You Choose with Billy Garton Jr.

Hakim Tafari is a Buddhist Scholar and Mindfulness Teacher.

He has collaborated with notable brands that include Nike, Adidas, Lululemon, Jaybird, Whoop, and Google to name a few, bridging an intersection between mindfulness, sports, and social justice.

But beyond the titles, this is the most open hearted, loving man I have ever met. His heart is that of a man who aliveness is the consequence of having died a thousand deaths on the path to inner liberation. What a magical conversation this was, and I feel honored to be sharing it with you.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction

01:21 The Seven Awakening Factors

02:14 How to See Your Life in 4K

04:42 Energy That Doesn't Come From Coffee

07:49 Losing His Marriage, Home, and Kids

11:19 He Chose to Sit Facing a Wall For an Hour

21:16 Why Rock Bottom is a Powerful Place

22:35 The Four Divine Abodes

25:51 Billy on Lacking Compassion for Himself

33:00 Billy on Trying to Fix Instead of Feel

34:06 The Second Arrow: Pain vs. Suffering

35:32 Beginner's Mind and Intergenerational Healing

37:50 His Daughter at His Father's Deathbed

42:47 Don't Be Afraid to Soften

44:51 Billy on Needing a Ritual to Slow Down

49:22 Billy on Monkey Mind

50:25 What Tai Chi Teaches About Letting Go

52:00 Why Meditation Feels Like It's Not Working

53:08 Billy's Epiphany

55:56 How You Block Your Own Blessings

57:04 Make Being With Yourself a Non-Negotiable

1:00:25 What It Means to Live in the Middle

1:01:50 Praise, Blame, Gain, and Pain

1:03:16 Exposing Yourself Over and Over to Annihilation

1:06:19 Becoming an Ambassador of Awakening

1:09:58 A Thousand Deaths in Every Breath

1:11:53 The Four Things That Make Life Harder

1:13:27 Verified Faith vs. Blind Faith

1:14:53 Letting It Go in Real Time

1:19:59 Where to Find Hakim

What if the thing you’re most afraid to say out loud is the very thing that would save you?

I opened this conversation with a line from the Gospel of Thomas: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.”

Preston's response was exactly what I didn't know I needed.

Preston has spent two decades as a transformational coach, speaker and author. He is a father of four, and for more than a decade he’s led The Bridge Experience alongside his wife, Alexi.

For Preston, bringing forth what’s within you isn’t only about your purpose or your mission. It’s moment to moment. It’s the first hit in your body, and whether you act on it or talk yourself out of it. Every time you override it, you erode trust within yourself.

So in this conversation we went looking for it. We talked about how we were trained from childhood to outsource our power to our parents, our teachers and our priests long before we knew we were doing it, and why intuition is almost always the first thought, not the fifth. He explained why God, to him, is like electricity, and why the real question is whether you’ve built the infrastructure for what you’re asking for. And he told me how scheduling play into every single day, right in the middle of a launch, doubled his business.

We talked about brutal honesty versus artful honesty in relationships, what actually creates safety in a woman’s body, why arguing more brought him and his wife closer, and how to hold your ground without people pleasing or running.

We went deep on money too. Why money is the spoon, not the food. Why he sent back a $30,000 payment from a client he didn’t want to coach. How writing a book called Spiritual Millionaire took him down to his last $20,000. How to pick the one thing that moves the needle and put everything else down. And why he can sit at a table with men who have far more money than him and feel like the richest one in the room.

The line that stuck with me:“When a bird lands on a tree, its faith is not in the branch. Its faith is in its wings.”

If you’re carrying something you haven’t said yet, this one is for you. Go bring it forth!

If this conversation moves something in you, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

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I left this conversation more inspired, uplifted and connected to the texture of my existence than I have felt in a long time.IN-Q is an emmy-nominated poet, multi-platinum songwriter, world renowned keynote speaker, and best-selling author.This is an intimate window into his creative process, the perspective he adopts to create meaningful art, and a live demonstration of a few poems, both his and mine, that have touched the lives of many. It was a pinch me moment to have the opportunity to sit across from and read poetry to a man who has been the core icon I have looked to for inspiration when translating my world into words. I believe you will be touched by this conversation, and if you are, please let me know. I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that offer you a deeper sense of belonging to yourself and the world. It is an honor to have you tuning in. You belong here. - Billy xFollow IN-Q: https://www.instagram.com/inqlife/?hl=enFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow You Choose Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters:0:00 Intro2:05 Having an Alias Gave Him Courage5:09 Inside Out vs. Outside In Creativity6:43 Write What You Wishe Someone Had Said8:26 Finding Flow9:24 Curiosity, Then Passion, Then Purpose12:28 What Does It Mean to Be Human?13:21 Math and Magic: Three Rounds of IVF16:37 The Duty of Finishing a Poem21:23 IN-Q Performs "Life Is All About You"24:36 Is the Art More Important Than the Artist?25:34 Do You Have to Suffer to Create?27:08 Why You Have to Learn Some Lessons Twice28:51 The Nine Breakup Poems30:53 How Your Art Becomes Your Mantra32:15 You Can Tell the Truth and Still Be Lying36:21 Anchors vs. Kites: Family and Success38:35 What a Good Mentor Actually Does39:35 Why Society Looks Up or Down, Not At41:47 IN-Q Performs "Right Before I Die"46:07 How a Single Idea Becomes a Poem48:47 Where "Life Is a Game" Came From50:35 How Long a Poem Takes to Write55:51 Don't Make It Great, Make It Honest57:07 Billy Performs "Darkness"1:02:33 IN-Q Performs "Life Is a Game"1:08:07 Why Being a Mom Is a Revolutionary Act1:11:33 How Fatherhood Changed Who He Is1:14:05 How to Detach From the Outcome1:15:50 How to Reach the Creative Space More Often1:17:07 Why More Can't Be the Goal1:20:31 What Play Looks Like as a New Dad1:23:36 Inspiration vs. Assignment

Brendan, the founder of Santa Cruz Medicinals, may be the most influential voice in the world for young men right now. He walks down the street and cars pull over so kids can yell "Santa Cruz!" out the window. He funds his own content, he doesn't take the gambling money, and he shows people exactly how he lives.

