This Is Actually Happening

Growing up in a family that prized achievement over vulnerability, a man’s troubled relationship with his older brother ends in devastating loss, sending him on a decades-long search to understand the guilt and shame he left behind.

Today’s episode featured Chad Herst. If you’d like to reach out to Chad, you can email him at chad@herstwellness.com. Chad is on LinkedIn @ http://linkedin.com/in/chad-herst-6040629

Chad Herst is an executive coach and acupuncturist in Sebastopol, California, and the author of The Performance Trap: The Ache No Success Will Ever Fix, out October 1, 2026. The book grew out of the story told in this episode. Website: http://herstwellness.com/, where the opening chapter is available free.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz

Content/Trigger Warnings

Suicide, suicidal ideation, mental illness, substance abuse, bullying and hazing, physical abuse, family dysfunction, psychiatric hospitalization, grief and traumatic loss, explicit language.

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A Hollywood stuntwoman turned personal injury attorney. A handsome disbarred lawyer with a dark past. And an elaborate scheme that leads to murder.
Vanessa Motta gives up a career of fake car crashes for real ones. But her law career in New Orleans gets off to a rocky start — until she meets Sean Alfortish, a charming man who offers her the perfect space for her law office. Vanessa and Sean fall hard for each other, and as a former lawyer himself, Sean becomes her mentor. So, what if he's done some prison time for fraud?
When Sean introduces Vanessa to one of the city's most prolific case runners, Cornelius Garrison, the money starts rolling in. Cornelius brings her a steady stream of accident victims looking to sue. There's just one problem: the accidents aren't real. And once the secret gets out, someone will have to pay.
Reported and hosted by Mitch Moxley, Over My Dead Body: Operation Sideswipe is a six-part series about greed, betrayal, and who gets thrown under the bus when everything is on the line.
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After a childhood shaped by her father’s unpredictable volatility, a young woman faces an unimaginable act of violence and must come to terms with complicated grief, shame and an erratic path to healing.

Today’s episode featured Lucia. If you’d like to email her, you can at poorloochie@gmail.com.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Sara Marinelli

Content/Trigger Warnings

Child abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, mass shooting, gun violence, murder, suicide, death, traumatic grief, racism, racial slurs, dissociation, graphic imagery, serious injury, explicit language.

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• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

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Audible True Crime is a dedicated podcast feed where we bring you the best podcasts in true crime, with episodes dropping every single week.

Just in time for spooky season, we’re releasing a show called Ghost Story, a series about a hidden family secret, unexplainable events and jaw-dropping coincidences. Tristan Redman doesn’t believe in ghosts. But weird things happened in his teenage bedroom. And when he discovers later that occupants of his family home have seen the ghost of a faceless woman, he’s intrigued. Because it just so happens that his wife’s great grandmother, Naomi Dancy, was murdered in the house next door…killed by two gunshots to the face.

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A young photographer finds purpose documenting humanitarian work in Afghanistan, but encounters with death force him to confront what it means to survive and the trauma we carry home.

Today’s episode featured Ivan Lo. If you’d like to email Ivan, you can at ivan@ivanlo.com. Ivan has begun writing a book about his experiences, and you can follow his progress athttp://ivanlo.com/.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock

Content/Trigger Warnings

War and armed conflict, racism, bullying, graphic descriptions of death and human remains, suicide bombings and terrorism, death of colleagues, survivor’s guilt, cancer and serious illness, chronic pain and disability, suicidal ideation, chemotherapy and medical trauma, PTSD and trauma, death of a parent, grief and loss, Nanjing Massacre and wartime atrocities, explicit language.

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Music

Intro Music:

• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• KPM Main Series (KPM) by Barely There

Services

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After leaving the Mormon church and rebuilding her life from the ground up, a woman and her family move to a rural property hoping for a fresh start, only to find themselves trapped in an escalating nightmare with a neighbor whose harassment pushes them to the limits of fear, trust, and restraint.

