The 423 Podcast

As parents and mentors, it can be easy to overthink conversations with teenagers around sex, desire, and our bodies. We often project the feelings of shame or awkwardness we felt when we learned about sex growing up. What if there was a different way forward, one rooted in curiosity and compassion?

In this episode, we sit down with Kristen Meile, the founder of SexEd Reclaimed, to discuss how parents can disciple their children into sexual maturity without the pressure of perfection. Kristen is a mom, sex educator, and dedicated follower of Jesus helping educate kids and parents about God's good gift of sex.

Check out her comprehensive SexEd course for your kids, no matter their age, at this link. Use code: IMREADY for 20% off the course.

Most men face futility daily. Life can feel pointless, so we coast on autopilot and escape through pornography and unwanted sexual behavior.

What if futility isn’t a curse, but a gift that teaches us true dependence on God and others? What if it’s God’s invitation to a purposeful life?

This episode we explore futility and how to break free from its effects through the way of Jesus.

This episode we welcome Barb Winters, the founder of Hopeful Mom and author of Sexpectations, to share what she's learned over the course of her parenting journey. Listen to her hard fought insights from supporting her son through his struggle with pornography and all the ways God formed her family through it.

Come interact with Barb live at monthly parent workshops and follow her blog at the links below:

Join the 423 Next Parent Community (free)!

Follow Barb at HopefulMom.net

Why do we keep turning to things that ultimately leave us feeling more isolated and empty? In this solo episode, Ben explores how pain, attachment wounds, and our experiences of being unseen often shape the way we relate to God and cope with life's struggles. Drawing from the Still Face Experiment and Romans 8, he challenges listeners to stop numbing their pain and instead bring it honestly before a Father who sees, hears, and responds. Healing begins not when we escape our suffering, but when we learn to meet God in the midst of it.

Sexual brokenness is quietly sitting in the pews of every church. Shame keeps the church bound in silence or regularly indicts those who are struggling. What if there's a better way to address this struggle within the church? Joel and Ben sit down to talk about how the church can create a culture of radical grace and vulnerability fueled by the love of Christ. It's not only a challenge but an invitation to pastors and church leaders. Sign up for the DFW event to apply this to your own context: https://www.423communities.org/pastors-gathering

423 Next is a Christ-centered recovery community helping teens and families navigate pornography struggles and unhealthy sexuality. Through biblical truth, brain science, and honest community, we go beyond behavior to uncover the deeper wounds and longings driving addiction. This podcast introduces how we help people move toward healing and freedom in Christ.

To learn more, you can visit- https://www.423next.org/

Have you wondered what it's like to actually be in a 423 Community? We give you the step by step process for what it's like to join a group at your church and what you can expect on this journey. If you're interested in joining or starting a 423 Community at your church, please reach out to us at info@423communities.org or at our website: https://www.423communities.org/join

Where do you strike the balance between relying on grace and putting in effort on your recovery journey? We sit down with Jonathan Daughtery of BeBroken to discuss how grace empowers recovery and fuels us along the pathway of transformation.

When temptation shows up, everything feels urgent. Your brain narrows. Your body wants relief. So what do you actually do right then? In this episode, we walk through real-time strategies for dealing with temptation as it happens—when to flee, how to ask better questions, and why cravings often point to deeper longings for beauty, connection, and rest. This isn’t about shame or willpower—it’s about learning to respond with honesty and wisdom.

Recovery is more than stopping a behavior. In this episode, Drew Boa of Husband Material joins us to explore inner-child healing, IFS, and his “Older Brother Coaching” model. We talk about why sobriety alone isn’t the goal, how to locate, love, and lead our exiles, and why attuned community is essential for real transformation in porn recovery.

Finding your “Why” behind addiction is a crucial step—but it’s not the end of the healing journey. In this episode, we explore why forgiveness is essential for healing the core wounds, shame, and beliefs that drive addictive patterns. Christian forgiveness is not denial, forgetting, or forced reconciliation; it is a Spirit-empowered release that names real harm and entrusts justice to God. Drawing from Jesus’ teachings, we show how mercy received in Christ becomes the power to release resentment without minimizing pain. This conversation invites you to move from insight into lasting freedom through gospel-shaped forgiveness.

Every January we set goals hoping they’ll finally change us. But Scripture and neuroscience say we’ve been doing it backwards.

Habits don’t create identity, they reinforce the one you’re already living from.

In this episode, we challenge the New Year mindset that says “change first, then you’ll be different.” Through Scripture, neuroscience, and lived experience, we show why lasting formation begins with identity received, not behavior forced.

As we move toward the holiday season, we know this time of year can bring a mix of emotions for couples walking through recovery. While the world around us celebrates the “happiest time of year,” many of you are navigating the very real impact of disclosure, betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and learning new rhythms of connection.

You’re not alone! And you don’t have to enter the holidays unprepared or overwhelmed.

We’ll talk about common triggers, expectations, communication strategies, boundaries, and ways to pursue meaningful connection in a time that often feels complicated.

A raw, hopeful, and deeply honest podcast where Jon Seidl, bestselling Christian author turned recovering alcoholic, pulls back the curtain on faith, addiction, and what real healing looks like.

Based on his book Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic, Jon sits down with us to unpack the roots of disordered desires, shame, and the parts of us we often hide.

Often, we as Christians find ourselves stuck in the false dichotomy of destroying desire or serving desire. What if there was another way?

Today we talk about seeing desire as a pathway to God. When we are in tune with the core of our desires, we'll stop being deceived by them and we can learn to satisfy them in God's good design for us.

For many women, the struggle with pornography comes with deep shame—and silence from the church.

Ben and Jara, our Women’s Director, talk about the shame women carry in the church, the impact of porn on identity, and how God’s grace redefines freedom.

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, we explore the idea of the inner child—the younger parts of us that carry wounds from past trauma, pain, and broken relationships. These unresolved hurts often shape the way we live, love, and struggle today. Together, we talk about why naming and nurturing these parts of ourselves is vital to recovery, and how Christ invites us to bring them into the light with compassion, curiosity, and care. Healing happens as we learn to see our inner child the way Jesus does, and as we walk this journey in the safety of Christ and community.

So much of our healing journey depends on being witnessed—seen and heard—in safe, grace-filled community. In this episode, we explore why being known by others is not just a nice addition to recovery, but absolutely essential for uncovering the deeper “why” behind unwanted sexual behaviors.

Together, we’ll talk about how community helps us move past shame, discover the parts of ourselves that need love and compassion, and ultimately learn how to receive the love of Christ. As we practice being loved and loving others, we step into the heart of Jesus’ greatest commandment: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37–39).

In Genesis, Adam and Eve walked in perfect intimacy with God—until sin fractured that connection. Fear replaced trust, shame replaced openness, and humanity has been searching for secure attachment ever since. In this episode, we explore how broken attachment drives us to sin against ourselves and others, why pornography offers such a potent but counterfeit intimacy, and how Christ-centered community begins the repair.

Welcome to Season 2 of the 423 Podcast. This season is dedicated to digging into what it really means to find your why. Why do we fall into the same patterns? What’s beneath the surface? When we start naming the deeper motivations that lead us toward sin, we also gain the clarity and strength to choose differently—living as the new creation we already are in Jesus.