You Will Please Me

Welcome to the Intermission. This is the Q&A segment where I answer your questions, each relating to the theme explored in its respective episode.

This lovely person wants to know how we can make use of the little things we notice about others. Here's my response. And if you have any thoughts of your own, I'd love to read them in the comments below.

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I've sat across from some of the most 'powerful' people in the world and watched them be completely controlled by something they couldn't even name. This episode is about that gap. Between the 'power' you think you have, and the power you actually do.

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Before the dungeon, there was Afghanistan. The Circus. Meditation. The UN. A search for something true. This is how I found it and why I'm bringing you in.

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After two years, over a hundred episodes, and a million listens - this is the final episode of the #teakink podcast. What began as a voice on a sofa became something much bigger - a space to think out loud, connect across borders, and be in conversation with those of you who listened, shared, and carried it with you.

'You Will Please Me' is the next chapter - more intentional, and even more intimate. Eva Oh's new podcast is on the horizon - with deeper focus, more solo episodes, and a continued unfolding of power, presence, and becoming.

Thank you for being part of this journey. The exchange isn’t over - it’s only changing shape.

Mistress Wei joins Eva Oh to talk latex in the tropics, sex parties in Singapore, and building a thriving kink career in one of Southeast Asia’s most discreet yet dynamic BDSM scenes. From her first session to public perceptions and regional fetish culture, Wei shares how she’s carved out a space for power, play, and pleasure—with a mask on, of course.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Mistress Wei, a Dominatrix in Singapore

(02:20) - From a Random DM to Shadowing a Session

(05:00) - Latex Fetishists in Humid Singapore

(07:50) - Shibari in Singapore

(08:55) - Kink Population in London vs Singapore

(10:50) - How to Find Sex Parties in Singapore

(13:30) - So Many Achievements Already!

(16:50) - Singapore's Public Perception Relations

(21:40) - Who Attends Singapore's Sex Parties

(24:30) - Bangkok Fetish Ball

(25:00) - Singapore, South East Asia's Biggest Kink Community

(26:00) - Masks, Anonymity and What it's Like Being Recognised

(32:40) - Words of Encouragement from Mistress Wei

Dating a dominant woman isn’t about begging to be used - it’s about learning how to meet power with presence. In this episode of the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh unpacks the messy reality of dating as a Domme, the chaos of app culture, and what actually works when approaching a dominant woman. Supported by Chyrpe - the dating app for femdom and female-led relationships - this is essential listening for anyone navigating femdom dynamics with curiosity, confusion, or just too many emojis.

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(00:00) - Welcome to #teakink

(00:28) - Introducing Chyrpe: the dating app for femdom and FLRs

(01:24) - Why dating a dominant woman isn’t about “doing anything you want”

(02:00) - The dating app disaster zone

(04:10) - What dominant women experience on mainstream apps

(05:30) - “I want to be your slave” & other spammy openers

(06:15) - Respect, not performance: what Dommes actually want

(07:30) - The cost of desperation: kink bingo and checkbox culture

(08:50) - Submission isn’t self-erasure

(10:10) - What gets a real response from a Domme?

(11:25) – Red flags vs green flags in femdom dating

(13:00) - Emotional competence > chaotic desperation

(15:10) - Fantasy vs reality: can you meet power with presence?

(16:00) - For submissives: curiosity, calm, consistency

(16:35) - For doms: vetting is sacred

(17:10) - Final word: dominance isn’t something you consume - it’s something you relate to

How I became a Dominatrix, what the job really involves, and the layered challenges we face: stigma, emotional labor, financial exclusion, and more. It’s the behind-the-scenes look at sex work you won’t find on Netflix.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:15) - The Scope of My Job

(01:45) - The Interest in Sex Work

(02:40) - The Intricacies and Evolution of My Work Responsibilities

(04:50) - What a Receptionist Shielded Me From

(09:30) - Why I Do Sex Work Despite the Challenges

(11:05) - Dungeon vs Indie

(11:50) - Navigating Societal Stigma

(12:30) - Marketing and Perceiving Yourself

(14:00) - Navigating Space and Community Challenges

(15:55) - Interpersonal Session Skills

(17:00) - Feeling Safe in My Workplace vs In Public, Workplace Wins

(20:05) - Financial Exclusion and Structural Violence in Banking for Sex Workers

(25:45) - The Power of Resilience, Community and You

(27:43) - My Internship at a Sex Work Organisation

(28:30) - Learning About the Backpage Shutdown Impact on Sex Workers

(30:00) - The Data for Decriminalisation by Amnesty International vs Puritanism

(31:17) - Why I Love My Job

Vanessa Ho, director of Project X Singapore, joins Eva Oh to unpack the legal, medical, and social realities for sex workers in Singapore. They discuss everything from navigating hostile systems and language barriers to launching a powerful anthology written by sex workers themselves. With 14 years on the frontline, Vanessa sheds light on criminalisation, community, and what real progress could look like.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Vanessa, Director of Project X Singapore

(01:25) - How Project X Helps Sex Workers - a lot!

