Podcast

Oversharing

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture

Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.

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Mental Health chart
#33
Episodes
269
Releases
Weekly
Typical length
1 hr 10 min
On air since
2022
Latest episode
21 hours ago

Episodes

269 episodes, newest first

  1. How Do You Grieve Someone Who's Still Here?

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a family reunion recap, as Dr. Naomi gives Jordana some much-appreciated praise for her parenting skills and they compare their families' laid-back approach to raising kids. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener who can't decide whether moving to a new city would be an exciting fresh start or just another way of running from her problems. Next, a Betchicist email raises the question of why maintaining friendships becomes so difficult once everyone has kids, and whether spontaneous plans might be the answer. Dr. Naomi offers an Intention to a listener navigating the heartbreaking experience of slowly losing her mother to early-onset Alzheimer's. Then, the hosts get 2nd-hand triggered by a sister-in-law who sends out a 50-item gift registry for her six-month-old baby (yes, six months). The last Trigger sparks a debate as to whether we should all give sweet Aunt Ruth a pass for taking photos during the wedding ceremony despite an explicit no-photo rule for guests.

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    1 hr 6 min
  2. Is Working For Family Ever Worth It?

    Episode 255

    Show notes

    Content Warning: This episode includes a discussion of the tragic accidental death of a young child involving a car seat. We encourage listeners to take care while listening.

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about the challenges of maintaining family bonds when everyone lives far apart, and the pressure of keeping family traditions alive. This week’s Overshare comes from a mother who shares the heartbreaking loss of her toddler in a preventable car seat accident, and how she’s turned her grief into a mission to educate other parents. She urges parents and caretakers to follow proper car seat safety practices and to make sure to use all buckles. Next, a Betchicist email raises the question of whether a big paycheck is worth sacrificing your work-life balance, especially when your boss is also your father-in-law. Dr. Naomi offers an Intention to a listener whose mother-in-law's hoarding habits have taken over her home. Finally, they’re Triggered by a painfully tone-deaf friend who responds to someone's fears about her father's health with an unsolicited death story, and a coworker who can't stop criticizing a listener's career choices.

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    1 hr 4 min
  3. Are We Too Quick To Cut Off Family?

    Episode 254

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    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about the growing trend of family estrangement and whether cutting off a family member has become a little too easy. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener struggling with the emotional and physical toll of caring for her chronically ill husband, while secretly having an affair. Next, a Betchisist wonders if she’s being a bridezilla after her friend schedules her wedding just two weeks before hers, then plans a honeymoon that conveniently conflicts with her big day. Dr. Naomi offers an Intention to a listener whose fear of losing her aging parents is getting in the way of enjoying the time she has with them. The first Triggered comes from a soon-to-be mom who isn't thrilled about her in-laws potentially bringing an extra guest to Thanksgiving just days after she gives birth. Finally, they weigh in on whether a mysterious late-night birthday invitation sent exclusively to a listener’s husband is creepy, or if she's reading a little too much into it.

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    1 hr 11 min
  4. Why Is My Mom Already Talking About My Pregnancy Weight?

    Episode 253

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi discuss consent, binge-drinking culture, and why we need to do a better job teaching men how to navigate sexual boundaries. Then, an Oversharer's dilemma opens up the conversation as to whether it should be assumed that grandparents would uproot their lives for their grandchildren. This week’s Betchicist comes from a listener whose sister cut her off for four years and is suddenly back in her life. Next, an intention email brings up the uniquely powerful force that is mom guilt. The first Triggered comes from a newly pregnant listener whose mom wasted no time turning her pregnancy into a conversation about weight loss. Finally, they weigh in on whether it’s tone-deaf to brag about your baby’s growth chart to a friend who’s been struggling with her own baby’s size.

    Content Warning: This episode includes a discussion of sexual assault, including topics of consent and sexual misconduct. We encourage listeners to take care while listening.

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    1 hr 13 min
  5. Why Does Everyone Treat Being Single Like A Problem?