I didn't sit down with him to talk about supplements. I wanted to talk about the inside of a young man's life, because I believe that's where the real crisis is. The loneliness. A dating world that feels rigged. A brain so cooked by the scroll that it feels nothing and everything at the same time.

We spoke about larping, looksmaxxing, mogging, mewing, monk mode, rage baiting, sexual market value, AI girlfriends, sports betting and the manosphere itself. A few of his answers surprised me!

If you're a young man who feels stuck, lonely, or like the game is rigged against you, this one is for you. And if you love one, send it to him.

I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

This episode includes a conversation about those who contemplate taking their life. If you're struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 to reach the Crisis Lifeline. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists free support near you.

The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.

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Chapters

0:00 Mental and Physical Health Are The Same Thing

1:23 Why Gambling and Alcohol Run the Internet

4:29 The Biggest Crisis Facing Young Men

6:09 Black Pill Crowd

7:30 Why Dating Is So Hard Right Now

8:54 How Short-Form Scrolling Blunts Your Dopamine

12:26 Men Need to Get Closer to Rejection

13:14 The Best Dating Advice

14:35 Get Your Health Right

15:38 Happiness Is the Wrong Goal

18:05 You Need Hobbies Rooted in Nature

19:00 Homies, Health, Hobbies

19:27 What Women Are Actually Attracted To

23:24 Influencers, Parents, and Personal Responsibility

25:23 Why Manosphere Creators Are So Popular

27:19 The Hard Truth About the Dating Market

28:20 What Makes a Man Attractive

32:32 Billy on Being the Unattractive Kid

37:45 Control Your Breath

40:39 Tell Someone WHat You're Going Through

42:00 "Nobody Cares", and That's Good News

49:38 The Three-Minute Morning Routine

51:20 The Evening Wind-Down Routine

53:32 Labelling, ADHD, SSRI's

59:55 Why Cutting Recess and PE Backfires

1:06:50 Larping: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:12:22 Sexual Market Value: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:13:46 Looksmaxxing: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:21:33 Mogging: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:23:39 Mewing: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:25:12 Monk Mode: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:26:30 Rage Baiting: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:29:59 AI Girlfriends: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:35:27 Sports Betting: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:38:45 The Manosphere: Healthy or Unhealthy?

1:40:11 No Friction, No Fulfillment

1:48:43 What Losing His Dad Taught Him

1:55:28 Why Friendship Comes Before Everything

1:57:35 Lock In for 30 Days

You are under no obligation to be the same person you were yesterday.

These are Charlie Rocket's recipes for reinvention.

Not many are more qualified to speak on this than Charlie.

He got fired twice in the music business, then went on to manage 2 Chainz. At 29, he was 300 pounds with a brain tumor. Nine months later, he was a Nike athlete. He then left that world behind to build a multinational charitable organization called the Dream Machine Foundation, where he travelled the country making people's dreams come true. He has since established himself as a global speaker, and in this episode talks openly about his next phase of reinvention: becoming a NYT Bestselling Author.

He is a testament to the power of delusional optimism, as well as the profound humility to begin again, time and time again.

His life is vibrant because he has been willing to choose again when his spirit longs for something new, and this conversation invites you into the 'how' behind it all.

Enjoy :-)

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Chapters:

0:00 Why Charlie Rocket Calls Himself Crazy1:56 The Recipes Behind Every Reinvention4:31 Having a Brain Tumor, 300 Pounds, and Total Loneliness6:40 Why Everything Wrong With You Is a Gift12:18 The Alter Ego Effect14:39 The Science of the Batman Study16:26 The Golden Circle of Identity18:37 Dress the Part, Becoming CEO Charlie22:39 Why Success in Music Left Him Empty27:31 Becoming a Nike Athlete33:13 How Your Reticular Activating System Filters Reality35:18 The Winning Streak38:52 The Backwards Manifestation Method48:41 The Law of 6258:12 The 20 Hour Rule1:02:04 Why Imposter Syndrome Means You're on Track1:07:20 Tell No One or Tell Everyone?1:15:37 Abracadabra: Speaking Nike Into Existence1:20:22 People Treat Your Dream How You Do1:22:27 The $10 Million Dumpster Test 1:28:30 How to Make Embarrassment Your Fuel1:31:10 How to Utilize Your Ego1:32:59 Train Your Ego Like a Dragon: Feed, Aim, Tame1:40:55 The Art of Quitting1:42:19 Finding Your Purpose: Progress Before Purpose1:49:42 Faith Is Just Imagination1:58:55 The Wow Method2:06:20 Take Field Trips to Your Future2:12:49 The Domino Method and Pin Action2:23:07 Money as Energy2:26:57 Every Rebirth Takes Nine Months2:30:43 The Airport Rule for Feeling Too Late2:37:27 The Art of Disappointing People: Avicii and Dylan2:45:17 Why the Hero Must Look Like the Villain

Grayson Hart had the life we're all told to want. Professional Rugby player, founder of a company worth millions, a wife on the cover of magazines...and he burned it all down in the name of truth.This a public sharing of what years of devotion to truth, authenticity, and the courage to be who you are will afford you.It won't be comfortable, but comfort is never what your soul wanted anyway. Comfort is why you're deeply uncomfortable. As the age old saying goes: The truth will set you free.I KNOW this conversation will touch many people, as it did me. There is nothing more important to a fulfilling life than honoring what's true, even and especially when that truth hurts to admit.Enjoy, and let us know by subscribing and commenting if you do :-)Follow Grayson: https://www.instagram.com/graysonjonhart/Check out Hart Workshop: https://hartworkshop.com/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters:0:00 Introduction1:35 We Are Not Separate 2:55 The Paradox of Belonging5:05 All You Have to Do Is Be True7:17 Whatever Falls Away Is a Blessing8:25 The Dolphin on the Beach13:17 Reframing the Ten Thousand Hour Rule15:15 Billy on Athletes Who Look Too Relaxed21:15 Conor McGregor and Israel Adesanya26:17 Your Own Being Is Your Home27:08 The First Step to Being True Is Being Fake29:33 How Do You Know What's True?30:12 Truth Is a Knowing, Not a Belief33:51 The Myth of Personal Responsibility40:28 Crazy Story About Boarding School44:30 How Grayson Became Untouchable48:13 Words Are the Least Purveyor of Truth51:47 You Don't Have to Change Anything54:46 Choosing the Hard Truth After 8 Years of Marriage1:00:02 Let It Be a Possibility First, Then Decide1:02:13 Inauthenticity Often Gets Rewarded by the World1:06:51 Be Your Whole Self, Unapologetically1:12:51 Life Will Show You the Answer1:16:15 The Illusion That Love Lives in Another1:19:37 How to Be Charismatic While Inside a Committed Relationship1:21:12 Stop Giving Your Energy Away1:30:52 Making Love to the Universe1:32:00 Billy on Flirting With the World1:34:55 Nothing Is Worth More Than Freedom of Truth1:35:44 Be Like Jesus on the Cross1:37:56 Can You Trust a Man Everyone Likes?1:40:24 The Note He Wrote While Meditating1:41:20 Giving Yourself Away Is Not Love1:42:19 Dermot Kennedy's Lyrics1:46:30 Forgiving Everyone That Hurt Him1:50:16 Why Forgiveness Protects Other People1:54:32 The Most Personal Is the Most Universal1:57:20 Billy on Not Needing to Be Understood1:59:41 The Worst Thing God Could Do for You2:06:43 Hart Workshop and the Heart Behind It

This may be my favorite conversation we've had on the show so far. Koa Smith is a professional surfer who made a name for himself chasing the biggest and most beautiful waves on earth and capturing them on camera. His career and life was dramatically altered when a collision with a reef caused a traumatic brain injury. He lost his memory, sense of self and fell into a deep depression. This is a conversation on identity, on intimacy, and on integrity. It's about learning to feel again, dissolving the illusion of separate between you and another, but also between you and everything you desire. There aren't many people more equipped to talk about death, about discovering inner peace amidst chaos, and about learning how to find purpose in life again. We talk about 3 rules for life that were given to him by a shaman, 2 words that keep you from having what you desire, and 1 way of being (Hint: trying to figure it out) that keeps us in endless suffering. We also deep dive on the modalities that have changed his life, Transcendental Meditation, Psychedelics, Joe Dispenza...and the most important one, CHOICE. I am reminded that the tools are only as effective as we choose to be with the information that is revealed. That is why life is the ceremony, and the rest are just companions supporting our awareness. After awareness always comes choice, and we must CHOOSE differently if we wish to witness new and better circumstances for our life. Enjoy, and if you do, please subscribe to the show. The chances are, if not subscribed, you will miss future episodes that, I will assert, are life altering. I am grateful for all the love and support. Follow Koa: https://www.instagram.com/koasmith/?hl=enJoin Koa's Community "Spaceship to Many": https://www.skool.com/spaceshiptomany/about?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bioFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/?hl=enFollow the Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/?hl=enChapters0:00 Introduction1:51 Koa's Brain Injury2:11 Facing Identity Crisis without Surfing4:50 Surfing Can Be a Dangerous Addiction5:30 Being Raised by the Ocean7:20 A More Empowering Relationship to Life8:48 Koa's Relationship to Death13:13 Fear Is the Greatest Illusion17:16 Billy on Losing His Own Career18:15 Strip Away Every Vice21:25 Meditation Became His Secret Weapon22:19 The Thought That's Holding You Back24:37 Transcendental Meditation Opened His Eyes25:24 Healing Depression in One Experience28:03 Seven Days With Joe Dispenza30:02 Koa on Learning to Feel His Heart32:34 Fear Is in the Thought34:40 The Two Words That Keep You Separate35:48 The Moment He Felt He Belonged38:56 Humans Longing For More41:26 Crisis Is God's Whisper Getting Louder43:35 How to Hear Your Intuition45:05 Koa's Business, Spaceship to Many47:24 Nine Months Without Alcohol49:14 Billy on Faith, Money and This Show52:07 You Can't Engineer Belonging54:24 The Only Way to Experience True Belonging56:52 Koa on Not Fitting In1:01:59 What's Blocking Your River1:03:08 Challenge Nobody Does1:07:03 The Lesson that Changed Billy's Life1:09:02 The 3 Rules for an Extraordinary Life1:15:17 Turning Down the Noise1:19:41 This Perspective Will Free You to Truly Live1:23:26 What's Next for Koa

Does God exist? Are all these Christian people genuine? Is Christianity the way? Are SSRIs and antidepressants harmful? What even is depression? Can I out-will the algorithm? How can I retrain myself to focus?

If any of these sound like questions you are asking, give the next 97 minutes your full attention.

Elliot Bewick is a 21 year old atheist and the host of The Next Generation, a podcast for...you guessed it.

I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

The views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. Never stop or change prescribed medication without speaking to your doctor.

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CHAPTERS:

0:00 Why He Hid the Bible

1:28 Why Gen Z Is Flocking to the Pews

2:34 We Have No Blueprint Anymore

4:17 The Two Questions That Give Life Meaning

8:33 What If There Is No Meaning?

10:29 What Happens When You Kill God

11:58 Is Being an Atheist Good for Marketing?

13:15 Christianity Would Be Better for Marketing

14:46 The Rise of the Performative Christian

16:58 "Try Harder. You Don't Love Jesus."

20:27 Nobody Ever Knows That God Is Real

21:14 Faith Is the Whole Point

22:15 Ram Dass and the Insane Asylum

24:31 What Is Love Without God?

24:50 How Many Women Are on Antidepressants

25:42 Nobody Knows What Depression Is

26:19 The Chemical Imbalance Was Invented

29:23 His Friend, the Meds and the Breakup

32:24 19 Yr Old Girl DM's Elliot About Zoloft

33:18 She Couldn't Feel Anything

34:09 Where Most Sexual Dysfunction Comes From

36:55 We Live in a Culture of Too Many Labels

41:02 The Day at the White House

42:40 Who the Girl in the DM Actually Is

45:01 What Filled the Last Gap in His Faith

46:52 Love Is a Choice, Not a Feeling

51:37 The Information Age Promised You a Recipe

52:55 Just Do

53:39 "I'm Confused as F*ck Right Now"

55:26 Gen Z are the Victims

56:39 The Blame Game Has No Solutions

1:00:52 The Girl Who Sued Meta and Won

1:02:00 Your Problem Isn't Doom Scrolling

1:05:00 Compartmentalise Your Scrolling

1:05:31 The Science of Getting into Flow State

1:08:18 Breaking a Social Media Addiction

1:09:38 What a Monk Taught Him About Impulse

1:10:43 Willpower Is the Wrong Frame

1:12:13 Our Generation's Worst Habit

1:13:17 Put Down a Vice, Don't Pick Up a Virtue

1:19:43 Comfort Creates a Numbness to Life

1:24:21 The Study on Choosing the Wrong Answer

1:25:14 What Does It Mean to Belong?

1:29:46 Loneliness Is Not About Other People

1:31:01 The Global Village Problem

1:33:24 Elliot's Sponsor, Shift Your Phone

If you have ever looked at a man you love and wondered what is actually going on in there, watch this. If you are raising a boy and you can feel the internet reaching him faster than you can, watch this. If you are still carrying something left unsaid with your own father, watch this for the way through. And if you're a man who has done years of work on himself and still feels broken, watch this.

There is a way back...and it isn't more discipline.

Adam Jackson is the cofounder of the largest men's work organization in the world, Sacred Sons. Over 20,000 men have made their way through the Sacred Sons programming.

There are few people more equipped to talk about men than this man.

Expect to learn why combat is important for men, what twenty thousand men have actually admitted to him behind closed doors, why he doesn't fully trust men and what he means by that, the most important parts of manhood, of fatherhood, and of true intimacy in relationships.

This is a timely message for anyone with a boy or. man in their life. If you listen all the way through, you'll leave with clear tools for a more empowered existence.

Enjoy!

CHAPTERS:0:00 Intro0:04 The Violence Already Exists4:19 The Men Who Don't Fight, Fight in Other Ways10:44 The One Thing More Important Than Honesty15:13 It All Comes Back to Mom17:01 "I Don't Know If I Trust Men"20:58 The Harm Is Happening Inside Your Own Home24:40 Why the Uncles Have to Be Cool29:15 Billy: "Part of Me Is Stuck in Boyhood"30:42 You Cannot Initiate Yourself38:18 Why He Tells His Brothers to Have More Children41:39 They Don't Stop Loving You45:48 Protect Your Children From Yourself49:40 What a Child Actually Needs From a Father53:52 The Way Back to Your Father Is Gratitude55:59 The Age of Ancestral Amnesia59:32 The Moment He Repeated the Pattern1:02:18 The One Message Men Need From Women1:05:39 Love One Woman Completely1:08:00 Choose Wisely

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If you are like me and have spent the majority of your life not feeling at home inside your own skin, this conversation is for you.

Jules Horn spent over a decade as THE model. Chanel in Paris with Karl Lagerfeld. Magazine covers with Nicki Minaj holding his photo. Dinner tables with with A-list sitting next to him.

Yet he calls that entire chapter a bird in a golden cage.

He was blackout drunk most weekends, burned out flat in bed for days every couple of months, chasing one campaign for ten years that never came, monitoring every way of being in the world in case an agent didn't like his hair.

Today, he helps people release the tension that they have carried in their fascia for decades, retrain their nervous system for safety and find a comfortable home inside their own skin.

Jules showed me the perfect way to breathe, we talked about releasing anger and rage, where most people carry tension and how to release it, the rediscovery of God and how he accesses the divine within him.

We also shine light on the dysfunction of the modeling industry, what he was really chasing and how he has transitioned from an endless pursuit of external validation to a love like no other, not from the world, but within himself.

If you have been trying to think your way into peace, this episode is the other door. It's free, it's always with you, and you have the opportunity through this conversation to touch a felt sense of peace like never before.I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

Chapters:

0:00 Intro

0:12 The Perfect Breath

2:45 The $150,000 Hyperbaric Chamber Mistake

7:11 Running Half Marathon Nose Breathing Only

10:16 God Is Whispering, the Ego Is Yelling

13:00 A Decade of Modeling and Shallow Breathing

14:00 Growing Up Without Feeling Loved

16:17 Chasing One Campaign for a Decade

17:33 Billy: Four Foot Eleven With Cystic Acne

20:50 Modeling: An Industry of Power and Control

23:20 Blackout Drunk Every Single Weekend

26:02 What You Seek Is Already Looking at You

34:01 A Bird in a Golden Cage

35:53 The Day it All Changed

37:17 "You'll Never Work as a Model Again"

43:40 The Truth Behind Aging

45:48 The Energy of Desperation

49:15 How to Release Your Jaw Tension

53:55 What to Ask the Monster Within You

56:11 Rage, Anger and Suppression

1:00:20 Catholic Altar Boy to a Relationship with God

1:04:12 God Spoke to Him in a Psychedelic Ceremony

1:07:01 Most People's Version of Prayer is Begging

1:12:21 Seeing His Dad in His Son

1:17:19 The Greatest Gift You Can Give a Child

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If your parents are still alive, watch this for a time sensitive message. If they aren't, watch this for your own current or future children. If neither of those are true, watch this to touch that beautiful place inside of you that is connected to everything.

There are questions I've held about my father, about his first marriage, about who he was before he was my dad, that I have not had the courage to ask. Not because I don't want to know, but because there has always been more time.

This conversation woke me up.

Michael Smoak didn't have more time. He had 7 months to both ask and deliver everything to his father before it was over.

Today, we went to the places most people spend an entire life avoiding. The exact questions to ask your parents before it's too late, the two moments that made God undeniable to him, why your father was once a little boy full of fears and dreams and what changes in you the second you remember that, the reason he never missed a single post while his dad was dying, the six things he believes a man must have in place before he is ready for a wife, what he still wants to know from his mother, why the death of a father is the only coming of age ritual men in this culture are given, how to feel grief all the way through instead of letting it quietly run the rest of your life, and what he would say to anyone still telling themselves they'll have that conversation next year.

I have had conversations on this show that moved me. This one changed the way I look at my own father, and it changed what I'm going to do about it.

If your parents are still here, this episode is a phone call you have been putting off. Please make it.

I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

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Chapters

02:58 What Alex & Leila Hormozi Are Really Like

08:31 Self-Development vs Self-Actualisation

11:09 The Moment God Became Undeniable

14:05 Something Was Wrong With His Dad

17:39 Grief Is an Ocean

24:06 The Prayer That Changed Everything

26:03 Why Surrender Is So Hard for Men

27:54 How to Actually Find Your Purpose

28:21 What to Ask Your Parents Before They Die

38:42 The Sunset Lesson He'll Never Forget

44:59 The Obituary Is Full of People Who Had Plans

50:15 A Prisoner in His Own Body

51:02 What Ifs vs Oh Wells

52:26 Don't Learn This the Hard Way

53:16 The One Question He'd Still Ask His Dad

57:36 Why Men Have No Coming of Age Ritual

59:52 The Lion King & the Death of the Father

1:03:00 Why He Never Missed a Single Post

1:03:59 Building Systems That Survive Anything

1:09:58 The Sermon He Was Never Supposed to Find

1:11:59 Blowing Up Online While His Dad Was Dying

1:14:28 Mend It While They're Still Here

1:15:17 What He Still Wants to Know From His Mom

1:21:38 Is Michael Dating?

1:22:43 The Cost of a Public Relationship

1:25:59 Most Men Have the EQ of a 14-Year-Old

1:26:50 The Danger of "Just Good Enough"

1:29:46 Six Things a Man Needs Before Finding His Woman

1:32:35 Billy's Story: Learning to Date Himself

1:41:09 The Healing Only a Relationship Can Do

1:44:18 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Dating

1:45:35 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Porn Addiction

1:48:40 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Self Love

1:52:10 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Public Speaking

1:57:43 What Makes a Man

1:58:31 The Most Important Thing a Parent Can Give

1:59:40 Three Days Before His Dad Died

2:03:11 What Men and Women Actually Need

2:05:12 It Isn't Easy But It Is Simple: Religion

2:09:03 How to Survive Losing a Parent

2:12:09 What Actually Matters at the End

I’ve never been this vulnerable publicly…

3 years ago I sat in my local library feeling deeply lost. My life seemed to be crumbling before my eyes and I felt confined to a world I was no longer choosing.
I made a declaration that day that there was one person I would be coached by, and I’d find a way to get myself in the room with him.
Well, 3 years on, having consumed virtually all of his content, invested in his life altering mastermind and shared his work and words with everyone in my life, it is an absolute honor to share this conversation I had with Peter Crone.
Widely known as ‘The Mind Architect’, Peter is globally recognized for his ability to help someone reveal the deep, subconscious constraints that have laced their life, and support them in freeing themselves from the mental prisons with which they’ve been confined, so they can lead a life of freedom, love, abundance and possibility.

Today, we revealed the primary prisons I’ve been living inside of, how the world is not set up to see us succeed, how to break free from what he calls the “1.0 world” and step into his world of 2.0, how to upgrade your human operating system, the toxic male influences laced throughout culture, the difference between care and worry, where true energy is derived, and the one message Peter would leave behind for generations to come that would serve as a catalyst for both personal and universal change.

I would bet, being that you watch this show, that you’re committed to your spiritual evolution.
Let me tell you, nothing touched my life more than Peter’s Mastermind. I have invested hundreds of thousands of dollars into coaches, mentors, retreats, books and programs, and the greatest catalyst for inspiration, energy, and true transformation was the 3 months I spent sitting at the feet of this man and soaking up everything he has to offer.
The link to learn more about it is below.

I hope you enjoy, and if you do, let me know by liking, commenting, and subscribing to the show.

I am committed out of my mind to bringing you conversations that alter the direction of your life, leading you to a deeper sense of belonging in the context of the world.

Chapters:

2:12 What True Freedom Actually Means

6:21 The Qualities You Were Born With

7:08 The Ten Prisons of the Human Mind

8:21 The Quote That Has Saved Lives

10:13 How Losing Both Parents Shaped Peter

13:17 Turning Grief Into Direction

15:19 Why Divinity Follows the Free

19:28 Stop Seeking, Start Removing Barriers

21:16 The Shame That Won't Let Go

23:53 When Love Comes With Conditions

25:19 Panic Attacks No One Explained

29:02 The Ego Is a Boa Constrictor

30:07 The First Lie You Tell Yourself

32:47 You've Never Done Anything Wrong

36:22 What "Wrong" Actually Means

39:19 Why Risk Doesn't Exist

42:50 Escaping the 1.0 Operating System

44:15 Why You Project Your Parents Onto Everyone

48:08 Guilt Disguised as Accountability

50:49 The Power of Your Words

52:57 Welcome to the 2.0 World

54:50 The Lie That It's Not Safe to Be You

57:34 The Worst Prison a Human Can Live In

1:01:44 Watch the Breakthrough Happen

1:03:36 You Can't Get Enough of What Almost Works

1:06:19 The Difference Between Care and Worry

1:08:31 For Men Afraid of Caring Too Much

1:09:41 Why Love Must Include You

1:12:42 The Truth About Toxic Male Influences

1:15:32 Nothing to Hide, Nothing to Prove

1:17:10 Build a New Model, Don't Fight the Old

1:19:12 Why Longevity Seduces the Ego

1:20:45 Integrating the Two Lies

1:24:36 Instructions for Visiting Earth

1:27:04 Peter's Message for the Planet

1:29:51 The Real Role of the Ego

1:32:41 Advice for Anyone Chasing a Calling

1:36:08 What's Next for Peter Crone

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Everyone is trying to hack, optimize and comfort their way to a better life. Laird Hamilton says the opposite is true: that comfort is the trap, that fear is intelligence, and that the closer you get to death, the more alive you become.Laird Hamilton is widely regarded as the greatest big-wave surfer of all time, the pioneer of tow-in surfing and hydrofoil boarding who redefined what's possible in the ocean. He is the co-founder of Laird Superfood, husband of volleyball legend Gabby Reece for 28 years, and father to three daughters.He explains:◼ Why the closer you are to death, the more alive you feel◼ How a lifetime in the ocean convinced him that God exists◼ The one thing he believes is worse than dying◼ Why fear is intelligence, and how to harness it instead of avoiding it◼ Why parenting is like building a samurai sword, and why it's for you, not your kids◼ He opens up about growing up poor, fatherless and an outsider, and how that pain fueled everything he builtThe views expressed are those of the guest, and this conversation is intended for general informational purposes only. It should not be used as a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice.Chapters00:00 Why You Shouldn't Live For Your Kids04:05 What Really Fueled Laird's Success08:23 How Laird Turned Pain Into Power09:45 The Ocean Gave Laird Everything10:54 The Ocean Taught Laird the Existence of God22:19 How to Never Lose Your Curiosity28:11 Why Nature Always Wins32:01 Why Fear Is Actually Intelligence34:38 Why Laird Is Addicted to Fear37:00 Why Nothing Matters Without Consequence40:16 The Closer to Death, the More Alive44:30 The Simple Code Laird Lives By50:08 Are You Living or Just Surviving?51:22 Why Laird Would Rather Lose His Life55:16 Live Every Day Like Your Last58:23 The Life-Changing Power of Telling the Truth1:05:08 What Three Daughters Taught Laird1:08:01 The Samurai Sword Theory of Fatherhood1:12:19 What Living With Four Women Taught Laird1:17:14 The Secret to a 28-Year Marriage1:24:05 Why Laird Refuses to Use AI1:30:47 Why Laird & Gabby Schedule Sex1:34:58 Why Laird Threw Away His Wearables1:39:22 The Hawaiian Test of Character1:48:04 Never Use Your Kids as an Excuse1:54:09 The #1 Thing Holding You Back1:58:34 Why Most Men Are Harmless, Not Peaceful2:03:38 The Sayings That Shaped Laird's Life2:11:22 We're All in the Same Boat2:13:06 What's Next for Laird

Strap in for this one folks!At nine years old, Jeremy Jackson beat Leonardo DiCaprio for the role of Hobie Buchanan on Baywatch — the most watched television show on the planet. A billion people knew his face before he could drive. What followed was two decades most people don't come back from: addiction, meth, arrests, facing up to 35 years in prison, and a public collapse narrated by everyone except him. Today, Jeremy is sober, a recovery coach, breathwork facilitator, and spiritual mentor who walks into the rehabs and jails he once occupied — carrying the message to the people still lost in the places he came back from.One line that stuck with me: "If you want God to write the love story of your life, stop taking the pen out of his hand."This conversation goes somewhere neither of us expected. Jeremy speaks for the first time at length about the marriage that gutted him deeper than anything in his life — deeper than the abuse, the kidnapping, the arrests — and the moment he chose to see the person who hurt him most as a suffering addict instead of an enemy. We talk about why fame at fourteen cost him the very authenticity he was chasing, why authenticity is a higher frequency than joy, and why the men who have been broken by life make the most glorious men. He shares the golden keys he lives by, the three words tattooed on his arm that carried him through hell, and what it means to stop being so full of yourself that God can't hand you anything.Enjoy :-)Oh, and if you do, like, subscribe, comment. It really supports in our ability to bring you the best conversations. Chapters1:24 From Baywatch to prison3:24 When the mask drops4:58 The masks he still wears6:39 Owning the loser narrative7:34 The message in the mess10:32 A poem from rehab13:07 Becoming childlike again14:21 Fame at fourteen18:41 Defining authenticity19:53 The highest frequency21:15 More haters than fans22:40 Breaking his silence27:58 A public marriage28:29 Ignoring the warning signs31:57 Seeing her on the street33:57 Softening his heart34:59 The intervention attempt38:35 When helping falls apart40:45 The deepest heartbreak43:01 Jails, institutions, or death43:44 Why addicts refuse help44:45 Why he said yes46:39 Singleness of purpose48:52 Giving God the pen51:04 The rock we're chained to53:17 The golden keys54:27 What are you feeding59:41 How God speaks1:00:42 Full expression of life1:03:28 The fear of being seen1:09:17 The best men are broken1:14:57 The code of self-acceptance1:16:14 The hollow bone1:23:23 Trauma is past tense1:28:42 Everything happens through you1:31:49 Why he came backFollow Jeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyjackson/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

Have you ever been honest enough to rate yourself as a man?Timmy Bishop — known to the world as Timmy the Dreamer — spent three years living what looked like the dream: managing one of the biggest philanthropic movements on the internet, working alongside Mr. Beast and Oprah, living in a Hollywood Hills content mansion. Then, in December 2023, he got in a boat and rode two hours down the Amazon River to a ceremony that dismantled his entire life. He has never told this story publicly. Until now.A few lines that stuck with me:"If everything I did in private could be seen by everybody in public, would I still be who I say I am? The answer was no.""Not even the medicine could make me release. That's how disconnected I was from being able to feel.""In order to be ready for a queen to walk into your life, you must first make yourself into a king."In this conversation, Timmy shares — for the first time — the ayahuasca ceremony that told him to leave his dream life in LA and move back in with his parents in Minnesota at 27. We talk about the night he rated himself a four out of ten as a man and what he did about it, the addiction to porn that 95% of the men he knows quietly carry, quitting every vice cold turkey and crying every day for a month, redefining authenticity as truthfulness rather than consistency, telling his Christian family he'd left the faith, and the five initiations he believes turn a boy into a man. Three years after the jungle, he rates himself an eight — and he'll tell you exactly what happened in between.Chapters:0:00 The two lives of Timmy Bishop3:31 Why living the dream is a state of mind7:41 The case against shaming your past self11:32 How you can be lonely with hundreds of friends14:51 The day the dream job felt empty17:29 Why your darkness needs to be seen18:48 The gift hidden inside sensitivity21:51 The real definition of authenticity27:47 Telling his Christian parents he left the faith32:48 What happens when the highs stop working34:53 The story he swore he'd never tell35:18 The boat ride into the Amazon38:15 The cleanse his body refused41:45 Inside the ayahuasca ceremony45:19 The visions that made him vomit up LA47:08 The battle between his inner child and warrior49:00 How the shaman knew before he spoke50:46 Trading Hollywood for his childhood bedroom53:04 The month he cried every single day54:52 Quitting porn, weed, and caffeine cold turkey55:23 Why porn is the vice no man admits58:19 The one question that breaks the addiction59:29 What his friends said when he relapsed1:03:03 Proof you can feel deeply and still perform1:05:00 The question every single man should ask1:08:17 The poem about the man in the glass1:10:14 The night he rated himself a 4/10 man1:12:49 Why you must become a king before finding a queen1:14:44 The moment he finally became a man1:17:33 The orange tree theory of growth1:20:12 The five steps from boy to man1:24:00 The power of four months of saying no1:26:24 The three circles every man needs1:28:16 Why a real man serves1:32:14 The closing poem for anyone feeling lostFollow Timmy: https://www.instagram.com/timmy.the.dreamer/Book Timmy to speak: https://dreamerstate.com/dreamologytourFollow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

When did your life start feeling so boring?

Alaina Booth has built a following by pointing her camera at something the internet keeps telling us no longer exists: proof that the world is still good. She is a director, videographer, and storyteller whose found-footage videos of strangers, community, and everyday human connection have reached millions — including a series about six generations of women who all lived in the same college house, and a caption that accidentally started a war in her comments: "But what if most people are good?"

A few lines that stuck with me:

"Courage is a moment of decision where you say, I'm going to trust myself and try something new."

"There is no amount of good energy that is ever wasted."

"The easiest way to connect with someone is to expect nothing from them."

"Never compromise who you are to get closer to the top of the mountain."

In this conversation, we explore why life starts to feel boring the moment we automate the play out of it, why the top of courage is simply being seen trying, and what it takes to keep your childlike spirit alive in a world that punishes you for it. Alaina breaks down strangermaxxing, whimsymaxxing, and the difference between someone being unsafe and simply being different.

We talk about the Honey House and why people keep finding her videos, why you can automate your entire life into total isolation, the discipline experiment that made her miserable, her Ten Commandments for living, and the Mary Oliver instruction she can't get out of her head: pay attention, be astonished, tell about it.

Someone has to dance first so the rest of us remember we can. Alaina is that person.

Chapters

0:00 A season of change is coming

3:09 What makes you feel most alive

4:23 Your spirit leaves before your body

6:25 Alaina's thesis on life

7:25 You should try more

9:12 What courage actually is

11:02 Raised by a single mom

13:30 Watching an adult give herself grace

14:46 Let yourself be new at this

15:09 The courage to do it bad

16:57 Whimsy maxing explained

17:49 The stranger maxing formula

19:17 Not safe vs just different

21:38 Life maxing is internal

23:06 Keeping your childlike spirit alive

24:44 The business baddie surprise

26:27 Make room for spontaneity

27:23 The discipline experiment that failed

28:08 The longevity scam

28:45 You never arrive at healed

29:47 Where is the line of enough

30:31 The oil on the spoon parable

33:15 The Honey House story

36:00 The video that went viral

38:31 Why we feel so alone now

41:19 The formula for connection

43:13 The 8 Mile secret

45:01 Stop being a chameleon

47:19 Code to download into humanity

49:34 The middle school sweatshirt

53:02 What if most people are good

55:51 No good energy is wasted

58:30 Integrity as the top value

1:01:28 Alaina's Ten Commandments

1:04:33 Pay attention, be astonished

1:08:54 Inspired by the real world

1:10:30 Keep joy visible

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What would you do if you woke up tomorrow and the world had gone silent?

Eight months ago, that's exactly what happened to Blu. After 34 years of hearing, she went deaf overnight — and instead of becoming a victim of the experience, she calls it the most sacred teacher of her life.

Blu is an artist, mystic, and storyteller. Alongside her creative partner Lily Ashwell, she spent three and a half years hand-crafting "Heavenly Bodies Tarot" — a tarot deck of 78 original artworks made entirely by human hands, in a world drowning in synthetic noise. She is also the host of the Deja Blu podcast.

A few lines from the conversation that stuck with me:

"Comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul."

"The most sacred thing is what is."

"We're running ourselves dry, getting ourselves sick, and wondering why we can't hear God."

"It's really inefficient to be an asshole."

and...my overwhelming favorite:

"The only disability is that of a bad attitude" (original quote from Scott Hamilton)

In this conversation, we explore what it means to turn your greatest challenge into your greatest gift, why comfort is the death of the evolution of the soul, and how to tell the difference between synthetic and authentic in the age of AI.

Blu shares the story of sending telepathic apologies from a treehouse in the Amazon jungle — and receiving two replies. We talk about why time isn't real, how ritual turns the mundane into magic, why the goal was never to be high vibe but to be honest with what's most alive, why all judgment is a confession, and what it actually takes to live a meaningful life.

She went deaf so she could teach the rest of us how to listen.

Enjoy!

Chapters

0:00 Living with your soul wide open

3:31 Going deaf overnight

5:37 The most sacred thing is what is

7:00 Comfort is the death of the soul

8:46 The only disability is a bad attitude

11:39 When a sense gets taken away

12:38 Synthetic vs authentic

15:36 Three years making a tarot deck

18:27 Telepathy and the Amazon jungle

21:41 The two apologies arrive

26:10 Lazy or built into a system

27:44 Time isn't real

32:01 The hungry ghost inside you

34:08 Ritual and the bed making competition

36:44 The universe gives you who you are

41:39 Silence is psychedelic

43:42 Who you spend time with matters

48:59 The goal isn't high vibes

49:59 Grieving her old life

55:53 It's inefficient to be an asshole

57:17 How to be angry and graceful

1:00:55 Blu's relationship with embarrassment

1:05:24 All judgment is a confession

1:06:25 Jealousy is a roadmap

1:10:25 Creativity and the God pocket

1:16:39 No one is just talented

1:19:24 The demon Mother Mary painting

1:22:09 Your job is your joy of being

1:28:54 What a meaningful life means

1:37:11 Where to find Blu

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Something is wrong with men. Not in the way the culture keeps telling us. Not too aggressive, not too dominant, not too much. Wrong in a quieter and far more devastating way. The boy inside never grew up. And nobody noticed. Nobody held a ceremony. Nobody said, that chapter of your life is over, this one begins now. So he kept going. Built the career. Got the girl. Accumulated the evidence. And still woke up every morning feeling like something essential was missing and having absolutely no language for why.Ryan Moresby-White noticed. And he has spent the last decade doing something about it.Born in South Africa, raised in Australia, Ryan walked away from a successful construction career after a breakup cracked him open in a way he didn't expect and couldn't ignore. What he found on the other side became his life's work. Today he has sat with thousands of men at the edge of themselves and helped them cross a threshold they didn't know they needed to cross.You'll hear:Why men keep sabotaging the women they love most. Why the nice guy always ends up alone. Why you can't speak your truth if you were never given the space to discover it. Why it is very easy to be secure when you're single. Why the most powerful men are not the most polished. And why the woman in your life is not the obstacle to your growth. She is the initiation.Chapters03:00 to 09:00 Why men never truly grow up09:00 to 11:10 The difference between trauma and initiation11:10 to 15:30 Why shame runs every male relationship15:30 to 20:00 How shame from childhood shows up in your adult relationship20:00 to 22:00 Ryan's story. The bathroom floor in Bali.22:00 to 25:20 How Ryan let the grief finally bring him to his knees25:20 to 28:00 You can't biohack your way around your grief28:00 to 31:30 Run clubs are just men running from their grief31:30 to 38:00 Ryan climbed to the top and his father still wasn't there38:00 to 41:30 Every man in prison is a hurt little boy41:30 to 44:00 The boy never wanted healing. He wanted holding.44:00 to 48:00 Why your woman is your greatest initiation48:00 to 52:00 Attachment vs authenticity. Why men lose themselves.52:00 to 55:00 The nice guy always loses the woman he loves55:00 to 59:37 No one can trust a man who can't say no59:37 to 01:05:00 What it actually means to be a safe man01:05:00 to 01:12:00 It is very easy to be secure when you're single01:12:00 to 01:18:00 Why men sabotage the love they want most01:18:00 to 01:24:44 Good Will Hunting and the wound that runs everything01:24:44 to 01:32:14 The four archetypes every man needs to integrateWatch Ryan's Documentary "A Rebirth Of The Safe Man":https://youtu.be/BKK9B0o6OAU?is=ozkBqHIMCacJlzjmFollow Ryan: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now. It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Cory Richards is a National Geographic photographer, world class mountaineer, and the first and only American to summit an 8000 meter peak in winter without supplemental oxygen. He was diagnosed bipolar at 15, dropped out of high school, placed in a psychiatric unit, and put on the street with nothing. He went on to build one of the most celebrated careers in adventure photography the world has ever seen. He also almost lost everything multiple times along the way. And a month and a half before this conversation, he didn't leave his bed for days.Is this a meditation on madness? A masterclass on creativity? A loving interrogation of every label, diagnosis, and story you have ever told yourself about who you are? For me, it was all three.One line in particular has not left me since we recorded this. Cory said that being buried and being planted are often the same thing. Sit with that for a moment.There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. I am grateful to Cory for his radical honesty, for the poetic precision with which he sees the world, and for being willing to go to places in this conversation that he told me he has never gone publicly before.Get ready to hear about why the wellness industry is in Cory's words also quite sick, what your diagnosis is actually giving you and what it is quietly taking away, why you cannot optimize your way out of a lonely life, what belonging really means and why most of what we call belonging is just manipulation with better branding, the story behind the avalanche selfie on the cover of National Geographic and what Cory has never said about it until now, why certainty kills creativity, where God lives in a life like Cory's, and the only thing in the human experience without a duality - love.I left this conversation with eyes more acutely attuned to the color of everything.It was a gift for me. I hope it serves you well. Chapters:03:00 to 08:30 Inspiration vs Compensation08:30 to 17:50 Living madly in order to escape madness17:50 to 23:28 Your ideology is not your identity23:28 to 29:15 Men are in profound struggle right now29:15 to 33:53 Biohacking is bulls**t33:53 to 46:12 We are pathologically self obsessed46:12 to 53:18 What belonging actually means53:18 to 01:02:32 Certainty kills creativity01:02:32 to 01:09:00 Cory was depressed a month ago01:09:00 to 01:23:27 Being buried and being planted are the same thing01:23:27 to 01:33:55 We are all actors playing roles01:33:55 to 01:42:53 Science saves the world. Art makes it worth saving.01:42:53 to 01:47:52 There is only one thing without a dualityBuy Cory's Book for Yourself or a Friend: https://www.amazon.com/Color-Everything-Journey-Quiet-Within/dp/059359679XFollow Cory: https://www.instagram.com/coryrichards/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/

If you have yet to subscribe to the show, please do so now!! It is massively supportive in our ability to keep bringing you powerful conversations. Thank you for all your love!Mastin Kipp is a number one best-selling author, speaker and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™ for people who are seeking rapid transformation in their lives. He has been featured on the Emmy Award show, Super Soul Sunday, and recognized as a “thought leader for the next generation” by Oprah Winfrey.Mastin has built a highly successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, connect to who they really are and how to live their lives with passion and purpose. Through his writing, online courses, in-person seminars and international retreats, Mastin has worked with over two million people in over 100 countries around the world.Oprah recently also named Mastin “one of 100 awakened leaders who are using their voices and talent to elevate humanity,” alongside other teachers such as Tony Robbins, Caroline Myss, Deepak Chopra, Dr. Brené Brown, Marianne Williamson and Eckhart Tolle to name just a few.Is this a live coaching session? A masterclass on winning? A loving interruption to the part of you that is lying to yourself? For me, it was all 3. There is wisdom in abundance here, folks. One passage in particular that stuck out to me from Mastin - "I am more worried when I'm not afraid, because it means I'm not close enough to the edge."A potent and powerful calling card for a life of true empowerment, accomplishment, and fulfilling on the grand vision you hold for your life. I am grateful to Mastin for his piercing honesty, for choosing not to sugarcoat the topics most dance around, and for being willing to speak boldly into all the ways we prevent ourselves from the very thing we desire. Get ready to hear about why the healing industry benefits from keeping you disempowered, what to do about it, how to really win at anything, Mastin's goal setting framework, the skill that determines whether your relationships will survive, what a healthy relationship to fear looks like, what a "one sign disciple" is, the greatest challenge in the world today, and more...This one will challenge how you think about ambition, relationships, healing, and what it actually means to be a fully expressed human.Follow Mastin: https://www.instagram.com/mastinkipp/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Chapters 03:00 to 10:15 The greatest challenge in the world today10:15 to 18:30 Break up with the pattern, not the person18:30 to 27:00 Mastin coaches Billy27:00 to 36:00 Ambition...36:00 to 44:30 Building a healthier relationship to fear44:30 to 56:00 Staying calm while unraveling on the inside56:00 to 01:10:00 The part that saved your life01:10:00 to 01:22:00 Why you stop right before the breakthrough01:22:00 to 01:35:00 Therapy is making you better at losing01:35:00 to 01:47:00 Separate therapists are pulling your relationship apart01:47:00 to 01:56:00 Do what you love so you can do who you love01:56:00 to 02:20:54 You don't need any more signs...