for teaching life skills, and why our children need to see the real, uncompartmentalized version of who we are.

Key Takeaways & Episode Highlights

• The Hume Lake Days: Nole’s youth, the freedom of growing up in the mountains, and memories of crazy road trips with Cliff.
• Success vs. Significance: Shifting focus in your 50s toward leaving a lasting legacy in your children.
• Feedback from an Older Son: What Cliff learned when his college-age son told him what he wished he had learned at home.
• Intentional Breakfasts & Practical Roadmaps: Cliff’s strategy with his 15-year-old, focusing on knowing Jesus, knowing yourself, and becoming self-sufficient.
• Resisting "Snowplow Parenting": Why stepping back and letting boys struggle through physical chores and problem-solving builds true character.
• Modeling Over Lecturing: Why showing emotional honesty, healthy conflict resolution in marriage, and spiritual consistency matters far more than just talking about it.
• Dropping the Compartments: Why fathers, especially first responders and leaders, need to bring their genuine selves home rather than shutting down.

https://open.spotify.com/show/4u8xYpEipoeZl60bgRa6Q1?si=1592350a8f914140

• Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords
• Get tickets to The Battle For Mental Health Boxing Event!
https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/ticketing/2026-battle-for-mental-health

• The Fire You Carry on YouTube.

• Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
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The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
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Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Sep 21, 2026 1 hr 22 min

288: You Can’t Reload in the Line of Fire (The Anti-Misogi)

Show notes

We push hard, chase challenges, and pride ourselves on doing the hard things. But what happens when the challenge we actually need isn’t another heavy lift, but stepping away entirely?

In this solo episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole breaks down the concept of the “Anti-Misogi”: the deliberate, disciplined act of scheduling extended, distraction-free rest. It’s easy to believe that if you step away, the wheels will fall off. But whether you look at the physical realities of training, the biblical pattern of withdrawing into the wilderness, or the tactical necessity of taking cover to reload, one truth remains clear: you cannot pour from an empty cup.

Key Takeaways

• The Anti-Misogi: Why facing the quiet without screens, tasks, or noise can be more confronting than an extreme physical test.
• The Humility of Rest: Realizing that the email can wait, the mission continues, and stepping away won’t cause everything to crumble.
• Scriptural & Historical Precedent: The Sabbath requirement and why Jesus routinely walked away from pressing crowds into the wilderness.
• The Tactical Reload: Why you must move out of the line of fire to refill your magazine before you can re-engage.
• The Calendar Challenge: How to build non-negotiable wilderness time into your schedule, from daily quiet moments to extended multi-day retreats.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

Get tickets to The Battle For Mental Health Boxing Event!

https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/ticketing/2026-battle-for-mental-health

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Sep 14, 2026 20 min

287: The Man in the Arena | Scott Henderson

Show notes

What drives a 46-year-old career firefighter, husband, and father to voluntarily step into the boxing ring against an opponent ten years his junior?

In this episode, Pasadena firefighter and longtime friend of the show Scott Henderson returns to break down the physical grit, mental overhaul, and deeply personal reasons behind his latest "Misogi", an intentional, high-stakes trial of endurance and courage.

Scott details his intense solo training camp abroad in Dundalk, taking the train into the legendary Holy Trinity gym in West Belfast, and what it felt like to have his daughter walk him to the ring before taking home the Battle of the Badges title at Soboba.

We also preview the upcoming Battle for Mental Health boxing event taking over the Rose Bowl Court of Champions on Friday, October 9th. With 15 sanctioned bouts—including a clash between the FDNY and LAFD boxing teams, 100% of proceeds go directly to Next Rung to fund 24/7 peer support and mental health intervention for first responders across the nation.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

Get tickets to The Battle For Mental Health Boxing Event!

https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/ticketing/2026-battle-for-mental-health

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Sep 7, 2026 1 hr 8 min

286: For the Storm (Until It Actually Hits)

Show notes

It is easy to blast heavy music in an air-conditioned cab and declare that you were "born for the storm"; it is an entirely different battle when the storm actually shows up.