Today’s episode featured Jessica. If you’d like to email Jessica, you can reach out to her at jessicajill2010@gmail.com. Jessica has a small business making credit card covers. Here is her etsy link:https://creativechaosjess.etsy.com/listing/4454553658

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits

Content/Trigger Warnings

Religious trauma / faith deconstruction, Postpartum depression, Suicidal ideation, Sexual abuse allegations, Child Protective Services investigation, Stalking / harassment, Threats and intimidation, Animal cruelty and animal death, Missing / presumed killed pets, Graphic animal imagery, Gun violence toward animals, Threatening effigy / simulated violence, Panic attacks and anxiety, Police / law-enforcement inaction, explicit language.

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Music

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• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• Discovery Studios Tracks (DTS) - Dark Oasis

Services

If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:

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After losing his older brother on K2, a man travels to Pakistan years later to say goodbye, but on his flight home, he is taken hostage in a terrifying hijacking that will change the course of his life.

Today’s episode featured Mike Thexton. If you’d like to contact Mike, you can email him at thexton@enterprise.net. You can find out more about Mike and his story at http://www.hippyman.co.uk/. His book, What Happened to the Hippy Man? Is available where books are sold.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz

Content/Trigger Warnings

death of a sibling, grief and bereavement, terrorism, plane hijacking, hostage situation, threats of execution, gun violence, explosions, mass casualty event, and traumatic injury, explicit language.

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• Sparse_Reflections__a__APM

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Lauren Malloy was a baby when her mother, Lori, was murdered in East Providence, Rhode Island. For thirty years, no one told her. Everyone said Lori died of natural causes. Then a stranger sent Lauren a message — and the lie collapsed. Now Lauren is investigating her own mother’s murder. She’s recorded hundreds of hours of interviews with law enforcement, family, childhood friends, and people who won’t stop contradicting each other. Every answer opens a darker question. Every person she trusts seems to be hiding something. And the closer she gets to the truth, the more she realizes the people she trusts may be the ones with the most to hide. A 10-part true crime investigation hosted by the victim’s daughter. Lauren’s mission: to finally uncover the identity of Lori’s killer.

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A woman leaves behind the wounds of her alcoholic father, only to find out that her husband’s addiction is threatening to ruin their family; but when he goes to find healing through a plant medicine ceremony, a shocking, darker truth is revealed.

Today's guest requested to remain anonymous, but if you'd like to reach out to her, can can email at: stilltallnlucky@gmail.com

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz

Content/Trigger Warnings

alcoholism, domestic violence, sexual assault, mental illness, manic break, bipolar, explicit language.

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Music

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• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• Ambient Themes by Nigel Coutinho

Services

If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:

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Escaping a world of gangs and drugs, a man joins the military and becomes a veteran of Iraq, but the scars from his past, PTSD and a TBI haunt him until a fateful day when he faces the ultimate demons.

Today's episode featured Daniel Norwood. If you'd like to reach out to Daniel, you can email at Danielnorwood281@gmail.com.

Daniel's story came to us by way of Todd Rennebohm. Daniel was originally featured on Todd's podcast, Bunny Hugs and Mental Health, which focuses on conversations with survivors, professionals and families of those who have lost someone to mental illness and addictions. So please check out Bunny Hugs and Mental Health, and a special thanks to Todd for referring today's guest.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock

Content/Trigger Warnings

abuse of a child, gun violence, drug use, attempted murder, murder, war, bombing, graphic bodily injury, explicit language.

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Music

Intro Music:

• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• “Uncertain Outcomes” – SkyeVoyager

Services

If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:

• National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988
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A young woman on a backpacking trip in Bali faces a series of misfortunes, but just as she’s leaving for the next chapter of her journey, her future is thrown into darkness.

Today’s episode featured Ashley King. If you’d like to reach out to her, you can email at ashleyjenniferk@gmail.com, or find her on Instagram @ashkng.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock

Content/Trigger Warnings

poisoning, medical trauma, suicidal ideation, suicide attempt, explicit language.

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Intro Music:

• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• “Uncertain Outcomes” – SkyeVoyager

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If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:

• National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988
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Bill Mitchell built a successful career, marriage and family, but just as his bright and loving daughter graduates from college with big dreams, an unthinkable event irreversibly changes everything.

