Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri expand this year’s theme of community into the members of our community that may be on the margins. Dr. Niki Elliott, a clinical professor and director of the Center for Embodied Equity and Neurodiversity at the University of San Diego’s School of Leadership and Education Sciences and author of Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive, joins the podcast to discuss the importance of making space for those who are different than us – especially the children in our community.

Loving and caring for children living with neurodivergence requires a level of intentionality and self-awareness that is only now becoming mainstream. Some of the skills needed will call for the parents, caregiver, and community member to dig deep into themselves and address their unmet needs so that they can get out of the way and put the needs of the child first.

Dr. Niki provides a holistic approach to supporting children with neurodivergence needs and the first step is by offering compassion, not only to the child but also to the caregiver. Lady, you’ll want to tune in for actionable strategies you can begin to incorporate today that will shift your perspective in how you show up for the neurodivergent young people in your life…and, maybe even yourself too! Dr. Niki shares why helping young people train their nervous systems for resilience can help them navigate the world more skillfully.

It wasn’t all business this episode! Head over to Patreon for a special Oh You Blatchet! segment with Dr. Niki. She’s spilling the tea about her business and having fun doing so! We’ll catch you there!

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Where to find Dr. Niki Elliott:

Website: Dr. Niki Elliott

Book: Heart-Centered Connections: Seven Essential Skills for Helping Neurodiverse and Marginalized Children Thrive

Instagram: @iam_drniki

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What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)? No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.

Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe

Connect with Guryan:
Fourage.io Guryan@fourage.io

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Psychology Today

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With the fall film festival season (mostly) in the rearview and release dates set through the end of the year, Adam and Josh hold a Fall Movie Preview Draft that sees them largely ignoring obvious picks like Avengers: Doomsday and Dune: Part Three in favor of battling over some of the most intriguing indies still to come. Plus, a review of Aaron Sorkin's The Social Reckoning and Massacre Theatre.

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-”The Family Guy” has the famous “It insists upon itself” joke – not “The Simpsons.”

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Lady! This week, Dr. Dom, Terri and their super producer Chisom have a lively discussion around the Black classic, Love and Basketball. Now, 26 years after its release, the movie has a special resonance for the crew as they look back from both a nostalgic lens and from the perspective of grown women. Join us for a trip down memory lane and explore some of the deeper meanings that are applicable to life still to this day.

The ladies go quote for quote and drop some bars as they dive deep into the lessons shared in the movie and leave you with an important question – when it comes to love, what guidelines are you using to write the greatest love story of your life, the one with yourself and how are you using that love story to guide you into greater intimacy with another?

We want to hear from you! Meet us on Instagram and let us know your favorite part of the movie!

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Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives!

Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast.
Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me. Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown

Takeaways:
Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L
Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys

Relevant Episodes:
S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry
S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn

Resources:
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Psychology Today
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Hey lady, welcome to Fall! This season is perfect for sweaters, soup, and shedding. As the temperature cools and you find yourself drawn inward, you can now use this time to shed some of the survival programming and strategies so that you can return to the true you.

This week, Terri and Dr. Dom lovingly discuss how they’ve endured seasons of straight survival without even realizing it. Lady, hindsight is absolutely 20/20. One day you look back at the past couple of years you grit your way through despite not letting it show that you are going through it and say to yourself wow! The amount of life-changing, truly transformative events can blow your mind. But, once you get past the wave of emotions that may come up you now have an amazing opportunity to chart a course – one from a place of wholeness and abundance, not scratching and surviving.

Tune in for strategies on how to optimize your time and your life now that you are in a place to do what you want to do, not only what you can or have to do.

And, girl, if you are not a member of our Patreon you are missing out! We have exclusives, first look content, and real sister friend camaraderie that will help you expand both your mind and your community. We’re waiting for you!

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Lady, are you in control of your life? In today’s throwback episode, Jasmine Green joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us how we may not be in alignment with our purpose and steps we can take to get into alignment. No matter how your journey started, as we hear from Jasmine, does not have to be the route you continue to take. The internal experience of the entrepreneur we see is a powerfully vulnerable story and Jasmine shares with us how to transmute our energy. Through visualizations and personal examples we learn concrete steps to manifest the life we deserve.

Quote of the Day:
"You can only receive what you're actually ready for AND... You will only allow yourself to have what you believe you deserve."
- Jasmine P. Green

Takeaways:
Three phases of Manifestation
True manifestation is when you master being it vs wanting it
1. I want it because I recognize what I don’t have
2. Close your eyes and visualize where you want to be ”this is mine”
3. Whatever you believe you deserve you can have- you have everything you need to get/receive it.

FB: JasminePaigeGreen
IG: Jasminepgreen

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
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Lady, by now you know the most uncomfortable part of your becoming is just that, the discomfort. The next version of you requires a shedding of all of the ways that kept you safe because those ways are likely now what are keeping you small. Knowing that doesn’t make the actual act of shifting your life any easier, which is why Terri and Dr. Dom stop by this week to offer some comfort and a few strategies to help you navigate these changes in a way that is authentic to you.

Whether it’s shifting a relationship by removing contact or allowing yourself to shatter your own worldview, there is a quiet power in making yourself comfortable in the liminal spaces in your life. So, how do you make the most of the vastness between the old and new you? Tune in this week for tips on how to cultivate a level of curiosity so that you can decorate your interior life with what feels real and true for you.

Lady, this life is a journey – a beautiful, bumpy ride ripe with opportunities for meaning, connection, and impact. What do you want this life to feel like? Once you are clear, you can know for sure, that it is yours to be had. Happy creating, lady!

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In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to stop playing small and start “Shining, Shining, Yeah!”

Quote of the Day:
"Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."
- Marianne Williamson

Sylvia Salow’s 6 Secrets to Stop Dimming Your Light
1. Observe Your Body
2. Bring your awareness to your energetic field
3. Find Out Why You Dim Your Light
4. Find out how you would shine your light if no one is around.
5. Know Your Soul's Blueprint
6. Fill Yourself Up

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Lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri ask you one very important question: who is holding you? When the days get long, and the load is overwhelming, are you the only person you can rely on? If that sounds familiar then grab your favorite throw blanket, get cozy and let this episode swaddle you in self-care and self-compassion.

There are many factors why the strong friend often gets overlooked when it’s time to be checked on or nurtured, but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t need or deserve the type of support she gives. Still, the strong friend can be her own worst enemy when it comes to receiving the care and tenderness she actually needs because she’s built a life of identifying silently suffering as a noble endeavor. And, when she finally looked around for who the adult in the room to help her she realized it was her.

Terri and Dr. Dom share real-life scenarios where they were thrust into adulthood, gave insight to how they handled those situations, and reflected on what they needed in those moments. The what I wish I had knowns of life are often bittersweet because sometimes without warning you are on a new path with new responsibilities and new expectations from people. It can be…a lot. And, it doesn’t mean that these situations will stop but there are things that you can do to advocate for yourself. Do you know what will make you feel held and supported? Maybe it’s a call from a friend checking in or maybe it’s a hot bath where you can soak and ease your worries. Once you identify what you need practice asking for what you need with the strategies provided in this episode.

Lady, you are your best investment so figure out what money can’t buy and build a life where you are held and held well.

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Lady! We know that not only are we living in interesting, unprecedented times but we’re also just living our regular lives and sometimes life be lifin’. Life is beautiful, abundant, and generous but it can also be raggedy, harsh, and tough. As much as we love being a part of the toolkit that helps keep you uplifted, you know that we always keep it real. That’s why in this week's throwback, Dr. Dom and Terri offer their grounded perspective about how to handle life when life is being a hot, ghetto mess.

Adulting is often fun and wonderful. There are days as an adult when ice cream for breakfast is a thing because you’re grown. But, for the days when the laundry is piling up, the bills are due, the internal monologue is putting you through the ringer, the deep pain within is spilling out, you’re sick, or you’re just tired it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and like you’re getting it all wrong.

Fear not, Terri and Dr. Dom offer ten truth bombs to help you keep everything in perspective as you get up and figure it out – like you always do! Adulting is often described as a series of responsibilities and actions that one takes to be a functioning member of society. But, this week Dr. Dom and Terri remind you that often adulting is finding the tools to complete those mundane tasks to satisfaction when life doesn’t feel good.

So, grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space latte mug (find it and more in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop), fill it with your favorite cozy beverage, and allow this episode to be the warm hug, kiss on the cheek, or pat on the back for getting through the patches when life feels hard. Lady, no matter what’s going on keep your chin up and remember that we’re rooting for you!

10 Things to Remember When Adulting Gets Ghetto
1. Crying doesn’t mean you’re losing — It means you’re releasing
2. You’re not weak — you’re carrying a lot right now
3. Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re not supported
4. It’s okay to miss people who are no longer in your life
5. Your ancestors would be so proud of you
6. It’s normal to grieve the life you thought you’d have by now
7. You are always worthy of love, even when you think you're a mess
8. You’re allowed to rest, even If nothing’s done
9. Your dream isn’t too big — It’s just being built on divine timing
10. Everything is going to be okay — even if it doesn’t look like it yet

Quote of the Day:
"Adulting is realizing that you have to take charge of your life, even when it's hard."
– Unknown

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Hey lady! Have you ever been accused of being stuck-up, shy, rude, or flat-out a b*tch and you were simply existing? Other people’s projections land on you and suddenly you have a reputation for being anti-social or awkward while anxiety is beating your butt and you’re doing your best not to show it. Or, maybe you’re the one pre-emptively judging someone for their demeanor, creating stories about why they are behaving they way they are without pausing and finding a neutral space from which to observe the interaction.

This week, Dr. Dom and Terri show some love to the socially selective, the socially anxious, and the downright awkward among us so that we can understand these relational dynamics and hopefully offer more compassion to ourselves and others. Why? Because we’re all doing life for the first time and we do not all have the answers but we can make the effort to help each other along the way.

Have you noticed that certain situations trigger fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses from you? Dr. Dom offers an actionable toolkit to help you navigate those scenarios so you can enter spaces skillfully. And, Terri offers perspective about how you can give yourself grace because it is quite possible that you are reading the room accurately and acting perfectly appropriately even if other people misunderstand your behavior.

Terri and Dr. Dom share their real-world experiences and how they’ve been able to adapt to situations while also identifying when they’ve personalized a situation without enough data or proper context. Lady, doing that can cause unforced errors in an otherwise fruitful potential relationship, so do yourself a favor, head over to the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, grab your journal and spend some time with the reflection questions offered in this episode.

Lady, life is all about relationships so let’s expand our capacity to be in sisterhood by increasing our confidence and our understanding of our differences. We’re shaping this world into a beautiful one full of genuine authenticity!

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Hey lady! Is there something on your heart, an idea you really want to get off of the ground, and you’re just waiting for the right time? Are you aware that there is no time like the present? Sure, maybe you’ve heard that old adage plenty of times, but it’s true. The only way to get better or even gauge where you are in the process is to start. In this week's throwback episode, Dr. Dom and Terri have a frank conversation about how they use fear to fuel their internal fire. This internal fire keeps them going to accomplish their personal and professional goals and it's one that you can cultivate for yourself. They offer game on some of the tricky instances that can trip us up along the way. And, in the Aftershow they offer tips on how to conquer them. This is a juicy, meaty episode with some useful additions to your toolkit. We’re here for our community so tap in and connect with us on Instagram and Patreon!

Quote of the Day:
“The Sun will rise and set regardless. What we choose to do with the light while it's here is up to us. Journey wisely.”
― Alex Elle

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Lady! Are you in the mood for love but feeling allergic to shared finances, living together, and faking the funk of marital bliss? Don’t worry lady, this isn’t an episode for the lovestung cynics, it’s an ode to the changing nature of romantic relationships.

Whether you eschew marriage altogether or you welcome long-term partnership but on your terms, we are thankfully in a time when new relationship templates are being welcomed and embraced by those who desire relationships.

Previous generations often married for survival or necessity but this generation gets to partner based on shared values and goals. So, do you know what you want or need to be in a healthy relationship? Dr. Dom and Terri share some of their business as they illustrate how they defined what healthy relationships mean to them. Don’t feel left out! They’ve created the H.E.R. Relationship test, an assessment that will help you check the health of your current relationship or help you establish a framework of how you want to show up in your future relationship. They also reinforce that you don’t need to be with anyone to feel complete and if you do, you might want to talk to the lady about it. Book a consultation with Dr. Dom to discuss any issues of self-worth, attachment trauma, or self-esteem issues.