    Episode 251

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about dating markets, moving for love, and whether successful women are narrowing their dating pools by looking for equally successful partners. This week’s Betchicist comes from a listener who can no longer stomach staying at her friend’s seriously messy apartment, but doesn’t know how to say something without hurting her feelings. Next, Dr. Naomi gives an Intention to a listener struggling to keep up with long-distance friendships and family without spending every weekend on the phone. Finally, they’re Triggered by a dad who seems to think his daughter getting married is the only milestone worth celebrating, and a partnered friend who makes a painfully tone-deaf comment about how grateful she is to be done with dating apps.

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    1 hr 2 min
  6. How Do I Stop My Dad From Bragging About Being a Sugar Daddy?

    Episode 251

    Show notes

    Family knows exactly how to push your buttons, and this week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are getting into what happens when those buttons have been pushed one too many times. In Overshare, a listener wonders if it’s finally time to set real boundaries with a brother whose “jokes” always seem to come at her expense. A Betchisist is struggling to watch her notoriously judgmental dad date someone who seems to break every rule he raised his daughters to follow. Then, an Intention goes out to a future mom who wants kids but is terrified that motherhood means saying goodbye to sleep forever. In Triggered, is your mother-in-law saying “we’re the same size” a compliment, a subtle dig, or are you the one making it weird? And another listener considers crossing Naomi off her baby-name list because she doesn’t want her daughter spending a lifetime correcting people’s pronunciation.

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    1 hr 14 min
  7. Why Did My Entire Friend Group Drop Me?

    Episode 250

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi is getting a crash course in Texas homecoming culture as her family navigates their first season of elaborate “mums,” homecoming proposals, and all the teenage social dynamics that come with them. Then, a listener grieving the loss of her lifelong friend group wonders how to forgive herself and start over socially in her 30s, while a granddaughter who lost her mom finds herself unexpectedly promoted to “daughter” and questions how much responsibility she owes her aging grandmother. An Intention comes from a newly divorced listener learning who she is when she’s not being a wife, mom, employee, or looking for another relationship. In Triggered, a mother-in-law offers $20K toward a house, only to call her son “presumptuous” when he follows up on the offer. Finally, a listener receives the terrifying words “lymphoma suspected” in her medical results but hears nothing from her doctor for days. Can someone please fix the way medical results are delivered?

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    1 hr 17 min
  8. Why Does My Fiancé Give Me The Ick?

    Show notes

    This week Jordana and Dr. Naomi are tackling what happens when trust, attraction, and even your career suddenly feel a little shaky. First, an oversharing husband... that's right, a male listener, is trying to rebuild his marriage after financial betrayal and infidelity and wonders how long it takes to earn back trust. Then, a Betchisist with an otherwise amazing fiancé has one problem she can’t seem to shake: his deeply cringey dance moves are giving her the ick just in time for their wedding. An Intention seeker is struggling with post-wedding regret and asks how to forgive herself after enforcing her child-free wedding rule in a way she regretted. In Triggered, a listener questions whether a friend’s questionable use of the “service dog” loophole says something bigger about her character, and how much our friends’ moral choices should affect the way we see them. Finally, a new mom returns from maternity leave only to discover the men she trained may have taken over her responsibilities.

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    1 hr 13 min
  9. Why Am I Freaking Out About My Timeline?

    Episode 248

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are asking: how much of our anxiety is actually ours, and how much did we inherit from our parents? They unpack how parents can unintentionally pass down their own fears about marriage, babies, and timelines—and why sometimes caring too much makes your kids stop telling you things. Then, a listener is dreading the return of a former friend who has overstayed more than just her welcome, but is the real problem the friend or the group chat that bonded over complaining about her? A Betchesist has a dirty little secret: she lets her dog sleep in the bed whenever her fiancé is out of town, despite his strict no-pets-on-the-furniture rule. Next, a newly single 27-year-old is spiraling over starting from scratch while everyone around her seems to be getting married, buying houses, and having babies. In Triggered, a new mom wonders whether she was justified in losing it when her husband immediately ignored the baby sleep schedule she spent months perfecting. Finally, when did turning 34 require a $200 weeknight celebration, and are you allowed to just RSVP no?

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    1 hr 4 min
  10. Can My Pregnancy News Hurt My Best Friend?

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are clearing out their algorithms, and maybe a little mental clutter along the way. They start with a listener struggling with mom rage, parental burnout, and the guilt of hitting her limit, and discuss why lowering the bar can sometimes be the healthiest thing you can do. Then, a newly pregnant Betchisist wonders how to share pregnancy news with a best friend struggling with infertility without expecting her to fake an excited reaction. An Intention tackles acne insecurity, self-acceptance, and the anxiety around starting Accutane, especially when a scary treatment could finally bring some much-needed relief. In Triggered, a listener with combined finances in her marriage wants to know why her husband gets all the credit when their money picks up the dinner bill. Finally, Jordana and Dr. Naomi debate a surprisingly complicated question: Is volunteering still a good deed if you’re only doing it for your résumé?

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    51 min
  11. Why Does It Feel Like My Dad Replaced Me?

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    This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi are talking about the complicated art of showing up for the people you love, without completely draining yourself in the process. Jordana opens up about the exhaustion of parenting two babies, and the resentment that can creep in when free time is scarce. Then, an Oversharer wonders how much grace she should continue giving a grieving friend when their friendship has long felt one-sided, prompting a conversation about lowering expectations without necessarily ending a friendship. Next, they weigh in on a six-months-pregnant Betchisist whose husband wants to stay out clubbing solo on their Ibiza babymoon, and whether her anxiety is really about his safety, or what his night out means for their relationship. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for a mom struggling with back-to-school anxiety and explains how learning to trust your kids can help them learn to trust themselves. Finally, the Triggered's: one listener’s dad replaces the dog he gave her with the exact same breed, a scenario that feels a little too familiar, while another wonders if her future in-laws are crossing a boundary by vacationing in Hawaii at the same time as her honeymoon.

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    1 hr 8 min
  12. Is My Friend A Compulsive Liar?

    Show notes

    This week Jordana and Dr. Naomi are asking an important question: when everyone online claims to know the “right” way to do things, how do you learn to trust yourself? They unpack how social media thrives on activating our anxieties and why the most confident advice isn’t always the best advice. Then, an Oversharer gets an unexpected pre-wedding reality check when her parents remind her that it’s never too late to back out, but was there something they weren’t telling her? A Betchisist catches her friend in an elaborate lie involving a family emergency, a secret beach trip, and an AI-generated photo excuse that absolutely does not hold up under questioning. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for anyone stuck in the uncomfortable in-between after leaving something that wasn’t working but before finding what comes next. In Triggered, a mother-in-law learns that “all good” might not be the best response when you’ve completely ignored the baby’s nap schedule. And why an unsolicited financial advisor introduction may be one of the rare occasions when ghosting is fully encouraged.

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    1 hr 6 min
  13. Did Our Couples Therapist Just Tell Us Not To Get Married?

    Episode 244

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    Dr. Naomi returns from vacation with a story that proves parenting never really takes a day off. After an unexpected family emergency leaves their kids suddenly without adult supervision, Jordana and Dr. Naomi unpack what it means to rely on your village. Then they help an Oversharer navigate whether she should skip a friend's wedding, or keep living her life, when it falls in the middle of IVF treatment. They also weigh in on a Betchisist’s marriage strained by secrecy around marijuana use and ask whether the real issue is the habit or what's underneath it. The intention this week goes to a listener who wants to stop cringing at old photos of herself and embrace every version of the body that carried her through life. Plus, in Triggered, they debate whether one rogue couples therapist deserves to lose their license and whether comparing someone's baby to an alien from Men in Black is ever, under any circumstances, acceptable.

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    1 hr
  14. How Do I Ask Friends For Help?

    Episode 243

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    This week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi help an Oversharer navigate the impossible question of how to ask for support after a breast cancer diagnosis without feeling like a burden, and discuss whether a shared "help registry" might actually make it easier for friends to show up. A Betchisist struggling through IVF opens up about resentment, guilt, and feeling like the emotional and physical burden of infertility isn't being shared equally, leading to an honest conversation about what support from a partner really looks like.

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    57 min
  15. Is It Real Or Is It The Hormones?

