The Psychology of your 20s

In a culture increasingly organised around productivity and individual choice, many of our repeated behaviours have become about efficiency rather than meaning. In this episode, we explore why even very small rituals - a meal, a walk, a song, a candle - can give shape and significance to ordinary life, particularly in our 20s.

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We explore:

• Why rituals aren’t just religious or spiritual
• Why performing rituals is an integral part of human behaviour
• How rituals create belonging and maintain relationships
• How predictable rituals can provide an anchor during uncertainty, overwhelm and periods of change
• Why our 20s may particularly benefit from rituals
• The importance of ritualising endings

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Our favourite sources:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1088868317734944
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S109051381500077X
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/00084298241238680
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1545-5300.1992.00151.x

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Why do some people seem to move from relationship to relationship with barely any time in between, and why does being single feel almost impossible for them? In this bonus episode, we’re diving into the psychology behind relationship hopping (aka serial monogamy) and what’s really happening when someone craves commitment quickly, struggles with time alone, or keeps repeating the same cycle with different partners.

We explore:
• The role of attachment in serial monogamy
• Why artificial closeness is so appealing
• The pull of the infatuation cycle
• The brain chemistry of love, reward and attachment
• What this pattern can teach us about self-growth

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Content note: This episode includes discussions of exercise, dieting, weight loss and body image.

How do you learn to love exercise when it has always felt like punishment? In today’s more personal episode, I’m sharing how I completely changed my relationship with movement over the past three years, from barely moving to running half marathons and genuinely enjoying the gym.

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We discuss:

• Why enjoyment became more important than discipline
• Starting slowly and letting yourself stop
• How I focused on progress that wasn't attached to my appearance
• Removing comparison from your fitness journey
• My running tips
• Why taking a break doesn’t mean having to start all over again

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Why does dancing in a crowd feel so good? What is the emotional allure of the dance floor, the club scene, the music? Today, we’re exploring the psychology of clubbing, from the physiological rush of a beat drop to the role it plays in making the most of our 20s.

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We discuss:

• How music and dance influence our mood
• Collective effervescence: the feeling of being part of something bigger
• Why clubs feel freeing for some and overwhelming for others
• Alcohol, inhibition and “hangxiety”
• Clubbing as a coming-of-age ritual
• FOMO, nostalgia and why our relationship with nightlife changes

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Is a 'spark' all that it takes to be compatible in the long-term? What about sharing the same interests, personality or sense of humour? Or is it something more deep and intangible? In today’s episode, we explore what ACTUALLY makes two people right for each other, and why the things that draw us together aren’t always the things that keep us together.

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We discuss:

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Chemistry versus long-term compatibility

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Why shared values matter more than shared hobbies

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The importance of feeling understood, appreciated and responded to (i.e the Gottman's theory of responsiveness)

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How the belief in soulmates can shape your relationship

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The Four Horsemen that erode connection

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What an argument can reveal about your future together

Whether you’re dating someone new or reflecting on a long-term relationship, this episode explores what it means to build a love that lasts, through change, conflict and the thousands of little choices we make along the way.

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Why is there so much pressure for your wedding to be the best day of your life? And what happens when that pressure gets in the way of actually enjoying it? Today, we’re unpacking the psychology of weddings: the expectations, money, family dynamics and friendship tensions that come with saying “I do”.

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We explore:

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Why the “perfect wedding” can leave us feeling disappointed

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How weddings became such extravagant events

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Social media, comparison and the pressure to spend more

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The surprising relationship between wedding spending and divorce

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Why weddings can expose cracks in our friendships

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The psychology of elopements ...

Whether you’re planning a wedding, attending your sixth this year or wondering whether to skip the whole thing, let’s talk about keeping the celebration from overshadowing the relationship.

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Do you really have a love language? And does learning your partner’s actually make your relationship better? In this bonus episode of our debunking psychology series, we unpack the truth behind one of the most popular ideas in modern dating. We explore:

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Where the five love languages came from and their religious roots

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The controversial advice in Gary Chapman’s original book

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What the research actually says about love languages and relationship satisfaction

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Why lasting love might need a “balanced diet” of affection

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Partner responsiveness and what it means to feel understood, valued and cared for

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We blush, we look away, we replay the moment for hours (or years) after it happened, becoming convinced that everyone noticed far more than they probably did. Embarrassment is an interesting and complex emotion, but it can help us recognise social expectations and communicate how our behaviour affects others.

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We explore:
• When we first develop the capacity to feel embarrassed
• Why we blush and the role of embarrassment in trust
• Why some of us feel embarrassment more than others
• The role of rumination
• The psychological and social role of embarrassment
• How we can form a better relationship with it

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Our favourite sources:

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0025403

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/european-psychiatry/article/not-intended-still-embarrassed-social-anxiety-is-related-to-increased-levels-of-embarrassment-in-response-to-unintentional-social-norm-violations/F4143AB3B88D41FB18F9962696A77151

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/desc.70024

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Brain fog is so much more than just feeling tired. It's that frustrating feeling of knowing what you want to say or do, but your brain simply won't cooperate. And whilst it's incredibly common, we're only just beginning to understand what actually causes it.

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In today's episode, we're breaking down the fascinating new research behind brain fog, including:

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The three main causes of brain fog, from physical depletion to cognitive overload and neurological disruption

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Why chronic stress, anxiety and mental load can leave your brain feeling exhausted

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The surprising links between brain fog, inflammation, long COVID and gut health

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Why women may be more susceptible to brain fog

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The science of sleep, nutrition and the brain's natural cleaning system

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What actually helps clear brain fog, beyond just drinking more water and getting more rest

Extra links:

Brain fog and trauma: HERE

Brain fog and ADHD: HERE

Brain fog and food: HERE

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Does the taxi cab theory actually explain why some people suddenly become ready to settle down, or is it just another dating myth?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the psychology behind the infamous, Sex and The City taxi cab theory and asking whether timing really can determine who we end up with. We explore commitment readiness, the social clock, why our relationship priorities change as we age, and the painful psychology of watching someone give their next partner everything they refused to give you.

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We discuss:

• The psychology behind the taxi cab theory
• Why someone can suddenly become “ready” for commitment
• The foster girlfriend phenomenon
• Why timing matters, but compatibility matters more
• How to tell when someone is genuinely serious about you
• Why waiting for someone’s “light to switch on” can keep you stuck

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How much of your behaviour is really “you” - and how much has been shaped by the environments around you? In this episode, we explore how childhood, relationships, social expectations, habits and physical spaces can influence the way we think, feel and behave. From nervous-system responses and beliefs about what is possible for us, to the people we pursue, the habits we repeat and the versions of ourselves that present in different places, we look at the psychology of how environments programme our behaviour.

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We explore:
● What our ‘environment’ can include
● Impacts of childhood experiences on our nervous system
● Where our belief of what it possible or attainable comes from
● How relational environments shape our pursuit of love
● How our environment shapes our habits
● The impact of our physical environment on our personalities

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Our favourite sources:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2009.02309.x

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2017-33544-001

https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.883795/full

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2006-08705-013

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In this bonus episode, we’re looking at the placebo effect - what it is, how it became an important part of medical research, and why an inactive treatment can sometimes produce genuine changes how we feel, and what this tells us about the relationship between the brain, body and experience of receiving care.

The FULL Debunking Psychology playlist: HERE

We explore:
• How placebos became an important part of scientific research
• Some of the earliest placebo experiments
• Why our expectations can change the way we experience symptoms
• Whether the placebo effect produces real, biological changes
• Why the ritual of receiving care may itself influence how we feel
• Whether placebo effects represent genuine, lasting change

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From abusive MLM’s and wellness programs to doomsday sects and UFO religions, we’re all fascinated by cults. Their mystery offers us a way to explore the darkest recesses of human behaviour, while remaining seemingly out of their reach. But how do we actually define a cult?

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In this episode, we look at popular examples of cults, understand how they’re organised and recruit followers, and examine what makes some people so vulnerable to joining. We unpack:

• How a cult is defined, featuring the BITE model of authoritarian control
• What makes cult leaders so distinctive - and dangerous
• The (often surprising) tactics cults will employ to get people to join
• How people behave during and in the aftermath of leaving a cult
• Why there are cults all around us today, and people are still drawn to them

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In our 20s, we’re all vulnerable to feeling that we’re falling behind. Whether it be chasing the perfect job, relationship, friends, living situation, trip abroad, or something else, we’re led to believe that there’s a certain window of time that we should be achieving certain milestones within. In this episode, we unpack:

• Why social media makes us compare ourselves with ‘the best’
• The figures behind what people in their 20s really have - and don’t
• How milestone anxiety and the social clock make us panic
• How we can reframe envy as a useful compass
• Why life circumstances mean we might have a different ‘starting line’ to other people
• Why you’re not delulu - things really are getting harder!

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Our favourite sources:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40888380/
https://www.forbes.com/advisor/uk/savings/average-savings-by-age-in-uk/
https://jessup.edu/blog/cultural-impact/why-do-adults-adhere-to-a-social-clock/#:~:text=Social%20psychologist%20Bernice%20Neugarten%20identified,purchase%20a%20home%2C%20and%20retire

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The Stanford Prison Experiment is one of the most famous studies in psychology, but also one of the most controversial. In this bonus episode, we look at what actually happened in the basement of Stanford University in 1971.

We explore:

• The landscape of psychological research at the time of the study
• How participants were selected and assigned roles
• The theatrical procedure of the study
• The unexpected outcomes and why it was stopped early
• Ethical lessons around consent and researcher responsibility
• Why the study is so influential to our understanding of institutions, power and authority

The Debunking Psychology series: HERE

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Our favourite sources:
http://pdf.prisonexp.org/ijcp1973.pdf
https://scholarship.richmond.edu/heroism-science/vol10/iss1/5/
https://gen.medium.com/the-lifespan-of-a-lie-d869212b1f62

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If I could sit down with my 21-year-old self, there are a few things I would definitely want to say. Today, I'm going to say them, like 'don't even THINK about moving in with that guy, use your savings account, care less about grades' and a few more. I also asked you guys, the listeners, about your biggest regrets from your early 20s so we can all learn from each other (how nice is that).

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We discuss:

• Why the right relationship should expand your life, not shrink it
• Why you shouldn’t rush into adulthood
• Financial avoidance and learning to actually save
• Why audacity can matter just as much as hard work
• Caring less about grades and more about experience
• Why nobody can tell you exactly how to live your 20s

Happy listening and drop yours below!

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Many of us are conditioned to believe that being described as kind, nice, accommodating and generous are the key to overall happiness. But when these traits veer into Good Girl Syndrome, we can be left with a pathological need to please others, be hypervigilant towards others’ emotions, and ultimately suppress how we really feel. In this episode, we explore the origins of Good Girl Syndrome, understand the mental and physical cost of emotional suppression, and learn how to challenge this early social conditioning.

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We unpack:

• Why women are particularly vulnerable to Good Girl Syndrome
• How trying to be liked shows up personally and professionally
• The link between a high score on the Silencing the Self Scale and depression
• Why it can be harder to break Good Girl habits as we get older
• The ways we can challenge Good Girl Syndrome traits

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Our favourite sources:

https://reachlink.com/advice/general/good-girl-syndrome-why-compliance-destroys-mental-health/
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a34642791/good-girl-complex/
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/362662346_Appendix_A_The_Silencing_the_Self_Scale

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Ambition feels like my entire personality and I'm trying to fix that. Who are we beyond our ambition? In a world that only cares about success, output and productivity, what do we feel like we'll lose when we slow down?

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In this episode I explore:

• The psychology of highly ambitious people
• The lies that ambition tells us
• How ambition steals your joy
• How to value yourself beyond your output
• What matters more than ambition
• The way to slow ambition and why it builds more

If you can relate, this is the episode for you!

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Stress has a reputation for burning us out, torching our relationships and even causing our lives to end prematurely. But not all stress is created equal. In this episode, we explore the difference between eustress - good stress - and distress, understand why our experience of stress is rooted in our perception of it, and understand how we can harness stress as a powerful force for motivation, energy and well-being.

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We unpack:
• The difference between eustress - good stress - and distress
• Why avoiding stress can actually cause cognitive decline
• The dangers of too much stress on our bodies and minds
• The Yerkes-Dodson law and the ‘sweet spot’ of stress
• How we can reframe our approach to stress to create our own ‘biology of courage’

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Our favourite sources:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU&vl=en
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8384975/
https://www.healthline.com/health/yerkes-dodson-law

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We treat our memories like a reliable recording of the past. We remember what happened, how we felt, where we were, and what was said. But what if our account is more like a subjective recollection of events? In this episode, we explore the concept of false memories – how they form, why this matters in our everyday lives, and their more serious potential impacts.

We explore:
• The cognitive mechanisms behind false memories
• The misinformation effect and the car crash study
• Why our memories are open to imagination, repetition and social influence
• Potential consequences of false memories in news reporting and eyewitness testimony
• The importance of ethical therapeutic practices and memory

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Our favourite sources:
https://innocenceproject.org/dna-exonerations-in-the-united-states/ https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/memory-mind-and-media/article/fake-memories-a-metaanalysis-on-the-effect-of-fake-news-on-the-creation-of-false-memories-and-false-beliefs/B6A66A305AFD6724E1C1C56A68BB5CF2

https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0021-9010.83.3.360

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022537174800113?via%3Dihub

https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/BF03196174

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