The Trouble with Sex

Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to intimacy? Does one of you crave emotional intimacy while the other expresses themselves better in the bedroom? Dr. Tammy sits down with therapists and podcast hosts, Laurie Watson and George Faller to talk about how to navigate desire discrepancy, different attachment styles, building a stronger connection, and their bookBrave Love, Great Sex.

OUR GUESTS

LAURIE WATSON, PhD, LMFT, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, has spent thirty-five years working exclusively with couples’ emotional and sexual struggles. Author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rekindle Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage, she is also the founder/director of Awakenings Center for Couples and Sex Therapy, a group practice in Raleigh, North Carolina, where she offers clinical intensives for couples seeking accelerated change. Laurie is internationally recognized as a leading expert and teacher of sexual attachment.

GEORGE FALLER, LMFT, is a renowned trainer of couples therapists in Emotionally Focused Therapy, as well as a sought-after supervisor and therapist. With experience as a New York firefighter during 9/11, George teaches therapists how to stay calm and deescalate high-conflict couples. His online training platform, Success In Vulnerability, has trained thousands of therapists and he travels across the globe providing tactical skills for couples to create the connections they deserve.

*Also check Laurie & George's Podcast Brave Love, Great Sex – Couple’s Therapy for Lasting Connection.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with narcissism expert Wendy Behary about the complicated dance between the narcissist and the people who love them—how to recognize the traits and distinguish between other potential issues, change old patterns and find the courage to trust your instincts.

OUR GUEST

Wendy T Behary is a therapist, author, and internationally recognized expert in narcissism and Schema Therapy, with more than 30 years of experience helping people navigate difficult relationships. She’s also the author of the international bestseller Disarming the Narcissist, now in its third edition and translated into 16 languages.

Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. In edition to treating clients, she has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She currently serves as President of the Executive Board for the Jeff Young Schema Therapy Association.

Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Wendy's private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, their partners and the people dealing with them. Her work isn’t just about understanding narcissists—it’s about understanding the people who love them, live with them, work with them, and sometimes find themselves wondering, “Wait…is it me?”

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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The Trouble with Sex is thrilled to introduce Dr. Tammy's podcast Pair-A-Docs, which she co-hosts with acclaimed OB/GYN, Dr. Sherry Ross.

In this episode, the two Docs talk with actors and LGBTQ+ Icons, Kate Moennig & Leisha Hailey about their friendship, their podcast PANTS, their new cocktail BIGYAY, and their life changing experience working on the hit show The L Word.

MORE ABOUT PAIR-A-DOCS

Dr. Sherry Ross and Dr. Tammy Nelson pull back the curtain on sex, relationships, mental health, trauma, men's health, cancer, and everything in between — with the guests you didn't expect and the conversations you actually need.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with Jaiya, the award-winning somatic sexologist and author of Your Blueprint for Pleasure, about how discovering what turns you on can help you take control of your pleasure, have amazing sex, rekindle the spark in the bedroom, heal past trauma, and empower your relationship and your spirit.

Re-listen or enjoy for the first time - then take the Quizto find out your Sexual Blueprint!

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

OUR GUEST

Jaiya is an award -winning somatic sex sexologist, author of books including Your Blueprint for Pleasure and co-author of Red Hot Touch. She also starred in Netflix's Sex, Love & goopabout what drives sexual attraction, passion and erotic fulfillment.

Jaiya is also the Founder of the The Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™. For over three decades, Jaiya has been immersed in the study of turn-ons, ancient erotic rituals, tantric sex, mastery of sensual touch, pure erotic play, kinky dynamics, and the biology and psychology of attraction and sexual fulfillment. She works with all kinds of bodies and sexual orientations, and through observation and clinical research, she discovered the Erotic Blueprint™, a map of arousal that reveals one’s specific erotic language and patterning and helps create a path forward to greater sexual fulfillment.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING a CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

CHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy

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Dr. Tammy explores the rise of anxiety in our culture, and its impact on our closest relationships. Learn tools to reconnect with yourself and your partner, communicate better, and find calm amid the chaos.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy sits down with psychoanalyst and certified sex therapist Juliane Maxwald to explore the hidden emotional patterns shaping our relationships, why talking about sex can feel so difficult, and how breaking through those barriers can create deeper intimacy, connection, and understanding.