(04:30) - Sex Work Legalities in Singapore

(06:40) - Accessing Health Services Awkwardly as a Sex Worker

(08:58) - Their Book Project - A Singaporean Sex Worker Anthology

(12:40) - What We Have Learned in Our 14 Years around the Sex Industry

(14:50) - Who is Project X?

(15:45) - Singapore's Sex Work Landscape, Throwing OF Creators into Jail

(19:50) - Working with Parliament

(21:40) - Multi-multi-lingual Outreach Services and Woes

(28:33) - The Fight for Legitimacy and Hopes for Singapore

(31:45) - Trafficking, Domestic Workers and Singapore's Villainisation of the Other

From tradie to TikTok to top escort—Will Charmer joins Eva Oh to talk about his path into sex work, the emotional and spiritual layers of male escorting, and how being tethered to family, Taoism, and marriage has helped him navigate it all. They talk cult upbringings, male privilege, aging, and what it really takes to make clients feel safe.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Will Charmer, Male Escort

(01:30) - Will's First Escorting Job, Kismet!

(04:10) - From Tradie to Tik Tok to Escorting

(04:40) - Coming from a Christian Cult

(09:10) - Empowerment through Escorting

(12:25) - Navigating Marriage as an Escort

(14:15) - The Emotional Work of Male Escorting

(17:25) - Having a Young Family as a Tether

(19:50) - Taoism and Navigating Community Carefully

(24:15) - Male Privilege in Escorting

(25:50) - Becoming Australia's Best Male Escort

(28:25) - The Magic and Downsides of Giving Client's a Safer Space

(32:30) - The First Thing You Need to be a Male Escort

(35:40) - The Advantage of Being Married as an Escort

(39:30) - Friends and Family's Response to the Job

(42:00) - How Stay Open, in Aging and the Everyday

Kink isn't just about getting off—though that's valid too. In this episode, I trace how kink first pulled me in and why it continues to matter. We explore kink as a pathway to self-awareness, transformation, and power dynamics that reflect society itself. From emotional breakthroughs to dangerous patterns, kink can open the floodgates—sometimes beautifully, sometimes brutally. A short but potent reflection on what kink offers, demands, and reveals.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - What Can Kink Do?

(01:15) - My Inkling on Kink

(02:15) - Why People Come to Kink

(03:05) - Getting Off and Feeling Understood

(04:37) - Build New Pathways, Good and Bad

(05:20) - Teaching Us About the Range of Who We Can Be

(06:12) - Opening the Floodgates

(07:10) - Kink, Power Dynamics and Revealing Societal Truths

(08:20) - A Recap

Dominatrix Audrey Fatale invites Eva Oh into her playspace for a conversation spanning 15 years of professional domination. They cover burnout, returning with purpose, and what changes as you age in the sex industry. From Audrey’s gear obsession and heavy bondage practice to navigating perimenopause and the politics of cis-het male doms, this episode is a candid look at the shifting seasons of dominance—and the power in pacing yourself.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(01:09) - Meeting Audrey Fatale in her Playspace

(02:42) - 15 Years of Domination, a Burnout and We're Back!