In this episode, Nole shares a humbling realization after giving a passionate family devotional about embracing trials, only to completely fall apart in frustration when faced with an uncomfortable task just hours later. Kevin and Nole dive into why we often excel at physical crucibles while struggling with emotional and spiritual adversity, the dangerous pull toward comfort and frictionless living, and what it truly means to be forged into a weapon in righteous hands.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

"Memorial Hoard" - Norma Jean

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f2eqWw2mx70&list=RDf2eqWw2mx70&start_radio=1

"Revelation" - Many Eyes (contains profanity)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pWJmS36gt4&list=RD5pWJmS36gt4&start_radio=1

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
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The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
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Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Aug 31, 2026 40 min

285: Squashing Beef, Running Miles, & Facing Mortality

Show notes

What keeps someone grinding when facing a terminal diagnosis? In this episode, Kevin shares a powerful morning jog with his 79-year-old biological father, who is currently battling Stage 4 cancer with a colostomy bag yet still hitting the pavement every day at 8:15 AM.

Nole and Kevin dive deep into the uncomfortable but necessary reality of mortality, examining why people choose to lean in rather than check out, how lifelong habits shape our final seasons, and the profound peace found in faith, presence, and letting go of old grudges. To wrap things up, Nole recaps a family trip to Arizona featuring "trashy" tacos, javelinas, and coatimundi sightings, followed by details on the upcoming 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Aug 24, 2026 45 min

284: The C.S. Lewis Quote That Will Change How You View Love

Show notes

Most movies, songs, and modern media teach us that love is an intense, passive feeling, and that when the feeling fades, the relationship is over. In this episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole and Kevin dive deep into what true love actually requires.

Anchored by a classic reflection from C.S. Lewis, they break down the critical difference between "being in love" and choosing to love through commitment, daily habits, and shared faith. They share real-world lessons from over 40 years of combined marriage, discuss the importance of proactive marital counseling, and explore how small daily sacrifices build a foundation strong enough to withstand life's biggest storms.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

"The Weight" - Thrice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC5JL54tHgA&list=RDCC5JL54tHgA&start_radio=1

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
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The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Aug 17, 2026 49 min

283: Surfing, "Tough Love," & Why We Stopped Hating California

Show notes

It might be 97 degrees in the recording studio, but Nole and Kevin are sitting down for an open conversation about mindset shifts, family dynamics, and setting hard boundaries.

In this episode, the guys discuss the temptation to complain about living in California and why shifting toward gratitude and contentment changes everything. They dive deep into the concept of "tough love," unpacking the difference between healthy parenting and codependent enabling. Finally, Kevin shares a raw, post-shift realization about coming home exhausted after three days on the squad and how we can better manage the "storms" in our households.

Plus, details on the upcoming 6th Annual 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb at the LA County Fire Museum.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/6th-annual-911-memorial-climb-25th-anniversary-sponsored-by-stairmaster-tickets-1992947168630?aff=oddtdtcreator&keep_tld=true

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Aug 10, 2026 1 hr

282: The Sardine Fast: Elimination Diets, Ketosis, and Firehouse Grunt Work

Show notes

Summer is in full swing, the sleeves are off, and the yard work is endless. This week, Nole and Kevin sit down to look back at how their perspectives of the fire academy have changed after 15 years in the county—shifting from anxious tension on the grinder to warm bro-hugs in the captain's office.

We also circle back to a massive conversation that sparked incredible listener feedback: Can you be a leader if you're overweight? We share a brilliant perspective sent in by our academy classmate, Captain Dave Tebo, that completely reframes the debate. It turns out the true test of leadership isn't just your BMI—it's the deeper root of personal discipline across every single area of your life.

Plus, we break down:

• The Viral "Sardine Fast": Nole and Kevin dive deep into the elimination diet taking over grocery store shelves. From Kevin’s history with clinical GI protocols to Nole and Diego Garcia eating kippers out on the station lawn so the crew doesn't mutiny, we talk about using small baitfish for fat loss, ketosis, and fighting inflammation.
• The Art of Coaching: The unique dynamics of coaching your kids, why gifted athletes often make horrific coaches, and the sheer joy of watching a lightbulb click when teaching someone how to throw Atlas stones.
• Media & Recommendations: A shoutout to Nole's childhood youth pastor, Cliff Carey, and his podcast Back Shed Bible Study, alongside a review of Cliff Graham's brutal, violent, and highly engaging historical fiction audiobook series, Lion of War.