Today’s episode featured Bill Mitchell. Bill has a book and podcast, both called When Dating Hurts. You can find out more about Bill, his book and his podcast, all at http://www.whendatinghurts.com/. You can also find his book on Amazon.

Bill was originally featured on Scott Johnson’s amazing podcast, What Was That Like. If you love This Is Actually Happening, check out What Was That Like, featuring stories from people who have been through something extremely unusual. You’ll hear people talking about being in a plane crash, a mass shooting, a grizzly bear attack, and many more. The guest comes on and tells the details of what happened, first hand. If you like This Is Actually Happening, I know you’ll want to subscribe to What Was That Like. It’s available on any podcast app, or at http://whatwasthatlike.com/.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock

Content/Trigger Warnings

domestic violence, graphic bodily injury, murder, death, explicit language.

Social Media

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Music

Intro Music:

• "Sleep Paralysis" – Scott Velasquez

Music Bed:

• “Union Flow” – Spuntic

Services

If you or someone you know is struggling with the effects of trauma or mental illness, please refer to the following resources:

• National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Text or Call 988
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After his mother falls in love with Frank, the member of a one-hit-wonder 80s band, a man’s life becomes a roller coaster of neglect, scams, and chaos, but when he turns the camera on the inside of his family, a new world opens that he never thought possible.

Today’s episode featured GJ Echternkamp. If you’d like to reach out to him, you can email at GJActuallyHappening@gmail.com. You can find GJ’s documentary, “frank and Cindy” from 2007, as well as his feature film, also titled “Frank and Cindy” from 2015, both on Netflix. You can also find the music video and song “Whirly Girl” by OXO released in 1983 on YouTube.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Jason Blalock

Content/Trigger Warnings

domestic violence, abuse, suicidal ideation, explicit language.

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• Instagram: @actuallyhappening
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A woman falls deeply in love with a married man in her close friend’s circle, when suddenly an unthinkable event throws everything into question.

Today’s storyteller wishes to remain anonymous, but if you’d like to reach out to her, you can email at tues228@gmail.com.

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Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits

Content/Trigger Warnings

graphic bodily injury, explicit language.

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Growing up with a narcissistic father, a woman learns to play small, but one night when an unknown masked man enters her room, she faces the worst night of her life, and emerges on the other side with a new found ferocity.

Today’s episode featured Danielle Leukam. You can learn more about Danielle on her website, http://www.danielleleukam.com/. And you can find her on Instagram @danielleukam, as well as Twitter and Facebook.

You can also learn more about her story in her two memoirs, Four Pounds of Pressure: A Memoir of Rape, Survival, and Taking Back My Power https://amzn.to/3QHxMJW and Another Four Pounds of Pressure: Case Files, Statements, & a Survivor's Redemption https://amzn.to/49I0umr, and lastly, you can check out her novella The First Sister: A Dangerous Bloodline, https://amzn.to/3TjLaXq, as well as the two children’s books she’s authored.

Danielle now works full-time at the Mayo Clinic. She is passionate about public speaking, writing, and advocating against sexual violence. And she is also the president and founder of a non-profit organization called WISH: We Inspire Survivor Healing. Learn more about WISH on their website http://www.weinspiresurvivorhealing.com/.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits, Aviva Lipkowitz

Content/Trigger Warnings

rape, violent assault, child endangerment, gun violence, alcoholism, explicit language.

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Being born without his right hand, man’s resentment and monstrous self-image deepen as family and doctors intervene to fix his condition, leading him to question what would truly make him whole.

Today’s episode featured Ryan. If you’d like to reach out to him you can email at ryan.a.20918@gmail.com

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Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits

Content/Trigger Warnings

medical trauma, amputation, explicit language.

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A woman shares a sobering memoir of a family burdened with sexual abuse in the 1950s.

Today’s storyteller wishes to remain Anonymous.

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Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits

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Sexual Abuse and Assault, Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) / Child Abuse, Domestic and Family Violence, explicit language

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A woman shares a sobering memoir of a family burdened with sexual abuse in the 1950s.

Today’s storyteller wishes to remain Anonymous.

Producers

Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits

Content/Trigger Warnings

Sexual Abuse and Assault, Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) / Child Abuse, Domestic and Family Violence, explicit language

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