OUR GUEST

Juliane Maxwald is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist, and an AASECT certified Sex Therapist with more than two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate challenges such as low desire, infidelity, anxiety, burnout, and compulsive behaviors. Her work focuses not only on symptom relief, but on uncovering the deeper emotional patterns that shape how we love, work, and connect.

Juliane serves on the faculty of the New York Graduate School of Psychoanalysis and the Institute for Contemporary Psychoanalysis, where she teaches, supervises, and mentors clinicians across the country.

She is also the author of two recently published books:Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy: Exploring the Unconscious Life of Sexuality - a clinician's guide to working with erotic symptoms, fantasy, trauma, and relational repair; AND Talking About Sex: A Guide to Confidence, Connection and Communication - a practical and compassionate guide designed to help individuals and couples build greater confidence, connection, and communication around sexuality.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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What happens when a daughter discovers the truth about her mother's secret past? Dr. Tammy sits down with journalist and author Tracy Clark-Flory to discuss her powerful memoir, My Mother’s Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family’s Fractured Past. From meeting her sister to peeling back layers of shame, grief, and silence, Tracy shares how reclaiming the past helped to unite her family and heal the wounds they inherited.

OUR GUEST

Tracy Clark-Floryis a journalist, essayist and author. Her first memoir, Want Me: A Sex Writer’s Journey into the Heart of Desire, was an NPR Best Book of the Year. She has written for Cosmopolitan, The Cut, ELLE, Esquire, Marie Claire, Glamour, The Guardian, The Washington Post, WIRED, Women’s Health, and many others. Previously, she was a senior staff writer at Jezebel and a staff writer at Salon. She writes a weekly newsletter and cohosts Dire Straights, a feminist podcast critiquing hetero love, sex, politics, and culture.

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DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Women’s health is finally a mainstream conversation—but along with it has come access to an overwhelming amount of advice, trends, and misinformation. Dr. Tammy talks with health journalist Meghan Rabbitt about her book, The New Rules of Women's Health, and how women can cut through the social media noise, understand the latest science, ask the right questions, and make informed decisions about their bodies, sex lives and life choices.

OUR GUEST

Meghan Rabbittis an award-winning journalist and author of The New Rules of Women’s Health: Your Guide to Thriving at Every Age. She specializes in writing about women’s health and wellness, and her work has appeared in many national publications, including Women’s Health, Oprah Daily, Prevention, Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper. She’s known for translating complex medical and scientific topics into clear, actionable information—and for telling stories that help readers better understand their bodies, their health, and themselves.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with sensuality mentor and author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark about empowering your sex life, strengthening your relationship, liberating yourself - and all about the 13 Moon Mystery School.

GUEST

Elana Auerbach is a mentor, activist, author, and the founder of Sensuelle: A Woman’s Journey into Sensuality — a transformational program designed to help women reconnect with their bodies, authentic voice, and passion.

After building what looked like the “perfect” life — graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry, Elana realized she had been living disconnected from herself. In 2001, she made the life-changing decision to leave her marriage and begin a deeply personal journey into sensuality, embodiment, and authentic connection.

Since then, she has spent more than two decades guiding women and couples into deeper intimacy, pleasure, and self-awareness. An ordained priestess through the Sanctuary of the 13 Moon Mystery School, Elana taught feminine mystery work for over a decade and has become a trusted voice in conversations around sexuality, relationships, and personal liberation.

Her latest book, The Sure Thing, was inspired by her own long-term relationship and the real-life challenges of keeping intimacy alive over time — offering a practical and transformative approach to creating lasting sexual connection.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with relationship and sex therapist Todd Baratz about sex, the role generational trauma plays in relationships and how to stay open to love while working on yourself and navigating the modern dating world.

GUEST

Todd Baratz is a certified psychotherapist and sex therapist, dedicated to fostering open dialogues about culture, relationships, and sexuality.

Holding a Bachelor's degree in Cultural Psychology from New York University and a Master's degree in Mental Health Counseling from the University of Miami, Todd is based in both New York City and operates a private practice that serves as a hub for individuals and couples seeking guidance in navigating the complexities of life, relationships, and personal development. He is also a passionate advocate for LGBTQ+ rights.

Todd created the viral sensation Your Diagnonsense, a Substack, Instagram account, and podcast that focuses on brutally honest, unfiltered insights into relationships, sex, and mental health, often challenging modern "wellness" trends and conventional therapy.

His latest book, How to Love Someone without Losing Your Mind is a sanity-saving guide that cuts through the sky-high expectations of modern love and helps you build healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

Instagram account: YourDiagnonsense

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with professor, podcast host and writer, Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn about the changing landscape of sex, porn and how millennials and Gen Zers are learning to ask How Do You Like It?

OUR GUEST

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton. She is an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’, and the host of Luvbites Podcast - that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. Her book How Do You Like It? A Guide to Getting What You Want (in Bed), is available now.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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From the decision to separate, to co-parenting, to embracing the next chapter, Dr. Tammy sits down with therapist and author Oona Metz to discuss the emotional journey of divorce and her book - Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women.

OUR GUEST

Oona Metz is an author, Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker, a Certified Group Psychotherapist, and a Fellow of the American Group Psychotherapy Association. Oona has 30 years of experience working with individuals, families, and groups. She is active on numerous committees and boards related to group therapy - prioritizing ongoing learning, diversity, equity, and inclusion.

Her book, Unhitched: The Essential Divorce Guide for Women is an invaluable resource for anyone navigating divorce and the loss of a marriage.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Psychedelics aren’t just a trend—they’re opening doors to pleasure, healing, and deeper connection. In this episode, Dr. Tammy talks with therapist and educator Dee Dee Goldpaugh to explore how these powerful tools are being used to help people heal, and how to experience what's possible in a safe, therapeutic setting.

OUR GUEST

Dee Dee Goldpaugh is a licensed psychotherapist, clinical consultant, educator, and author. They serve as the Women, Gender Diversity, and Sexual Minorities Advisor for the Chacruna Institute and are the Clinical Director of Chrysalis Integrative Psychotherapy. Dee Dee is also a member of the ketamine-assisted psychotherapy team at the Woodstock Therapy Center in Woodstock, NY.

Dee Dee is a frequent presenter at international conferences, including Psychedelic Science, Psychedelic Culture, and the Interdisciplinary Conference on Psychedelic Research (ICPR). Their writing explores psychedelics and sexuality, gender, queer issues, trauma, and spirituality, and has appeared in both popular media and academic publications.

They are a featured author in Queering Psychedelics: From Oppression to Liberation in Psychedelic Medicine and authored the first academic journal article outlining specific techniques to support sexual trauma survivors during psychedelic integration.

Dee Dee is also the author of Embrace Pleasure: How Psychedelics Can Heal Our Sexuality. Published by Simon and Schuster/Inner Tradition, in 2025, this is the first book to explore the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and psychedelic healing.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy speaks with psychotherapist and bestselling author Katherine Woodward Thomas about her latest book, What's True About You, and how we can outgrow who we've known ourselves to be for the possibility of who we might become - and what we can create moving forward.

OUR GUEST

Katherine Woodward Thomasis a licensed therapist, author, educator, and a recognized pioneer in transformational psychology. She is the New York Times bestselling author ofCalling in “The One”and Conscious Uncoupling. Katherine has taught hundreds of thousands in her virtual and in-person programs, and trained thousands of professionals in her methods. Her latest book, What's True About You: 7 Steps to Move Beyond Your Painful Past and Manifest Your Brightest Futureis available now.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE

Love Between Equals by Pepper Schwartz, PhD

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy speaks with psychotherapist and trauma specialistTracy Jarvis about evidence-based Interoception Therapy, trauma healing, and the mind–body connection. They explore how developing awareness of the body’s emotional signals can support personal growth, emotional regulation, and healthier relationships.

OUR GUEST

Tracy Jarvis is a renowned psychotherapist, trainer, and consultant with over 20 years of experience in the fields of psychology and mental health. Specialising in neuroscience and trauma, Tracy combines a rigorous academic foundation with over 25 years of yoga and movement practice, bringing a deeply embodied and neurobiological perspective to her clinical and teaching work.

Tracy is also the co-developer of the new Psychology and Trauma MSc at University College London. She is the Founder and former Managing Director of PESI UK (previously Psychotherapy Excellence), a not-for-profit organisation and the largest clinical content provider in the UK and Europe. In addition, Tracy is part of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute training team and has a specialist private practice in PTSD, complex trauma, and trauma-related issues/ diagnosis. She teaches, advises, and consults on trauma and clinical strategy for various organisations worldwide, as well as for TV and film, emphasising the importance of a bi-directional approach to treating psychological trauma.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with experiential and sex therapist Maci Daye about how to use mindfulness and the methods of Hakomi Therapy to break away from past experiences and patterns to help avoid reenacting them in our current relationships and sex lives.

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Maci Daye is a force in the world of mindful somatic therapy. She’s a Licensed Professional Counselor, an AASECT-certified Sex Therapist, and a Certified Hakomi Therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience. Her background spans university counseling, social services, and government work, supported by graduate degrees from Harvard University and Georgia State University, plus advanced Somatic Experiencing training developed by Peter Levine.

Maci is also a faculty member at the Hakomi Instituteand a Mentor Trainer for Hakomi Mallorca, where she trains therapists in the art of mindful somatic psychotherapy. She’s the author of Passion and Presence: A Couple’s Guide to Awakened Intimacy and Mindful Sex and leads transformative couples’ retreats and professional trainings in Mindful Couples Sex Therapy.

Her mission is simple and powerful: to help individuals and couples live more connected, vibrant lives by claiming their desires and expressing their deepest gifts.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with therapist and Autism Specialist, Kory Andreas, about what neurodivergence really means, how it shapes our connections, and how broadening our awareness can deepen the bonds with those we love.

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Kory Andreas is a Clinical Social Worker, Autism Specialist, and late-diagnosed Autistic adult who works exclusively with Neurodivergent adults and couples. After two decades as a School Social Worker, she is now in private practice, offering diagnostic assessments and therapy grounded in the lived experience and “practice-based evidence” of late diagnosed Autistic adults.

Kory’s work with individuals, couples, as well as training clinicians, dives into the messy, often-overlooked realities of high-masking Autism, especially in women and gender-diverse adults who are frequently misunderstood or missed entirely. Kory’s goal is to better support Neurodivergent clients and help late-diagnosed Autistic adults feel less alone.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy sits down with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh to discuss the challenges of modern relationships, the difference between sexual chemistry and harmony, desire vs attraction, and her new book - Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to build a lifetime of love.

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Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh is an award-winning social psychologist, TED Speaker, global thought leader.

Her mission is nothing less than world peace, built one relationship at a time. She ahs advised governments around the world, UN agencies, leading universities, and Fortune 500 companies, helping people navigate intimacy, leadership, and culture with clarity and compassion.

She’s the author of the acclaimed book Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love. Her work spans more than 40 countries and has been featured on NPR, the BBC, ABC, CNN, CNBC, The New York Times, The Times, and USA Today.

A true trailblazer, Sara has shaped the field of relational science and earned honors from the British Council, the BBC World Service, Pfizer, and AASECT for her innovation and professional impact.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with Dr. Arielle Schwartz about Resilience Informed Therapy, Polyvagal Theory and how connecting to your body can rewire your nervous system to help heal from trauma and deeper connection with ourselves and those we love.

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Renowned speaker, author, and esteemed clinical psychologist, Dr. Arielle Schwartzhas been widely recognized for her research and clinical advancements in trauma treatment, which have shaped the landscape of trauma recovery and elevated the standard of care all across therapeutic settings.

Dr. Schwartz promotes a strength-based, embodied approach to trauma recovery that emphasizes self-driven healing to facilitate post-traumatic growth. Drawing on the principles of EMDR, somatic psychology, mindfulness-based therapies, and relational psychotherapy, she developed Resilience Informed Therapy—an integrative model of care for facilitating recovery from childhood trauma, PTSD, complex-PTSD and Dissociation.

Dr. Schwartz has been teaching therapeutic yoga since 2008, and she is the author of Therapeutic Yoga for Trauma Recovery, a widely referenced guide to appliedPolyvagal Theory for trauma recovery. She has also authored numerous books covering extensive research and guiding techniques in trauma treatment.

DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

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Dr. Tammy talks with relationship therapist, podcaster, and author Rick Miller, about how men communicate, what masculinity means for both queer and straight men, and why open relationships are an old school concept - if not the norm in the gay world.

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Rick Milleris a practicing psychotherapist and founder and executive director of Gay Sons And Mothers. Rick co-hosts of the podcast Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You. His TEDx talk, The Mother Factor, grew out of his work with his nonprofit, which shares worldwide narratives of gay men and their mothers to support LGBTQ+ training and awareness. Rick is also the executive producer of the documentary film, “Mom, I Have Something to Tell You”.

He is a frequent speaker at conferences for a myriad of academic and professional organizations and author of three books. He writes a regular column for Psychology Today.

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DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to drtammy@thetroublewithsex.com.

INTERESTED IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?
VisitISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute. If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.

THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFO

IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK -OPEN MONOGAMY!

To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.

Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.

Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson