Truce with Food: The Psychology of Emotional Eating and Your Relationship with Food

GLP-1s are everywhere right now, and so are the opinions about them. One reaction I keep hearing is that using them for weight loss feels like cheating. There's frustration with people seemingly getting results without having to work as hard, alongside real concern about the cost of pursuing thinness at any price. Those feelings can be strong, especially if you've taken extreme measures to lose weight yourself. The question is, what might those reactions be protecting?

There's often some truth in our reactions, and our concerns can tell us a lot about what we value. Yet our judgments are also the tip of the iceberg. Underneath may be a story about success and the identity we've built around working hard and following the rules. Until we can recognize those stories in ourselves, they can create blind spots in how we see other people, including the clients we're trying to help.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I'm answering a coach's honest question about her anger and frustration toward GLP-1s, using the same approach I'd take mentoring her inside my Truce Coaching Certification. Her question opens up a larger conversation about the judgments we bring into coaching and the role our own personal development plays in helping clients change. I'll also share experiences from Christen Conly and Kinsie Tate, two practitioners who've completed the certification, to illustrate what becomes possible when coaches can recognize their own blind spots.

This episode is part of the For Coaches Path in the Truce with Food Podcast Library, a collection of conversations for practitioners who want to deepen their coaching skills. Explore the path here:For Coaches Path.

5:46 – When it's time to invest in more coaching training

12:48 – A coach's GLP-1 judgment and the beliefs about success underneath it

18:53 – What strong judgments reveal about your story and identity

22:25 – Coach entanglement and learning to bend the rules

26:58 – Finding more ease and support by letting go of rigid rules

32:15 – The role of safety and trust in a successful coaching relationship

35:30 – How Truce Coaching Certification changed two practitioners' work

Mentioned In Feeling Like GLP-1s Are Cheating Can Reveal Something About Your Own Story

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

What Makes a Good Health Coach with Precision Nutrition’s Kate Solovieva

Stress Leadership vs. Stress Management with Rev. Kinsie M. Tate

When Tips and Tools Aren’t Enough to Create Lasting Change with Christen Conly

Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

Struggling with cravings, emotional eating, or feeling stuck with food? Find a conversation that meets you where you are. Explore the free Truce with Food Podcast Library by topic, or follow a curated listening Path: Explore the Podcast Library

You can know what to eat, understand what would support your health, and still find yourself stress eating at night, skipping meals and then overeating, or falling back into old patterns. That’s frustrating when you’re the person living it, especially when you’ve already gotten plenty of information about what you “should” be doing. It can also be frustrating for the health coach sitting across from you, because caring deeply about helping someone can make it really tempting to rush in with another suggestion, another tool, or something from the latest training.

That’s where the difference between knowing a lot and actually being able to coach starts to matter. Some health problems are technical and have a relatively clear answer. Others are adaptive challenges, where the person already knows what to do and the harder question is why they aren’t doing it. Those situations require slowing down enough to get specific about what’s happening, asking why the behavior makes sense, and looking at what feels hard about changing it instead of immediately assuming the answer is more information. For coaches, that can also mean noticing what a stuck client brings up in you and whether your own urge to fix is helping or adding more pressure.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with Kate Solovieva, a master coach and Director of Community Engagement at Precision Nutrition, to talk about what makes a good health coach from both sides of the coaching relationship. We talk about what to do when another tip or tool isn’t helping, why coaching real people is different from studying case examples, and how to tell when more training is actually needed versus when it’s time to stop collecting information and practice the craft. We also get into what to look for when you’re hiring a coach, how scope of practice comes into play with questions about GLP-1s, and what AI may change about coaching without changing the human part of the work.

This episode is the third stop on the For Coaches Path in the Truce with Food Podcast Library, a set of conversations meant to be heard in order. Start the Path here:For Coaches Path.

1:53 – Who this episode is for and how to recognize a good health coach

2:10 – What happens when a client knows what to do but still isn’t doing it

4:21 – Why coaches need to notice their own urge to rush in and fix

6:59 – Why the health and wellness industry still feels like the Wild West

8:31 – Where health coaching has matured, from strength training to a more holistic view of health

14:37 – Where the industry still falls short on fatphobia, morality, and personal autonomy

16:43 – The gap between being good at coaching and being good at selling

20:32 – The difference between technical problems and adaptive challenges in behavior change

25:58 – Why coaches have to manage their own discomfort when a client is stuck

29:26 – How compassion and support help when old food patterns keep repeating

34:14 – How to know when more training will actually make you a better coach

36:35 – When learning becomes anxiety instead of professional growth

40:11 – Why you can’t become a great coach without actually coaching

44:30 – What separates a great coach from a really good student

45:57 – What to look for when choosing a health coach

50:51 – How to identify the specific skill gap you actually need to train

54:10 – GLP-1 questions, scope of practice, and the role of a health coach

58:53 – What AI, GLP-1s, and industry changes may mean for the future of coaching

Mentioned In What Makes a Good Health Coach with Precision Nutrition’s Kate Solovieva

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For Coaches Path

Pros and Cons of Health Coaching with Courtney Townley

Hailey Rowe on Building a Sustainable Coaching Business

When Tips and Tools Aren’t Enough to Create Lasting Change with Christen Conly

How to Close the Knowing-Doing Gap with Food

Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

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A GLP-1 can quiet the food noise and give you hope again. Then you hit a plateau, the food noise starts creeping back in, or you see someone else having a completely different experience. That’s when the old thoughts can show up fast. Here we go again. I’m failing. What’s wrong? Why isn’t this working for me like everyone else?

We’ve put GLP-1s into the same magic bullet fantasy we tend to put everything else into. We want the straight line forward and the happily ever after. When that isn’t what happens, it can be easy to make the plateau mean something about you instead of separating what’s happening from what you’re making it mean about yourself.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with clinical nutritionist Jessica Brown, author of Beyond the Shot, to talk about what happens emotionally when GLP-1 progress stalls or the food noise comes back. Jessica is also a certified compassion teacher, and she has used a GLP-1 herself for more than two years, mostly for reasons beyond weight loss. We talk about the difference between feelings and beliefs, how comparison and self-judgment can shape the way you see yourself, and why self-compassion matters when the old story says you’re the problem. She also shares NICE, her practice for meeting that moment with kindness, especially if part of you worries that going easier on yourself means you’ll just give up.

This episode is the fourth stop on the GLP-1 Path in the Truce with Food Podcast Library, a set of conversations meant to be heard in order. Start the Path here: GLP-1 Path

7:47 – Why GLP-1 plateaus can feel so unexpected and what happens when progress stops being linear

9:05 – Jessica Brown’s reasons for using a GLP-1 beyond weight loss

15:35 – What can come up emotionally when food noise returns on a GLP-1

18:08 – The difference between feelings and beliefs and why it matters when you start blaming yourself

24:35 – How comparing your GLP-1 experience to other people can make you feel worse

28:52 – What makes support actually supportive when judgment is everywhere

34:40 – How to know when returning food noise needs emotional support, a medical conversation, or both

45:35 – Why the old story that you’re failing can come back so quickly during a plateau

50:56 – Jessica’s NICE practice for responding to old beliefs with self-compassion

52:38 – Jessica’s personal story of using NICE to change a belief she’d carried since infancy

59:19 – What emotional plateaus can reveal when food is no longer doing the same job

1:02:13 – Redefining progress when success is no longer just about weight or avoiding regain

1:11:00 – When to seek more support and what to know about GLP-1 microdosing claims

Mentioned In Your GLP-1 Plateau Doesn’t Mean You’re Failing with Jessica Brown

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

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You finally understand what’s been driving your food struggles. You change how you eat, you feel better, maybe you even think, okay, I’ve got this now. Then months or years later, the cravings come back, your body changes, or you find yourself eating when you’re not hungry again. It can feel like all that progress disappeared and you’re somehow back at the beginning.

After more than 10 years of this podcast and 330 episodes, what I keep seeing is that you may not need another answer. You may already have the right information, just at the wrong point in your own change process. The blood sugar episode that feels life-changing when you’re first realizing your cravings aren’t a willpower problem may not help two years later when you already understand the physiology and what you’re wrestling with is why you still want cookies when you’re alone on a Thursday night. Same information, completely different need.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I explain why timing and sequencing matter so much when you’re changing your relationship with food, and why feeling like you’re starting over doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve lost your progress. I’m also introducing the new free Truce with Food podcast library, built from more than a decade of episodes and organized around the problem you’re actually trying to solve now, so you can find the right next conversation for where you are.

2:42 – Reflections on the good and bad of what happened during the summer season

8:06 – Disillusionment with what’s currently happening in the wellness world

11:19 – The pitfalls of relying heavily on AI for written content

19:28 – The inferior-superior cycle that keeps you ping-ponging between all-or-nothing thinking

23:09 – What I mean by “right information, wrong timing” and why the order of things really matters

31:00 – A newly organized, decade-in-the-making tool designed to guide you toward solutions based on your situation

35:20 – Demonstration of how the new podcast library works using three people as examples

45:54 – How to use the library (including curated paths, how to search, and how it links with your food quiz)

50:38 – Asking for two favors when you use the beta version of the podcast library

Mentioned In Why You Keep Feeling Like You’re Starting Over With Food

Truce with Food Podcast Library

Email: Ali@alishapiro.com

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Episode 233:Quitting Alcohol and Managing Sugar Cravings with Laura McKowen |Books by Laura McKowen

Episode 330:How to Make Habits Stick When Your Life Is Unpredictable with Monica Packer

Episode 321:Why Intuitive Functional Medicine Works When Protocols Don’t with Erin Holt

Episode 267:Esther Blum Demystifies Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) for Perimenopause and Menopause Relief

Episode 266:Dr. Stacy Sims on How “Women Are Not Small Men” (especially at midlife & with exercise)

Episode 188:The 4 Weight Loss Willpower Myths Sabotaging Your Results

Body Story Series with Sas Petherick: Parts1,2,3,4,5, and 6

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How many times have you been in the middle of a habit challenge and quietly given up? You make it to day 19 of 21, then your kid gets sick, your period starts, or life blows up and you don’t have the time or energy to do the habit that day. The problem is that so much popular habit advice teaches consistency as doing the same thing, the same way, day after day. As Monica Packer puts it, what we’ve actually learned is perfectionism, not habit change.

Monica is a recovering perfectionist and the author of Sticky Habits. Her work looks at something most habit advice misses. Women often have less predictable time and energy because of caregiving, invisible labor, hormones, and the million moving pieces they’re managing. That doesn’t mean habits can’t work. It means we need a model for lasting change that accounts for how our lives actually work.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with Monica to talk about how rethinking consistency can help you build habits that actually stick. She explains what she calls gentle diligence, why doing your best isn’t the same as doing something perfectly, and how creating a baseline gives you a version of your habit you can maintain when life doesn’t go according to plan. We also get into what long-term social change can teach us about our obsession with quick results and why sustainable change requires measuring something different than speed.

3:36 – A short overview of Monica’s background

6:33 – Why the habit advice that works for men can quietly set women up to fail

12:37 – A solo trip that revealed how much invisible work it takes to keep a family running

15:17 – Male-centered authority and leadership in the habit change industry

18:49 – Why a habit challenge stalls out right around day 19, and the redefinition of consistency that has nothing to do with perfection

24:07 – How to establish a baseline version of your habits for less-than-ideal days, and what shifts when you start to believe in it

30:00 – An example of how showing up matters more than doing it right, and how Monica’s perfectionism inspired her book

36:17 – The point of habits and the flexibility to renegotiate them when circumstances come up

39:48 – Reframing what "fast enough" means for your own change, and being sold the lie of overnight success

44:47 – Two things Monica often says to her clients who are worried about consistency and doing things right

46:27 – Monica’s hopes for how she wants her book to impact both women who read it and the self-help and wellness industry overall

47:28 – Monica’s message for you if you fear you can’t change

Mentioned In How to Make Habits Stick When Your Life Is Unpredictable with Monica Packer

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

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Jenny first learned to connect thinness with acceptance when she lost 30 pounds before eighth grade and returned to school getting attention she hadn’t received before. That connection shaped the next four decades of restriction, bingeing, bulimia, treatment, and trying to make peace with food.

By the time Jenny found Truce with Food, she already knew her struggle wasn’t really about food. What she didn’t understand was what kept pulling her back into the same patterns. Identifying loneliness as one of her eating triggers and recognizing the deeper need for belonging underneath it gave her a completely different place to start.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with Jenny, a client who completed Truce with Food: Consistency, to talk about how her urge to binge fell away without more food rules or another plan to follow. We also get into the role perfectionism played in keeping her stuck, what helped her close the gap between knowing and doing, and what changed when she started building a life she genuinely wanted to be part of.

6:35 – Jenny’s history with disordered eating and body image

9:55 – Loneliness as Jenny’s emotional trigger for bingeing

19:22 – Valuing peace above thinness in our culture

21:18 – "C plus effort" in the group breaking Jenny’s perfectionism cycle

25:56 – Attuning to yourself to satisfy the emotional trigger underneath the food struggle

28:47 – The "knowing" but not "doing" gap that kept Jenny stuck for years

31:49 – Shrinking the gap by learning how to set up for success or for opting out

41:25 – Movement as a door opener to new friendships and more fun

46:01 – Bingeing as betrayal and Jenny’s refusal to let restriction run her life

50:16 – Why the urge to binge can disappear without explanation

55:23 – Bringing your body online to notice what feels good and what triggers you

Mentioned In How Jenny Stopped Binge Eating Without More Food Rules

Truce with Food: Consistency

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

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You know you’re not hungry, but there’s still this urgent, buzzy energy around food. You find yourself standing in front of the fridge needing something, even though you can’t say what you’re looking for. Maybe you wait until you’re alone to eat, or decide the diet starts tomorrow. You know what to do, so why can’t you do it?

The problem isn’t that you need more information or haven’t tried hard enough. When that knowing and doing gap shows up, your survivor self is in the room. Its job is to protect you from a change that feels too risky, and food almost works. It soothes you and makes you feel less alone without asking you to risk failure, rejection, criticism, or looking bad.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I’m sharing a masterclass I taught inside my client Diana Feinstein’s community about why eating when you’re not hungry makes so much sense. We talk about why starting habits and stopping habits require different strategies, why the survivor self can’t be coached or white-knuckled into changing, and how growing your healthy adult self helps food become obsolete as a coping strategy. Diana also shares how these patterns showed up in her own life and what changed when she finally understood what was happening underneath the food.

1:42 – How this masterclass supports everyday eaters and the coaches helping them

7:30 – Why health coach Diana Feinstein turned to Ali despite knowing what to do

10:05 – Why what looks like self-sabotage may actually be self-protection

12:27 – How the hidden “why not” can outweigh your reasons for changing

18:33 – Why hearing other people name the same food patterns helped Diana feel less alone

20:28 – Why starting a new habit and stopping an unwanted habit require different strategies

23:50 – Why the knowing and doing gap isn’t a character flaw or personal failure

26:43 – How the survivor self creates resistance to change and why it can’t be coached

31:41 – Why food is such a powerful coping strategy and the deeper need it almost meets

35:26 – How hustling and overworking show up in your patterns with food

42:22 – How growing your healthy adult self helps close the knowing and doing gap

45:29 – The four stages of closing the gap between knowing and doing

51:16 – How compassionate witnessing helped Diana stop fighting her feelings

55:17 – What compassionate witnessing looks like and why it isn’t the same as fixing someone

1:00:08 – How food noise can signal that your survivor self is active

Mentioned In How to Close the Knowing-Doing Gap with Food

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

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You can know exactly what to do and still find yourself repeating the same behavior. You make the plan, feel motivated, and get going, only to hit that point where the novelty wears off and the old pattern comes right back. Then the question becomes whether you need more discipline, a better tool, or someone else to finally tell you what you’re missing.

That confusion is the messy middle of change, and it’s where both clients and coaches can start to lose the plot. What gets you started isn’t always what gets you through this part, especially when shame, identity, and old protective patterns get involved. It’s also where coaches can start wondering if they don’t know enough, if the client isn’t ready, or if they should be doing more to fix what’s happening.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with Christen Conly, a yoga teacher, holistic health and embodiment coach, and graduate of my Truce Coaching Certification, to talk about what changed when she stopped relying on more tips and tools. We get into why falling off track can make sense, how the urge to fix clients creates its own problems, and what becomes possible when change is treated as a process to navigate rather than something to eradicate.

6:34 – What led Christen Conly to Truce Coaching Certification

12:48 – Why starting and stopping behaviors require different coaching skills

16:17 – The client Christen wishes she could support with what she knows now

17:58 – When helping clients becomes entangled with approval

20:20 – Reframing self-sabotage as a protective response

23:10 – Shame-based motivation versus sustainable motivation

27:12 – Letting go of the responsibility to fix clients

32:21 – How Truce Coaching Certification helped Christen coach with more confidence

37:04 – The difference between mindset, identity, and story

39:26 – Technical versus adaptive change and creating safety to experiment

41:41 – How Christen’s coaching changed after certification

44:45 – Using the emotional immune system with clients

Mentioned In When Tips and Tools Aren’t Enough to Create Lasting Change with Christen Conly

Christen Conly |Instagram

Get Clients Unstuck and Why Another Tool Isn’t the Answer

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

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You find yourself standing in front of the kitchen counter, not knowing why you’re there. Or you’re out at a work event already thinking about when you’ll be able to get home and be alone with food. You’re not actually hungry, but you feel pulled there anyway. It’s urgent, buzzy, and hard to talk yourself out of, even when some part of you knows this isn’t really about the food.

What we often call emotional eating is usually a message from your nervous system. Food can soothe. It can give you the almost-feeling of being comforted, supported, and cared for. But as Dr. Deborah MacNamara says, “There’s nothing as addictive as something that almost works.” When the deeper need is safety or belonging, managing the behavior without understanding what it’s protecting only keeps you stuck in the same loop.

In this episode of the Truce with Food podcast, I’m sharing my conversation with dietitian Tara Schmidt from Mayo Clinic’s On Nutrition podcast to walk through the first step of my Truce with Food framework and what it reveals about emotional eating. We talk about why food noise can feel so urgent, the patterns that keep people from getting their needs met, what our food memories reveal about belonging, and how to begin breaking the cycle without turning it into another perfectionist project.

4:00 – How Ali’s interview on Tara’s podcast came together, and why I wanted to re-air it on Truce with Food

10:07 – The next best step you can take after listening to this episode

14:03 – What inspired Ali to specialize in helping people heal their relationship with food

17:15 – Four main triggers (and the unmet needs within) behind emotional eating

22:11 – How your physiology and psychology can influence each other due to the tiredness trigger

23:41 – The types of food emotional eaters go to, and the relationship between food noise and emotional eating

30:02 – Three behavioral patterns of comfort eating and how they serve as protection strategies

35:25 – Those who don’t eat based on their emotions, and why some people mindlessly overeat

37:36 – How to support someone who you think struggles with emotional eating without making them feel uncomfortable

39:28 – How to pause the reflex of emotional eating (and the one time you shouldn’t)

42:37 – How one client went from decades on medication to selling her business and feeling at home in her own body by ending her emotional eating cycle

Mentioned In Mayo Clinic on Nutrition: The Four Triggers Behind Emotional Eating

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Women are hearing a lot right now about eating more, building muscle, healing their metabolism, and using GLP-1s for weight loss. But so much of the conversation still skips over what actually matters for women’s bodies, especially in perimenopause and menopause. If you’ve ever tried to nourish yourself more and immediately watched the scale go up, it can feel like your body is broken. It’s not, but your metabolism may need repair before it’s ready for fat loss.

That’s why I wanted to talk with Ashley Fillmore, founder and president of Metabolic Fix. Ashley is a leading expert in sustainable weight and fat loss with over 20 years of experience helping women heal their metabolism, balance their hormones, and change their body composition without staying stuck in chronic dieting. She also brings something I always appreciate, real client data, real lived experience, and a clear-eyed take on the online muscle-building and GLP-1 claims that don’t match what actually happens in women’s bodies.

In this episode of the Truce with Food podcast, I sit down with Ashley to talk about how to use GLP-1s without losing the muscle you need, and why they can support weight loss but can’t replace metabolic repair. We get into her Repair, Rebuild, Results framework, why eating more can feel so scary when your body has adapted to under-eating, and what sustainable fat loss actually requires if you want results that last.

6:27 – Defining metabolism, what the repair phase does, and the impact of hormones on your metabolic health

12:57 – Why you might be stuck even if you’re doing many of the right things

17:25 – How the reverse diet in the repair phase helps your metabolism safely adapt to more calories

25:28 – How long the repair phase lasts, and why Ashley’s took longer than average

32:03 – What happens during the rebuild stage, and why it’s crucial before entering fat loss

36:19 – Debunking media claims and setting realistic expectations about muscle gain

47:02 – Why lean muscle is the body’s currency for longevity, not just an aesthetic bodily upgrade

50:06 – Why GLP-1s should be a supplement, not your primary weight loss strategy

53:22 – The importance of careful GLP-1 microdosing usage and greater metabolic health knowledge among doctors

1:03:19 – Why not all weight loss is a good thing, and the problem with overfocusing on protein alone in your diet

1:06:25 – Ashley’s free tool for estimating a healthy calorie target based on your weight loss goals

Mentioned In How to Use GLP-1s Without Losing the Muscle You Need with Ashley Fillmore

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"What's wrong with me?" You've probably asked yourself this after another night of eating when you weren't hungry, scrolling when you meant to go to bed, or saying yes to something you had no energy for. The late-night sugar, the people-pleasing, the crashing after weeks of overdoing everything. You're not lazy and you're not broken, but you are asking the wrong question.

The real question is what's happening in your body because so much of what we chalk up to bad habits or weak willpower is actually driven by biology. Your nervous system is keeping you in familiar patterns because familiar feels safe, even when it's not working. Your cortisol is spiking your hunger and blunting your fullness signals, and if you're in perimenopause, all of it hits harder because the hormonal buffer you used to have is disappearing.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I sit down with Amber Romaniuk, an expert in emotional eating, digestive health, and hormonal balance with over 12 years of clinical and lived experience, to discuss the biology behind the behaviors we call self-sabotage. We get into how chronic stress and cortisol reshape your hunger and cravings, why everything from sugar to people-pleasing hits differently in perimenopause, and what it actually looks like to stop fighting your body and start understanding what it's telling you.

7:16 – Why mindset work fails when you ignore your body's role in behavior

9:27 – Why your nervous system keeps you stuck in familiar patterns even when you want to change

15:22 – How cortisol changes your hunger, cravings, and capacity to handle stress

21:55 – Why everything from sugar to stress hits differently in perimenopause and menopause

28:34 – How low progesterone drives people-pleasing, overworking, and chasing the next accomplishment

34:19 – Getting off the addiction to intensity and what to do instead of chasing cheap dopamine

41:17 – Amber's cortisol test recommendations and what to actually do with the results

48:19 – What guilt does to your amygdala and why it keeps you from prioritizing yourself

Mentioned In Your Sugar Cravings Make Sense When You Understand Your Hormones with Amber Romaniuk

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For many of us, the body has long felt like an inconvenient, separate entity. Our intellect does the heavy lifting while our physical selves get relegated to the background. You know how to think your way through problems, build a career, figure things out. But when it comes to looking down and asking your body what it actually needs, there's a tight ball of feelings most of us would rather not touch.

My dear friend and developmental coach Sas Petherick used to live that way. Over the past year, through a process she describes as one of the most vulnerable experiences of her life, Sas has gone through a complete identity shift in how she relates to her body, her marriage, and herself. She's lost 52 pounds and built her most developed muscle mass as an adult. But what surprised her most wasn't the physical change. It was that figuring out her body stuff required more growing up than changing careers, getting sober, or losing a parent.

Sas returns to close out a year-long conversation about what it actually takes to change your relationship with your body. We get into why body image lives in the brain and not the mirror, how the padding she carried was protection against vulnerability she wasn't ready to feel, and what it means when your insides finally match your outsides. This is what it looks like to move from self-monitoring to true self-awareness and become more fully yourself.

7:21 – Why Sas ranks this body journey alongside sobriety, grief, and career change as one of the most identity-altering experiences of her life

13:00 – Difficulties of the journey and how much Sas’s relationship with her body has impacted her nearly 20-year-old relationship with her partner

19:08 – Highlights of the journey and what Sas noticed while watching a stranger at dinner that revealed just how far she's come

32:50 – Why maintenance (which everyone says is the hardest part of this journey) has actually become easier for Sas

46:23 – Why Sas’s relationship with food is more difficult than her relationship with exercise, and how she’s learning to work through it

50:11 – Why body dysmorphia might have a root emotion that doesn't get talked about enough

1:00:07 – Defining body image, embracing the body positivity movement, and why grief isn’t just about loss

1:02:37 – Sas's honest take on GLP-1s: what’s missing from the conversation, what she'd do if she were taking them, and what everyone should be asking before they decide

1:09:12 – How exploring her relationships with food, movement, and her body are no longer tied to the scale for Sas

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The world is a lot right now. Globally, personally, often both. And when things are this intense, it can be easy to feel like your relationship with food is a first world problem, or that nothing matters, you're just going to eat. To dismiss the battle as something to deal with later, when things calm down.

But this is exactly when it matters most. We can't all collapse at the same time. If you're hungry, depleted, or consumed by overriding your cravings, you don't have the energy for your own life, let alone for showing up with the values you want to see ripple out into the world. And the conditioning that tells you investing in yourself takes from others, that you should be able to power through, that your needs are too much, is the same conditioning that keeps the cycle going.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I walk through three reasons your food battle matters more in hard times, not less. I cover why you need to be physically nourished to show up for what you care about, why the all-or-nothing thinking that says investing in yourself takes from others is the same conditioning we need to change, and why most weight and food struggles are really about a complicated relationship with power. Healing your relationship with food isn't a distraction from the work of this moment. It's part of it.

5:47 – Why overriding your hunger actually robs you of the rebelliousness and energy needed for your life

11:17 – Why learning to connect how you eat to how your body works is revolutionary

13:52 – The cultural conditioning that makes you believe investing in your own health must come at the expense of your family or work

17:23 – How this zero-sum cultural conditioning trap exists on every level

19:55 – How a client learned the emotional work of tending to her needs, instead of trying to fix issues for her daughter

21:13 – Your food battle as a doorway to examine where you’re still sacrificing yourself to unsustainable norms

24:01 – How that guilty feeling you get for overeating or not working out is often a symptom of internalized capitalist productivity

26:42 – Backlash as a sign of actual progress and how “slow and steady” keeps you in the game

31:41 – How stubborn weight issues are often linked to an unconscious resistance to dominative power, and the need to redefine power as collaborative

36:03 – The yin archetype’s association with food and body issues (including eating disorders)

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Why Intuitive Functional Medicine Works When Protocols Don’t with Erin Holt

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Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

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Twenty years ago, functional medicine changed everything for me. My IBS cleared. My skin cleared. My depression lifted. And for the first time, I understood food as medicine instead of just calories. But somewhere in the last five years, functional medicine started looking a lot like what it was railing against. A supplement for every lab marker. A protocol for every person. A business model that profits from making you feel more broken than when you walked in.

So I stopped talking about it much here. But I still believe in root cause resolution. And I wanted to bring on someone who practices it the way it was meant to be practiced. That's why I brought Erin Holt on the show. Erin is a seasoned clinician, clinic founder, and trainer of other practitioners who has been vocal about what's gone wrong in this industry while still believing fiercely in what it can be. She practices what she calls intuitive functional medicine, a framework that starts with the physical body and refuses to stop there.

In this episode of Truce with Food, Erin and I get into what's actually broken in functional medicine right now, why data can never replace discernment or lived experience, and how her five-phase formula bridges the physical, mental, emotional, and energetic aspects of healing. We also talk about why you can't rewire an inflamed brain with mindset work, and what it really means to self-source your health instead of outsourcing it to someone in a white coat.

2:48 – Introduction to Erin and how she and her trainees help one-on-one clients

7:56 – The shift in functional medicine over the last five years that’s recreating the exact problem it was designed to solve

11:25 – Defining functional medicine and comparing it to more conventional medicine

16:46 – What intuitive functional medicine is and what it looks like in Erin’s practice (and her training of other practitioners)

24:08 – Self-sourcing vs. outsourcing your health and the long, underexamined history of the loss of self-trust in so many people

34:09 – A basic example of how Erin helps her clients rebuild their self-trust (without forcing it)

39:55 – Why too many choices in the name of empowerment can actually cause someone to freeze in response (and what skilled practitioners do differently)

44:11 – The real point of fear-based marketing and how to spot it before it sells you something you don't need

47:00 – Why the nocebo effect, medical hexing, and the labels a practitioner puts on you can quietly become the ceiling on your healing

49:15 – Functional labs that are actually worth it and the very contextual, individualized way Erin administers them as a practitioner

51:43 – Erin’s framework for whole-person healing, why the starting point doesn’t matter, and what needs to happen before you can rewire your brain using mindset work

1:00:42 – The importance and meaning of self-compassion and why you must only work with those who see your potential to heal

Mentioned In Why Intuitive Functional Medicine Works When Protocols Don't with Erin Holt

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You've tried the plans. The protocols. Maybe therapy, journaling, intuitive eating. And food still feels like a battle. The problem isn't that you haven't tried hard enough. It's that no one has ever shown you where you actually are.

I've spent 19 years working with women who've tried everything and nothing's worked long term. What I keep finding is that the approach mismatches the stage. And you can't know what to do next until you know where you're starting from.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I walk through I walk through the four developmental stages of resolving your food battle and introduce my free Food Stage Finder Assessment. If you've ever wondered why you're still struggling despite everything you've done, this is where to start.

1:40 – How women's healthcare concerns get dismissed and what led Ali to this work
3:59 – Why food struggles fall into two extremes and why both miss the point
6:26 – What the Food Stage Finder Assessment is and why Ali created it
7:34 – Why more information stopped being the problem for Ali's clients
9:03 – Women's health span post-menopause and why midlife is the time to get this right
11:56 – Taking responsibility for your own body literacy without burning out
13:11 – Why intuitive eating is hard when you've never had healthy eating patterns
14:06 – How adolescent culture shapes our food culture and why quick fixes dominate
19:50 – Why maturity, not more learning, is what actually creates food freedom
22:38 – The four developmental stages of resolving your food battle
25:53 – Stage one: Gathering Evidence
27:04 – Stage two: Breakthrough Ready
29:37 – Stage three: Practicing Freedom
32:48 – Stage four: Trusting in Satisfaction
36:19 – Why most people are surprised by their Food Stage Finder results
36:32 – How to take the free Food Stage Finder Assessment

Mentioned In What Your Food Stage Reveals About Why Nothing Has Worked Long Term

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Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

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After nearly a decade of conversations about food, culture, and psychology, this podcast has a new name. What was Insatiable is now the Truce with Food Podcast. What started as a rebrand turned into an honest look at how success, ambition, and identity shift over time.

Ten years ago, metrics like downloads and productivity felt like the scorecard. Then motherhood happened. Menopause happened. The realities of limited time and energy became impossible to ignore. I had to ask what actually feels like success now.

In this episode of Truce with Food, I share how hustle culture quietly shaped my definition of success and how I used my own framework to work through overworking. Because creating a truce with food often means creating a truce with the relentless pursuit of success itself.

4:26 – How a decade of podcasting quietly reveals how cultural definitions of success shape our goals and habits

9:57 – When things began to shift in my energy and capacity regarding hustle culture

13:13 – What the rebrand is about and why a years-long evolving framework involving work with real people matters now more than ever

16:48 – The Truce with Food framework as a way to take back your power and how I used it to stop overworking

23:32 – Re-evaluation of time, energy, and capacity as a result of hustle culture limits in midlife

32:54 – What is and isn’t changing about the podcast

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Diet culture, anti-diet rhetoric, and functional medicine all live in a messy middle ground. Our culture trains us to outsource authority, chase gold stars, and equate thinness with worth. We're taught to live by someone else's food rules, health rules, weight rules. So if you're still struggling to figure food out, it's not a failure of discipline. It's a misunderstanding of safety and belonging.

In this episode of Insatiable, I join Erin Holt on The Funk'tional Nutritionist podcast to talk about how functional medicine, adult development, and lived experience create pendulum swings in eating patterns. We get into why food feels like both the problem and the solution, and what it means to author your own choices around health and weight without shame, dogma, or perfectionism.