Grab a dark roast coffee, pull up a chair, and join the conversation.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Cliff Carey - Back Shed Bible Study episode on Forrest Frank

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2jl9qIs4YACGYFYYHs7cFU?si=dd54f51355694a5d

Day of War - Cliff Graham

https://www.audible.com/pd/Day-of-War-Audiobook/B0FL93ZGPT?ref_pageloadid=not_applicable&pf_rd_p=f3abc0ee-320d-4c19-8388-fcd3a8e6c3a4&pf_rd_r=YGHMVYEAWMW0NZ0P2N6G&plink=8wlAphfm3PKx5lBX&pageLoadId=prjnKazT1kto41GO&creativeId=73c32a9a-e504-4597-bb87-c30c58fc0204&ref=a_author_Cl_c19_lProduct_1_3

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
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The Fire Up Progam video.
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The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
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Kevin's Instagram.
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Aug 3, 2026 47 min

281: Under the Weight of Belief: Wrestling with Loss, Faith, and a Good God

Show notes

On this incredibly heavy anniversary of losing his son Asher, Nole sits down for a raw, unfiltered solo reflection on what it truly means to hold onto faith in the aftermath of tragedy.

Prompted by a powerful lyric from the band Dry the River—“Under the weight of belief, you shiver and shake like a leaf”—Nole unpacks the silent, lonely wrestling match that happens when you choose to believe in an all-powerful, good God who ultimately allowed your deepest heartbreak to happen. He challenges the standard idea that faith means standing perfectly still and strong in a storm, offering instead a beautiful, alternative truth: maybe the shivering and the shaking isn't a sign that your faith is failing. Maybe the trembling is the faith.

If you are carrying a heavy burden, a broken heart, or a faith that feels more like a crushing weight than a comfort today, this episode is a reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out to stay attached to the tree. Take heart, be of good courage, and know you are not alone in the storm.

The song in question, "Demons" by Dry the River.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bISw8J-nBY&list=RD2bISw8J-nBY&start_radio=1

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Jul 27, 2026 17 min

280: Obesity, Integrity, and the Fire Service Standard

Show notes

In this episode, Nole and Kevin kick things off with a recap of Kevin's family trip to see Forrest Frank in Los Angeles, navigating the strange contrast of driving past old shooting and stabbing calls while the kids listen to worship music, mixed with some unfiltered thoughts on the absolute commercialism of modern Christian concerts ($100 t-shirts, anyone?).

Then, the guys revisit a literal "hand grenade" question from a few weeks back: Can you be a good leader if you're obese? They pull no punches as they dive back into the uncomfortable truth about physical fitness, discipline, and why being afraid to hurt a brother's feelings can ultimately lead to watching them careen off a cliff. From the biblical charge to treat the body as a temple to the grit of summer "work hardening" in the heat, this conversation breaks down what we owe to our crews, our families, and ourselves. Finally, they tackle the shifting culture of the firehouse kitchen table, exploring how to guard camaraderie and tradition when everyone is on a different diet.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Jul 20, 2026 57 min

279: The Discipline of Letting Kids Be Bored

Show notes

Summer is officially here, but between the soaring costs of family activities, the constant pull of screen time, and a heatwave sweeping through, finding the right household rhythm is easier said than done.

In this episode, Kevin and Nole dive into the "Disneyland Dad" dilemma—the internal pressure to constantly provide extravagant, expensive entertainment versus the biological benefit of letting your kids just be bored. We contrast our own "free-range" BMX and forest-wandering childhoods with the high-tech, location-tracked reality of parenting today.

Plus, we talk about the discipline it takes to stay firm on device limits, a massive local bear causing trash-can chaos, an intense bison video that might actually be "AI slop," and a surprising throwback fidget toy keeping the kids occupied

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Jul 13, 2026 33 min

278: The Brutal Truth About Fire Service Leadership

Show notes

In this episode, Nole and Kevin tackle a massive topic from a unique angle: leadership from the ground up. Instead of focusing on what managers think they should be doing, they look at leadership from the perspective of the long-term "workers" on the firehouse floor. What does a veteran crew actually need from their Captain? What builds instant trust, and what completely destroys a leader's credibility?