(04:00) - The BDSM House Environment vs Indie

(07:50) - Pacing for Job Satisfaction

(10:00) - Eva and Audrey's Different Focuses

(11:50) - Audrey, the Gear Head

(13:10) - Time, Experience and Stepping into 'Natural' Dominance

(18:00) - The Financial Aspect of Femdom

(19:40) - Different Domination 'Seasons', from Baby Domme to Now

(27:30) - Claustrophobia meets Heavy Bondage Practice

(30:00) - When Eva Bottoms

(33:40) - The Politics of Cis-het Male Doms

(37:50) - Audrey's Europe Plans

(39:10) - Perimenopause, HRT and Self-Advocacy

(49:00) - Aging in the Sex Industry

Before Eva Oh entered the scene, Mistress Tahlia was already a seasoned presence at Salon Kitty’s. Eva reconnects with her Senior Mistress to swap stories of hazing rituals, house hierarchy, and the raw intensity of Australia’s most infamous BDSM establishment. From her days at the "Den of Inequity" to the rise of pegging and the economics of erotic labor, Tahlia shares how sex work became her site of power, politics, and transformation.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Becoming Mistress Tahlia(02:55) - Sex Work as a Vehicle for Radicalisation(03:30) - Discovering BDSM(07:30) - Stepping into Power and Salon Kitty's(10:40) - The Den of Inequity(15:00) - Our Different Experiences of Salon Kitty's(19:40) - Hazing Amongst Mistresses(23:30) - Changing of the Guard(25:30) - House vs Independent Work(27:10) - Salon Kitty's Changes and Reunions(29:40) - Becoming Magical Beasts(33:15) - The Accounting Fantasy Role Play(36:00) - Tahlia's First Impressions of Eva at Salon Kitty's(38:25) - Hierarchy at the House(41:50) - The Whorearchy of Erotic Sessions(44:35) - The Emergence of Pegging and the Findom Fallout(49:10) - Online vs Real-time Work(50:35) - Intimate Job Satisfaction(51:10) - Tahlia's English Corporal Punishment Plans(54:30) - Tahlia's Number One Tip

Is marriage the pinnacle of success—or just more unpaid labor dressed up in paperwork? In this final Sex Work VS miniseries episode, I get personal about my own marriages and question what we’re really chasing when we romanticize commitment. Sex work gave me the distance to see it differently: the self-absorbed oxytocin highs, the cultural expectations, and the silent costs of being a “good partner.” If you’ve ever second-guessed the path laid out for you, this one’s for you.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Marriage

(02:05) - Paperwork and More Unpaid Labour

(03:10) - My Marriages

(04:20) - Unpack Marriage as a Measure of Success

(08:20) - Sex Work Has Given Me Freedom from the Cycle

(11:08) - The Miniseries Recap: Self-absorbed Oxytocin Rides VS Regretting a Life

(14:20) - Thank You Sex Work!

What’s the difference between being paid for your emotional labor and giving it away for free? In this episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my approach to relationships. From unreciprocated efforts with cis-het men to the gratitude that comes with being paid, I reflect love, and raising my standards. We’ll talk about oxytocin, one-sided coaching, the myth of romantic stability—and why financial independence feels far more secure. This isn’t about giving up on intimacy. It’s about knowing your worth, and deciding who (or what) deserves your time.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Relationships

(01:05) - The 'Natural' Progression, Dating to Relationship?

(02:15) - What I Would Need from a Relationship

(03:40) - The Societal Expectation of Having a Relationship

(07:10) - Being Taken for Granted

(09:10) - The Advantage of Paid VS Unpaid Emotional and Sexual Labour

(10:30) - One-sided Efforts when Engaging with Cis-het Men

(13:25) - Improving My Standards, Does it Help or Hinder

(15:40) - Getting Paid for the Usual Coaching of Men

(16:40) - The Exchange of Money Encourages Gratitude

(20:40) - Honing the Art of Relating and the Benefits of Getting Paid for It

(23:15) - Relationship Stability is not a Given, your Financial Independence can be

(24:50) - Do I Want to Spend My Life on Unworthy Pursuits and People?

(25:50) - Falling in Love as a Skill Learned through Sex Work

(26:55) - Friendships with Sex Workers as the Gold Standard

(27:45) - The Need for Reciprocation

(28:55) - What Cis-het Men Could Offer if Not My Gold Standard, Money and Connections

Dating apps. New relationship energy. Getting paid for your time. In this first episode of the Sex Work VS miniseries, I explore how sex work reshaped my expectations of dating, romance, and emotional labor. From valuing my time to filtering partners like my client applicants, I unpack why I still date—and what I refuse to give away for free.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Sex Work VS Dating

(01:20) - A Changed Dating (App) Landscape, but Similar Motivations?

(02:50) - The Emotional Benefits of Both

(04:50) - How Getting Paid Taught Me About My Value and Gave Me Choice

(06:30) - Why I Still Date (for free); Entertainment and Aesthetic

(08:42) - How I Keep Dating Relevant in a Frivolous Culture

(11:05) - My Dating Application Process

(13:55) - The Disadvantage of Unpaid Dating Labour

(15:15) - Oxytocin, New Relationship Energy and Infatuation

(17:00) - The 'Neatness' of Getting Paid

(17:40) - Wasting My Resource and Being Valued

(20:00) - A Cis-Het Lens Focus, for now

Welcome to a new miniseries exploring what sex work has taught me about dating, relationships, and marriage. I'm calling it Sex Work VS... Can you guess which is in the lead? Stay tuned.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - A New Miniseries on Sex Work vs Dating, Relationships and Marriage

(01:30) - Sex Work Has Taught Me the Pros and Cons

People often ask Eva Oh how her partners “handle” her job — but maybe the better question is: Would a sex worker date you? In this flashback episode of #teakink, Eva explores how sex work can sharpen communication, boundaries, and emotional intelligence — and why those who work in it may have higher standards, not lower ones. This episode sets the stage for an upcoming miniseries on sex work, dating, and marriage.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:18) - Would a Sex Worker Date You?

(01:00) - Unfortunate Case Studies

(05:11) - Sex Work and Elevated Communication Skills

(06:30) - Do You Deserve the Empathy?

(08:55) - How Sex Work Has Changed Me

(14:49) - Understanding Society’s Shortcomings

(16:25) - A Better Case Study

(18:00) - “I Never Thought I Could Have a Relationship Like This”

(19:50) - How and Why Monogamy Was Constructed?

(22:14) - Why I’ve Become So Picky, What I Deserve

In this episode of #teakink, Eva sits down with Kyron Kruger — performer, provocateur, and latex-drenched shapeshifter — to talk evolution, ambition, and the kink of it all. Kyron shares how he got started, what latex means to him, and how he navigates the sex industry as a cis man. They unpack everything from gatekeeping to dealing with trolls, the Eva-Kyron dynamic, and their big creative dreams — including fetish film, Europe, and beyond. This is Kyron Kruger, for now.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - The Origins of Kyron Kruger

(03:55) - Latex

(05:00) - A Fluid Evolution

(10:10) - Challenging the Trolls

(11:20) - Plans for Europe

(12:50) - Advice on the Hustle

(16:40) - Is there space for Gatekeeping

(20:15) - Being a Cis-Man in the Sex Industry

(23:20) - The Eva-Kyron Dynamic?

(25:50) - Fetish Film Dreams and Plans

(30:30) - Eva's Asia-Australia Plans

(31:30) - A Wrap on Kyron Kruger, for now...

Megan Prescott joins Eva Oh on #teakink to discuss the complexities of growing up in the public eye, navigating OnlyFans, and confronting internalized shame. She shares her journey from child acting to stripping (badly), how sex work became a financial lifeline, and why society struggles with women owning their sexuality. Megan also breaks down the fight for sex work decriminalization in the UK, her role as Chair of National Ugly Mugs, and the real dangers of the Nordic Model. Plus, the tabloid obsession with nudes, funding her Edinburgh Fringe show, and the unexpected freedom of her autism diagnosis.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Megan Prescott and her Character, Molly

(02:00) - The Issues of Child Acting, as a Child Actor

(08:00) - How OnlyFans Started Paying the Bills as not a Good Stripper

(14:15) - Internalised Shame and How Society Distances Women from Themselves and Their Sexuality

(17:30) - The Contradictions of Denying Sexuality as a Valuable Commodity

(24:00) - Megan on Becoming the Chair of National Ugly Mugs

(28:30) - What the Decriminalisation vs Legalisation of Sex Work Means in the UK

(33:40) - The Dangers of the Nordic Model

(34:30) - Amnesty's Support of Decriminalisation

(37:40) - Nudes, the Tabloids and Funding Her Edinburgh Fringe Show

(42:10) - The Liberation in Megan's Autism Diagnosis

(43:55) - Sex Work as an Education and of Intrigue, and the Fear and Confusion in Society

(49:00) - Marriage as Sex Work

(50:05) - Megan's New Podcast

Eva Oh welcomes Aranja—kink, power, and psychedelics coach, trauma therapist, and death doula—to #teakink for a deep dive into the intersections of kink, psychedelics, and death. They explore the role of a death doula, the unexpected parallels between kink and mortality, and how slowing down the dying process changes everything. Aranja shares insights on guiding clients through psychedelic experiences, the challenges of kink coaching, and the lack of resources around trauma in these spaces. Plus, a discussion on a potential kinky death retreat and Eva’s first encounter with a dead body.

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(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:21) - Aranja, Kink, Power and Psychedelics Coach, Trauma Therapist and Death Doula

(05:20) - Discovering the Role of the Death Doula

(09:45) - Bringing All Aranja's Roles Together?

(11:05) - Can You Combine Kink and Psychedelics?

(13:35) - The Similarities Between Kink and Death, Humility and Letting Go

(15:45) - The Berlin Death Festival and the Cultural Practices of Death

(18:45) - Slow Down the Death Process

(21:50) - Eva's First Experience with a Dead Body

(24:45) - A Kinky Death Retreat?

(26:20) - What is Psychedelics Coaching?

(28:30) - The Dangers and Expectations of Psychedelic Clients

(32:50) - The Concerns of Kink Coaching Clients

(39:30) - Kink, Trauma and Structuring Engagement as a Coach or Dominatrix

(45:02) - The Lack of Resources Around Kink and Trauma

(46:40) - How Kink is a Container for Sidelined Emotions and Experiences

(51:30) - What Aranja Studied to Bring Together These Roles

(53:00) - Aranja's Plâns and Eva's Sacrificial Session