    Episode 242

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    If you've ever wondered whether your emotions are trying to tell you something or just trying to start a fight, then listen up. This week, Jordana and Dr. Naomi dive into the surprising ways hormones can shape our relationships, from motherhood and perimenopause to the emotional rollercoaster of PMS. They help an Oversharer navigate the complicated mix of grief and relief after a miscarriage and unpack whether the voices behind fear should be used as guidance. Then they tend to a Betchesist who's struggling to understand why her long-term boyfriend won't share his location and ask themselves: Have we turned ourselves into Big Brother? This week's Triggered sparks a debate over whether public speakerphone conversations are ever acceptable and whether a surprise three-week visit from the in-laws is thoughtful or completely boundary-crossing.

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    1 hr 11 min
  16. Why Didn't My Friends Show Up to My Father's Funeral?

    Episode 241

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    This week, Jordana shares what happened when she stepped outside her comfort zone and joined a neighborhood mahjong group, leading to a conversation with Dr. Naomi about first impressions, social anxiety, and why growth usually feels awkward at first. Then, a grieving Oversharer wonders how to move forward after friends failed to show up following her father's death, while this week’s Betchicist questions whether setting boundaries with a friend means judging her dating choices. Dr. Naomi also helps an overwhelmed Intention seeker who is juggling wedding planning while settling her late father's estate. Then we dive into family triggers, from an absent uncle who keeps avoiding his nieces to sisters clashing over vacation planning, reminding us that assumptions often create more distance than honest conversations.

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    1 hr 8 min
  17. Do I Have to Choose Between Motherhood and My Career?

    Episode 240

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    Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about the impossible choices many women feel forced to make between career and motherhood, and why the real problem isn't "girlboss vs. tradwife" but the lack of policies that allow parents to build balanced lives. This week's Overshare asks whether planning for a future family means turning down career opportunities today, while a Betchesist grapples with feeling like a fraud after being diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes despite dedicating her career to public health. An Intention helps an emailer survive painfully forced workplace icebreakers without losing her mind. Finally, two Triggered listeners ask whether they're overreacting to workplace favoritism and a chaotic maternity leave process that leaves one eight months pregnant with no approved leave plan.

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    1 hr 3 min
  18. Am I Improving My Health Or Feeding My Anxiety?

    Episode 239

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    Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by reflecting on birthdays, aging, and the surprising grief that can come with realizing adulthood may not look as financially comfortable as you once imagined. They explore how accepting lifestyle expectations can shape everything from dating to happiness, and why comparison is often the thief of contentment. This week's Betchesist seeks advice on navigating the fine line between improving her health and becoming consumed by health anxiety after an autoimmune diagnosis. An Overshare about a dog sitter who took "make yourself at home" a little too literally sparks an unexpected debate about boundaries and communication, while this week's intention reminds us: some blessings I have, and some blessings I don't. Lastly, we're triggered by an expectant mom feeling overlooked by her in-laws and a dental hygienist who offers some wildly unsolicited medical advice.

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    1 hr 18 min
  19. How Do I Help My Adult Daughter Be More Independent?

    Episode 238

    Show notes

    This week on Oversharing, Jordana spirals over a very relatable parenting dilemma: did Ronnie the dog have the time of his life at daycare, or is he secretly devastated and unable to tell her? Then, Dr. Naomi and Jordana help an emailer navigate her 19-year-old daughter’s fear of driving and the fine line between support and enabling. This week’s Betchesist writes in after discovering her entire branch of the family was left off a cousin’s wedding guest list, sparking a conversation about family loyalty, boundaries, and wedding politics. Dr. Naomi’s Intention is for a mom struggling with baby monitor obsession. Plus, two Triggered emailers weigh in on couples who put friends on speakerphone without warning and a husband who insists on using the bathroom closest to his wife’s home office.

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    1 hr 8 min
  20. Is My Husband Emotionally Ready To Buy A House With Me?

    Episode 237

    Show notes

    Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by catching up about Naomi’s visit with Jordana’s twins and the humbling reality that babies don’t always warm up to eager aunts right away. They discuss the emotional pull of reconnecting with old friends, whether New York is calling Naomi back, and Jordana’s surprisingly complicated reaction to the Knicks’ championship win. Then they jump into listener complaints, starting with house-hunting tensions between newlyweds. A Betchesist shares her very real experience of gender disappointment during pregnancy. We set an intention this week that the feeling arising from grief is not always a call to action. Lastly, our brave Triggered listener seeks solace from her mother-in-law, whose wrath is so strong that the baby won’t even look at her.

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    1 hr 17 min