Lady, the H.E.R. Relationship Test isn’t the only goodie in this episode but you’ll have to tune in to find out the other actionable items you can implement today to help you find a relationship that works best for you!

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Hey lady! This week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss a touchy but necessary subject – how to deal with the office bully, especially when the office bully looks like you.

By now we all know that being a mean girl is wack, late, and played out, but it is still a reality for some people in the office. So, how do you, as a grown woman with tools and skills, deal with those sticky, tricky, and often nuanced situations where the mean girl is trying to make you feel a way?

Terri and Dr. Dom offer a few scenarios, from their lived and witnessed experiences, of how these experiences play out and how they can seriously impact your wellbeing. The good news is that there are strategies to deal with challenging work situations. So, when the skinfolk at your job are not acting like kinfolk, charge it to the game but keep your eyes open. How, you may ask?

Tap in for a few tools for self-reflection and self-assessment so you can be aware of when that energy is coming at you, or when you are the energy that needs to be corrected. Keep growing, lady!

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Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. In today's throwback episode, Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide. Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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Lady! We talk a lot about loving yourself, and developing a deep relationship with yourself, and building a healthy practice of self-acceptance and devotion to oneself, but we typically keep it PG. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri talk about self-love holistically. Yes, lady, this week Dr. Dom and Terri discuss why deepening your relationship to your body and your pleasure is critical to you walking out in the world feeling fulfilled and full of joy.

Terri offers perspective on how early programming from childhood, family, and religious dogma can block us from knowing ourselves deeply and intimately and Dr. Dom offers guidance to building that relationship with yourself. The fact of the matter is finding pleasure with, by, and for yourself is more than experiencing the juicy satisfaction of an orgasm. It’s helping you cultivate a practice of deep listening to yourself and your desires, and building a baseline of self-trust so that you can achieve the best sex you’ve ever had, even if it’s just you double-clicking your own mouse.

So, lady, tap in so you can hear practical tips on keeping yourself healthy and happy with or without a partner!

Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

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Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

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Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back for a much-needed conversation. In this week's throwback episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics.

Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions.

Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous

Takeaways:
Dental Dams Female Condom

Relevant Episode:
S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper

Follow Dr. Joy Cooper on Instagram: @thedrjoy

Our Culture Care California residents: Send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG or @ourculturecare

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Lady! Take a deep breath because this week Terri and Dr. Dom are about to bring it to you. A major part of growing and expanding is being present enough to be aware and accountable for your ish. That’s right, you can only go as deep with someone as you’ve gone with yourself. That means, are you having honest conversations with yourself that allow you to identify and address the areas where it’s you (not them) that needs to be accountable?

Accountability is not easy to master but once you do, you’ll see real tangible results in the quality of your relationships. Dr. Dom and Terri give you a taste of what a healthy accountability practice looks like with actionable steps you can use in today’s mini episode.

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Goal Mapping Starter Guide

Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

Resources:

Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice

Get That Pitch Workshop: Turn your story and expertise into speaking gigs, media features, and collaborations, without a publicist. Visit GetThatPitch.com and Use code HERSPACE for a special listener discount.

Branding with Terri

Melanin and Mental Health

Therapy for Black Girls

Psychology Today

Therapy for QPOC

Therapy Fund Foundation

Where to find us:

Twitter:@HERspacepodcast

Instagram:@herspacepodcast

Facebook:@herspacepodcast

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Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s throwback episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.

Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest

Takeaways:

Signs it's you:
All of your problems are someone else's fault
You take more than you give
There's so much drama
You have a major superiority complex
You’re a Debbie Downer
You only express love or admiration when you need something.

How to make the change:
Watch how people interact around you
Monitor your own thoughts and actions
Apologize more and seek understanding
Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal

Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
The Self Compassion Deck

Relevant Past Episodes:

S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness
S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis

Resources:
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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Instagram: @herspacepodcast
Facebook: @herspacepodcast
Website: herspacepodcast.com
Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com
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