6:28 – How Ali’s history with cancer, functional medicine, and adult development work led her to see “falling off track” with food as a symptom instead of a core issue

10:15 – Erin’s history with eating disorders and how her story overlaps with Ali’s

14:00 – How the “good girl” (or socialized) mindset influences your thinking with food, weight, and health (even after you’ve rejected diet culture on the surface)

18:10 – Example of how seeing yourself (not others) as the author of your story changes what “success” looks like.

22:54 – Why people “go off track” with food and how it has nothing to do with willpower

27:45 – Erin’s food memories that illustrate the clash between the need for rest and resourcefulness vs. the need for approval and belonging

34:34 – How tools like GLP‑1s aren’t inherently good or bad and can help or harm

38:32 – Why weight loss alone can never deliver belonging, purpose, or a meaningful life

42:37 – Why it’s okay if you still feel like weight loss should be your focus right now

46:56 – Where to start if you don’t even know what emotional needs you have that need to be met

52:26 – Seeing the inner critic as protection, not self-sabotage, and an example of how healing doesn’t always have to be difficult

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What happens after you've tried everything? The plans, protocols, cleanses, and tracking apps. The running, the restriction, the attempt to outrun the fork. At some point, the effort becomes its own kind of exhaustion. You're no longer chasing health, you're chasing relief.

In this episode of Insatiable, I sit down with Dee, a graduate of the Truce with Food: Consistency program, to talk about what actually creates lasting change when food has become comfort, numbness, and self-punishment all at once. Dee shares what it was like to move from binging and rigid thinking into something quieter and more powerful: just showing up.

3:51 – Why Dee felt stuck before joining Truce With Food: Consistency

7:47 – Why Dee had no hesitation about signing up, even after having tried so many things before

11:04 – What changed for Dee when success was defined as simply showing up

13:47 – Having a safe space and the role of compassionate witnesses in ending her isolation

21:13 – The unexpected power of language in reshaping Dee’s thinking and behavior

27:23 – Where things shifted for Dee and where she is now compared to when she started

30:50 – How Dee’s rigid thinking and perspective on movement and motivation have changed

34:40 – The biggest shift for Dee in her relationship with food and why intensity and duration matter more than perfection

37:19 – The shift from measuring thinness to measuring aliveness

40:32 – What else surprised Dee about the work within the program and her words for anyone considering joining

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You tell yourself you're too busy and too tired to focus on yourself. You'll do it when things calm down, when work eases up, when the kids need less, when you finally get a good night's sleep. But food still calls your name at all the wrong times. You've tried to fix it, but the cycle keeps repeating.

You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're trying to solve exhaustion without understanding where it actually comes from.

In this episode of Insatiable, I break down why "too busy and too tired" is often protective resistance in disguise and why waiting for life to calm down costs you more than you think. I walk through how midlife physiology, perfectionism, lack of agency, and how we're conditioned as women all fuel the tired trigger. Plus, why turning to food makes complete sense as a solution, not a character flaw.

1:48 - Why “too busy and too tired” can be protective resistance disguised as practicality

4:48 – Example of how investing in your health earlier creates dividends you can’t see until later

6:33 - Biological shifts in midlife that quietly change hunger, satiety, and energy

9:16 - How perfectionism and over-functioning impact your energy

9:50 - Why sugar and “I deserve this” thinking are solutions before they’re problems

12:03 - Example of the surprising role of agency in chronic exhaustion

15:25 – How investing in the right support for yourself and self-compassion can energize you

19:25 - Final takeaways for this episode and an invitation to you

Mentioned In Why Being Too Tired Is Exactly Why You Need Support

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You've followed the plans. Upped the discipline. Doubled down on getting back on track. And still, food and taking care of yourself feel harder than they used to.

You're not the problem. The problem is trying to apply the same strategies you relied on in your twenties and thirties to a body and life that have fundamentally changed.

In this episode of Insatiable, I share the five shifts that finally make consistency possible when perfectionism stops working. You'll learn why your resistance to showing up imperfectly is protective, not personal, and how to stay in the game even when it feels like you're barely moving forward.

3:28 - Why old strategies no longer working for you isn’t a sign of your failure

11:06 - Why C-plus effort triggers disgust and why that disgust has nothing to do with laziness

19:52 - How certainty becomes a shield against vulnerability and keeps you repeating the same all-or-nothing loop

24:51 - Why “momentum” sounds like a soft metric but becomes the only measure that compounds into lasting change

28:52 - The protective resistance that shows up the moment you try to break the cycle and why planning for it is non-negotiable

34:25 – Quick recap of the five shifts that redefine what success actually looks like in midlife with food struggles

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Find Your Food Stage Quiz

Find your Food Stage with Ali’s free assessment: Take the Food Stages assessment

Struggling with cravings, emotional eating, or feeling stuck with food? Find a conversation that meets you where you are. Explore the free Truce with Food Podcast Library by topic, or follow a curated listening Path: Explore the Podcast Library