The Vagenda

One minute you're planning your wedding. The next, you're watching him sit crisscross applesauce on a restaurant floor to tie his shoe, and suddenly you're considering witness protection.

Welcome to the science of the ick: the mysterious phenomenon where one microscopic, completely harmless action can permanently alter your brain chemistry.

This week on Vagenda, we're conducting a highly unprofessional investigation into attraction, secondhand embarrassment, and the exact moment a man goes from potential soulmate to a story you tell the group chat.

From romantic gestures gone catastrophically wrong to dating horror stories that genuinely deserve peer review, we're unpacking the psychology behind the ick and reading some of the most criminally specific submissions imaginable.

Because sometimes he's not a red flag. Sometimes he's just a man who turns his phone sideways to type.

Grab a drink, call your girls, and prepare to discover an entirely new collection of things you didn't know could give you the ick.

Disclaimer: No men were harmed in the making of this episode. Their dignity, however, remains under investigation.

Apparently, being a woman means spending an unreasonable amount of time, money, and energy trying to look like we put absolutely no effort into our appearance. And God forbid we commit the unforgivable crime of aging.

This week on Vagenda, we're unpacking beauty standards, postpartum bodies, weight, cosmetic procedures, and the exhausting expectation that women should be effortlessly beautiful at all times. Even when we're just trying to buy eggs.

I'm also getting a little more personal than usual, sharing how I went from 650,000+ followers, brand partnerships, and endless online validation to two babies, postpartum hair loss, an identity crisis, and a set of bangs that should've required a psychological evaluation.

We're talking about what happens when your self-worth becomes tangled up in your appearance, why it's so hard to be present during intimacy when you're busy criticizing your own body, and how to stop treating yourself like a never ending renovation project.

Because being admired isn't the same as being loved, and looking beautiful isn't the same as feeling beautiful.

Grab a drink, unclip your bra, and join the Vagenda. The meeting is officially in session. 💗

Some sex advice is timeless. Some of it should've been buried in 2007 alongside our side bangs and low-rise jeans.

Ladies, we need to talk.

From “just spice things up” to the absolutely criminal advice we've been handed about what good sex is supposed to look like, we're officially putting some outdated bedroom wisdom on a performance improvement plan. And unfortunately, most of it will not be surviving the quarter.

This week on Vagenda, we're unpacking the sex advice nobody asked for, the ridiculous expectations we've somehow normalized, and why your bedroom should not feel like an unpaid internship.

It's unfiltered girl talk, questionable advice, a little sex education, and a whole lot of “WAIT, I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE?”

Grab a drink, get comfortable, and hit play. Consider this a group FaceTime with your most unfiltered girlfriend.

The Vagenda is full, and we're airing out the sheets. 🍒🎙️

For the girls who have questions, standards, and absolutely no interest in faking enthusiasm.

Emotional labor and the phenomenon of becoming your partners mother, secretary, therapist, social coordinator., appointment scheduler, and finder of things-directly-in-front-of-their-eyes. Also the difference between ordinary partners from unequal relationship dynamics.

A deeper conversation about how women are socialized to be agreeable: don’t be difficult, don’t be promiscuous, don’t be prudish, don’t intimidate men, don’t ask for too much. Then how do those messages connect to sex, relationships, work, motherhood, friendships, and boundaries.

The sexual health education women “should” have gotten: anatomy, discharge, pH, scent, hygiene myths, vulva vs vagina, and what’s actually normal.

Female pleasure, why women fake orgasms, communication, and why penetrative sex is so often treated as the “main event”