From the daily discipline of setting a consistent station culture at the morning lineup to the humility required to step back and let subject matter experts run a drill, this conversation dives deep into the true burden of wearing the bugles. Plus, the guys wrap up by tackling a tough, unfiltered question about physical discipline, personal accountability, and what it really means to lead by example.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Jul 6, 2026 41 min

277: The Dichotomy of the Fight: Hardcore Worship, Loss, and Releasing Control

Show notes

In this episode of The Fire You Carry, Kevin and Nole break down the wild, beautiful chaos of the Christian hardcore scene after catching a legendary Sleeping Giant reunion show. They discuss the intense energy of the barrier, crowd vocals, and how aggressive music can serve as a genuine form of spiritual warfare.

Switching gears to the home front, Kevin opens up about a heavy and heartbreaking weekend, navigating an unexpected medical emergency with his family's beloved dog and making the agonizing call to say goodbye. Through the raw lens of grief, the guys unpack a critical lesson in fatherhood: why our instinct to shield our kids from emotional pain can actually rob them of necessary resilience, and how walking through life's hardest moments together builds lasting strength.

They wrap up the conversation discussing the challenges of releasing control as kids enter middle school, the unique perspective of staying tattoo-free in a heavily tatted subculture, and why chasing athletic longevity in your 40s keeps the spirit sharp.

In This Episode, We Discuss:

• The wild dichotomy of the Christian hardcore scene and the Sleeping Giant show.
• How aggressive praise and worship differs from traditional church settings.
• A surprise program guy sighting and the generational impact of heavy music.
• Kevin’s heartbreaking weekend: dealing with sudden loss and emergency vet realities.
• The Shield of Fatherhood: Letting our kids experience grief instead of hiding them from it.
• Learning to release control and letting your kids make their own mistakes.
• The "Four Tattooless Men" of our generation.
• Mid-life athleticism: Station skateboarding, e-foils, and 40-something kickflips.
• Fire Up Program updates and 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb venue search.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

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Jun 29, 2026 54 min

276: The Trap of "We'll See" | Why Dads Need to Be Decisive

Show notes

In this episode of The Fire You Carry, Nole and Kevin dive deep into a subtle but damaging trap of fatherhood and marriage: the default phrase, "we'll see."

Why is it that men can be incredibly decisive, clear, and direct on the fireground, but the moment they walk through the front door, they turn into passive politicians? The guys break down why "we'll see" isn't actually a gentle answer; it's a "soft-ass no" that breeds anxiety in our kids and leaves an unfair mental load on our wives.

Before hitting the core topic, Kevin shares an update on his daughters braving massive 8-foot ocean swells at Junior Lifeguards, and celebrates Captain Josh Nessa completely dominating a massive police and fire powerlifting competition at age 44. Plus, the guys share practical communication hacks like the firehouse 4-3-2-1 elimination method to help you stop stalling, take the lead, and let your yes be yes.

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords

Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!
https://www.fireupprogram.com/programs

The Fire Up Progam video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgram

The Fire You Carry Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/

Donate to The Fire Up Program.
https://www.fireupprogram.com/donate

The Fire Up Program Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/

Kevin's Instagram.
https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=en

Jun 22, 2026 48 min

275: "We Do Hard Things" Stage 3 Cancer, and "Walking Each Other Home" with Captain Fred Barbosa

Show notes

What happens when a lifetime spent fighting fires turns into a fight for your own survival?

In this incredibly raw and moving episode of The Fire You Carry, Kevin and Nole sit down with recently retired LA County Fire Captain Fred Barbosa. Over a 31-year career, Fred saw the landscape of the fire service change dramatically, culminating in the ultimate milestone of pinning his own son at graduation. But shortly after, Fred faced an entirely different kind of test: a diagnosis of Stage 3 colon cancer.

Fred pulls no punches as he describes the physical grit and psychological warfare required to survive aggressive chemotherapy, radiation, and the "mind-numbing" pain of recovery. He shares how the structured discipline of Fireground Survival (FGS) training unexpectedly provided the exact mental framework he needed to endure the darkest nights of his treatment.

More than a survival story, this conversation is a masterclass in shifting from trauma to post-traumatic growth. Fred discusses the power of a simple text message from a brother, the vital role of faith, and why he is now dedicating his retirement to partnering with national organizations like Struggle Well and the Cancer Support Network to help walk other first responders home.

Whether you are on the job, supporting someone through a medical battle, or looking for blueprint on how to build an unbreakable mindset, Fred’s story is a profound reminder that "we do hard things."

Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords