Podcast
Self Obsessed
Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth.
‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions.
So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.
- Self-Improvement chart
- #186
- Episodes
- 141
- Releases
- Weekly
- Typical length
- 21 min
- On air since
- 2023
- Latest episode
- 4 days ago
Episodes
141 episodes, newest first
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16 min
the ultimate guide to being the woman who ACTUALLY follows through and gets sh*t done
Show notes
if you've been struggling with procrastination or constantly feeling like you need to reset your life, consider this your ultimate guide to becoming the woman who ACTUALLY follows through. 🤍 building self-discipline isn't about having the perfect productivity routine or waiting until you feel motivated. it's about rebuilding trust with yourself and learning to keep the promises you make even when things get difficult. in this video, we're diving into why procrastination keeps us stuck in the same cycle and how to finally break free by changing the way we approach our goals. because becoming your most productive self isn't about getting everything right every single day. it's about building the confidence to show up for yourself and creating habits that help you become the woman you've always wanted to be. ✨
CHAPTERS:
1:37 Chapter 1: Make the Goal Actionable
5:53 Chapter 2: Build a Bad Day Strategy
10:59 Chapter 3: Earn the IdentityFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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23 min
chatty Q&A | friendships, boundaries, life goals, work/life balance + more
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ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL (https://tamkaur.com/products/obsessed-with-productivity-journal)
in this vlog, i’m answering your questions from instagram and sharing a little life update. i talk about my struggles with seasonal affective disorder and how i manage it, introduce my new cat matcha (and my plans to get another ragdoll kitten named chai), and explain why i keep my relationship private even though i get asked about it all the time. i also get into my journey as an influencer, the struggle of balancing personal and work life, and my recent realization that i’m actually such a homebody. plus, i briefly touch on my relationship with my parents and share where i’m at with the idea of having kids in the future.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Welcome and Life Update Introduction00:27 Mental Health Struggles and Coping Mechanisms02:59 Settling in with Matcha and Future Plans04:03 Privacy in Relationships and Personal Boundaries07:35 First Payment Experience and Living in London09:46 Balancing Personal and Work Life10:50 Struggles with Being a Homebody13:03 Relationship with Parents14:39 Being a South Asian Influencer15:52 Coping with Hectic Life and Friendships18:39 Decision on Not Having Children21:09 Conclusion and Thank You
BOOK (https://geni.us/TamKaurBook)
JOURNAL (https://www.selfobsessedjournal.com/)
WEBSITE (https://tamkaur.com/)
PODCAST (https://www.youtube.com/@SelfObsessedPodcast)
VLOGS (https://www.youtube.com/@TamKaurVlogs)
INSTAGRAM (https://www.instagram.com/tamkaur/)
TIKTOK (https://www.tiktok.com/@tamkaur_)
For brand and press enquiries: mailto:tam@mvetalent.com
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34 min
GIRL TALK Q&A: boyfriend drama, toxic friends, jealousy & hard truths you need to hear
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[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month.
it's that time again... GIRL TALK, and this one is juicy! we're getting into all your dilemmas, from messy situationships and friendship drama to dating red flags and knowing when it's time to walk away. i'm sharing my honest big sister advice on navigating these situations, trusting your intuition, and learning to stop letting fear and insecurity dictate your decisions. so grab a drink, get comfortable, and let's talk about the things we all need to hear but might not always want to admit!
CHAPTERS:
1:16 Dating and Relationships
15:04 Friends, Family, and Toxic Dilemmas
24:00 Self-Love and Growth DilemmasFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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Epidemic Sound -
39 min
life update Q&A | marriage, friendships, insecurities, success + what’s next
Show notes
[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month.
PRE-ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL
it’s been almost a year since we’ve done a proper q&a, so this was definitely overdue 🥹 we’re having a much needed catch up on where i’m at in life right now, from how i really feel about marriage and my future to friendships, success and some of the things that have changed as i’ve grown. i’m also sharing what i’ve been working on behind the scenes and answering some of the questions you guys have been wanting to know 🤍 grab a beverage, a snack and let’s catch up!
For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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24 min
everything I wish I knew before 25
Show notes
[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month.
PRE ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL
your early 20s can feel like you’re supposed to have your entire life figured out, but ages 20–25 are really about building the foundation for the woman you’re becoming. in this video, i’m sharing 7 lessons that completely changed the way i approach my life, from learning to trust yourself without constantly seeking approval to releasing the pressure to always know what comes next. your 20s aren’t about getting everything right the first time, they’re about giving yourself the space to make mistakes, change your mind, and become someone you’re proud of. 🤍
chapters:
2:18 they still see the old you
5:20 you already know
7:35 stop planning your life around people
10:17 you're not supposed to know yet
12:03 your life has become too familiar
14:08 one person said no
17:09 this will cost you years
19:58 homeworkFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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20 min
5 steps to Manifest Your Dream Partner in a Self-Obsessed Way
Show notes
[ad] Text CHECK to 82228 to sign up for CoppaFeel!’s free monthly text reminder service, and they’ll remind you to check your chest every month.
PRE-ORDER MY PRODUCTIVITY JOURNAL
manifesting true love can feel like it’s all about finding the right person, but the healthiest relationships begin with the relationship you have with yourself. in this video, i’m sharing my 5-step self-obsessed guide to manifesting the kind of love you actually deserve. we’ll talk about strengthening your self-concept, becoming the partner you hope to attract, healing unhealthy attachment patterns, setting standards that protect your emotional safety, and getting intentional about what you want without becoming attached to when or how it arrives. love should never require you to put your own life on hold, so instead of waiting for someone else to complete it, focus on creating a life that already feels fulfilling on its own.
CHAPTERS:
Tip 1 — 2:06
Tip 2 — 5:01
Tip 3 — 9:32
Tip 4 — 12:48
Tip 5 — 17:14For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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17 min
watch this before you go back to school for confidence [pep talk]
Show notes
going back to school or university can feel like the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself, but real confidence starts with changing how you see yourself. in this video, i’m sharing 8 mindset shifts that will help you stop living through other people’s opinions and start making choices based on the person you actually want to become. we’ll talk about how to stop chasing validation, handle rejection without letting it define you, intentionally build a new identity through your actions, and so much more. you only get this chapter of your life once, so don’t let insecurity or fear decide how much of it you allow yourself to experience.
For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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13 min
watch this when you feel behind in life | comparison, self-doubt, and finding your own path
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feeling like everyone else is moving forward while you’re falling behind in life? i’ve been there. in this video, i’m sharing 10 reassuring facts and mindset shifts to help you stop comparing yourself to others and trust your own timeline. we’ll talk about navigating self-doubt, letting go of the pressure to have it all figured out, and finding your own path. whether you’re questioning your progress or grieving where you thought you’d be by now, this is your reminder that you’re not behind—you’re building a life that actually feels right for you.
For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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29 min
MID YEAR RESET 2026: the 1% plan to become unrecognisable in 6 months
Show notes
if you've been waiting for a sign to reset your life, let this be it. the middle of the year is one of the most powerful times to pause and reflect because you still have enough time to completely change how this year ends. in this video, we'll talk about what a true mid-year reset actually looks like and why the second half of the year can completely change the direction of the first. from letting go of what no longer serves you to being more intentional with your time, energy, attention, and money, this is about creating a life that feels aligned with the person you're becoming. because you don't need a new year to start over. you just need the willingness to begin again.
chapters:
01:34 chapter 1: mid-year rest
06:08 chapter 2: mid-year cuts
13:00 chapter 3: mid-year investments
19:44 chapter 4: mid-year resetFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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23 min
mastering your self-concept is the answer to your desires
Show notes
if you've ever felt invisible, believed you were "just shy," or convinced yourself that confidence was something other people were born with, this conversation is for you. we explore why your self-concept is the foundation of every change you want to make, and how the identity you've carried for years may be quietly shaping your reality without you even realizing it. when you stop using your past as proof of who you are, you create the space to become someone new. confidence isn't something you wait to feel—it's something you begin to embody the moment you choose a different story about yourself.
chapters:
02:40 01 — the pitfalls you're stuck in
08:59 02 — how it transforms your life and manifestations
13:57 03 — the ultimate self-concept methodFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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16 min
why are women getting dumber on purpose?
Show notes
if you've ever caught yourself saying "i'm just a girl," embracing girl math or girl dinner, or believing that helplessness is part of being feminine, this conversation is for you. we explore how the identities you repeat shape your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth, and why social media trends can quietly reinforce limiting beliefs. true confidence isn't about playing small or pretending you don't know something. it's built through emotional intelligence, financial independence, and becoming a woman who trusts herself. so, it's time to stop shrinking and start building a life rooted in capability instead of helplessness.
chapters:
01 — the cult of girlhood 02:12
02 — your self-concept doesn't know you're joking 07:03
03 — you are manifesting your limitations 08:15
04 — competence is part of the glow up 09:32
05 — the self-obsessed woman 12:03For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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12 min
why undeserving people always seem to succeed
Show notes
if they could do it without the credentials, the only thing standing between you and that outcome is not capability, it is belief. if you've ever wondered why people with less experience or fewer qualifications are achieving the success you want, this video is for you. we explore how your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth shape your reality, why comparison on social media fuels scarcity and limiting beliefs, and how jealousy can reveal what you truly desire. it's time to overcome imposter syndrome, build genuine confidence, develop an abundance mindset, and create success on your own terms by becoming the highest version of yourself.
For brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
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13 min
why quitting man hating was the most feminist thing i ever did
Show notes
this video is for the woman who believes that hating men is the same thing as healing. somewhere along the way, man-hating became synonymous with female empowerment. it became the proof that you had healed, evolved, and finally de-centered men. but what if true feminism requires something entirely different? in this video, i break down the 7 reasons why letting go of man-hating changed the way i viewed healing, self-worth, dating, and female empowerment. from emotional attachment and unresolved hurt to avoidance, resentment, and the surprising similarities between man-hating culture and the manosphere, we unpack why the goal was never to spend your life loving men or hating them. the goal was always to make yourself the main character.
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
01 — STILL OBSESSED 1:51
02 — THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE 2:36
03 — HEALED OR HURT? 4:05
04 — THE AVOIDANCE STRATEGY 5:51
05 — PICK-ME IN REVERSE 7:41
06 — SAME OBSESSION 9:30
07 — FREEDOM 10:30BOOK & LINKS:
BOOK
JOURNAL
WEBSITE
PODCAST
VLOGSSTAY CONNECTED:
INSTAGRAM
TIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
Epidemic Sound -
23 min
REALITY CHECK: why you still don't have the love you want
Show notes
if you’re constantly overthinking texts, stuck in situationships, comparing yourself to girls in relationships, or feeling like everyone else finds love so easily except you...this reality check is for you ❤️ in today's video, we’re talking about self concept, attachment styles, manifestation, boundaries, confidence, detachment, and the small daily choices that either move you closer to healthy love or keep you stuck in the same toxic cycle. if you’re tired of settling, obsessing over unavailable people, or feeling like you always have to earn love, this video is for you. because the healthy, secure relationship you want starts with becoming the version of you who truly believes she deserves it ✨
🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
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SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
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Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
Epidemic Sound -
17 min
how to transform your life before summer (you have one month)
Show notes
this is your mid-year reminder that you do not need to wait until january to become the woman you said you wanted to be. in this video, we reset your space, your phone, your mind, and your habits so you can stop avoiding your goals and start rebuilding discipline, self-trust, and momentum before 2026 slips away. if you have been feeling stuck, burnt out, inconsistent, or disconnected from your future self, this is your 30-day reset to get back in alignment ✨
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
02:30 Chapter 1: The Reset
12:59 Chapter 2: The Method🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
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SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
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*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder! -
21 min
how to finally silence your inner critic (for the women who have already done the work)
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this one is for the woman who has already done the work. who knows the tools. who has grown and who keeps hitting the same wall every time she tries to go higher. your inner critic does not disappear when you evolve. it evolves with you. it gets quieter, subtler, and far more dangerous. it stops sounding like self-hate and starts sounding like wisdom. and that is when it does the most damage. this video covers the neuroscience behind why the inner critic gets loudest exactly when you are closest to your next level, the specific methods to silence it at the root, and the daily identity work that makes the silence permanent. this is not beginner self-help. this is the advanced version. watch until the end.
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
02:30 Chapter 1: Meet Your Built-in Bully
10:09 Chapter 2: The Self-love Protocol
16:12 Chapter 3: Identity Homework🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection
use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!
SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
STAY CONNECTED:
MY INSTAGRAM
MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]
MY YOUTUBE
MY VLOGS
MY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder! -
22 min
how to be a b*tch — why being nice is sabotaging your entire life
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you already know how to be a b*tch. parts one, two, and three gave you the tools. part four goes somewhere the others never did. this one is about the bigger picture. why being nice is quietly sabotaging your goals, your self-esteem, your energy, and the company you keep. why your body is paying a physical price for every emotion you've swallowed to keep the peace. why the women who get treated well in relationships aren't always the kindest...they're the most self-possessed. and how to build a daily life that actually reflects the woman you are becoming, not the one you were conditioned to be.
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
01:06 Chapter 1: Good Girl Syndrome
07:34 Chapter 2: The New Mindset
16:05 Chapter 3: The Bad B*tch Lifestyle🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection
use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!
SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
STAY CONNECTED:
MY INSTAGRAM
MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]
MY YOUTUBE
MY VLOGS
MY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder! -
22 min
why women who put themselves first win every time
Show notes
for the woman who has always been the reliable one. the one who shows up, gives everything, and somehow still ends up last on her own list — without being able to explain why. this video is the explanation. and the way out. there is a system built into friendships, families, relationships, and culture itself that keeps women small. it does not announce itself loudly. it uses guilt, shame, and a single word to ensure you never fully choose yourself. this video dismantles it completely. we cover the cultural mechanism behind why women are punished for self-prioritisation, the exact patterns keeping you stuck at level one of your own life, and five non-negotiable actions to finally ascend.featuring lola and athena of course. watch until the end.
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
01:18 Chapter 1: The Con
07:06 Chapter 2: The Proof
16:52 Chapter 3: The Ascent🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection
use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!
SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
STAY CONNECTED:
MY INSTAGRAM
MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]
MY YOUTUBE
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MY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder! -
18 min
how to ACTUALLY be yourself (when you've forgotten who that is)
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feeling disconnected from yourself and tired of second-guessing everything you say, do, and want? in this video, i’m talking about how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and old survival patterns can quietly pull you away from who you really are, until you barely recognize your own voice. we’re getting into why authenticity can feel so hard, how social media, relationships, and the need to be liked can shape a version of you that feels safe but not fully true, and what it actually looks like to come back to yourself with more honesty, self-trust, and confidence.
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
02:34 Chapter 1: Why You Lost Yourself in the First Place (The Diagnosis Before the Cure)
08:18 Chapter 2: What Authenticity Actually Means (It's Not What You Think)
15:06 Chapter 3: Homework and Actionable Steps🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection
use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!
SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
STAY CONNECTED:
MY INSTAGRAM
MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]
MY YOUTUBE
MY VLOGS
MY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder! -
15 min
the ULTIMATE guide to becoming your own version of an "it girl"
Show notes
hey girlies, i lost the outro clip during filming, so that’s why the ending is a little abrupt 😭 but i hope you guys still enjoyed the video. let me know your favorite part in the comments 💌
becoming the IT girl starts with realizing you were never missing “it” you just needed to stop searching for it in trends, attention, or other people’s validation. in this video, we’re talking about what it really takes to become her through mindset shifts, self trust, and the daily habits that shape the way you move, present yourself, and create your life. this is for the girl who knows she is meant for more, is outgrowing old versions of herself, and is learning how to stop shrinking, stop trying to fit in, and fully step into her own energy 🩷
♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:
00:00 Introduction
01:18 Chapter 1: Redefining the "It Girl" (The New Mindset)
08:22 Chapter 2: The Transformation🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:
Shop my Abbott Lyon Collection
use my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!
SELF OBSESSED JOURNAL
MANIFESTATION JOURNAL
PODCAST INSTAGRAM
LISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMS
ORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTER
STAY CONNECTED:
MY INSTAGRAM
MY SNAPCHAT [BTS]
MY YOUTUBE
MY VLOGS
MY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.com
Music Used:
*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
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